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| | Name the number one thing keeping you single..Page 26 of 31 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31) | I'm big. Guys hate that.
I really don't know. I think I'm a great person and I have so much to offer someone. But all I get in the end is my heartbroken. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 8:33:13 PM | Ohhhhhhh now c'mon ladies not all men are afraid of relationships ... sheesh. I was in a relationship for 1.5 years and wish it didn't end (she ended it, not my choice)!!! I learnt something about myself in that relationship. I learned alot actually. Until I met my ex, I thought I couldn't stay in a relationship because of a number of reasons that had nothing to do with me.
What I learned though, was that subconsiously I met women who WERE NOT a good match for me. They were too young, too old, too far away, etc etc etc. I was a Seinfeld episode with all the reasons why things didn't work out. why did I seek such women?
I wasn't ready to meet someone to commit to. I dated women that had no long term potential for me because even though consiously I wanted a relationship, subconsiously I wasn't ready for one. I wasn't ready to open myself up and give my whole self to someone. I wasn't emotionally ready to be with someone completely. I was still hurt from things that happened a long time ago, and thought I had dealt with those feelings when in fact all I had done was bury them.
I guess what I am trying to say is look at yourself first and see if you can find a pattern of the type of guy or girl you meet. Are you highly critical of the people you date after you end things? Do you ALWAYS find reasons to break up with them or even more critically, somehow sabotage a relationship? I'm not saying sabotage consiously. Think about it. Has there been a point in that relationship where you start acting differently or have done things which led to the end of the relationship? Did you stop doing things you used to do when you first met the person, or start doing things that you didn't do when you met?
It's tough to do because you have to be candid with yourself, but once you do and can identify such things and then deal with the root cause of why you hav edone such things, you will begin to understand why your relationships have failed and thus be on the road to finding happiness | |
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Posted: 10/3/2008 10:12:42 AM | I'm in Jail!
Plus it doesn't help that I murdered my last two partners
Why does this hold me back? Isn't there anyone out there for a homicidal maniac serving three life-sentences?
(Actually I am not really in Jail...the rest I will let you decern)
Perhaps I am single because of my bad choices with humour | |
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Posted: 10/4/2008 9:28:11 PM | I believe it's because our society has become so superficial, if you don't look like Brad Pitt and wear a doctors uniform or are a lawyer or something like that, your s*** out of luck for the most part.
Since i'm facially scarred and am not employed with the rich, I KNOW! that's why i'm still single because i have all the other qualities commonly asked by the women.
Honesty, Respect, Faithful, romantic or at least try,,lol, Etc: etc: and i'm quite confident in who i am, i'm outgoing to boot..lol
That's my oppinion anyway!!! | |
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Posted: 10/6/2008 10:23:38 PM | getting people to reply to the messages I send. Then we can meet and see if chemistry
the other thing that is annoying is not getting reply positive or negative I thing its the polite thing to | |
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Posted: 10/7/2008 9:59:46 PM | Think the real reasons so many of us are still single and looking is Way too many would rather play online and are afraid to meet . So hence the no replies to emails and no emails from protential mates either.
And besides no ladies want a slim slender single available males !LOL | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 7:44:06 AM |
I'm big. Guys hate that.
I really don't know. I think I'm a great person and I have so much to offer someone. But all I get in the end is my heartbroken.
I have the same problem, there is so much more to me than the physical appearance, but most guys dont take the time to find that out.
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Posted: 10/12/2008 2:55:56 PM | " My " guess is order to be either liked,OR attracted towards someone.It falls
under issues that for what ever reason is just not interest from the other-side.
But,in my honest opiion,And of course really am not altogether sure,but,my hunch is I hav,nt worked towards my photo,s," I " hav,nt the support.Someone will offer to take a photo,but dose,nt put it on.So,just from what I gather,I tend to feel,that people can
hesitent,and due to just the unforsence things,which is either quirl,or just plain stupid. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2008 5:22:45 AM | Optimistic for 2008 - asks : I've got a better idea...if your a female reading this post... you tell me why I'm still single...I can't figure it out...
