| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 8/17/2007 2:59:47 PM | Long distance is REALLY hard.. and will only work if you both are working towards something
Been there, done that, got a medal of honor. I've proven myself that there's no boundaries for what you truly want in life. If the other person on the line is working towards the same goal, there's no stopping you. The risk is that things might not work out, and there can be lots of pain in the process. | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 8/17/2007 4:26:45 PM |
Dont know till you try. I tried, she decided on a different lifstyle... But now I know. I beleive, if it is in fact love...why wouldnt you?
This takes me to my headline: "If you haven't tried, you haven't lived". Great post.
You have to be very fortunate to find that person who's willing to go the distance. The most beautiful thing that can ever happen to someone is creating a bond, a relationship based on human values, about being a rock and a shoulder, and LDR's have a lot of this. But bring it down to the ground, feet always stomping on it. No means, no goals, no vision of future= failure. If idealism and reality can't coexist in a LDR, it will fail, period. Be aware of almost everything, look into yourself and be honest about if you have what it takes to take the challenge. Be aware of immigration laws, they can be a huge hurdle. LDR's are for serious people, for the ones that are seriously looking to pursue a better life. A life in love... | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 8/17/2007 5:22:19 PM | Since I believe in love (how quaint and simplistic that seems I know), I would relocate, or relocate her here to where I am. It would be after many conversations, visits to both locales, discussions, (late night and otherwise), employment opportunities etc.
If you truly--and I mean truly love someone, distance, while being extremely hard on a relationship, can be overcome. Being with that special person makes life even more enjoyable than it already is. Hell, some people here in the Houston area think driving across town is too far. I for one do not, just having someone waiting at the other end (which I don't at this moment) makes me smile all the way there no matter the distance.
Nice quote from the Meatloaf song, but being the romatic soul I am I prefer the voice from the corn in the movie Field of Dreams....."go the distance". | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 8/17/2007 7:30:55 PM | "Long distance is REALLY hard.. and will only work if you both are working towards something" There are situations where being realistic, it just can't happen. Usually it's a parent with minor children. I've been there done that, and part of the divorce decree.custodial either parent. The custodial parent can't move and take the children. In doing so would deny the visitation rights of the other parent.
People who are in that situation know so, they know that. Even if they weren't married. When parents split up, it's a court matter, and as unfair as it is at times, it is in the hands of the judicial system to make that difficult decision as to who will have custodial custody and who will have visiation.
If my children were younger, not even considered. They are adults, so me moving to be with him WAS an option and was considered. And I would...loved his country...beautiful...lots of great opportunities...never visited anywhere I felt more at home.
He's moving here, that's what we decided we're doing. For now...if we decided it'd be better for us to move there...no problem!! Family is so important to us, so either country we lived in, there'd always be visits! | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 11/11/2007 6:12:54 PM | | I once thought yes I would relocate for LOVE ...and did...lasted two years then found out it was a mistake but only because of the person ..not the place I moved too.....So yes I would just have to make sure you really know that person well....as I didnt!! and guess what...I came back home ... | |
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CESSKA
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Joined: 10/24/2007
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 3/13/2008 12:57:55 PM | I think the question is, what is meant by relocating for love. Relocate in the hopes that love will grow with someone I met online and feel some connection with through emails, phone calls, and maybe a few visits? No, definitely not. Relocate to be with someone I dated regularly while living in another city for work/study for a few months, or while he was doing that here? Maybe. Relocate because someone I had been happily dating for over a year gets transfered at his beloved job or gets into a competitive graduate program somewhere else and asks me to come with him? Tough call. I don't know if I would or wouldn't.
For the most part, the idea of location is so important to me, I don't know if I would be willing to take a chance on being utterly miserable just to follow someone around. I can't be a very good partner in a relationship if I'm not happy in my own life, and I can't imagine being happy in a place that's really cold (ie Minnesota, North Dakota, Vermont) or where the people are really conservative. So it would really depend on where he lives or where he needs to move to. If it was Hawaii, much more likely. | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:47:59 PM | | almost did relocate from New York to the Bay area in CA,..was saving up for it but we ended up breaking up. and the strange part is i've lived in NY for most of my life and i really fell in love with the Bay area,...wouldn't still mind moving out there even though my ex and i broke up. | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:56:23 PM | almost did relocate from New York to the Bay area in CA,..was saving up for it but we ended up breaking up. and the strange part is i've lived in NY for most of my life and i really fell in love with the Bay area,...wouldn't still mind moving out there even though my ex and i broke up.
Don't do it! Relocated New Yorkers hate living in the Bay Area so much that they actually form ex-NYers clubs for emotional support! This place is very different when you visit than when you live here. | |
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jlynnh
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Joined: 1/2/2008
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:54:04 PM | I moved from the US to Australia and I suppose it was mainly for love but if I hadn't liked it here so much, I wouldn't have moved.
So moving had to be a good deal for me career wise etc.
As for another long distance relationship, I'd never do one again. Blah. | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 3/13/2008 6:33:10 PM | ^^^^^
You're not alone..... LTR for 3 years. Wanted me to give up my job, my house, & my daughter to relocate to Stockton and move in with him (not marry). I proposed he transfer jobs (State Prison employee) and move to Merced since he only had his son on the weekends. He never said he loved me in 3 years - and then tried to give me his previous fiance's diamond engagement ring......... ah, buhbye. I would never give up my daughter (sorry charlie). He married someone else within the year...... so I think I did the right thing. I've worked too hard for everything that I have to just give it all up without a true committment & my daughter is the only child I will ever have so I treasure her.
I have 2 more years until my daughter is 18 and I promised her I'd stay put until she graduates from high school - then my options are open........ | |
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| Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE?
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:06:24 PM | I was willing to relocate for my last relationship. Fortunately, I figure dout what a mistake it would have been before making the move.
I am far less open to the idea now. Besides, I remain optimistic that there are plenty of good men right here......if only one of them would ask me out! LOL | |
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