| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 11/3/2008 8:30:52 AM | Believe me when I say from experience. Having a connection is exhilerating but it may not be enough, before this I felt the same way. A relationship be it a romantic or a friendly one ( as I had) needs more than just chemistry. I found that chemistry. I was on cloud nine. I was satisfied with that, but other factors like other people among many many things ( I do not want to go into detail) got in the way of even a friendship. In the end it became too hard for me ( and this chemistry is something I truly cherished ). There are way more things, that must align, chemistry is a must but it doesn't end there. You can find chemistry with someone who is basically in a totally different place emotionally and may not value that chemistry the way you would.
Any way thats why I am single. There is no way I would get into a romantic relationship with anyone now, unless they demonstrate to me that they are easy to be with. My life is hard enough without meeting someone who puts me in a box gives me a list of criteria that I must follow. And if I step out of that box I am categorized and labeled.
Just because I open myself to someone, that person does not have the right to classify me, label me, categorize me. I am a person (everchanging), there is value in that.
Okay, I'm a little shocked that chemistry wasn't enough, even to be friends. But I got something out of it. I value the happiness I feel when I'm on own doing my own thing and having my own fun without being judged. The chemistry that I valued is gone and I am relieved. Whew... | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 11/9/2008 5:24:28 PM | | not really sure to be exact but seems to be various reasons as to why i'm still single . i have high standards and have become attached to certain girls over the years which has not helped . plus i live in an area where there is not that many girls on a year round basis so that doesn't help . but seems to be various reasons over just one reason . | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 11/11/2008 8:37:05 AM | | This may sound weird but its very hard to find a woman who shares the one big passion I have in my life. That passion being Electronic music. Music is a big part of people's lives and is huge in my life but I can never seem to meet someone who shares the same passion. Whenever I meet someone and they hear the music I can honestly say it turns them off because they can't even believe that I would listen to music that to them has same beat over and over. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 11/11/2008 8:52:17 AM | "they can't even believe that I would listen to music that to them has same beat over and over."
I can't say that I like to listen to the same beat over and over again either. I went to a dance at a bar with my new guy a few weeks ago, because we both love to dance, and I have to admit it got rather tedious after awhile. Every now and then I managed to pick out a song that I "knew", but it wasn't the same at all. And it really sucks for slow dancing.  I do so love to slow dance with my guy. 
I don't think, though, there isn't some kind of a compromise that can't be reach, after all, a good relationship requires being able to compromise on certain aspects of one another's lives. If trying to have relationship is based soley on what kind of music a person listens to, then it's not going to go very far.
My ex's biggest passion was birds, small birds at first, then it grew to large parrots. My problem was an allergy. But we bred small birds, hand fed some of them - which I might add I did despite my allergy - and then graduating to large parrots. We also rescued unwanted and abused birds and parrots. And in spite of my allergy, I loved these birds. I think I missed them more than I missed him. And I still do miss the birds.
Keep looking, there's someone out there. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 11/11/2008 10:27:23 AM | | could be I am too dam shy for my own good.....even hosting events all I get is either my wierd sense of humour or quirky remark........but to be honest when I find someone I am really interested in...........I R U N..........and personally don't like that part of my personality, so.......after being on here for a while.........going to try and work on that one.......with the attitude of N E X T........if it is not recieved well........lol | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 11/11/2008 3:52:53 PM | how's this for candid ...
I'm single because I am VERY selective as to who I date.
I'm sometimes arrogant.
I'm lippy, opinionated, annoying, obnoxious, an attention whore, a brat, can be whiney, and don't look anything like either Brad Pitt/Denzel Washington/Kenny Chesney/George Clooney/Mel Gibson ....
Heck, I don't even look like George Costanza hahahahahahaha ... Ok that's a good thing.
