| | Would you date someone with Herpes?Page 14 of 17 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17) | @justatrubblemakr
im curious as to what you consider truly special enough in a girl that youd infect yourself with a debilitating std. really i think if anyone isnt acting their age its the people prepared to continue being petri dishes for these diseases.
Would you think the same if you noticed a fever blister on your own mothers lip? What about your grandmother? Sister? Are they not special enough? Inquiring minds want to know. Your mind is the same one way street as thunder's. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 10:37:24 PM | | for further information, everyone has herpes lol. Didn't ya know chicken pox is a form of herpes as well :O. I know shocking eh? Anyways, if it is in remission then you are fine. If you have further worries about the virus blah blah blah go to a physcian and ask them about it or how to protect yourself further. Just saying..... | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 6:13:37 AM | hmm the post was " would u date someone with herpes" it wasnt how do u protect yourself from it or the plethora of excuss given by sympathizers as to why one should choose to date one.
just a recap
why do u ppl always stuff your silly emotions into topics that arent requiring them?its a simple question deserving a straightforward answer.
not everything is a sob story or a begging for sympathy story
i dont care if ya got these diseases and yah cold sores are a form of herpes, i dont think the op was asking about that type of herpes tho . if you got the disease well thats just tfb for you i suppose, although yah u should be able to find another carrier to date, why on earth would someone carrying these diseases seek outside of their disease group to date? infecting others isnt a problem for them apparently and frankly they are the ones that are pathetic imo.
and yah u bet id not kiss a parent a sister or a bum with blisters like that on their lips. what kinda wacko goes kissing ppl with blisters oozing fluids? u need help dude i dont care who it was . id not risk gettin an std from anyone regardless of their significance. u imply that you would kiss your mom on the mouth if you knew she had herpes on her lips? thats really quite an ill ideology ya have there
and no i nvr had chicken pox, measels or the mumps , not everyone is succeptable to em
@jaimes ya still nvr answered the question tho what would this special girl need as an attribute to make u look past her stds n hop in the sack with her?
"""Don't get me wrong, I don't want it, but if she was a REAL SPECIAL lady, it would not be a deal breaker"""
so deal breaker lady is your mother or grandmother or sister?
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Posted: 4/27/2012 6:33:15 AM | | dude - first of all - an STD is a Sexually Transmitted Desease ... Not all Herpes is transmitted this was ... Again HSV1 could be passed by kissing, sharing a drink, sharing a cigarette --- the sympthom could be so mild that it may not be noticible... there is also the possibility of transmitting it without any sympthoms ... granted, it is much tougher. It is so common that those who have it are in the majority. Let me ask you "trouble maker - LOL" ... Are you going to ask every woman you date to first get a test done for cold sores before you kiss her. If you dated more than one person this past year chances are you came in contact with it. As a matter of fact I am almost certain you'e come into contact with it unless you've only kissed one woman in your life. Children dude, pre-schoolers.... 20% of those who have HSV1 are children.... LOL... Go take a test - you might already have it... wouldn't that ne a joke - I'm sure your attitude would change. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 9:13:16 AM | | Not only does it cause cervical cancer, it causes oral cancer in women/men. It's something that is not discussed much, but had a friend die of it recently. Very scary. People don't take the time to get to know one another these days. Know your partners sexual health, both should get tested for ALL STD's before having sex. That is the only kind of safe sex one can have. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 11:36:24 AM | | I would probably. They say herpes gets better as time goes on, less and less outbreaks, and contrary to those Valtrex commercials, there's no evidence it stops you from kayaking or yoga, lol. It would really depend on the girl, though. Not just anyone, there'd have to be some magic there. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 12:11:28 PM |
personally i think if someone has a potentially life threatening contagious disease they should be put on colonies like they did in the old days with the leppers
I can't believe I'm electing to waste my time responding to this garbage.
1) Herpes is not HIV. It is not a life-threatening disease.
2) You are actually advocating putting people with HIV in colonies?
