| going bald
Posted: 5/26/2006 12:53:59 PM | | im totally with you on this, because i started going bald in my early twenties.the majority of women will pick the guy with a good head of hair...i am 35 now,so i have been shaving my head for 13-14 years...once it started going,it all had to go...i could never walk round with a toilet seat on my head.the thing that gets me....it would be so nice to have the choice....bald if i want.....dreadlocks if i want.....afraid no choice at all. | |
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Joined: 3/1/2006
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| going bald
Posted: 5/26/2006 12:57:33 PM | nah bald is sexy too.
So I need big and bald guys.  | |
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| going bald
Posted: 5/26/2006 1:04:30 PM | | yeah i understand what you mean....but i have been shaving my head every other day for 14 years..... | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 1:05:20 PM | NOpe... no hope for you.
See you're stuck in a paradox because your depressed because your not getting chicks so you sit in your house and whine on dating advice forums. The whining causes you not to be able to learn basic social skills, making you uninteresting to women. Then due to lack of exercise you become fatter, thus making you more depressed. More then the weight... Whats losing you points in the whining and the insecurity that is pouring out of your.
I suggest you try "cold turkey" doing the complete Opposite of everything you do. Get your ass off the computer chair, go to a nature park and jog or go to a gym. The experience will give you something interesting to talk to with a girl other then then the replies to your latest Blog entry about your score on Ever-Quest. In the meantime you will lose this weight that you feel is keeping you from getting women and emerge not only more interesting, but more physically attractive male. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 1:08:09 PM | [Doh, when you say husky build, you're referring to muscle, not fat.
Sounds like you like muscular guys who are not necessarily deeply cut.
You aren't talking about fatsos, who are scrawny wimps wrapped in inches of fat.
Also, your profile says you are Big and Tall (BBW). Who cares what big fat chicks go for!
"Is there hope for large guys" what that means is "is there hope of getting with a hot, slender babe". :)
Haha.]
ONLY HAVE ONE WORD FOR YOU. JERK!!
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 5/26/2006 1:14:39 PM |
No! Start eating right and exercising, fix your fat ass and get yourself a hot woman. Really. You will be super glad you did. I was a fatso once. I did something about it, for good. I cut myself down to a lean, chiseled machine.
If you're such a hottie, why don't you have the courage to post a picture of yourself??? huh jazzhomie
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 6/7/2006 8:48:28 PM | I have thoroughly enjoyed dating a man with a beautiful round stomach, i loved it. I'm not into thin myself, just isn't my style, and I don't personally want to date thin nor be thin. but if others like it, good for them. everyone has different visual cues that turn them on. mine happens to be some padding, although i don't exclude those who don't have it but generally I don't date really thin men.
it isn't about what you look like, it is about whether you love yourself or not. sounds so cliche but, really, that's all it is and when you have a love of self, that love radiates and people can't help but be attracted to you or want to know you.
so give that body a big hug and go out and have some fun! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 7/6/2006 9:29:17 PM | | Ya know what.. I"v dated slim men..and heavy men.. it wasnt their outer appearance that I looked at.. Hell I was married to a 6'4" 330 pound man for 20 years...it was the person I looked at. their character, integrity, NOT THEIR appearance.. Sorry.. but thats last on my priorities. IF you cant make me laugh and make me feel like i'm the only person in the room.. you could be Fabio and I'd be walkin out the door. and yes.. I"M SERIOUS. I dont mince words, and I certainly dont have to impress anyone or make hit points. Dont give up... WE are out there. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/26/2006 8:05:49 PM | | There are alot of woman out there that like large men, but you have to know your sexy and dont be shy , My husband was large and when he held you you knew u was held , and i thought he was verry sexy , He wouldnt even ask me to dance or ask me out when we first met , The key is belive you are sexy and so will everyone eles , and be your self always show the real you, real love has nothing to do with looks or your body, real love comes from the heart and how you are treated and how you treat others, and i have seen many pretty small woman with big guys and seen many small men with big woman , always remeber theres more there to love | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/26/2006 8:34:20 PM | I think there is hope for bigger guys up to a point. Like there was a guy on Discover Health who weighed 675lbs. Obviously, that dude had problems that far out-weighed his (possible) lack of appeal to the opposite sex. Like needing help to pee.