Any other reasons????? | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 11/13/2008 12:17:28 AM | | learning from my mistakes. When I was young the little head did the thinking. Hadn't learned what love was. Some men learn this slower than woman. I was one.Got wiser and have learned that a real love is worth waiting for. I can now resist the temptation of jumping in because of lonliness or missing closeness. It will happen. The number one keeping me single is me, followed closely by fate. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 6:13:36 PM | Hmmm one thing to share...well I've been told I am too logical?
I could be Dante's twin but he'd win for the smell so good category.
I also agree with Greeneyes write up. Guess I haven't met anyone in the middle yet.
cheshire grins
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 1/5/2009 10:40:43 AM | | There's so many reason's .. The number one reason is and this may sound errogant.. I can't seem to find anyone good enough for me and my kids. There's always been some kind of issue that won't allow me to go that extra step. I've been engaged twice and my family now calls me the " The Official Runaway Bride"..For the most part I just refuse to settle. I'm not looking for perfection but I do have a lot of conditions that I think I owe myself and my children the right to have in the man I choose to be in our lives . He has to be genuine in all aspects. So far I've found myself involved with romances that have been unbareable to the point where I've pretty much given up in the hopes of meeting someone . Maybe my standards are to hi and I'm waiting on a Love that will never be .. But .. I believe we are so worth the wait . | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 1/5/2009 7:44:14 PM | Eh, you are picky friendship lane. There is nothing wrong with being picky. I had plenty of opportunities to date people I have met but chose not to. Various reasons why but mostly because I, like you, refuse to just 'settle' for someone. You also have a child to consider so I find nothing wrong with making sure the person is a good fit for you.
As for me, I will continue to be picky if and when I date again lol | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 1/6/2009 5:05:19 AM | | Many have said that I'm too patient... but it's because of my past experiences that I found it's better to wait until there seems to be what I feel is a spiritual connection. In most cases... it seems that most will take my distancing as a lack of interest in them... but I prefer matching myself with a woman who has self respect rather than take the advice of the majority so far... despite that there's been a whole lot of my lady friends telling me to show more of a forwardness like asking for that phone number, but I rather say I had a great time with them and let her know I'd soon like to see her again. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 1/9/2009 7:51:25 PM | Why am I single? The million dollar question. What everyone loves to ask when you are single? Why is that? Why are people so fascinated when people date? or why people choose not to?
Anyways now that, that has been said...I'm not picky (well for the obvious things) but I'm the kind of person that will see the good in people and fall in love with that. I personally don't like dating it's really annoying I'm more of the relationship type girl...I wish I wasn't but everytime I turn around it seems I'm in a relationship. SO this time I'm choosing to live for me, and if I do find someone take things slow, but another big thing that bothers me in the dating world is the superficiality (lack of depth) in everything. Anyways being single does have it's benefits...I find it fun...never know who you're gonna meet, the dating is fun (sometimes) and so much more time for girlfriends, family and interests. Oh and if I am in a relationship I don't like spending 7 days a week with my boyfriend yes even if it's long term...a lot of guys have a problem with this or so I've experienced  | |
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Posted: 2/7/2009 3:30:17 PM | Lack of effort. Long term relationships kinda left me w/the inability to know when a woman smiles at you and, When A Woman Smiles at You!
But I'm beginning to pay more attention.. I'm'a learning I'm'a Learning-lol | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 2/9/2009 2:53:03 PM | **#1...Cause I simply CAN'T be bothered...Been there..Done It...I am surrounded by enough different types of LUV to make up for a relationship that I don't want or need..** | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 3/21/2009 8:41:21 AM | most definitely time.
hard to get out and meet ppl when you have very limited time because of work and kids.
chances of meeting someone really special decrease alot when you only have a day here and a day there to get out and meet someone in person. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:09:39 PM | | The number one thing that keeps me single is the fact that I look to often for a relationship and when I get into it I rush to fast and end up in the wrong place. In addition to that the people that I attract are nice and all but it seems in my eyes things just started to fade. I have yet to find the one woman that can grab me by my heart strings and leave me wanting for more. | |
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