What kind of inhumane monster are you, anyhow? People like you deserve to suffer in the most horrible way possible. Are you so incredibly stupid that you cannot just leave them alone? Afraid to breathe the same air are you? See...in the old days, people were too ignorant to understand how to deal with disease. Most of us have managed to get educated since then.
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Posted: 4/27/2012 4:28:45 PM | im the monster? lol ur funny, im the monster cause i think ppl with deadl contagious diseases should be segregated into colonies. yet the ppl with these diseases are considered humane because to tromp about n spread their diseases without so much as a thought given to at least letting ppl know what they have . you got messed up priorities .
im still laughing at you calling me a monster lol i wonder who you will consider the mon ster if someone gets u stuck with a disease or perhaps a young familyt members life gets destroyed because one of these people didnt care to disclose this information prior to them having sex.
its funny tho how ya all sit there n defend these people who know that the best course of actrion is in fact a colony or a forced disclosure as i think for them to disclose it is pretty tough to do hence most cant do it and stay locked in their homes because of the public scrutiny.
if they were in colonies howver or were made visually aware of others with the disease then their lives would be made a 100 % better, they like the rest of us have no clue who else has it and the medical establishment loves that scenario as it feeds them an ever growing population of future patients and guinea pigs.
however i see most prefer a society bent on the hidden and the lie and the idea that noone needs to know and noone needs to tell | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 7:27:01 PM | We should also lobby for an ignorance colony.... ^ ^ ^ ^ ^....that's fair.
v v v v : He does kinda look like a supremacist. Didn't think of that. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 7:27:38 PM | Umm dude... If you believe in God---any God---You're already in preference of a society "bent on the hidden and the lie."
You strike me as someone highly impressionalble and in love with segregation. There was a time when people wanted blacks and jews segregated... Leper colonies were all the rage. I think we need to have dippings--like they used to use for witches. Except we'll use use these ones for religios mena nd women like the pope for instance, and politicians. If we hold them under water for 5 minutes and they surface alive, then they're not liars. If they're dead, they've been lying all along.
You really need to get out more bro. Forget all of that though... I'm just kiding. You're half right. We do need colonies... So, how rational does this sound? All the Jews should go back to Israel. All the the Muslims and peiple of darker skin colour should just get shipped back to Africa... We'll make the whole damn thing a colony! ANd hell, why stop there? Let's send the entire cast of Jersey Shore straight to Italy and from there, maybe they can go to hell. All the Germans should go back to that colony called Germany. Likewise the Chinese. Send them all back to China...
Sounds pretty stupid, doesn't it. Now look in the mirror and try to live with yourself and I'll thank the stars that nobody else has to. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 7:31:14 PM | | Just an addition... I get it. You're from Alberta. Leave him alone everybody... They're different. Trust me. I've lived there. It's a sad lonley place. Not an intelligent conversation in the entire province. It makes the Tea Party look smart. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 7:31:35 PM | | I would not date someone that I know for a fact has herpes. Just my preference...just not willing to take a chance. Never even had a fever blister...so...I wouldn't want ANY kind of herpes if I can help it. Sorry if that makes me judgemental. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 11:06:54 PM | Lol always back to the jews it goes eh how droll
Look out christy unless u accept and swim in disease and pretend that you are compassionate and empathetic of all the misfits and diseased masses out there the lil fascist pc groups will hang u up on a martyr tree. Where exactly you get the nerve to impine my comment then go off about how im a supremacist is beyond me, but thats how u gain support tho , by lies and misdirection, always trying to make out like your the "good guys" when really all your doing is manipulating the comments and stories to fit your own agenda.
However a comment from a guy from ontarihole really doesnt add up to anything mOre then what they claim a comment from alberta is.
