| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/29/2005 9:35:00 PM | Hey, Y'all!! I love large guys!! I would prefer a large guy to a skinny guy anyday!! I have had an aray of different boyfriends, I have had the skinny, the big and tall football player, the freak, the older man. I don't really think it matter what size you are, because your personality can make up a lot of it!! Like, me i am a big girl and i love being a big girl, and most of my friends and my sisters friends are like you know Jessica you are a big girl, but you have a great personality and you are confident in yourself!
And maybe you just need to find the right girl..I have seen a lot of couples together and i am like how the Hell are they together?? LOL
But, i would take a big guy anyday!!
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/29/2005 9:35:40 PM | Ok; he wants to lose the weight everybody!!- OP;thats great;maybe just concentrate on that for now; and worry about the rest when you feel better about yourself. The cheating happens to a lot of people; no matter what their weight.
I've never been overweight; but you don't see me calling the ones that are; nasty names. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/29/2005 9:40:29 PM | There is no hope for us BHG (That's Big Handsome Guys....I call dibbs on the copywrite to it. HEH!)
While I do know that the BBW women and Few Extra Pound ladies do like us alot....I highly doubt any thin, fit, or even average weight ladies are going to give us the chance. Some average girls do....some don't. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 9:53:47 PM | | say,isnt bald in these days?? Guys are shaving their heads to look like YOU. I kinda like the bald guys, I had an uncle that was bald, and he was a damn good looking guy..I never saw him with hair,so chin up!! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/29/2005 10:40:59 PM | ....or you can do something about it - like, go to the gym?? Problem solved.
I have my day's where I HATE going to the gym but when I see the results it
makes me work out harder until I get addicted.
Or, you can complain why there's no hope for you. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/29/2005 10:54:10 PM | I think loneliness is the issue more than his weight i lost over 100 lbs looked and felt better than i had in years but i was still lonely. could not get a lady took even look at me except the few bad ones i met who only wanted to use me . i had better luck when i was huge however i discoverd my problem I did not love myself and it showed women want a man who is strong on the inside not just the out they want self confidence a great sense of humor and a friendly smile i thought losing the weight would attract it turned a few heads but caught no hearts you have to make yourself stand out let them see you are a great guy one who everyone wants to be with and be like a real gentleman and a funny guy.
looks are ok but not that important My first love when we first met was ugly she was my friend one of my very best friend but she was homely but she was great she was someone all always wanted to be around and when i fell for her i fell hard then this homely girl became the most beautiful women i ever saw it happend to me it will happen to you just hang in there dude and remember God will provide | |
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tlfwpg
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Joined: 10/28/2005
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/29/2005 11:07:06 PM | OK here it is!
I'm a larger girl and have confidence in the way I look and dress.
The thing about bigger guys, in my experience, is some I like some I don't. THe difference between the two, is one cares about himself, the other don't. If a person is trying to get healthy, lose weight, I"m all for that as I'm doing it now myself..and succeeding. If you want to go have wings and beer and think you're healthy the way you are, well I don't want to be around that because the person I fall in love with, I want them to stick around for more than just a while. ALthough none of us have guaranteed time on this earth, I'd like someone that will stick around for a bit without dropping dead on me and our possible kids.
It's much easier to care about someone who cares about themselves. Do you dress well? Do you get the nice shoes/pants and present yourself well? That's one thing I look for. How does the person put themselves together?
If you think it's ONLY your size that doesn't get you dates, then you are mistaken. Don't let the weight bring you down and make you think that THAT is the reason you don't get dates. If you have confidence..it shows and people want to be around that, it's magnetic and you are instantly attracted to someone who feels good about themselves, as you'll feel good about yourself being around them.
SO chin up, don't blame it on your weight, blame it on the approach. Get your confidence and dating life back! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/30/2005 12:38:18 AM | | Wow, you guys rawk .... very encouraging to read how supportive you are. Something you have to remember is that even though you think you have XYZ physical challenge, someone out there can and will dig you because you are you, not because of what you weigh or how much hair you have etc. Not everyone is totally shallow (but sometimes it feels like it, doesn't it). Beauty/attraction is subjective. The confident man/woman will always find a woman/man, because confidence is sexy. Get over your self doubt and work on your confidence. As for the height thing, a woman who won't date a guy because he's under 5 ft 10 is dumb, she's missing out on a lot of really good guys, and maybe for her it's more about how he looks on her arm, than having an open mind and open heart. | |
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
Msg: 60 | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/30/2005 8:53:49 AM | Just wanted to chime in on this and add, that there IS hope for those with thinning hair or baldness, that do not prefer such! Hair implants/transplants, Rogaine, etc....
