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Posted: 6/13/2008 5:05:38 PM | Women also have to be judged by other women. Men don't generally judge each other.
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The above line kinda discribes every woman on pof !
Seems if they date some guy it must be approved by all the other ladies she knows on pof or she won't date him let alone even meet him for a first meet!
And we all know not any of you ladies is gonna meet me for a first date ! As it would go against all your lady friends wishes as firmbear8 is not anyone a good respectable single female should be dating !! But yet me being 52 I am being told I should date any lady who'd date me and I should not worry what she looks like ! LOL
Get real if I am not good enough for you to make contact with or to meet for a first date then theres no guy on any singles site worth any lady taking interest in.
As I want someone who answers to themself and not to their so called best friends.
Yes guys do not judge other guys on who they should or should not date.
So when are the women gonna stop being little girls and grow up and act like real adults on POF ??
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Posted: 6/14/2008 4:16:27 PM | We've got a great friend of many years who talked us into joining for the forums, and she happens to be single. Although she's not the type to say much about it, we know the choice to be single at the moment is hers.
She has enough respect for herself and others to know that this isn't quite the time for her to be looking. But to be honest, having seen some of the emails she's received, as well as reading some 'possibles' opinions on the forums, we can see her personal reasons aren't the only things holding her back. "Nice from far, but far from nice" comes to mind.
Yet all she'll ever say is what really great friends she's made on here, she thinks the world of them, even though they've mostly never met - that includes gal pals as well as men, and when we see how kind they've been to her, and to others in general (in the fora), we have to agree - there's some awesome people out there.
Now - get well soon, sweets. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 6:38:26 PM |
This sounds like a bunch of feminist bs.
Anyone who thinks it's harder for either of the genders is a little delusional.
I can't believe women are still pulling the whole "he got me pregnant and left me!" bs. I don't know a lot about the birds and the bees, but as far as I know a woman has to open her legs to get pregnant. I doubt she was complaining too much when the act happened. It's not cool to play the victim after.
Maybe women need to get over themselves, and realize that men are not the root of all evil.
My point was hardly feminist bull sh!t. Also, women don't "pull" something like "he got me pregnant and left me". It's many women's REALITY. In actuality, my point was to show the poster I responded to that men do not have the cornerstone on having been hurt or being shy. We all have been hurt.
Personally, I'm merely tired of being the one making the effort to contact men. It would be nice to see men make their interest known in ways other than stalking my profile. That action in itself is not "shy". 
And your comments do not come across as grumpy so much as uncompassionate. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 10:38:35 PM | Every relationship is so different-
No one ever invented a standard relationship week-
you know how you work 40 hours in a work week well
how many hours do you have to put in to have a relationship week?
There should be some kind of standard.
The thing I dont understand about the marriage contracts
is the way its suppose to end, you know -till death do you part.
Why cant we just have a 5 year term with a possible 5 year option to renew? | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 7:51:25 AM | I'm single because I lost desire at some point. Relationship just wasn't that important to me. I was too caught up in trying figure out the age old question..the meaning of life.
I agree with firmbear with a lot that was said by firm bear...if you ladies want to find love you need to think for yourself instead of the group think methodology that clearly fails. I'm sure you'll all agree with me that in the end looks does not make the relationship work...
There is too much demand being made on men. Until you guys are married...you should both offer to pay for your share of expense. It's fair and won't hurt anyones bank account. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 4:12:25 PM | Once again, I have to "comment here"...... I didn't think for ONE minute, I would be "toiling away" on "dating sites", trying to find a "Suitable Potential Mate", this long, but HERE I am. My, my, my: so many "middle aged men" playing juvenile games. Deception to the max! Many of you "CLAIM" you are seeking a so called "relationship", when you are clearing seeking nothing more than a "roll in the hay" formerly known as a "one night stand". Quite "overly confident", I dare say.....
Now, let's talk about those outdated, and aged photos. Come on now. Don't you think WE WOMEN will NOTICE, upon meeting you, that you DON'T quite look like "THAT", anymore? As in "quite a few pounds heavier"! And, how about those that claim to be "non smokers" on their profiles, only to "light one up" during the meeting???? These are the facts, and they speak for themselves. From MY OWN personal experiences. It's HIGH TIME some integrity/maturity was "injected" into this endeavour! Let's NOT waste any more time, guys: MINE OR YOURS!!   | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 7:53:59 PM | Now, let's talk about those outdated, and aged photos. Come on now. Don't you think WE WOMEN will NOTICE, upon meeting you, that you DON'T quite look like "THAT", anymore? As in "quite a few pounds heavier"! And, how about those that claim to be "non smokers" on their profiles, only to "light one up" during the meeting???? These are the facts, and they speak for themselves. From MY OWN personal experiences. It's HIGH TIME some integrity/maturity was "injected" into this endeavour! Let's NOT waste any more time, guys: MINE OR YOURS Man this made me laugh for sure ! hey come now alot of you ladies have not posted a new pic or recent pic of you up in your profiles either. And some people don't even post a pic up yet you tend to figure your something hot & specal. Hey no pic then no reply from me either as first email contact or a return email. And it si not just guys on here looking for a quick roll in the hay ! I could probbly list a few colums of women's profiles in here a mile or two long also only here for the quick roll in the hay or qiuck lube & go !LOL Thats why women don't reply to me as if yuor not real then don't bother ! Fakes don't post their pics and if they do there not recent ones. Just friends or just datin people are also what I call fakes . Or in short to me just datin or just friends is what I call a waste of time people. Reall people want more then just a hot one nighter ! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 8:01:46 PM | Number one thing... you mean besides the 'read-deletes' from seemingly perfect matches on POF?? haha Deliberate 'fakes' or not, obviously some people aren't really looking for what they advertise.
