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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 8:32:56 AM | | I ONLY date large men. I love big guys / husky builds. I love the fact that they can be/look aggressive if need be but they are big teddy bears too. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 8:53:40 AM |
I ONLY date large men. I love big guys / husky builds. I love the fact that they can be/look aggressive if need be but they are big teddy bears too.
Doh, when you say husky build, you're referring to muscle, not fat.
Sounds like you like muscular guys who are not necessarily deeply cut.
You aren't talking about fatsos, who are scrawny wimps wrapped in inches of fat.
Also, your profile says you are Big and Tall (BBW). Who cares what big fat chicks go for!
"Is there hope for large guys" what that means is "is there hope of getting with a hot, slender babe". :)
Haha. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 9:07:41 AM |
Also, your profile says you are Big and Tall (BBW). Who cares what big fat chicks go for!
"Is there hope for large guys" what that means is "is there hope of getting with a hot, slender babe". :)
Haha.
Way to go Mr. Keyboard Courage. Hope you're pleased with yourself. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 11:42:28 AM | | Us BHGs (Big Handsome Guys) have so few offers....it really is rather gloomy ain't if fellas? | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/19/2005 9:57:37 PM | I'm going to say to you what I said to the larger ladies:
No one can love you until you love yourself... and that means that you want people to love you, not ONLY for the inside.. but also for your outside. You need to like how you look, in order for someone else to like it. Confidence is sexy.
I have dated far more than one larger guy. Being 5'10, and a BBW myself, larger men do make me feel more comfortable.. *smile* Like I won't break them. My current honey is a rather large man, though he's more height and broadness, than fat (unlike me.. lol!).
Anywho.. I guess what I'm trying to get at ... is that you need to be comfy in your own skin... and shouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't adore the way you look, as well as the way you think, feel, love, etc. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/20/2005 11:52:10 AM |
No one can love you until you love yourself... and that means that you want people to love you, not ONLY for the inside.. but also for your outside. You need to like how you look, in order for someone else to like it. Confidence is sexy.
It ain't that simple.
If you have obvious assets (body, face, success, etc) you don't need as much confidence.
If you are good-looking and successful, people will like you no matter what. If you show a little bit less confidence at times, they will only find that charming. They will mistake it for modesty and they will like you more!!!
You need confidence if you are fugly. Why? Because it removes the perception that you are a risk. You give off the right signals that it's okay to have sex with you, without you becoming a clingy dip$hit who expects a relationship. That's all that confidence does for you: makes you a less risky lay for someone who would prefer you not to start calling and expecting more. People don't consciously think that; they just perceive you as being more attractive (or less unattractive) simply because they can allow themselves to think about sexual possibilities with you. This is why guys need confidence to lay hot women; because those women have had to deal with no-confidence guys becoming clingy sponges on them, when all those women want is to party and screw around. It's more important for you to be dispensable than to be hot! Who cares if you aren't Mr. Right, if you are Mr. Right Now, know what I'm sayin'?
If you actually want to attract someone for the long haul, it's better to work on your "package" first, confidence second. It's a lot easier to have confidence when it's based on something real. Your success in the world, your physical condition, your image. Stop thinking about this bullshit about finding someone who will like you the way you are. The way you are can be improved, so get to work!
No, if you ^actually^ do look good, you don't have to like how you look in order for others to like how you look!!!
