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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/23/2005 8:53:24 PM | Ilove2smile: good post.....i had to comment on this one. i met a guy here at pof and he is deaf. well, at the time i met him, i was chatting with several other guys. some times, i did not have the time to devote to him, at least not the amount of time he wanted. well, at one point, he accused me of not wanting to get to know him because i knew he was deaf. i was so offended by that!! actually, that turned into a huge turn-off to me because i do not like it when people try to purposely make others feel guilty for no good reason!
if he had been patient with me and had taken the time to really get to know me, he would have come to realize that i am not that shallow in the least bit!!
it is too bad for him that he has that attitude in life!! oh, well....
to answer your thread, though, yes, i would date a deaf person! i have been trying to teach myself sign language, on and off, for several years now...... | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/23/2005 9:00:02 PM | | When I try to think about what intimacy really means. The example that comes to mind is a student I had in my science class who was profoundly deaf. In order for her to learn anything in my class, we had to connect eye to eye so she could read my lips. The answer is... if the right woman came along, deafness would not be an issue. | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 11/23/2005 9:18:52 PM | sure, why not? if everything else is good, I'd give it a try.
I wouldn't intentionally hunt for a deaf date but if I met a lady who happened to be deaf, I wouldn't say I can't ask her out, she's deaf. You have to be open minded. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2005 10:30:00 PM |
Just tell me how to sign and read "Let's F@$k" and I think we'd have a great relationship.
Har, har, har...that is just SOOOO funny...almost as funny as when ASL is the topic at hand, and someone flips the bird and says, "Yeah...I know sign language!"
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Posted: 11/23/2005 10:33:30 PM | ilove2smile, I agree that there would be a challenge, but we all tend to bring some challenge or another to the table. It's all part of the package deal; the general challenge of the relationship. I'd have no issue with deafness, but I don't seek it out. It's just part of a person or it isn't. I don't seek out or avoid people with glasses, either. ;)
I already know some sign language (very little; I remember the dirty words best), but would love to learn more, even if I don't date someone deaf. Speaking of gestures, I've amused a couple of casual friends with my tendency to fill in with "descriptive" gestures, since I don't know enough yet.
Once a person knows sign, I consider not signing while speaking around a deaf person to be rather rude.
No embarrassment. There can be some awkwardness in new social situations, hearing or not, but I would want to be a part of her group of friends and have her a part of mine. Hopefully they would end up overlapping to some degree. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 1:44:48 PM | | In response to Ireland39, I say ...ditto. I am not hearing impaired but have experience with lots of people ( and animals ) dealing with disservice down this avenue daily. Some of these folks (all ages), grind away like the rest of us and lessons are learned by not only hearing these communications but listening to them. I know a few dogs,stone deaf,that can find you calling for help. Not only can a person hear,we can listen to people that can't hear. Get it ? | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 4:59:01 PM |  I think you could also classify disabled persons here. My 13 year old grandson has mild cerebral palsy. He doesn't live with our side of the family. I'm sure life is a little tuff for him because of his disability. But, He's tall and cute with brown curly hair. If he's anything like his grandma "me" he will make his own way in this tuff world. I haven't been in that situation. I cannot say no. If I'm attracted to him and we are both interested in same hobbies, church, interests I don't care what people think. It's about us, you and him, or you and her. Later people. Dahlia.  | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 4:37:38 AM | When I was a kid, there was a deaf girl who lived near us and we became quite good friends, had a blast together and seemed to have no probs communicating that I can recall. Unfortunately, we moved to the other side of the city & I never saw her again....
I've often thought about taking a Sign Language course just for my own benefit...really it's just another language. This last course I'm taking should be the last "official" one that I "have" to take so maybe now, I'll find the time to see that through.
So yes, if I was attracted to someone and we had common interests, I wouldn't hesitate at all.
Cheers,
Dave aka BHG | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 6:08:10 AM | Hi.
I'll answer the best I can.
Would you like to date deaf people?
I'm don't think to myself, I want to date deaf people, but I would not pass up a deaf person because they were deaf.
Are you willing to learn sign language?
Yes and have already learned some. It's been a while since I've used it but I still remember som eand it would not be hard to pick back up where I left off.
Are you patient?
Yeah, for the most part. Except when driving.
Would I like to be involved in the deaf world or deaf socials?
Again, I don't actively seek out deaf persons, but if I became friends with someone I wouldn't avoid it.
Would I interpret...?
Depends on the situation. I wouldn't do that with phone calls, but if you ask, I'd give you the gist of the conversation.
Would I feel akward in front of friends?
No. Why would I?
Why would I want to date deaf people?
I would date a deaf person. There is very, very little difference between non-deaf people and deaf people. You communicate differently. I wouldn't pass over a girl that I got along with just because she speaks a different language.
Would I love you for you?
If anyone gets my love, it's because of who they are not what they are.
Do I think deaf people are easy?
Some deaf people may be easy. Some may not be. Just like everyone else.
I will say that when I was working a job a few years ago, I worked with a few deaf people. I started learning sign language because I had the opportunity. I miss working with them but I still remember what they passed on to me. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2005 12:18:20 AM | I think both my husbands were deaf!!! Or wanted to be at times!!!
