| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/26/2008 1:34:10 PM | I think mine could be the fact that my kids are younger than most my age and also the fact that I have "a few extra pounds" listed here on my profile may stop people from reading further to see extactly what I'm about. I too must have a visual attraction to someone before I would consider pursuiting anything. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/27/2008 12:52:33 PM | A nagging disbelief that someone could truly tolerate and accept the real me.
Sure I still have faith but I'm not holding my breath nor feel anxious about it happening. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:46:33 PM | WELL ONE THING THAT KEEPS ME SINGLE NOW. IS MEN WHO USE WOMEN.. MY PAST 3 RELATIONSHIPS WERE WITH MEN WHO DIDNT KNOW HOW TO TREAT WOMEN. MY LAST ONE I FOUND OUT HE WAS NEVER OFFICALLY BROKEN UP WITH HIS GURLFRIEND WHO HE WAS WITH WHILE WITH ME. WHICH IS VERY GROSS AND DISHONEST. BUT WHAT IS KEEPING ME SINGLE IS I AM STARTING TO LOVE THE SINGLE LIFE. IF SOMEONE COMES ALONG AND THINGS WORK OUT THATS FIND.. BUT I PRETTY MUCH HAVE JUST GIVEN UP ON DATING FOR WHILE. I AM DATING BUT JUST NOT RUSHING INTO THINGS. FOR MY SAFETY THERE IS ALOT OF DISHONEST MEN OUT THERE......
AND U GUYS KNOW WHO U ARE.... | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/29/2008 6:28:08 AM | Myself ~ I won't settle...
I think more times than not, people sell themselves short in life, for the sake of saying they have a significant other...Its so unfortunate... | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:03:07 AM | Roxy you hit the nail on the hammer right there!
I AM DATING BUT JUST NOT RUSHING INTO THINGS. FOR MY SAFETY THERE IS ALOT OF DISHONEST MEN OUT THERE......
And its these rotten apples that you speak of that also make life for good fellows out here rough, as ladies like your selves loose faith and makes it tough for us to even get replies back, chat or even a 1st meet/date. So for me I guess thats a huge factor in a reason I am still single right there. I Cant get my foot in the door so to speak
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:14:36 AM | And there are a lot of dishonest women out there too but you really shouldn't compare anyone to the previous experiences you've had ~ It's not fair :)
Remember that there are countless good men in our crazy world...
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:59:40 AM | its not the honesty and dishonesty of other that is the real problem
its the honesty and dishonesty with yourself about others
people are people
everyone has moments of truth
everyone has doubts
everyone paints with rose coloured glasses at times
everyone fantasizes about other kinds of people places and things
it all comes down to how well you string that instrument you call your heart
if the part you play says love
then love will surround you in a song
the ones that don't belong will just fade into the background
I am still single because that love song was put on pause and my sound person seems to have neglected to push play before leaving the gig. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:41:32 AM | what is keeping me single?? Cant seem to find any men that want to go out on a date... i dont know what has happened lately on POF but things are very quiet on here....even in the forums.... ..does anyone else find this.........Or is is Just the Barrie Area.....hmmmmmmmmmmmm | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 7:58:03 PM | Nature produces variations so that the variations in living can be met successfully including that each person is unique unto their self and that makes them specialized to a degree where to survive they need other specialized persons so one gathers food whilst the other prepares the food. Together their outcome is higher than one person trying to do all tasks and finding out that there are many things that they are not proficient at because their natural capacities are to low to do those tasks or non-existant such as a male not gestating a baby. Our natural sensory systems are measuring the other person and then these are filtered through beliefs and mistaken beliefs that over time get identified when the person(s) that you are certain is right for
you seperates from you and this causes a loss of confidence in your own ability to judge whom is the right person/mate for you. If this happens often enough then the
person is going to develope an aversion to this decision and withdraw to safety such as not committing because committing has been hurtful. Complexs develope over time
so that a person with some low areas end up with many other issues such as anxiety over the entire process of meeting, mate selection or rejection and vice versa, etc.
How do we overcome nature when nature has preprogrammed us to make selections based on its' criteria and then we have programs that come from movies, books, basically many forms of multimedia and may mixed in with from our parents?
Accept that we are only disappointed based on unmet expectations therefore don't
expect anything. Go to met a person that might become a friend or might introduce
you to her or his friend. If you expect that if you can make a new friendship then you can make a new relationship because your long term mate is your best friend or you are with the wrong person. 2ndly be respectful and be humane even if the person is not a fit or is disrespectful.....you take the high road. Persons with class of the heart
tend to attract a healthier mate.....and a longer relationship. Consciously Breathe by
listening to the air as it rushes up your nose with each breath when you feel anxiety or fear come on. Be you, as no one can do you better than you, after all who knows you better than you? Sorry, run out of time, must move on....Blessings in your interactions at your meetings and may you be chosen by someone who loves you. Jim | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/9/2008 3:51:58 PM | lookin4ulookin4me ....Im so glad to here its quiet there.. I was startin to get a complex
I haven't had any mail in months ...it's like after awhile your just looked as spoiled goods or something
In the meantime I havent dated in 2 yrs or better.. met a few people but no chemistry so far.... now no e-mail... ? As earlier stated gettin good at bein single! | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/9/2008 4:52:50 PM | | i think the fact that im a little shy and afraid ..why may you ask am i afraid ?? well not scared of commitment when i do find the girl of MY dreams ill know it and shell know it! Its just these days alot of guys and girls have been screwing eachother so much nobody trusts anybody ..not not everyone though but in general its brutal ..look i am no doormat but i want you women to know there are strong minded and good guys left ...just like the dance song i grew up with in the 90s.."take a chance"!!!! | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:20:49 PM | Time !
My job has horrible hours , single Dad of 3 kids ( 2 left at home), just lack the time to give to a Lady. Most woman are use to dating guys who have kids every other weekend and work maybe 40 hours a week.
Well I have mine 365 days a year, then there is the 65 hour a week at my job, doesnt leave much time I am afraid. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:19:22 AM | Well I am such a sex symbol that I can't just save myself for one girl now can I??
JUST KIDDING....
I think my problem is that I believe in each person should still have their own independant lives and yet still be a couple. Two wholes instead of two halves making a whole.
Unfortunately my past relationships have been ... hi... now when do you want to get married.. (from her not me... ) and my response has been... we still have a lot of our life ahead of us... go slow... get to know me first...
I guess that now I am in my (more mature) age ... I am looking for someone that I know I can grow old(er) with.
BUT I AM NOT DEAD YET... and life does begin at 40!!
(I love this little guy!!) | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:09:46 PM | | Lack of single men in my age bracket who are not solely seeking sexual satisfaction. The last man I dated longterm was so afraid of being "kicked to the curb" that he ended up having many women friends, not committing to any one of them. I don't want to share my man.... actually if he wants me to be content with that he is not worthy of being my man!!! | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:28:16 PM | People don't believe I am single. I have had a few people think I am taken.
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I have preferences / requirements that most women who hang out online cannot meet. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:32:47 AM | Well it could just be something about thier size!!
But I do not compromise on type of lady I would even consider dating!
Plus they also have too meet my other qualifcations also to date me.
But most women that do meet what I am seeking are not looking to date ! | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:35:31 AM | Because most of the men i have met live to far away.........and i would rather keep most of them as friends for life.......than a lover for a short time........lol | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:17:01 PM | Hey now I get dates but just not any women from Pof !
As the women on pof most are not looking for a good man for long time!
Most want a bad man for a short time and so they have something to talk & squawk about afterwards ! hahaha
And at least I don't need to bash others just because he can not get anyone to date him even in vain !
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