No, the number one thing keeping me single is an apparent inability to form a normal healthy bond with another human being. I'm sure there's one match out there somewhere, and just maybe it's on POF. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 5:30:58 PM | wow i agree with this guy. why do women post that they look for specific qualities in a man, and when a man that possess those qualities shows himself to her she runs off and deletes the message sent to her or opens and closes the instant messenger.
i believe i am single because i am picky and maybe because i am goofy sometimes(yeah that comes with a warm heart btw girls). one of those and maybe a few more but yeah no one is perfect, but what person is perfect to you? i know who....no one unless you get to know that person first! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 4:37:25 PM | I am far to "real" - honest for most. I say what I mean and I mean what I say - Been told: "You're too honest!" .. sigh ..
Reason # 2 - I am not motivated to change reason # 1.
A.S.is
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Posted: 6/27/2008 5:36:05 PM | | The number one thing that's keeping me single is the fact that I am not that anxious to go out on a date anymore because I have been disillusioned by the guys I have met and gone out with, that are members of the same singles websites I am, as well as the ones I have met and gone out with offline. I am in no hurry to get married, anyway at my age and I have never seen any good reason to hurry into something like that anyway, there's no point in it. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 8:23:25 AM |
you know how you work 40 hours in a work week well
how many hours do you have to put in to have a relationship week?
BINGO!
I *had* a fantastic girlfriend, but I made an active choice to allow my job to take over my life (over 100 hours per week, easily), while giving her a total of maybe fourty minutes.
MY decision is why I'm single. Still have feelings for her, of course, but I allowed myself to fully enjoy my work with no prior commitments to worry about (other than bills, rent, and my car-in-the-works that never quite seems to agree with me - it's a pitiful but loving marriage, I tell ya!) | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 11:14:23 PM | | i think the thing keeping me single is lack of confidence/shyness. i have a hard ass time trying to even get the courage to send someone an email, cause i know i have like a 99.999% chance of being rejected. and all i hear is that women love confidence, which puts me worse off. i don't know why it's so hard for me, but if anyone has some help they can give, message me. that is.... if anyone cares. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 8:28:36 AM | "MY decision is why I'm single."
That's a good way of putting it. I'm single because if I don't feel a connection, I get out of the relationship. I'm not going to go through a sham three months of torture ending in a nasty break-up like a lot of people end up doing... being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship is pointless and immature. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 8:12:45 AM | Everyone seems to say that they are picky and that is the reason why they are single. Well, being picky is not a bad thing at all and in fact is a sign of maturity. Why settle for someone that does not do "it" for you? Just settling in a relationship will eventually head in one direction and that is sorrow and misery. Raise a hand if you've settled in the past.....
Now, why I'm single is because I have this picture of what I like to see in a woman both physically and mentally (outdoorsy, physically fit, slim, perky, tanned, cute, fun to be around, positive in mind and spirit, has her stuff together, flexible to do things on a whim, not into the city scene or fashion hog but still girly...). I've gone to a couple of POF parties and other dating services parties and unfortunately haven't met that type of person, or if I did the situation wasn't right. So for me, being single is because my type of person hasn't come about yet or she has but the situation was not right. i.e. she was married or invloved etc. Therefore, I stay single because, like I said earlier, why settle and be sad.
So we continue our search and perhaps one day all the stars and moons will be aligned and POOF... Right???? | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 6:17:29 PM | Been doing some real thinking on this subject, and I have to full wel admit that is it mu fault that I am single. I'm generally emotionally closed up and keep everything t myself and locked away. (the typical nothing's wrong answer when something really is) It seems I have a fear of commitment. Unless you want to go on the whole I haven't met the right person thing. from what I have seen on a lot of the profiles being a smoker does not help matter any either, but to be blunt I don't want to quit that badly, so I have no real intention of it. To top it all off I can seem to be a little bitter towards women, been burned.... blah blah blah. Yes I know I am not the only one.
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Posted: 8/21/2008 11:49:20 AM | | In the words of my parents geration..." men knew how to act like men, and women know how to act like a ladies. Seems both have forgotten somehow....Ladies...follow your own heart...everyone, and every situation is different....I am dating an proffessional, and he treats me like a lady, and I am a lady in return...."girls" stop comparing each others curcumstances....as I said, not one is the same...FIRMBEAR8...you deserve to be loved just like anyone else...keep looking....stay away from the women that are so eager to jump into bed...find someone with morals and hold them dear to you......best of luck...Penny. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 11:29:51 AM | I don't know about my whole life, but for the last 16 years I've been helping to look after a disabled person, I also work full time and have a part time job. Doesn't really leave much room for the "real deal".
I also find that at first, people find it rather altruistic that I help look after a handicapped person, that is until the first time I can't go do something because I have to stay and tend to an incident or ailment, then they run to someone with no responsibilities, and sometimes I understand cause I want to run away too!
It's either that or I have barnacles growing out my back that I don't know about???! | |
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