Jews should go back to isreal etc wtf is that all about? Push your agenda elsewhere if thats your vesion of a conversation u should yet out more | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 11:11:38 PM | | I wouldn't if I knew they had it. Sorry I just prefer not to get any STDS. Never had chicken pox or fever blisters. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2012 1:21:19 AM | | I dated a woman who was up frnt about it, and had a great relationship, I always used protection and a major scubbing with antibacterial soap afterwards, I ended it after a month or so because it scared me more and more. I have been tested several times since, and always came back clean | |
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Posted: 4/28/2012 2:34:41 PM | I've tried dating sites for those with H. Not everyone knows about them and joins. Therefore it is a much smaller pool of fish despite the statistics of how many people have it. The chances of finding someone close to me, who I'm actually attracted to are very small. The chances of meeting someone on POF who I'm attracted to, isn't an ass and can accept me as I am is far greater.
I've met people who are accepting of it but things did not work out for other reasons that were totally unrelated.
Just normal dating stuff. Like finding out on the 2nd date that they had been in prison or are an alcoholic. lol :)
I've also spoken to people who have it and think that we should automatically be dating just because we have this 1 thing in common. Seriously, would you date someone with only 1 thing in common with you? Of course not. :P
Live and let live, people.
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Posted: 4/29/2012 6:02:02 AM | well i can say i feel for your plight tinroofer, and ive never said the people that have it deserve it or slept around to get it , as far as i know it can be gotten pretty much in any way a person can imagine, frankly medical advances leave alot to be desired as far as self protection from diseases, frankly its in the medical profession best interests to let people get them rather than prevent them .
yah dating someone with just a disease as a staple is pretty much dumb, but im sure there are a great many other people out there that you havent met yet that you may have a few more things in common with , hell most people these days dont even have a disease in common, most just have a sense of lust n then its over .
alot of people have been rambling on about communication and education as a means to not get the disease, yet how many people that got the disease had an education and communicated, and low and behold they got it to!!
sure herpes is a cold sore, slightly different version of it we are talking about in this post tho we arent talking about a garden variety cold sore that goes away in a few days , as tinroofer can attest it is a stigma that is eternal, obviously having it hasnt made her life any better so why would so many people be pretending that its not a big deal.
im a germophobe so i really dont knowingly sit down and talk to people with contagious diseases, not even the common cold. its not the person i avoid its the germs. so sorry if some people presume that makes me a monster .
i know if i had it id prefer to be on a colony with people like myself who i could freely associate with and hopefully find someone i had more than just the disease in common with. i can only imagine how id feel if i had the disease and some nice girl opted to date me anyways, and then i gave it to her.
id prefer to not have that guilt on my head for the rest of my days . | |
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Posted: 4/29/2012 4:24:57 PM | I don't think people with Herpes should live in a colony on some island far away, but they do just have to inform any partners that they are interested in getting sexually involved with about their disease. It is up to the other person to accept or deny.
I would still probably 'date' someone with herpes, just wouldn't sleep with them, and I'd want to see if the chemistry is there for something more. But I hate to say it, but I think just having that constant "fear" in the back of my mind about "well, what happens if I do fall for this person and I do sleep with them and I do get it" will be an issue. Also, if I did decide to go through with it, I think the sex would be too "clinical" for me (i..e - I would feel like running to the bathroom immediately to scrub off, and during sex, I would always be looking at or thinking about ways to minimize contact - even though knowing full well that that effort would be pointless since intercourse in the end gets you as close as you will get!).
Sadly, I think I would have to pass on dating for more than a month or two for fear of that classic "getting comfortable and falling for the person" and then ending up in a relationship with them. When feelings get in the way, you make rash decisions. Therefore, again, yes, I'd date them to get to know the person a bit better but they would REALLY have to blow my mind within the first few weeks to month for me to be like WOW. SHE IS THE ONE! That RARELY happens this day and age.
That said, the ONLY other way i MIGHT consider dating and sleeping with a girl with herpes is if she happened to be a long time good friend. like, right now for example, i do have some "girl friends" who I am strong with and good friends. right now there is no attraction with them, but you always hear those stories of how all of a sudden, something happens and you fall for that person that was there in front of you for all those years. in THIS case, if one of these girls said 'i have herpes' - I MIGHT let it pass because at this point in time, knowing that person as a great friend for +5/+10 years... you know they are legit. and you may be willing to take a bit more of a chance on that person. you don't need to "get to know them" much more other than the sex part.
