| There IS hope for large guys!!!
Posted: 3/3/2006 6:30:17 AM | | Hey, Cowardly, I too am in the process of losing weight. Not for others, but for my own satisfaction. The way I figure it is " If you don't like me, it's your loss." But, anyways, Good luck with it, it's not always easy to lose the weight you want, but it CAN be done! I'm sure I speak for some others when I say, we're behind ya, all the way!!!! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/3/2006 6:59:38 AM | I'm with brenda on that one..I have said it before and i will say it again..i love big teddy bear type men..my problem is im just not the one to approach a guy first, so all the great guys r just slippin by cause im too chicken to just send them a message and say hi..
to the op..dont give up, she is out there waiting for u to sweep her off her feet..good luck hon
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/3/2006 7:27:37 AM | A lot of women prefer bigger men. I think that people let weight determine who they are instead of understanding how many wonderful personal attributes that each and every human possesses.
I know how you feel though, being a bigger girl myself I sometimes feel looked over, but I don't let it get me down. There are lots of people who aren't my type either, you just have to not let it get to you.
I think that most women look for attitude moreso than looks anyway. I know that I personally prefer a man who is confident, sweet and that dresses well. Don't worry about it, we're all beautiful in our own way.
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/3/2006 5:47:44 PM | | He was a large man when we met. Large body. Large smile. Large spirit. Large sex-appeal. We were both 20 years old, and for the next 25 years we together, happy, laughing, best friends, lovers. I have one regret: wish I had nagged him to lose weight (thought if I said it, he would think I didn't find him attractive anymore: not true). We were both 45 years old when he died in my arms. Oh, sweetie, a large man can be attractive, sexy, find a woman who adores him, a woman who will never be the same when that bolt of lightning strikes and she's suddenly alone. Lose weight because life is too short anyway. Do it slowly, in a healthy way. Never mind the fad diets. Just go for a couple of long walks each week and have more healthy meals than junk - you can still enjoy your favourites, moderation is the key. I loved a large guy with all my heart and soul. Think I made him happy. Wish he was still here, and I wasn't wandering the Internet at age 48. Be strong. She's out there for you, whether you're large or skinny. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2006 12:02:53 PM | for me i am attracted to big guys for some reason probally b/c i am used to being tall and have a tall guy and being big | |
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Posted: 3/21/2006 2:25:22 PM | I am a very large man, 6'3", 300 pounds. I personally find it is a bit more difficult to attract women befing a larger guy, but when you do get one, they are great. She is kind, sweet, sincere, and honest. And even as a big guy, doesnt mean you dont stand a chance of getting that hottie g/f that all your friends are jealous of. I had this one g/f, that I had people I dont even know coming up to me, and asking me if I was going out with her, of course, I said OH HELL YEAH, and they actually, physically punched me.
Now, as for things that work for me, a sense of humor is a huge bonus for me. Make them laugh, make then yours. Also, as quite a few ladies has stated, women love to feel safe, and how much safer can you feel when you are in the arms of a very large man? I al told I give the best hugs, and told that I give great hugs cause I make the woman feel totally safe. Also, no one messes with the g/f of someguy who is 6'3", and 300 pounds! :)
Now, as for the whole bald thing, the ONLY reason I dont shave my head anymore is cause well, t is winter here, and WAY TOO DAMNED COLD to do it. Come spring, the hair goes. I dont know why, but for some reason, women find bald men sexy.
Now, another thing, if you are big, the chances of being seen are a whole lot bigger! Now, use this advantage and get some shirts that make your shoulders look HUGE. I also find that shirts with collars are much better for the big guys, just cause you can undo a button or two at the top, and not look like the neck of your shirt is strangling you.
And another thing, but I dont know if it only works for me, but just cause you are big enough to whoop just about anyones ass, dont. Fighting is nothing but a stupid waste of time, and only just barely justifyable is extreme circumstances. Some women like the big mean, nasty guys, but in my experience, they arent worth the time, or the occasional black eye. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/21/2006 3:52:19 PM | | I really understand where you are coming from. Im a big girl who will be getting gastric bypass soon just to maintain the image that most men are looking for. My boyfriends all cheated on me for thinner women too. It really bites. But dont give up there is a kind hearted woman out there for you. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2006 3:22:45 AM | oh god shut up lol I have been out with ppl who are regarded as very handsome and some not so average yes attraction is important but not the be all and end all to everyone
As far as my boobs are concerned i know men who would love bigger and sum who think my chest is too big
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Posted: 5/26/2006 6:38:42 AM | | Buddy...it the self confidence...if you feel your not worthy of a woman...because you think you are ...too fat...too bald...too short...too hairy...too poor...it is not a pitty party- your a man act like one...two choice to overcome your existing problem...one is just feel better about yourself...faws and all...and things will come together. Even if you really take to the gym...and get amazing results...sure you will catch the eye of every woman out there...but you may not date the woman that is BEST for you...because you think she's FAT | |
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Posted: 5/26/2006 7:03:57 AM | I am a tubby **stard and you know what... it is all about the attitude.