I agree...bald, receding, thinning...CAN be sexy if maintained right! (Don't use what you have to cover what you don't!) ;o)
But I can empathise with the trauma of it...I work with a guy who is the same age as my son (23) and yet he is percieved as a MUCH older guy since his hair is extremely thinning and receding. If someone calls and is describing who they spoke with (him)...they always describe him as much older!
As far as "bigger" goes...I agree...if you are not happy with your own self, then CHANGE IT!! Because no one can love you, unless you love yourself first! Now if your weight does not bother you...but you feel it is a deterrent to meeting that special someone, then you are attracted to the wrong sort of people! Look more into their hearts, souls, intellect...than the outer package. What's sort of ironic, is that I find a lot of the "larger sized people" that I know...are the vainest and most hypocritical when it comes to dating OTHERS who are larger! LOL Not all, of course...
Another note of irony...in my kids high school...the big boys are some of the most popular!! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/30/2005 11:05:15 AM | meforyouintime, I think you are repressed and probably gay. You come acossed as a f*ggy-queen with a mean streak! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/30/2005 11:13:15 AM | | ^^ in terms of apperance maybe, but he's right on the money, comment wise. Donut boy needs to shape up, and the comments from fat chicks like "stop sign" saying that they accept the fat guy are useless. Fat guys want hot babes, just like other guys. They don't give a crap that there are people whose standards are low enough for them. That's why they whine in these forums. "Why can't I find a girl" really means "Why can't a skinny, good-looking girl who takes care of herself give a chance to a fat piece of lard like me?" Double standard. No, make that a triple standard, with super-sized fries! With a 1200 calorie frozen dessert. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 11:15:48 AM | What's sort of ironic, is that I find a lot of the "larger sized people" that I know...are the vainest and most hypocritical when it comes to dating OTHERS who are larger!
So true. Ever watch extreme make-over? They are a vain bunch! I'm always
curious to see if they leave their husbands now that they look hot. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 3:46:47 PM |
All the fat large guys I know are married and have children.
That's the default thing to do when you're good for nothing else. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 10/30/2005 3:51:44 PM | | there is nothing more important in life-then getting married and having children.....unless you're gay, like me. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/6/2005 6:02:44 PM | | Yes, there is hope you just have to weed through the bad girls to find the one good one! Keep your head up! | |
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crm114
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Joined: 11/6/2005
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 7:16:30 AM | Well the reality is that, at the beginning, the physical appearance of a person does matter because we are visual animals and each of us has a bit of a blueprint that we reference when we see others. Sometimes its as simple as the 'twinkle' in the eyes but regardless there will always be some level of attraction for the physical traits of another person. I'm sure you have your preferences as well.
I've found that most women are attracted to slim men and most men are attracted to slim women, at least in the western culture. But considering that 94% of the population winds up in a long term relationship shows that sooner or later you find someone that accepts you for your looks as well as your personality.
If you are slim and attractive you will definitely have more opportunities but that is just a fact of life. It doesn't mean that it's hopeless but that you may have to look longer and increase your scope. I think it's just as important to meet others that share the same interests and hopefully more hobby/lifestyle-specific dating sites will start up in the future. Lust is great, but it evaporates fairly quickly so there had better be something else there to keep the connection strong.
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 7:56:49 AM | All this ****ing about being bald. I have a perfect head of hair, but I shave my head everyday cause it feels good! I WISH I could loose my hair. I wouldnt have to shave.
Go figure
As for being big. I used to be. I fixed that though. Now I am 6'1" and weigh 175.
Loosing weight is easy. Just watch what goes into your pie hole! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 8:13:17 AM | | There is a lot of hope for large guys. You have to do just what any other guy has to do, keep yourself clean, shaved, dress up some, look a woman in the eye, open doors for her, treat her and yourself with respect and always remember the golden rule - treat others like you would want to be treated. If you are going to step out on a woman, expect her to do the same. If you shower her with love and attention, expect her to do the same. Good luck! | |
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