| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2006 8:28:35 AM | I personally cheated on many girl friends.
Not because I enjoyed breaking their hearts, because my heart had been broken many times.
Call it pay back, if you will.
Its the old saying, your good to me , I'm good to me.
Be bad, I'm worse.
I wish i could find a good woman being a playboy is getting old.
No one is sincere anymore.
I hope I dont end up at 65 years old miserable and alone. | |
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2006 8:54:37 AM | People cheat for different reasons, insecurity, not happy in their relationships, they think they can get away with it, some people just can't help it, and some people just don't have a conscious. It's sad it doesn't matter the age or sex...One thing I know for sure you can't teach an old dog new tricks.... once a cheat always a cheat...It's sad Val  | |
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2006 9:15:15 AM | People cheat because they are not into you.
So so true (in my opinion and experience) If you think about how much they considered you in their choice to 'stray', I think you'll find that thoughts of YOU were dismissed quickly, if you even entered their mind at all! Yikes, that sucks doesn't it?!! It can be painful to accept this because we all want our special guy or gal to value us as we do them. They're don't!
So really, the choice is yours, forgive and forget or walk away. You may be delaying the eventuality of a breakup, but again it's your choice. A good question to ask yourself is, how much to you value yourself? Do you deserve to be with someone that 'just isn't into you'?
Oh yes, one more little tidbit,, lol,, if you made a list of characteristics that you'd like the one you want to spend your life with to have,,, where would 'cheater' show up????? (seems kinda silly doesn't it?) | |
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/5/2006 10:54:12 AM | | I reckon its because they are either shallow, uncaring,unhappy or selfish! Surely if a relationship isnt working its best to be honest and end it not to cheat and betray someones trust. I was married to a womaniser and its taking me years to trust again. | |
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/13/2006 7:25:18 PM | sweetie you are NOT doing good...holy crap give your head a shake. i learned this lesson the hard way , engaged to the same man 3 (yes three times) . Thought we were doing "good" too...till i found out later the only one doing really good was him as he was getting it all overrrrrr town. Trust me if there are no consequences to any actions the actions WILL REPEAT THEMSELVES.... if you could do something that you wanted to and get away with it , why would you stop. OK ok ok let him look at you " baby you are the only 1 i love , i was so very wrong and im sorry ( that you caught me) no one changes that way ..im so sorry you cant see that , your life is gonna be one heart ache at a time ...good luck sister ...good luck cause you are going to need it..wish it werent so... | |
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/13/2006 7:26:09 PM | | thanks for your honesty...i guess but guys like you are ass***** | |
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/13/2006 10:21:11 PM | | Dude shur thats one way o doing it but if the time eve arose where you did like a certain female would you evan b able to do aything beides iv found if she getsa guy that treats her well (shes like ok whats wrong with him) and ends up tearing you apart in the prosess all just to find out nothing was up and if you cheat on her well thats just a lose lose situatuation id have to say sux REAL $#% but ppl will b ppl really all i can say is you have to be able to tell your significant other everything and i mean evrything you cant leave anything out or itll just start to b based on lies beacuse reationships ar all about being strong togeather because of course theres always gonna b temptation in a relationship its sticking together andmakeing shur your partner is aware of the situaton being that there musent be speculation there really is no room for it it leaves the door open for quetions and wondering is no fun leads to acusations and there we go again the trust and knowing all about your lover relationships are made to be broken but with two ppl that are serious about staying togeather need really think about what that means beacuse if one of you is not happy itll come out in the end and almost is always painfull and it really ux cause after bein cheated on once it dosent mater if it was evan the same girl i find i have real trust issues with women i think there evil right now and it can be verry diff think the best thing is to take your time make shur you can actually trust the person and almost never let anyone take a hold of your hart cuz its far to precious to let anyon hae and quie frankly i dunt think ANYONE really deserves one unless you can look inside yourself and not b lieing and say you deserve it then sur but i dunt think anyone these days can and f so i envy you for i know i cannot | |
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/14/2006 2:52:59 AM | Please.
People cheat because they can, nothing more. They are not damaged or broken, they simply are offered an a chance to do so and decide to do it.
I have never cheated on any woman i dated because I not only loved them but I also respected them as a person. All the woman cheated on me at first I thought is was a charecter flaw in me that I fell for woman who will cheat, but then I realized that the flaw was not mine nor theres. There was no flaw.
Each chose to to cheat. They walked freely into the arms of another. They knew what they were doing. They did not respect me nor the relationship enough. It is that simple
respect.
Are culture tells us the there are no real consciences to cheating, that it is somehow expected. Look at shows like Deseprate Housewives, or Greys Anatomy. Each show embraces cheating and shows it in an odd positive light.
People cheat because we as a culture say it is ok. Don't worry about doing what is right
do what you feel. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2006 12:20:17 PM | I have been sitting here reading all of your comments about cheating. So I'm asking all of you out there for your comments as brutal as they can be sometimes....But I need some feedback
I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now. I met him online
He had introduced me to his kid
we have spent many weekends, days together having a great time
he is always telling me that I am so pretty, he really likes me etc
we decided about a month ago to only date each other- exclusively
since I met him, I have always felt something was not right, but I thought that was because of my baggage from a previous relationship (my ex cheated)
well I finally figured it all out
he has been on other internet dating sites looking to hookup with other women, and he sometimes has done it while I'm at his house (in a sneaky, sly way) when I'm in the bathroom he'll check his email etc
So I finally wanted to know for sure
I created a profile on the site he was on, sent him an email and he responded (creepo!)
my friends say that I should just not ever talk to him again, and not give him the satisfaction of knowing that he really hurt me
this is obviously his pattern, as when he replied to me (the other profile) he said exactly the same thing to me there as when I first met him
So all you people out there...what do you think???? Comments are greatly appreciated...
why do I keep falling for these types of losers?? | |
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Kengne
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Joined: 11/8/2006
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| why do people cheat?
Posted: 11/14/2006 7:08:54 PM | SMH.
His behaviour is VERY SUSPICIOUS to say the least.
If you two are exclusive i.e. IN A COMMITTED, MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP... then his actions clearly violate the boundaries of what most people would consider 'appropriate' behaviour.
Is what he did as bad as say.... if he made plans to up with this 'chick' (i.e. YOU under the fake profile)? Some would say YES, others would argue NO. It's up to you.
Personally - this is NOT ACCEPTABLE. It would be over for me, instantly. I've been cheated on before and had I recognized the RED FRIGGIN FLAGS sooner, I would have saved myself a wholeeeee lotta heartache.
And I also disagree with your friends. He deserves to know EXACTLY why you're dumping his triffling azz. Not only so you can get the closure you need (you're gonna want to ask alot of questions & curse simultaneously) - BUT - also so that he knows HE GOT CAUGHT. And he can SEE the CONSEQUENCES of his actions. Maybe it'll change his life, and he won't do this same mess with the next girl he meets.
Cuz if you say NOTHING... he's gonna go on his merry way. Hurt yes - but unchanged and thinkin he was 'slick'.
K. | |
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