I want to lose weight for health reasons... cause i have more energy when i am working out more and therefore skinnier...
but honestly carry it well and it will carry you far | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 7:11:23 AM | if you love large guys why you hiding your profile for there 922 ??? try touching base for once  | |
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Posted: 5/26/2006 7:44:56 AM | | For all of the women that love large/big guys I ask this....Why do none of you live near me? LOL | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 7:48:32 AM | | I have no problem dating a larger guy. I have always preferred a little more to cuddle with. I believe it is the person you fall in love with not their weight. Women want to be treated well and be with someone confident. You can be overweight and still be confident. I think you have to look at yourself and how you are in a relationship. Sometimes nice guys do finish last but usually they don't see what it is they are doing wrong until the end comes. Then they just blame it on their weight or whatever else they think it could be instead of the truth. I am attracted to a goodlooking face ,body not so important, chemistry is number one. The weight, who cares as long as they try to take care of themselves and are not a couch potatoe and treat me well. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 11:55:10 AM | | Boy do I wish you were about 20 yrs older, and a few hundred miles closer! I love guys with some meat on their bones, even back when I used to be skinny. You sound like a really sweet guy, who's been treated badly, I'm sure there's someone out there who will see inside to the real you, and she will be a keeper. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2006 11:59:25 AM | | Okay I think its all in how you carry yourself..I have lost already 126 pounds and still loosing weight..Though I find its all in how you carry yourself and act..If you act like Im not good enough for anyone then that is what you will be. If you act like nothing can touch you..your great then everyone will feel the same..I mean dont I look cute? Besides dont guys want a girl with curves rather than a stick? | |
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Posted: 5/26/2006 12:10:30 PM | Hay now I like big guys for the simple reason they are honest to me about what they want. Besides I like hugging something other then a bag of bones! I understand your fustrastion about not having someone seeing you for who you truely are. I deliberty but on weight because I got tried of men only seeing one thing! Don't give up looking you never know what is behine the next corner! Trust me on this!
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 12:20:41 PM | ravenv...there is nothing wrong with big guys...or small guys...or short guys ...or tall guys...or bald guys...yeah...you do have to look what's on the inside to see what their heart is like...it's not like everyone has it on the outside to see what kind of person you are...if a girl or guy was blind and couldn't tell what the other looked like...how would they know if you were their kind of person or not? Hmmmm...yeah....by WHO you were inside...and what you bring out from in there...what you portray...so don't think there aren't girls or guys looking for you out there...there ARE...you just haven't come across the, "Right" one yet! And oh boy...when you do...you will KNOW it...
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Posted: 5/26/2006 12:36:04 PM | 1. EXCUSE ME!!! Did you just say that bald guys are out of luck??? Then why oh why are there so many guys out there shaving their heads everyday. At least you don't have to put up with the razor burn. And I happen to think bald is beautiful. Telly Savalas was a very SEXY  man. In case you are too young to know who he is, he used to be a famous TV and movie actor, bald as a golf ball.
2. Not all people can "fix" their weight. It's not all from over eating you know. There just as many medical reasons for people to be overweight as there are for going bald.
3. And yes sad as it may seem, everyone professes to be "open-minded" and all that, but when push comes to shove, it is always the muscle boys and the barbie girls who get the dates. Those of us who are not as "cute" as popular opinion demands usually get left by the wayside. Been down that road my self and it's not fun. jojo | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 12:48:36 PM | [As far as guys whining becaue they are big, tough sh*t, get off your ass and start eating healthy and exercising, even most so called athletic guys don't have a clue what they are doing when it comes to eating nutritious, all the information to eat
and exercise properly (hard) to get the body that you would like to have is out there. What most men and woman lack is the dicipline to achieve it, however they have no trouble finding excuses to skip going to the gym and making a healthy meal because exercise is just too hard and big macs are 2 for the price of 1 today.]
Victom: ( who can't even spell) read my last post. It is not always overeating and lack of exercise that makes some one fat. Maybe like me they had to: 1 quit smoking due to health 2 take medicine due to health that makes you gain weight and retain fluid. 3 due to health problems are unable to do most exercise routines, etc, etc. | |
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