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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/28/2005 12:16:29 PM |
can you be willing to learn sign language ??
Yes, I am native american and much of our expression is done with the hands when communicating. Plus I already speak four languages.
can you be patience??
Jobe and I are genetically linked in this area. I believe you get what you give and for me ... I need a lot of patience so I give twice as much. :-)
would you like to be involved in our world ?? deaf socials ??
I have been to socials in other countries where I did not speak a lick of their language, but I still got laid, jk, lol
would you interpret for us what you talk bout when we are with you ? and on phone with your friends ??
Uuuuuuuuum, no. If you can't read lips over the phone, then I guess your not the girl for me ;-) Hahahahaha
would you feel awkward when we are with you in front of your friends??
Hell yes I would be uncomfortable. Sometimes my friends like to talk out their asses and find that deaf people just dont get it when they turn around and pull their pants down.
if you want to date deaf people tell me why??
Seriously now .. What is best said is often not spoke or written.
would you love us for us ??
I can't love you, for you, you have too love yourself. If you don't know how to love you and take care of you. Then how the hell am I suppose to have a clue of what to do? So, the answer is NO! but this is the answer whether your deaf or hearing enabled.
do you think we are easy??
Definitely! I find that deaf women have a harder time with the lies that spew forth from my mouth. LMAO ... Is there a cube of butter up your butt or something that makes you especially easy? Hahahahahaha
I hope you find this as light hearted as the attitude it was written in. Honestly, I don't find ANY difference in communicating with a deaf woman. In fact, in some respects find it even easier to understand and be understood by one moreso sometimes then one that has her hearing.
Good luck hun and I wish you all the best in your journey of life. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 10:09:49 AM | .
Sure I would. Why not?? Oh, wait, I guess I did for a while, now that I think about it.
Years ago, I took a couple classes in sign and was somewhat good at it for a while. But, I seldom used it so all that was forgotten.
I have two friends who are profoundly deaf. One received an implant and he does very well with it. The other lip reads so well that, unless you know her, it’s hard to tell. She signs very fast, of course, but there just are not that many people around she can use that with. It’s interesting, though, that she will sometimes “talk” with me from across the room.
My only problem with her is that sometimes I forget she cannot hear. So, when walking in the city & such, I have to remember to pay attention to things like traffic sounds for both of us. On the other hand, she is a very perceptive person and quite interesting to be around -- for many reasons.
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 10:13:40 AM | | I think it would be a very interesting experience to be with someone who is deaf. I'm sure it would present its challenges...but in the end, it's all in what a person is able to live up to in regards to challenges. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 10:31:41 AM | | there would be challenges no doubt. i think it would force you to communicate in a different way, either learning sign language or writing things down. i think it might bring out the best in someone who has a partner that is disabled. it forces you to bring your A game and no doubt make you a stronger person. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 10:44:21 AM | can you be willing to learn sign language ?? Yes
can you be patience?? Yes
would you like to be involved in our world ?? deaf socials ?? Don't see why not.
would you interpret for us what you talk bout when we are with you ? and on phone with your friends ?? Sure.
would you feel awkward when we are with you in front of your friends?? Maybe at first, but probably not for long.
if you want to date deaf people tell me why?? Can't say it would be a want, but I'm not closed to the idea.
would you love us for us ?? Is there any other way to love someone?
do you think we are easy?? Wouldn't know, never had the pleasure. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 11:57:03 AM | | Hello!! I dated a man who was almost completely deaf for 8 months. Honestly, it was the worst 8 months of my life! I met him on line, and decided to give him a chance! I learned my lesson the hard way! He felt that the world (including me) owed him because he was deaf, and nothing was his fault. IT was very difficult! And, you take little things for granted, talking on the phone to the wee hours of the night, going to movies and talking in a dark car! He could read lips, and I knew sign, but it still makes it hard. And the sex, thats kind of tough too! How do you tell someone you like it, or if your moans aren't heard?! Anyway, yes I did date him, and honestly I don't think I would do it again! I am not trying to offend anyone, but it was too hard for me! I am a huge talker, and that's just not something I can give up!!! | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 12:58:10 PM | shy.... i can understand .. i can t blame u how you feel bout that.. i respect your feeling.. same with me ..
some people dont want to date other deaf people again because of experiences they had with them.. i can understand .. some deaf people are selfish and expect too much from them which is not right..
for me when i date men i rather see them being themselves and i expect them to let me be me that is all .. except hear..
i tend to attract hearing men more than deaf men .. they are more challenge .. challenge is in my blood..
i know i often got burned from them because they had no patience or willing to learn sign language..
i rather find a real man that can love me for me ..
