| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 3/2/2007 7:28:17 AM | Im a "bigger" guy and I like skinny, thin, stereotypical yet uniquely attractive females. You are attracted to what your attracted to. Im not going to feel sorry b/c of what Im attracted to. We are human and we have that instinct for a reason. You go for what you want, make the best of it and if it doesnt work out you cant give up. Dating sucks anyway you look at it. Some people just have fun ****ing all the time and not getting into anything serious. Other people get into relationship after relationship and it just seems endless. So very few people end up with someone they love and everythign is blissful with quickly Ideally you only get married to one person. But the journey to get there can be long lonely and crappy for anyone despite personal strengths, inner beauty or anything...maybe i went off on a tangent here...my apologies if i did hahah\
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/14/2007 1:20:56 PM | Just be thankful that you are not a large woman out there in the dating world.
Large guys still have a much better shot at landing a nice girl to have an LTR with than large women do.
Why is that? Because men are very visual. And they tend to go for women that are slender, big boobs, blonde or pretty brunette, young etc.
Large women get used, abused and often find themselves being in a "temporary" station with the guy until another more attractive/slender or younger woman comes along.
How do i know this? Because i was large once. Men RARELY gave me a second look.
I can safely say that in at least 8 years men didn't even so much as look at me let alone
ask me out. I was the "invisible" walking this earth. I cannot tell you what that does to someone's self worth.
Now here i am having lost all the extra weight. I am still the same person i was on the inside but now men stop long enough to get to know me.
And to show you just how shallow, err i mean "visual" many men can be, the other day i lost a bet and had to dye my brunette hair blonde.
Guess what happened?Men are asking me out practically on a daily basis.
Almost 50% more than before.
Next Saturday a few of us girls are going out. We've all decided to go blonde, with blue contacts (to those of us that have brown eyes) and will be wearing corsets under our clothes, making sure our waist is small and our boobs are sticking far out there.
$20 bucks says every single guy there will be hitting on us. LMAO.
One last thought: Have you ever wondered why the cosmetics industry is a BILLION dollar industry?
Because if there was no makeup men wouldn't give us "average" girls a second look.
Makeup can turn an average girl into a "pretty one"
and a "pretty" girl into a drop dead gorgeous one.
What? Do you honestly think we like wearing all that crap in our face all the time?
I only go bare faced on days i really dont want to get "noticed" and it works! The days i wear makeup i always get hit on.
On a side note --Silicon boobs can increase a woman's chances of being "noticed" 50 times fold.
A recent study shows that 60% of American women C cup or higher have silicon boobs. | |
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EC22
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Joined: 4/25/2007
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:15:42 PM | Just be thankful that you are not a large woman out there in the dating world.
Large guys still have a much better shot at landing a nice girl to have an LTR with than large women do.
Women care about weight just as much as men do. There are many women including some BBWs who aren't attracted to men who are significantly overweight.
Why is that? Because men are very visual. And they tend to go for women that are slender, big boobs, blonde or pretty brunette, young etc.
Just because a man isn't attracted to fat women, it doesn't mean that he only goes after the young, slender, supermodel with large breasts. There are a wide range of body types between slender and fat.
Now here i am having lost all the extra weight. I am still the same person i was on the inside but now men stop long enough to get to know me.
And to show you just how shallow, err i mean "visual" many men can be, the other day i lost a bet and had to dye my brunette hair blonde.
Guess what happened?Men are asking me out practically on a daily basis.
Almost 50% more than before.
That doesn't make a man shallow. Everyone is attracted to certain things. Sometimes a person can change their appearance and become more attractive to someone else. For example, I know a man who was very skinny. Then he started lifting weights and got bigger and stronger. He got more attention from some women after he got stronger. I wouldn't consider these women to be shallow. These women were simply more attracted to muscular men than skinny men. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 8:29:21 PM | truthfully i only find chunky guys attractive there is hope big guys r like teddy bears and i love teddy bears only difference is u guys can actually talk and give me real hugs | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 9:16:02 PM | There ya go... kindness and hope.. good to see for a change.
Wish more people would look to see people and not size, race, color.
Learn to love people learn to love. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 9:24:33 PM | You guys made interesting points. May I, as a female offer a little 2 cents of my opinion?