To me, a pretty, slim, smooth, young babe looks like a pretty, slim, smooth, young babe even if she has self-image issues. And a fat ugly one who thinks she's hot shit is just a laughing stock. But of course, she's still a more attractive lay than one who has no confidence in herself. She'll never be my girlfriend though. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/20/2005 12:12:58 PM | | How unfortunate Jazzhomie does not seem to have been exposed to real love, because if he did, all the hate and prejudice that comes spewing out of his mouth would be words of warmth and kindess. Now if he could do that, with confidence, the words on the page would be meaningful. I wish for you for this Christmas Mr. Jazzhomie, the chance to really see the beauty in all people, not only those that please you esthetically. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 12:27:38 PM | | Dont give up hope sweety.. there are alot of women who like larger guys.. I have a profile on matchdoctor, and my id is I_love_big_guys.. If you just keep believing your soul mate will come along! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/20/2005 5:33:27 PM |
How unfortunate Jazzhomie does not seem to have been exposed to real love, because if he did, all the hate and prejudice that comes spewing out of his mouth would be words of warmth and kindess. Now if he could do that, with confidence, the words on the page would be meaningful. I wish for you for this Christmas Mr. Jazzhomie, the chance to really see the beauty in all people, not only those that please you esthetically.
What does any of that have to do with sexual attraction?
Okay, I can really see the beauty. But I'm not turned on. Maybe I'm just not warm and kind?
Because it's a kind of charity thing to be attracted to someone, right? You feel sorry for their ugly ass and because you are warm and kind, you offer yourself. Is that how it works?
This season, give to the sex bank not just the food bank! Hahahaha.
Hate and prejudice, right. Can you quote something I have said and rationally disagree with it? | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/20/2005 5:42:12 PM |
Dont give up hope sweety.. there are alot of women who like larger guys..
No! Start eating right and exercising, fix your fat ass and get yourself a hot woman. Really. You will be super glad you did. I was a fatso once. I did something about it, for good. I cut myself down to a lean, chiseled machine.
I wanted to taste what it is to have an attractive woman appreciate my body. And I did. It's everything I thought it would be. It's like a damn drug!
When you shed that blubber and acquire that athletic physique, women totally look at you differently. Suddenly they start making eye contact. They say hi. Everywhere. It's awesome.
I mean shit, girls younger than you by 15 years give you signals. Holy crap.
I tell you, fat ass, you owe it to yourself to know. Don't listen to this bull$hit here about staying fat and finding some disgusting hag who has a fetish for blubber.
Polish your image and you can have a slinky young babe on your arm. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/20/2005 5:43:51 PM | | opticalnoise i wouldnt degrade yourself because you are going bald if i was younger i would approach you as i love bald men and alot of woman do as for not getting woman because you are over wieght the woman you are going after are not the ones for you you need someone who is not self centered and they dont think they have to look like barbie and ken because we are real and we have skin not plastic | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/20/2005 8:12:19 PM |
opticalnoise i wouldnt degrade yourself because you are going bald if i was younger i would approach you as i love bald men and alot of woman do as for not getting woman because you are over wieght the woman you are going after are not the ones for you you need someone who is not self centered and they dont think they have to look like barbie and ken because we are real and we have skin not plastic
There are a lot of perfectly decent, good women out there who pass over fat guys because they don't find that attractive and they can do better for themselves. Doh!
Just because you appreciate and take care of your body and want someone who is that way doesn't mean you are self-centered.
Fat is the result of carelessness and basically self-abuse: not giving a $hit what goes into your body and how much. Not finding out how your body works and what it needs. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/20/2005 10:20:29 PM | Oh my god, you are SO ignorant.
I'm not fat because I'm careless. Once upon a time, I worked out 5 days a week, 3 hours a day, plus being involved in sports teams. I was a weight coach for my high school football team.. when I was a senior. I used to be super fit. And even then, I was still chubby.
I understand food, nutrition, body image, eating disorders, and excercise.
I'm fat for other things that happened in my life: four car accidents within four years, and a slipped disk. Some other dark stuff that happened as well.
I eat well. I don't diet, but I eat balanced meals. I excercise as much as my back will allow me to, as I'm still healing from the slipped disk.
Fat can be the result of accidents, as in my case, or of genetics, or thyroid issues, or emotional issues. Metabolism is key in many body image issues.