i am your friend no matter shy!!! smile | |
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Sigi
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Joined: 5/26/2005
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 3:45:38 PM | | Well, my father dated my mother, regardless the fact she was deaf...and they are 40 years together. My experience is when you have the ability to be patient and understanding, it will add a lot to good communication. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 5:17:18 PM | I went out last night with a man who was wearing 2 hearing aids. The problem is that he didn't tell me that he couldn't hear well. We had talked very little when he asked me out. I figured I had nothing to lose & met him for dinner. The place I chose to meet him at is the noisiest restaurant in town. I don't always hear well myself in a noisy crowded restaurant. This was a huge problem. I was really aggrevated that the man didn't give me a heads up. I could have chosen another place & we would have had a better time. I couldn't understand half of what he said due to his lack of clearn pronunciation & quiet voice. It did not go well at all.
The biggest problem was that he was not honest with me. Something felt odd from the beginning. I wondered why he didn't take my cell number in case he got lost or some other problem occurred.
I learned a valuable lesson. The lesson was not to decline dates with non-hearing men. The lesson was to insist on more answers to questions.  | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 10/30/2005 6:36:52 PM | | Try finding a pretty deaf girl. It is very difficult. They go to deaf schools and have deaf boyfriends. Most are not interested in normal guys. Do a search for deaf and you won't find any at the dating sites. Also, many are very childish and have never had to face the real world. I would say they are emotionally stunted. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/3/2005 12:47:07 AM | | A deaf person might actually have a tendency to experience sensations more intensely with his or her remaining senses as a result of the loss of the one sense. So they might be freaky (this is a good thing). | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/3/2005 6:31:21 AM | ltsgttgtrsn, i wil be busy this weekend.. i will go to deaf professional happy hour tomorrow night .. it is like a deaf social.. then sat i will go to texas school for the deaf carnvial all day and homecoming football game .. after that i will go to the deaf club .. i wil have lots of company over my apt tmw and sat.. i will be very tired on sunday ... LOL..
i know i will have so much blast this weekend..      | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:12:18 AM | Dear ilove2smile,
Interesting survey questions. Your results from this particular thread will, of course, be skewed. I doubt anyone with negative answers will be willing to take the time to post OR want to put them out here. I'm pretty much a ditto -- no problems dating the deaf. Or as I warned the fellows -- I'm assuming you read lips because the only ASL I know is "Good Morning", "Girl" and "I love you"!
One has hearing aids and can hear and speak clearly but can't hear on the telephone. The other -- I don't know yet! But I like what he has to say in email, I love his looks, and I figure communication is a pretty minor problem compared to some of the "disabilities" I've encountered in dates so far (e.g., narcissism, dreadful kissing technique, offers to buy panties and bring them along to the first date). LOL
I will say that email and IM have made a world of difference in opening up the barriers and making it possible to get to know a lot about each other before having to solve other communication hurdles.
I expect I will feel estranged at a social where I don't know anyone else and don't necessarily follow the conversations. But, I'm a grown up and as long as my date doesn't ignore me for the whole evening, I can cope. No worse than going to any other social where I don't speak the lingo well -- whether it's Mandarin Chinese or War Gaming.
I am curious to know your professional opinion as an ASL teacher -- how long does it generally take for an adult to become basically proficient in ASL? | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/4/2005 12:28:01 PM | tiger.. i would love to hear their negative opinions bec it would help us understand better.. we do have negative opinion bout hearing but we all are humans.. smile.. i grew up into hearing world and i understand when they are around deaf people.
i teach asl classes for 10 yrs and i noticed it take them bout after 4 weeks they get better but it would take them 6 mos to 1 yr to be proficent in asl .. depends on their talent..
thanks for sharing ...
 tiger.. | |
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Joined: 10/4/2005
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/4/2005 3:51:08 PM | i would better date a mute person ;-)
seriously... i trying to avoid to meet with physically or mentally sick people.
when i see that she is sick...
no second date :-(
why? because, i want to have children. i do not want to pay huge medical bills.
yes, because i'm selfish. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/11/2005 6:17:32 PM | HELLO MY LADY
I REALY DO NOT SEE A NEGATIVE SIDE TO DATING A LADY WHO IS DEAF????????
WHY DO YOU THINK THAT THERE I A NEGATIVE SIDE TO DATING A DEAF PERSON????
THE LEARN OF A DIFFRENT WAY TO GET TO SPEAK WITH YOUR HANDS WOULD BRING TOW PEOPLE TOGETHER A ?????????? DO YOU NOT THINK THAT THAT WOULD HAPPEN??????????
WITH LOVE AND RESEPCT RICK | |
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