| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:09:39 AM | I think trust is a huge thing with any normal person.
It's hard to be lusting after and/or be in love with someone.. tell them all your dreams and goals and let them in to see you for you.. and then POOF!!!! They are gone. For whatever reason. It takes a lot of work to get to know someone.. and them to get to know you.
I'm no expert but I'm having a hard time with allowing someone to upset the routine of my life. I find it's easier to let them in.. then once they are gone it's much harder to get back to the old routine. Meh.... | |
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Carri3
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Joined: 7/18/2005
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:13:16 AM | Ravishing Ruby! 
Kobie, i've been knocked down time and time again with the trust thing. But eventually one person is going to stick around and not be the same as some of the others. Dont give in, just take it slow. | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:13:22 AM | The truth about me is that I'm a self-centred, egotistical lazy guy who is about as ready for somehting long-term as a newborn horse is for the glue factory...
Though I'm told I have a cute butt...
Kiflomb!
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Carri3
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Joined: 7/18/2005
Msg: 106 | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:15:03 AM | Yes very true about that Diggy03 !
Yep I have no problems either letting them in and letting them know about me and where I stand in a relationship .
But they tend to not let me in their lives very much and don't try to let me learn about them . And so when they leave I am kinda left in the dark as to why they left . And yes makes it hard to get back to my old routine!
So yeah its the communitaction and trust that makes it hard for me to find someone willing too do this ! | |
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:17:17 AM | see, i wish i could do the 'trust them until they give you a reason not to trust them', but I think my Scorpio self just can't do that:( I think trust is earned, over time - when you get to know someone. I also think that once you see the person is respectful to you and your feelings, that helps it along as well, because if you know they respect you, you won't have to worry about the whole trust thing.
firmbear: And I do understand what you are saying about fear of committment...it's not that I have a fear of committment, I WANT to be committed to somebody, that's all I want, but, when I think it is well, everything is going pretty good, I find it always turns around and kicks me in the as*!! lol....oh well..time to change the type of men i date i guess! | |
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tenar
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Joined: 9/3/2005
Msg: 110 | |
| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:18:52 AM | whatever happened to respect is given trust is earned.!
For me u have to show me i can trust you. By trusting someone straight off you are only opening yourself to disappointment and heart ache | |
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Carri3
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Joined: 7/18/2005
Msg: 111 | |
| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:23:48 AM | I've seen people start off with a relationship, and have right off the bat, comparisons to their ex's and past experiences. You cant start something new if you cant let go of the old. The trust I mean is that you trust them to be who they say they are at the time, and not sit there and tell them every two mins "well my bf/gf did this, and they did that, and this is what happened and i dont want that, and i hate this.. etc"
Trust yourself to jump in a little bit. Enjoy the moment while it's happening. | |
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tenar
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Joined: 9/3/2005
Msg: 112 | |
| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/25/2005 9:25:55 AM | sorry carri misunderstoods just woke up and still not all there LOL
yes u need trust to a certain point.. but if they respect you then u should not have to hear about their ex's or anything else from the past. and being honest is part of respect | |
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pomik
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 114 | |
| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/26/2005 4:18:18 PM | Smile,
Thank you tenar...
Today I had to tell someone that they had no respect for me.
They were wimping the trust issues.
I try to live in the present day...
Thank you for your wise words, tenar....
MMMmm keeeping me single....
afraid of intimacy....
I'm looking for the whole package and do not enjoy just pieces.
Ooops two things.
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| Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 10/26/2005 5:13:58 PM | let's see... this list could get long...
I have trouble trusting people, I'm too insecure and sensitive, I crave attention, I fall in love too easily, I can be a royal b!tch when I want to be, and I tend to be needy...
Is that bad?? LMAO!!
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*Legs*
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Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 122 | |
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