It's real tough though in the end. Regardless, people date for months and then when they get to the sex part of it all... the chemistry isn't there and so the relationship dies. That happens in normal relationships all the time. Imagine dating someone with herpes, having sex, figuring out that the sex isn't that good and the "vibe" is not there, breaking up with them for that reason (which is very valid) but then GETTING herpes!
THAT is the issue. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2012 7:34:42 PM | It must be tough to date when you have genital herpes - or should I say, it must be hard to get into sexual relationships when you have genital herpes. I am sure a lot of guys and girls will "date" someone as friends, kissing, affection and getting to know the person - but it HAS to take a certain type of person and chemistry to develop to actually take it to the next level, correct?
Unlike a relationship where both don't have genital herpes, after about a month or so (or sooner or later) but SOMETIME somewhat early these days (especially if you're in your 20's), people dating start to have sex.
So, while a lot of people here say "they are just human and it's just a disease" (and yes I agree, both statements are true), it HAS to be a bit more of a bigger commitment on the part of the person saying "yes. i will take the risk". It's not that people with genital herpes aren't wonderful people, it's just, it must be more difficult to get to that stage with someone to be able to say "yes, this is a great person, i don't care about the disease".
I do feel bad for them because they have done nothing wrong but now must suffer with another complication in an already complicated world of dating. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 1:57:32 PM | | I would date someone with herpes If I liked the person and there are sparks,. You have to learn about it and it is not bad. people are walking around with stds and do not know it and they are passing it on. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 5:50:50 PM | ^^^
that's because you are older (+50 years old)
I do NOT mean that as an insult.
I am 35, and have to say that as I have aged, I am finding less and less of an issue with dating someone with herpes. But that's because relationships now are more meaningful, and I also know that there is stronger potential now for that girl to be the special someone, if I were to commit to her. But still, I'd proceed with caution and sex would be off the table for some time (probably until I knew I was in love with her)
When you are 25, this view is much different. You have a LOT of time ahead of you - you are in the peak of your educational career and start of professional career. You want to get out there and date and know that while you may be in a relationship with someone, your life will be changing rapidly in the next few years and who knows where it will take you. Simply put, if you are in the "20's" - the "clubbing" and just general dating scene is NOT the same as your friends who don't have herpes. You have to proceed a bit more carefully.
I have done the quick 'check' in my head and say to myself "would I have dated that girl I was with 7 years ago if she told me she had herpes". The answer is consistently no. I would have been too scared. While I was fine with a committed relationship (i don't cheat), I was not naiive enough to think that at 26 years old, that THAT girl could be the one forever and ever. Dating was fun and exciting and exploratory as it should be. I didn't want to have to deal with the fact that this girl that I just met 3 weeks ago has put this huge issue/question on the table for me.
The issue with herpes for me is not the pain - it is the fact that if you get it, you have to explain it. The older you get, the less years of that explaining you have ahead of you.
Imagine if your 18 year old daughter asked you "mom. my bf has herpes. should i date him?" i'm sure you'd say no, because you damn well know the chances of those two being together are slim to none in this day and age, herpes or not.
If that same girl is 38, it is not as big of an issue. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:31:40 PM | | RSX your age group and younger are the largest group for STDs. You may not cheat but what about the person you are with. People your age and younger are dating clubbing etc and getting STDS. people are walking around with stds and do not know it and are passing it on. And 18 years olds and teens are having babies and getting stds the largest group is your group and younger for stds. people cheat it is human nature.One of the biggest things that causes break ups is cheating.You break up go on to the next person and that is how you get stds being with different people. I never cheated it is not right to hurt someone you love. I feel bad for the young today they have a lot of things to deal with. It is not fun being young today. Most People today do not stay with each other a long time today.Most people today are breaking up for stupid reasons they are not willing to work at staying with each other. So they are back out there dating different people and they catch an std. You may get tested but sometimes the test are wrong or do not pick up anything. | |
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