yoduh
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Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 10/28/2005 8:26:55 AM | | i have no way of knowing wether or not he has encountered scams, or knows about women with fake profiles. I think he is being reasonable due to that, if that is his reasons. Showing up at your work showed he is interested, though bad tactic in my opinion. Tell him you are hurt and see where things go from there. Scan your drivers license if you get over it. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2006 6:45:29 PM | If I can respond without prejudice this is what I would say!
He showed up and that took alot of guts, Showing up at Hospital unanounced however is abad idea, with all the security measure etc. Its really up to you and how you feel-sometimes things arent worth giving up on, if you feel stronlgy about him go after him.
You should be angry or upset rather that he would not accept your explanation. If hes not trusting now, maybe its a precursor to other things, I would stronlgy advise anyone that will read this to not show a copy of your drivers license, to anyone that you dont truly trust. | |
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joesch
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Joined: 4/21/2003
Msg: 28 | |
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| advice needed...pleeeassee haha.
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:51:27 PM | | When we will be rid of the weirdness that plagues us... NEVER NEVER NEVER give anyone your personal information.... | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 2:09:18 PM | | First of all, him showing up at your place of employment is a huge factor. Him doubting you and wanting a copy of your license is just plain insecure on his part. This is the point where I would walk away from the person. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 2:39:06 PM | OK, here's my 2ยข.
Showing up at your job was an effort to determine the truth. Did you both agree that he would come to the hospital? I'm not defending his methods. It's not something I would've done without an agreement, but I do understand his frustration. I think he has a right to demonstrate some mistrust, but that's not the proper way to show it.
Asking for your license is out of bounds. Being a female online, your security is paramount. Although he has invested some time and effort in you, he needs to understand some common sense online etiquette. Regardless of broken dates in the past, he has no right to make demands on you of this nature. That might seem a bit cynical, but these days you should be cautious.
Now you have a credibility problem with him. You could tell him you're going to be at a certain place at a certain time wearing a certain outfit, so he can verify that you're authentic. Then it's his move, if he wants to take it. Or, you could call and set up a date you can keep and offer to buy him dinner in a very public place.
To me, he sounds a bit clingy and demanding, but that may be fine with you. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 2:54:42 PM | I am in agreement with Coastergal, you botched the trust by repeatedly cancelling meetings prior to him showing up unannounced.
Do you think of why he showed up unannounced, he loved you so much he was probably stressed by the repeated cancels that you were riding him.
I am really sorry for people who fall in love on-line and stay on-line without meeting when they are less than 1 hour a part. It boggles my mind how people can let this go on for a month yet alone a year.
My sense OP was that you were insecure in meeting this guy, perhaps some things said or lied about since you felt it would never get this far. Thats the only rational reason I can thing of for avoiding meeting someone that lives that close.
My advice, lick your wounds and move on, the trust has already been broken.
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Posted: 1/10/2006 4:07:55 PM | | before you meet some one dont give out id and your personal info please havent u heard of stalkers and fraud, and second of all you just talking to this guy you never met and there is love in the air already , wait till you see him and then decide if he is the right guy for you, trust me I have done the phone and on line dating thing before and yes I went through the period of thinking I like some guys head over heels and when you meet them, it a different picture you had in mine not really about looks as much but may be he looks sneaky or he spits on the floor, WHO KNOWS. but other than that be carefull girl. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 4:18:53 PM | | Just play it safe and let the potential love of your life slip out of your fingers. Were not here because we are lonely or anything. This isn't one of them dating sites. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2006 4:41:43 PM | A broken date is a mortal sin!
Here's a tip ladies, when you break a date with a guy, and you like him, it's up to YOU to make it up to him. I know things come up, but maybe because you broke so many dates and didn't make enough of an effort to see him, he thought you didn't care.
Showing up at your work wasn't a great idea, but maybe he just wanted a little closure, give the guy a break, guys have done worse stuff, he's probably young, he'll learn.
I think he's been patient, but probably lost interest in the fantasy relationship, better to let the guy move on and take it as a learning experience.
JVG | |
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