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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/14/2006 5:58:57 PM | I don't think you ^^^can compare herpes to a hair piece.
Not sure... but most likely I wouldn't date someone with herpes... | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:00:07 PM | You are one crazy Mofo... I would never date someone knowingly that had a sexually transimitted disease. Do you like your life. It is what it is, let her find someone that has one too or is accepting but to openly do it. That's really desperate and crazy..you went on one date cut it off. you act like you are engaged to her or married. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:00:28 PM |
Herpes is only contagious when there is a viral outbreak of it. - bike_man
Google the term "asymptomatic shedding." Please make sure you know what you're talking about, next time.
Safe sex? No such thing. - anotheraviator
Yes, there is. Just like there is safe driving, and safe shooting. "Safe" does not mean "without risk." It means "safe" as opposed to "stupid" or "entirely unsafe" or "just plain dumb."
Neither show up on routine 'testing' unless you are experiencing an outbreak. - anotheraviator
That is untrue. Antibody tests can detect and differentiate between HSV I and HSV II. Detection partly depends on how recently you contracted the disease, because like any viral infection, the body's immune system takes time to respond. Three or four months is the window of opportunity where false negatives are more common.
HPV is harder to detect in males, and there is presently no existing test beyond visual inspection, but a pap smear can detect the disease in women.
Condom's will not prevent infection from either. - anotheraviator
Condoms are not an absolute protection against either, but to say that it does not protect at all is factually and medically untrue. It's like saying a bulletproof vest or a seat belt isn't absolute protection against a bullet or a car crash. While technically true, is that any argument against using either?
And no.. I don't have herpes... I just believe in researching things before making a judgement. - anotheraviator
Unfortunately, your "research" doesn't seem to go very far, or very deep.
Nobody wants to get a virus or a disease, but who has the rights to condemn a victim of an STD? Would you cast out a cancer victim? - Traylynn
Nobody is condemning people with STDs. The original question was would you want to date - and, by logical extension, have sex with - someone who had one?
A lot of people said no. That's their right. All sex outside of a committed, mutually monogamous relationship is a risk, but if casual sex is like Russian roulette, then having sex with someone you KNOW has HSV II or HPV is like loading all of the slots in your revolver with live ammunition. Understandably, most people will under such circumstances, "No thanks."
A COLD SORE ON THE FACE IS NO DIFFERENT BELOW THE WAIST!!!! - Traylynn
Um, yes, it is.
Do I believe what they say...no...is there a cure, absolutely somewhere, just like there is one for cancer, somewhere! I do know that herbal remedies for this particular ailment has outstanding results. - Traylynn
Viruses do not have cures. We don't even have a cure for the common cold. There are good drugs to surpress HSV I and II, now, and I know couples where one person has HSV II, and takes his or her drugs, and the other partner hasn't caught it, but that is a calculated risk taken by two people. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/14/2006 10:22:44 PM | | OT: approximately 30% of American adult population have Herpes. So if you have had more than 3-5 sexual partners, mostlikely you have already slept with someone with Herps. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/15/2006 9:06:53 AM |
Google the term "asymptomatic shedding." Please make sure you know what you're talking about, next time.
I am not so arrogant to believe that I know everything Molonel. This is an interesting read:
http://members.aol.com/herpesite/trans.html#asymp
It mentions that asymptomatic shedding occurs unbenownst to the infected, and perhaps often enough to be a concern to someone having sex with an infected individual. However, after a year or two from initially being infected, the frequency rate of asymptomatic shedding is significantly lower than that of someone less than a year removed from initial infection.
I still say lots of people are playing Russian roulette when having sex with someone who says they don't have herpes. Especially if you have doubts about that person being a non-player.
No doubt it is initally a turn-off if your potential love partner tells you he/she has herpes. It's not a death sentence however. Personally I wouldn't discount a woman who I cared about as a dating partner if she told me openly she had herpes, when she first had it, and then showed me her meds that control it, then showed me taking those meds. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/15/2006 2:34:14 PM |
i met a gorgeous woman and went on a date and had a great time she was everything i looked for in a woman
If all this you said is true, then this shouldn't matter.  | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 7/8/2006 7:27:00 PM | As per topic.. if they knew they had it ... nope. Nor AIDS or HIV or anything else.
They may become a friend but thats about it... And "done" condemn us all you want, but its our choice hun.
Now if they didnt know and I got it well everyone makes mistakes, some you dont know you are making until after the fact. But the result is the same, LIVE WITH IT | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 7/8/2006 7:33:02 PM | I don't want to sound shallow, but my humble opinion is that I agree. Too risky to chance it even with protection.
I had a similar situation crop up recently frankly. As a bifem, I met another bifem who found out after we had been chatting (but thankfully before we had gone any further) that she contracted herpes. We still talk via email, but the possibility of ever meeting in person is out. I cannot and will not risk myself or any one else by exposure. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:19:14 PM | ive done alot of research on hsv and came to the conclusion that, although i found different statistics on different sites, its so common that eventually most will have it anyways. has your grandmother ever kissed you goodnight? ever drink or smoke after somebody(especially leftys)? ever drop a loaf into a toilet and feel the dirtied water hit your bottom? have you had sex with more than 4 people? how bout with somebody older than you since they've had more time to do all the things previously listed? how many people have you kissed? ever used a public water fountain? ate at a buffet(you know not everyone washes their hands regularly, and SOME people lick their fingers and finger their food!)?
i could list more but the bottom line is i wouldnt be afraid. thats my nature. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 7/9/2006 6:17:34 PM | Ok, well I posted some stuff before, but I think the best point to make here is:
If you think you *don't* have an STD like herpes.... when was the last time you were tested? And come back and post here *after* you've been tested for HSV-I & II, AIDS, and everything else (and be prepared to spend a bit of $$), and *then* tell us how clean you are.