* Maybe it`s because you have the filters on your profile set so high that very few can even view your profile, such as myself :) | |
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Posted: 10/25/2008 9:37:02 PM | | Well since I been in 3 long - term relationships 1. 4 yrs which was my entire high school she needed time to sort her feelings wasnt sure when exactly she started feeling this way before or after she was caught kissing someone else. 2. 5 yrs resulted in 2 kids she decided it was a good idea to sleep with someone that thought she was pretty. 3. Was about 3 yrs I guess with a couple months break a couple times always felt I was a second choice with her or I will settle for you til someone new comes along maybe. So I dont know maybe I little cautious I walk into each new relationship with trust, honesty, and believing that this girl is different to have it hit me right in the face time and time again. Yes I fully trust and believe the lady I am courting is totally faithful until for some reason she starts to try to hide things, lies, or tries to distance herself from me. So really I dont know I have a reputation for a guy who would rather die then cheat on his gf or spouse. Have never hit them or threatened to try to was occassionally unpredicatable so if theres something I am not looking at that you could point out whats keeping me single I really like to know what it is. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2008 1:19:46 PM | i'm single because I'm so selfish I don't want to share my wonderful self with anyone 
I dunno why. I'm short and I think that's the biggest stumbling block. Oh well ... | |
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Posted: 10/27/2008 12:52:50 PM | | I'm single because I want to be. I like the fact that I answer to no one. I can do as I please, go where I please, eat when I want to, sleep when I want to. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2008 12:05:15 AM | Do I have to name just one thing? I could write an encyclopedia on why. lol!
For me, I think it's because I'm not working at the time, I'm not lazy, just on hard times like everyone else is.
Despite my humorous rantings that I'm pretty, I'm not what girls are looking for.
I'm a bit eccentric. I don't have mental issues, I just choose to be quirky, because it's how comfortable I am.
I have nothing in common with some of the girls. I want, for once, to meet a girl who loves David Lynch films like I do...that's an example.
I know exactly what I want, and no one's been it yet. lol
Again I'm weird.
Why live in the world, when you can live in your head. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2008 8:20:25 AM | The number one thing keeping me single is fear, Seeings in my last relationship i almost went mentally insane and felt I should either have been breaking up with my now current ex or admit myself into the Hamilton mental institution put a huge fear within my mind of dating another person. Over the past year I have tried a couple of times, this time taking it quite slow to see just exactly where my feelings lie before leading on the person im on a date with, and if I had a negative experience I was quite up front and honest saying it wasn't their fault for the way I was feeling and that it was an underlying fear I had that my past would relive itself.
Tho now I have spent the last half a year working on getting over that fear itself and finally have hit a point where I believe that I can now look into a relationship that now it won't happen. Generally my low self-esteem plays a big role in this. I feel that I am not attractive and not worthy of having somebody love me. I'm always feeling like there is some other guy that could treat the person I would be with or want to be with alot better then I could, so who am I kidding what makes me more "special" then anybody else. I'm just another guy who is nothing but himself, and just wants to simply be accepted for that fact. I am me, nothing more nothing less. Then there is the last factor that keeps me single. My dreaded fear of Rejection, I cannot.... Yes that's right CANNOT! break the ice what so ever. I never have been able to do it in my life and still to this day, breaking the ice with someone I find attractive is frankly scary. Many thing's run through my ADHD brain within a split 10 second instant like: "What if what i say is the wrong thing, What should I say, How do I portray I am attracted to this person within the first statement I say to them, What if they think I'm ugly." and so forth. I believe these are the three #1 things that keep me single, and I also believe if I cannot change these three things about me, I will be single for quite some time. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2008 8:50:05 PM | choice ^_^
I'm picky. I've been out on a number of dates, both from online and traditional methods. I just can't seem to locate someone I actually want to be around for any significant period of time in a serious way.  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 7:09:01 AM | | I am single because I was married for a very long time. Been there. Done that. So singledom is a relatively new experience for me. Freedom now, yes, but it is a challenge at times to be totally responsible for JUST myself. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 9:59:02 AM | I truly believe for mself its timing. I have met a lot of great ladies through POF who have ended up being great friends! Some of them I wished could have been more than that but now I can see why a serious relationship wouldn't have worked with them.
I know there is someone out there that I will really connect with and its just a matter of time before I find her or she sneaks up behind me 
For now I'm enjoying single life and when that hot babe comes into my life Im gonna give her some sweet loving all nite long baby  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2008 11:46:49 AM | I moved to different states for my career. Each time, I decided to leave the current boyfriend, and follow my heart (career).
Now I am ready to pick a city and live there for a decade or two. However, I must date a guy that loves traveling!  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2008 4:51:55 PM | having all those dates and not finding a connection, the one you click with, the one you bond with, that special chemistry isn't easy to find. It happens very rarely. I guess that's why it's special. You have to go through all those dates first to find that one. Or if you just happen to find that one you are lucky.
I'm not picky, I do want that connection, the heavenly, spiritual connection but I guess it doesn't come from a first date, you keep trying.
Cheryl. | |
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