But ordinary larger men...yeah, definitely. My two most desirable male friends (just friends) have BMI's over 30. They may not end up with girls off the cover of Cosmo (or maybe they will), but I have no doubt that they can get chicks.
Part of the problem with some heavy guys isn't really the weight. They have low self-esteem and negative attitudes. Those are not attractive qualities. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:58:56 AM | | I'm with teacup and rachel on this one. Big guys can be very attractive, i myself like them, feels like your being held and got something to hold! But it is confidence or lack of it thats your problem. Just be yourself and stop putting yourself down, an honest,caring, funny person beats BSrs hands down. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:13:20 PM | | ayrshirelass Thank you verry much, but really anyone is sexy as long as you belive in your self ,and be your self, be happy enjoy life and who cares about the people who dont think you are, But i Have seen large guys like a woman and not even try to ask her out , Hey go for it guys u may never know she just might say yes and well if she dont move on till the next ,god made everyone differnt for a reason , | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/28/2006 2:15:41 AM | yes there is hope. i am proof.
at 5'-8" and 280 lbs. i have found the most beautiful lady. and she loves me the way i am.
thing was, she wasnt even looking for anyone. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:10:56 AM | Lots of us ladies love big men. Me, I like large men at least over 250. I'm not attracted to skinny men. So don't give up hope--she's out there. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:35:34 AM | There certainly is hope, it's called diet and exercise.
While it's true, a woman should love you for who you are, but your asking a woman to love someone who is unhealthy, unappealing, and possibly has a number of the problems often assosciated with being overweight..
So while even large girls may tend to go for skinny guys, only a small percentage of them will be successful because they're in the same boat as you - waiting for someone more attractive than themself to settle.
Just diet and exercise, trust me that in the long run, you'll be more than happy you did, for SOO many reasons! | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/30/2006 1:23:26 PM | they would have to go a bit to get "bigger boobs than me"...i do adore a bigger man, A couple of months ago i went to a BBW dance, and i was watching the women dance, and i never seen anything so sensual and erotic as watching curvy women having fun without a man. I was not the only one either. All of the guys in the place just stopped and watched, The thin women didn't hold a candle to them, they just watched too.. It was almost primitave . And for your infomation, jazzhomie, curvy women were always the ones picked out for reproduction, because they carried babies better , it took a wide hip area to safely carry and deliver a baby in the past, as the doctors were not available . I was a big woman, but the death of my fiance caused me to shut down and i lost 190 lbs, and the breakup of the next love of my life, cause me to lose more weight. but now i have the target weight in sight, but what do i do with the skin left over??? shall i make a purse out of it? I am the same person inside that i was 20 yrs ago, same personality, caring giving, ...ect.
But the Men who's decision it is to pursue us, are the ones judging us and and they don't take the time to listen to our hearts, and see the person we really are, they go on looks alone. Shame on them, they are missing out on life's greatest treasure, truly caring women that would treat them as they want to be treated. Women have a lot to offer a man, and it is the smart one that gets the prize. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 2/28/2007 3:01:29 PM | OHI don't know, you discibed it well as you persue to enjoy life without a man, I know that life is much better with a partner. But there may be a day when the weather turns a bite warmer without snow, and we may get a chance to meet one another. Tell then dream happy, keep smiling, and keep in touch if you would like. Kenny   | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/1/2007 3:13:41 AM | I love a nice curvy woman, my dating range is a lot less strict than some of my friends, who wouldn't date girls I have in the past because they are bigger.
Every girl I have dated in the past has been a 'bigger' girl, not obese by the way, but with nice padding which is great to hug.
Whilst I think it is important for a woman to exercise and eat healthy, many will not attain the cover girl look due to genetics. The cover girl look doesn't really appeal to me anyway in many cases, as I like more curves.
Just eat a balanced diet, enjoy life, do some exercise and a womans body will be the size nature intends it to be, women shouldn't set unrealistic goals.