I dated a guy that was legally blind and absolutely loved him to pieces. I've been to a bar and been the only person who would "dance" with the guy in the wheelchair. I had a boyfriend who couldn't hear well at all, he ended up getting a hearing aid. Therefore I do not think a person who was deaf would be a problem for me. Some people are very shallow and probably would not consider it but who would want to be with someone like that anyway? | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 12/7/2005 6:51:55 PM | @ black Hockey guy,
I've often thought about taking a Sign Language course just for my own benefit...really it's just another language. This last course I'm taking should be the last "official" one that I "have" to take so maybe now, I'll find the time to see that through.
Sign language IS an official language. I took it in college to fill my language requirement. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2005 7:38:31 AM | hey everybody !!!! wow i read all messages and they were very interesting and they have their own opinions bout this .. thanks for sharing no matter if they are negative.. it is from your thoughts.. i respect that..
i grew up accepting people so easy when they are around me.. they sometimes think i am a retarted or somthing like that. i always stand up on my own .. it is worth it..
i thank my mom for teaching me to be true to myself and stand up what i believe.. she taught me not to think of CANT term.. i hate that term now because i know i can do anything except hear..
tonight i am hosting a POF party in austin on 6th st.. it is my first experience and 171 people signed up .. WOW.. it seems like i m still the only deaf person there. i dont care.. i love being around hearing people and challenge them to face me.. it is so FUN ...
wink.. wish me the luck tonight..
JUDY | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 8:42:26 AM | Hi Love2Smile....
Good to see you back on your own thread! Thanks for the privvy email, too...had me laughin' with your airline story!! I can see it now...kinda like when you tell someone you are deaf or hearign impaired and they suddenly are yelling and over enunciating. Too funny...those two things actually make it HARDER to understand someone! LOL ;)
So you sound AWESOME to take on a party planner position...your attitude ROCKS and I cannot wait to hear how it went!!!
We need more people like yourself...to EDUCATE others and be less fearful of someone just because of a "disability." In quotes because I actually despise the word...when I was Program Manager working with "disabled" people, I always used the term "barriers"...because we can always get past barriers, and we are able! :) | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 9:52:01 AM | | My ex-girlfreind was hard of hearing . we first met . we went to deaf club in wisconsin . We were together for 4 years . AFTER , my money was gone and credit cards maxed out she moved on to another guy . I work with 3 deaf people . I have to watch who I talk to . because 1 gets mad at the other one . Deaf people can read lips too well . I would date a deaf woman again . no doubt . | |
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Posted: 12/15/2005 5:01:39 PM | HARLEY ,oh yes we need more people like me.. i want to see people standing up on their own.. it is very important to show people we can do anything except hear ..,
one time i went to church dance and there was a really hot looking guy that came to me and saying do you want to dance? i said i m deaf.. he said okay with his loud voice.. DO YOU WANT TO DANCE?? LOUDLY .. i say OKAY with hidden laugh inside .. we danced .. then he say something loud.. i said heyyyyy i am D E A F .. he said nothing with red face.. i laughed so hard.
other story ... the deaf four friends sat in a restuarant and used sign language of course.. man on next table stared stared and stared at them.. he laughed and made fun of them. they discussed about something to make him feel stupid.. one of them walked to the phone and dialed something then he talked in sign language on the phone .. then sayd bye kisses.. then he went and sat with them ..
the man was shocked and wondered so he got up and walked to the phone .. he tested himself and used hands to the phone.. all deaf friends laughed soo loudddddd. he was blushed. he hanged up and left..
funny??
i have more stories like that.. if want to know more i will give stories..
judy
ohh the party went really good.. i will host a party again.. it would be fun.. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2005 11:09:57 PM | Oh, Ilove2smile, that story was too good!!!
the deaf four friends sat in a restuarant and used sign language of course.. man on next table stared stared and stared at them.. he laughed and made fun of them. they discussed about something to make him feel stupid.. one of them walked to the phone and dialed something then he talked in sign language on the phone .. then sayd bye kisses.. then he went and sat with them ..
the man was shocked and wondered so he got up and walked to the phone .. he tested himself and used hands to the phone.. all deaf friends laughed soo loudddddd. he was blushed. he hanged up and left..
Yes, yes, yes!! I want to hear MORE!!!!! | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 12/17/2005 5:26:30 AM | I would not consider it a problem at all.
Hell, I was married for 17 years and sometimes thought my ex-wife was deaf anyway.  Maybe I should have tried ASL. 
I used to date a woman that worked with deaf and autistic children. She told me some fascinating things. One day she was on a bus going on an outing, and she noticed something she shared with me.
Some of the kids were sitting there alone, and "talking to themselves" in ASL. We both thought that was quite revealing. It really shows how much we are really all alike.
It's like any "disability" , which is a word I really dislike. I once almost dated a woman that was in a wheelchair. She looked a little like Salma Hayek, and had an incredible personality. We went to a college dance together once, and I am not by my nature a dancer. I suffer from a bad case of "white boy syndrome" . ( Talk about disabilities...)
Funnily enough, we got up and danced - and were quite the center of attention. The sad part ? Even in her chair, she outdanced me.   | |
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| WOMEN and MEN ... would you like to date deaf people??
Posted: 12/26/2005 6:18:10 AM | | I would not turn down a date with someone simply because they're hearing impared. If the attraction was there and I 'clicked' with them then I would date them, just as I would anyone with or without a disability. I'm fortunate enough to work in a place where we have five hearing impared and six visually impared people. They're some of the most amazing people I've ever met, easy to get along with, very smart and funny. | |
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