For you to say such a bull$hit statement as "fat is the result of carelessness and basically self-abuse" tells us how YOU got fat, when you were fat. Not how EVERY fat person got fat. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 10:59:17 AM |
I'm not fat because I'm careless. Once upon a time, I worked out 5 days a week, 3 hours a day, plus being involved in sports teams. I was a weight coach for my high school football team.. when I was a senior. I used to be super fit. And even then, I was still chubby.
Oh yeah, I know the type. The stocky phys-ed teacher type. Her life revolves around sports, she has college degree in kinesiology, but looks like a Christmas turkey. Hahaha.
I see you didn't mention anything about what your diet was like.
It's about 70% diet, 30% exercise.
All the exercise in the world won't ensure your health if you don't eat right. Fitness is more than just having a strong heart to pump blood around. You can be aerobically fit, but unhealthy and overweight. (In fact cases of clogged arteries have been found in some top athletes).
Exercise is only efficient for fat control if it's intense. Long, slow plodding for hours doesn't do that much.
It's calories in, calories out.
You can jog for 15 miles, then have a 1500 calorie breakfast and it's all undone.
Taking calories in is a heck of a lot easier and faster, than putting them out.
I understand food, nutrition, body image, eating disorders, and excercise.
You seem to understand excusa-cise better than anything.
A ripped, lean, athletic body is how you show that you know exercise and nutrition.
I don't take advice from any exercise "expert" or nutritionist, unless they can show me their six-pack abs.
If whatever you ^think^ you know isn't working for you, it's probably not going to work for me or anyone else.
You're out from an injured back and you don't diet? I can't imagine living that way. I had a back injury earlier this year (not serious, just a muscle pull, but debilitating nevertheless). I promptly adjusted my diet to my activity level, and didn't gain any fat. What's the protein/carb/fat mix in your balanced meal?
Metabolism is the key? Genetics? It must be then that half of North Americans have a congenital metabolic disorder that is not found with anywhere near that stunningly alarming frequency in other parts of the world.
Anyway, whatever. If you have a genetic problem, that's too bad, but it's unattractive all the same. Your kids will probably inherit that. Physical problems indicate that you are ^either^ careless ^or^ that you have genetic problems. I don't want a slice of either pie.
I think it's irresponsible to tell fat people about genetic problems, because you are feeding doubts into their minds about whether they can do anything about the condition they are in!!! Most fat people ^do not^ have a genetically-linked metabolic disorder, but at worst a lifestyle-linked one, and so it helps most of them to believe that through effort, they can improve themselves.
This is not a nice thing to tell them at all, it's basically honey-coated poison. The subtle message that "Like me, you have a genetic problem and you can't do anything about it. So you will just have to stay fat like me". The message has many other forms. Here is another version: "You are just dumb trash from this small hick town! No better than the rest of us, and will never make it out there in the big world where you don't belong. You will see!" Poisonous doubt-planting. I mean, it could be true, but it probably isn't, and if you don't try, you will never know.
My own life didn't change until I stopped listening to all these types of negatively thinking idiots who sow the seeds of doubt in others. These kinds of people hate nothing more than to see people around them succeed at something! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 11:12:42 AM | The originator of this question is so far off track.
I personally love a big man. Makes me feel all petite and feminine, and they generally try harder at pleasing, as everything hasn't come so easy for them. It's attitude and quite frankly, yours stinks. You have such a rotten attitude about women, I am pretty sure, that is the greater of your problems.
I was engaged to a very large man, and I still miss him. He spoke to my heart and I truly only saw him as the former athlete he was. I felt protected in his arms and the gentleness of voice made me melt.
So, if anything, adjust your attitude, get yourself some self esteem and stop trying to blame women for all your faults!  | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 11:21:03 AM | I just had to check out jazzhomelys? profile. Seeing as he has such a nasty attitude and potty mouth to boot. I think it speaks volumes. Really, why are you here, aren't all the "normal" people missing you
Here it is: Hi! I was using the Google search engine, and one of hits landed me in the middle of a plentyoffish forum about relationships! I've never seen a bigger bunch of idiots and wussies, so I had just had to click through to the home page to sign up and give y'all a taste of what you look like to normal people who have their crap together.