If you care about how you carry yourself, that will come across. How you treat a woman is most important as far as she is concerned. How you treat yourself is another. I find it most enjoyable to be with someone I can cuddle with. Fuller men are good for that kind of thing. I dont do string beans. Just my thoughts. I'm sure there are gals who go for manorexics. Whatever floats their boat.
Will Good points. Attitude is very important. One thing about the girl you are interested in. Be Patient and be your best. I'm sure you are already but just remember it when things get restless. If she's that special and you are that interested, it's worth the patience for her to open up and realize that you are a good guy and not like her piece of shit ex. Good luck. The frustrating times overcome is the glue that gives a couple a rich history when you are old fogues telling the kids how you two met.
To the handsome balding man. I have this to say about you: My grandfather was probably about 5 years older than you are now and loosing his lovely brown locks. He was Still a handsome man and one I measure most men against. Then again. He knew how to treat a lady and had wonderful inner qualities that made a good husband...obviously or I wouldnt' be here. Dont knock the lack of hair. There are places that help you make it work for you. Judging from your pic, you are a handsome gent. Even with the way this site distorts pics. I could see it.
When you guys are feeling low on your self image, just remember to compliment a lady honestly. Chances are she's worried about how her teeth are, hair do, that minute zit on her chin, yadda yadda yadda and not....Oh my gawd, he's a fat bald guy!!!!
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Kynnie
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Joined: 4/8/2007
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 9:28:43 PM |
alot of women of all sizes even the ones most guys dream about have big boyfriends , they like em way bigger than them , they feel protected and stuff
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 9:58:55 PM | Well,
I find it that most women are more judgemental of a guys looks whether is is larger in size or not the greatest looking guy.
It seems that often the nice down to earth and plain looking guys are always left beind in life...I know I am a nice guy, I do have faults and flaws the same as a pretty boy does too, everyone has them.
But, alot of us dont even get out messages even answered or get any respect back.... | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:20:55 PM |
Just be thankful that you are not a large woman out there in the dating world.
Large guys still have a much better shot at landing a nice girl to have an LTR with than large women do.
WHAT? The hell we do, we get passed over and overlooked just as much as large women, how you drew that conclusion is well beyond me. It's equally tough for both men and women to find someone when they are big. Also, what's with all these fat bashers coming off with the "drop the......and exercise." I still see that most people are under the belief that ALL of us large people are this way simply because we eat ALL the time, not true. It's so easy for someone that has never 'really' struggled with a weight problem to throw out that wonderful piece of advice, just drop that piece of cake or say no to the seconds, or leave the bag of chips alone and run, exercise, jog whatever. Sure, easy for you to say, no one wants to think or believe there is a plausible medical reason we cannot "just drop the weight" and look like Ken. Get off your high horse and don't be so judgemental!
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Kynnie
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Joined: 4/8/2007
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:36:54 PM | On the internet all ur doing is posting a photo & writing a little about urself.
You're putting urself on the market & browsing the other ads for wat appeals to you.
So the pics u put up & the information that u write is ur drawcard on potential mates.
Sure we judge ppl on visual appeal, but its absolutely true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and wat one person considers attractive is not for everybody else.
For me...doesnt matter if Im bigger or smaller, being female is reason enuf for me to b wary of men's intentions bcos there are sum not very nice ppl around.
But it doesnt bother me WHY sum1 doesnt wanna get to know me cos Id rather they not answer my email than get involved with them & have them try to change me or gripe that Im not wat they wanted further down the track.
Frankly, thats not my problem, its theirs.
I personally dont answer every msg; sum ppl r just obviously not compatible with me, I may have been turned off by sumthing in their profile that did not make me even want to read their email or I just dont find them appealing.
This site is FULL of classically beautiful men & women here that are SINGLE & r constantly writing of broken hearts, being used, dumped & everything u can attribute to weight or looks.
So its not about how u look, but how u care for urself, wat u want, wat u need, wat ur looking for & ur qualities. | |
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| is there no hope for large guys
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:45:43 PM | Well,
Its strange to some, I am actually more attracted to BBW's and cuddly women, more so than skinny women. I like a woman with shape and will admit it and happy to. But I am finding I get rejected cause I am also cuddly or larger in size.
But, hey everyone has there likes and attractions. Dont assume us bigger guys get the girls cause quite frankly we dont........ | |
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