Because, all things being equal, if you are on here saying you don't have anything, and you've never been tested, and you've had more than say 10 sex partners in your life, you very well *could* have something and you are lying. Unknowingly lying, but lying to us *and* yourself. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 8/11/2006 9:07:35 PM | | I have herpes and have had no problems dating men without it. I am a gorgeous, sweet, amazing woman. I have a lot of offer.. and I certainly won't let a few outbreaks a year affect my self confidence, my self worth, or self esteem. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 8/27/2006 9:21:50 AM | Just say [ NO ]
too risky, unless your ready to commit to that one person for rest of your life
your lucky she told you before being intimate | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 8/27/2006 10:53:02 AM | I'm not going to sound POLITICALLY CORRECT.
No, I would not date someone with herpes. As shallow as I sound, I care about my health. I'm not going to jump into the fire knowing I'll get burnt. Why should I take the risk of paying the price for the mistakes they made? Sorry, but I don't want to put myself at risk. Even kissing can spread herpes. I'm not taking a risk with my health for no reason.
Besides, I would never get intimate with anyone without getting tested first. So, there is no way I'm dating anyone with any type of sexually transmitted diseases.
I do however salute people who do it for true love. They are strong, I'm not.  | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 8/27/2006 10:55:45 AM | most people are VERY VERY VERY misinformed and uneducated about herpes and the risks involved with it
1) Don't look for pics of herpes online---the pictures online are of the WORST cases and if you ever got herpes, the chances of you having huge sores are not very great.
2) MANY MANY people have herpes and never discover it because they never have symptoms or their symptoms are so mild they don't even notice them
3) Get educated on what you can do to protect yourself if you'd like to be with someone who has herpes--there are lots of ways to keep yourself safe (not PERFECTLY safe) but the chances of you getting herpes from a partner whose herpes is dormant and suppressed under daily therapy (and while using a condom/dental dam) are very very low.
Chances are you've slept with someone who has herpes--they just may not know it. It has become more and more common and if you've never encountered it (via a friend or someone you're dating) I'm very surprised.
Oh and herpes isn't a death sentence---some of you talk like it's going to ruin your health...diabetes, alcoholism, hell gingivitis can kill you before Herpes would EVER end your life. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 8/28/2006 1:10:21 AM | Definatley not........Maybe one in 4 have herpies as ppl say on pof BUT not genital herpies.....I could like never go down south knowing what is hanging out there...YUK I actually know someone who has it & get angry when she sleeps with men without telling them of her problem!!! I have seen pics online "google it" and man oh man....I didnt think i had a weak stomach til i saw them pictures | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 9/14/2006 12:50:59 PM | Yep....all of that & more! Check the stats & if you still feel like telling yourself that it couldn't happen to you, well that's your choice. 75% of US pop was exposed as child to Type 1 (oral) even if they rarely get cold sores they may pass it on during oral sex & you may end up w/ Type 2 (genital)!
Some people will even PASS the test & still be carriers.... a strong immune system can make the virus almost indetectable, unless tested repeatedly over a period of months.
I HAVE dated someone w/ HSV2 for 3+ years!...not only did I test negative repeatedly after our break-up due to her dilligence & excellent communication, but it was some of the best sex of my life because the trust level was so high. She is one of the best people, not to mention sexiest women I've ever met!
Props to the folks w/ enough integrity to step out in the open & deal w/ this issue!
The rest of you folks should probably just NEVER have unprotected oral sex again w/ anybody....even a monogamous partner of YEARS duration. Just to be safe. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 9/14/2006 3:25:03 PM | | If she is everything that you've been looking for before she told you...go for it!! There are ways around contracting it yourself. Get the facts!! AND be glad that she was up front and told you about it...She must have trusted you enough to tell you!! | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/15/2007 12:42:58 PM | | im going to be straight up honest with yall. I just found out that have herpes, I cry all the time about it cause it is devastating blow to me and my lifestyle. I feel over half the time who is going to want me now. I have herpes, I got it from I loved and I am afraid of giving to someone else. Its not easy dealing with the fact that I am going to have this the rest of my life and I have no control over it. I have started educating myself on it and talking to people who do have it. I do hope each and everyday that god will bring that special someone in my life that will except it and be with me. Have a family with me, which ever way that may be- either naturally or adoption. hell there are so many children out there that their parents threw them out like trash when they were just a baby that need homes, yeah some of them have problems but who dont. to many people in this world are only out for themselves. and so damn judgemental about other mishaps, deformities and etc. which our people in our country would grow up and act human. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/15/2007 12:51:54 PM | | My neice has been dating a guy for a year with genital warts, he is a lovely guy but caught it from his last girlfriend who was sleeping around. | |
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| Would you date someone with Herpes?
Posted: 5/16/2007 3:43:27 PM | | KitKat....this was not your fault....you don't need to be ashamed of anything.....if someone can't accept that you have this then they are not worth having in your life....people are ignorant of what they have no knowledge of....it says alot about your character that you even " tell", because you don't have to and alot of people don't......educatate yourself about it......be thankful cause it could have been worse....think about the people that have been injured in accidents and can never walk again, make love again, hug their kids, walk down the street, see a sunrise or a sunset, the people who are losing their memories and don't know the people who love them.....know this and be gratefull.....you have a choice to let this stop you from living or learn how to live with it...good luck sweetie..... | |
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