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atlast
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Joined: 2/25/2007
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/1/2007 3:31:07 AM | | Yes, there is. Put down that burrito and go for a walk. Better yet, find yourself a gorgeous plus size woman and go for a walk. Go for lots of walks. Soon you will just be an average guy with a gorgeous woman. I am at the age where if I don't move around a lot I will blimp out. I love my food, but I have to comprimise now. I hate it, but that is life. Don't let it pass you by. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/1/2007 12:08:29 PM | hey raven.. i hope that you will take this to heart.. if for no other reason, other than an experiment.. try this.. tonight when you place your head on your pillow. i want you to say goodbye, to the you that is laying there. now, plan to wake up tomorrow acting just like you think those thin guys do. you know. when they take a little extra time to give themselves some attention. the attitude that you have seen them display so many times.. now, i want you to try something totally off the wall. something that the thin guys don't even use. infact. nobody does. so it will be all yours, and everyone that you encounter is going to notice you, because its fresh, and seldom seen.. here it is: everyone that you come in contact with.. "starting with yourself first". put them high on a soap box. atleast make them feel like they are on a soap box(you know, a podeum).. i don't care if its a guy or a girl. someone thin or fat. a child or an elder, or the most beautiful girl that you have ever seen. you humble yourself, and go outta your way to make them feel special. this will sound odd. but greet everyone as if they were a cute little puppy. give them that much attention. without the petting.. lol.. if a child tells you how it is. then submit to them, as if they were a teacher.. if a pretty girl looks your way. smile, and if you can, say anything.. remember... she is only skin and bones, like yourself.. i promise you that everyone will remember you, and people will start going outta their way to make you feel special, in return. but, the trick to this, is commitment. the longer you do it. the more it becomes who you are, and before long. you will be someone that you never thought that you could be... you see, right now you sound kinda depressed. and thats a shame because it can be a viscious (check spelling) cycle. you are depressed because you see yourself as a loser. so you start to become the person that you see yourself as. if you see yourself that way.. others will also.. do what i told you and you will have your hearts desires. by the way. i don't think that you are fat. you are defineately not a loser.. you are a big lad. i wouldn't tangle with you..lol.. but thats nothing negative.. infact, hercules was a big boy much like yourself.. think about it.. but you are human and i know what it is like to feel awefull about oneself. please don't rob yourself of this chance for a change. just so you know. i do this everyday in my life, and i know that the secret to winning people over to your team, is humbling yourself and giving others the glory.. they will always take you with them.. and when your not around.. they will wish you were  | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/1/2007 4:08:01 PM | | Hey I can tell you one thing for sure: Not all women are like that. Yes, there are some out there that want the hard body, etc. but it does vary and I speak from experience. My last relationship that I was in for 2 years was with a guy that wasn't thin, athletic or average - he was definatly more to love! (260 lbs) And loved it I did! I treasured the fact that I could fold myself into him and feel completed protected and safe. I'm not a very big person to begin with so it was an amazing feeling to have that protection shielding you at night when we slept. Now I find it difficult to understand the attractiveness to thin guys! So cheer up because there ARE women out there that like a man that's actually built like a man. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/1/2007 11:46:10 PM | | I remember when I first posted to this thread almost 2 years ago... Oh wait, people are still posting to it. Weird. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/1/2007 11:54:30 PM | | Well, I can't speak for anyone else but as far as I'm concerned, I have dated big guys, and they are really romantic, and REALLY great lovers.Not self absorbed like alot of average men. Now I realize that is putting it pretty blunt but most people sterotype a big guy, but girls, I'm am telling you, you should go for it, if you feel a connection with him, he's worth it I promise. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:55:33 AM | It's rather sad that while this is true, it seems to be a very rare occurance online due to the "grass is greener" mentality. People see the types that are more socially attractive and pursue them or get comments from them and tend to ignore those that are not. I've been amused over time at the trend.
Still there is always hope it is the one thing that was left in the box of pandora, it is the one thing that turns even the worst of tides. Never give up on hope. | |
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