If this is having your crap together, God help us all. This is not a person who should be giving anyone advice.
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 2:26:23 PM |
Seeing as he has such a nasty attitude and potty mouth to boot.
Can you actually pick something I have written an rationally disagree with it?
Here it is: Hi! I was using the Google search engine ...
Oops! How ever did you hack into my secret profile??? My cover is blown now ...
This is not a person who should be giving anyone advice.
But, of course, ^you^ are.
Okay, so what have we learned from you? You have a personal preference for fat guys. Great. Thanks for sharing. I'm sure you're exactly what that 21 year old guy who started this topic is looking for. A 49 year old sugar momma.
You like fat guys because they make you feel petite. I.e. choose even less attractive guys because of your own insecurity about how you look. Next to sufficiently lame man, you can be somewhat of a hottie, in your own mind.
You like fat guys because they try harder to please. Uh, are you sure you aren't looking for a doggy? This preference of yours does not represent women in general, and certainly not hot, attractive women in particular. They high-tail it away from wussy men who try too hard. That kind of weak behavior is a ^huge^ turnoff for women who aren't desperate for whatever they can get. It's such a huge turnoff, in fact, that it can be a "deal killer" for guys who have their stuff together in all other areas. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 2:27:01 PM | | And now Jazz wonders why he is alone. But no fear Jazz. The shallow end of the pond has plenty of shallow fishes too. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 3:02:39 PM | | Aww c'mon give the shallow women a break, no woman would date him so that he could preach about his break through in life after being a fat boy. He's enjoying this stuff, he is the classic internet troll. It's ok, there's room in the pond for bottom feeders, too. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2005 3:03:11 PM | ^^ So, Mr. Profoundly Deep. Where is ^your^ fat, ugly, old hag of a girlfriend? What is your proof that you aren't shallow?
I'm not alone. Well, how the situation is is that I don't have a girlfriend, because I'm not the type of guy who has a girlfriend. But there is a girl who has a boyfriend, who happens to be me. Know what I mean?
I tolerate her because she has a nice body and face, charming personality, and knows how to treat a guy properly. I like her style too; how she dresses, how she wears her hair, and so on.
She's an ornamental woman; a kind of decoration in my life.
I had been in love in the past, but this type of arrangement is the most pleasing to me, by far. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 3:18:33 PM |
no woman would date him
Well, doh, obviously not if she read some of the brutally honest truth that I write here!!!
But look around you. You've never seen women dating complete d1ckheads?
In reality, I am a perfect gentleman. I maintain a polished image, and scintillate with a cheerful attitude coupled with good manners.
He's enjoying this stuff, he is the classic internet troll.
Troll, I don't know. But yes, I am enjoying this stuff. I am here ^purely^ for a few minutes of entertainment. But I'm perfectly serious and stand behind what I write. If I give someone advice, it's real stuff. People are pissed off to hear the truth. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 4:52:09 PM | Considering that in Japan sumo wrestlers are seen as stars, and it seems that females really go after them, here is my idea.
You should talk to Vince McMahon and see if he's willing to start a WSWF ( World Sumo Wrestling Federation) in the US.
Then all you guys should be in business and have no problem attracting the ladies...
You are welcome....  | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 11/21/2005 6:55:40 PM | ^^^ Got an image for you.
http://wpni01.auroraquanta.com/dyn_images/600/75/1886705403.JPG
Just look at those cute J-groupies.
Grow a nice big pair of t1ts and they're all yours! | |
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Posted: 11/21/2005 6:57:34 PM | Just wanted to say....Why dont you put a photo up? Why do you judge people who are just seeking some friends....or advice.....Someone who maybe had a rougher life then yourself.."Mr. Normal"....You sure seem to be wasting alot of time on this site....hmmm ..Ahem....
PS: For the record big guys rule! They give great hugs too! | |
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