| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:18:33 AM | | A lot of it is by choice, or maybe I am just too picky. I tend to find it difficult to not find something about somebody that grates on my nerves so much that I can't handle it. Some who know me might claim it is just fear of commitment too. Who knows. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:58:01 PM | Thank you...
For me, you've hit the nail on the head.
I find it hard to meet people who are comfortable enough about who they are to SHOW me that person before I get hooked...
And so we go through the preliminaries...Everyone on their best behavior.
Swamped by letters, phone calls...
Nicest restaurants, little tokens of affection.
Give it a month or two, and all of a sudden you realize you're sitting in your living room, the guy beside you is dozing in and out of consciousness, lately he only takes you to fast food joints...
Even worse, you get the feeling that it's really not YOU he's interested in. Almost any woman would do, as long as she fits into the premade mold of what he wants a woman to act like.
Conversation comes to a halt (interesting conversation, that is)...
And so you do the mental check:
Still fussing with my hair? Yup.
Still trying to get dolled up for him? Yup.
Same weight as when he met you? Yup.
Waiting on him hand and foot...Hmmm. I didn't think I was signing up for that. If I wanted a couch potato to wait on, I'd still be with my ex...
So my point (really...I do have one...) - I wonder if men go through the same thing.
Red hot relationship in the beginning...
But quickly moving to Ho-Hum.
And you get the impression that a cardboard cut-out that fulfills all of the gender roles would do just as well...
Or maybe it's me.
Maybe I just never caught on to the way of the world...and I'm delusional.
But if that's the case, I'd rather be delusional on my own... | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/5/2008 10:34:19 PM |
Red hot relationship in the beginning...But quickly moving to Ho-Hum.
And there's the problem.
Anyone think they can go full bore for the rest of their lives? Good luck trying.
A fire that starts slowly and is then banked will provide more heat longer and with less fuel than a roaring blaze that soon consumes all and dies for lack of more fuel. No wonder things die out as soon as the "hot burn" dies out.
Good luck, all. You're going to need it.
As for what keeps me single. Reality. And I won't make promises I will likely not be able to keep. I haven't rebuilt enough. (See profile) Plus, do I really want someone who doesn't understand capitalization? Or the difference between your and you're, or there, their and they're (as examples)? Or r 2 lzy 2 spl in fl? lol? Yuk!!
After thinking about some of that, single begins to look pretty good. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/6/2008 5:10:28 AM | The only thing standing in MY way, is finding just the "RIGHT" person. So far, he is elluding me. However, I will persevere and hope he shows up on my radar, soon. Or me on his?  The "traffic control crew" are ready to guide him to a safe landing, that's for sure! | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/6/2008 2:26:06 PM | If I knew, I'd probably not be single anymore since I'd fix it. It could be a few things that I'm in the midst of changing, but I guess the biggest thing probably is I'm not ready. I was at one point, actually several points, but those relationships did not work out for various reasons. But I have taken on some very serious business goals as well as some personal goals that have not been achieved. I don't feel I can commit to the right person the way they deserve to be committed to in my current state of life. Thus, I am not overly active in my search. If it happens, I'm sure I would work on that commitment, but I think it would take as much initiative from her to get that started as it would from me at this time. Once I have achieved my goals, which isn't that far out, frankly, I could start the search up more actively.
As for those goals, I would like to achieve a certain growth level in business, get my current home renovated and get myself in a more healthy state of body and mind. The latter being the most difficult, I would say, however it will come much more easily if the first two come quickly enough.
Pretty cool thread! | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/7/2008 12:41:04 PM | Wow where do I start Here are my top 3
1) Lack of respectable candidates who will date a strong, independant, single mom.
2) Tired of "boys" thinking they can pull one over on me, can we say been there done that too many times, in turn it makes me want to not date at all yet I still stay hopeful.
3) Men not wanting to commit, really guys just say so FFS most woman CAN handle the truth
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:03:32 PM | | I would have to say my skin, because alot of women want that real handsome man, but i just want to be viewed for the person i am inside and treat a woman like the lady she is, with total honesty, and respect, because afterall i was raised to bee a gentleman. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:47:21 PM | | Mid Life crises ,But who's to say we will not commit.Think this comes from both Parties ..Alot just find themself in that comfort Zone .And think Life is Best just Doing it the way they want too without the commitment. It only takes those correct answers too make it a match . But we find the same results over and over again .Finding our choices going into another direction .. Remember it only takes One to say Yes , and if the chemistry fits the picture then we can get on with our merry O Life . It's what you put into , and what you develop into making it a prospers relationship . AKA Bluenight. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:20:04 PM | From past experiences I would have to say that. My occupation has really hindered me in my quest to find my partner in life.
IE:
My crazy random Hours.
I may have to grow a scruffy beard or dress in really worn clothes for an audition. (In these cases there are NO first good impressions)
I may have to head out of the country for a day or two. (at the last minute)
I would change my schedule around for that elusive ms. Right
If she is out there.
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/9/2008 6:02:25 AM | I'm single because I only pick up girls I'm attracted to a few times a year it seems, and often they travel, or I move, or sombody loses someone phone number, or someone moves for some reason and it was just a short term relationship.
I'm also single because I raerly go to bars unless their is a band I like playing. I don't drink which seems to be a pretty social activity, I just moved to a new town recently, I do smoke herbs to relax, many hot woman don't like drugs or smoking and won't even talk to you when they find out you smoke. Sleeping alone feels like such a waste of a good life!
I'm also single because most girls on plenty of fish are teases that post sexy pics so guys can oogle over them and spoil them, so they can continue teasing and getting attention and maybe even dinner, drinks, flowers, jewellery, gifts, travel, for free just because they are good looking...while most time misleading and dissapointing men. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/9/2008 5:14:59 PM | Guy #1 - my husband. He died. Otherwise I wouldn't be single.
Guy #2 - left to play the field. Otherwise I wouldn't be single.
I said this somewhere before in another thread, but I don't consider a committed relationship being single. Probably not going to get married again, but never say never. It could happen, I just don't see it happening in again this lifetime. I'd rather stay in a committed, even living together, relationship for always without the paperwork. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:33:54 PM | Hmmmm good question.. the number one thing keeping me single is the lack of men that actually WANT to have a relationship..instead of them just wanting a one night stand or a piece of a**
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