mysty
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Joined: 10/10/2004
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 10:34:10 PM | I respond to everyone who takes the time to write me. However if it just says 'Hi' and nothing more, I don't. Also I don't respond to guys from Lebanon and such like.
I have had several guys on here not respond to my emails and I think it is rude and shows their character. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2004 11:18:34 PM | | I respond to all the e-mails I get. I thank them for taking the time to send an e-mail and tell them I am really only looking for friends. That is what my profile says. Some are cool with it and some I never hear from agian. | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 30 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 6:10:22 AM | I answer every PM I get... If I didn't, I'm sorry. I just feel guilty if I don't. They took the time to write so I take the time to respond. I don't really get insulted if someone doesn't answer mine, if they don't, I just don't usually bother writing them again.
Tayven, | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 6:24:28 AM | | It's tough to answer PMs sometimes. What bothers me most is I'm so forgetful that I forget a lot of what was said before. I am of no consequence, so I don't burn a lot of things into my memory, knowing I will never meet, or have a relationship of any kind beyond a simple friendship that is eventually lost. I have lost a lot of friends. But I have only myself to blame. It has happened time and again, I move on, and leave the past behind,,it's history, never to be regained. So don't despair if you get no e-mails. You place too much emphasis on this stuff. Personally, since I know there is no future in it, I do not commit on the computer to anything. I ride alone, and anyone who would befriend me needs to know that. What is now, will be gone in the future. All is lost at some time, and we may treasure brief moments of fun and sharing thoughts, but in the end, it vanishes with the wind. Do not get involved in here, especially with the likes of me. Now I have said it, you know it, so my advice would be to steer clear of me, and never get close. Keep it superficial for I have no soul left to give to anyone else. I hope this is clear too all who know me. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 8:32:55 AM | | ,,,and it vanishes with the wind. You see, there is no meeting of minds with a true cynic. He or she cannot be, and therein lies a truth. This man will hurt no more, and seeks not the comfort of others for he is not a comfort in himself. Is it selfish? No, it is cold realism. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 9:04:54 AM | Easy2;
Hey there. I am one of those guys you speak of and you are not the only one who does not respond. It sucks seeing "read deleted" in my message history. In my case, I was just saying hi and trying to pay a compliment. Hey, maybe you were feeling down that day and my note would cheer. How would I know? "Read deleted" to me reads more like "screw off". It is not a big deal, but hey, it has crossed my mind whenever I see it.
Randy
Here's the email:
Hi there. Is this site based in Kitchener? It seems a lot of folks are from there. I am from London, but after seeing your listing I might move! *LOL* Sorry....not really, I am pretty much locked in here.
I am sure you get all kinds of mail, but figured I'd squeeze this one in. I just wanted to say you look absolutely marvelous and if as easy going as your brief write-up states, you sound equally marvelous.
If you would like to bat emails back and forth a bit, great. I do not get to Kitchener often, but could if inspired. If that does not interest you, then please just accept the compliment and reward me with an unseen smile.
The best to you and yours,
Randy | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 10:05:27 AM | | Well randy thanks for responding to my question but posting up your email in this forum is not the time and place for it, not the best place to do that :( NOt too sure why, but, sorry I didnt respond to you but this isnt the place to make your point of me not answering your email. Sometimes its a case of your not my type and I dont want to hurt your feelings, sometimes I am in a rush to get somewhere fast, sometimes its cause I have responded 20 times that day and just felt tired of it. But If I find someone attractive and they do put some time into the email then I will respond. But truth is most guys just put a quick HI and thats it or.. they dont post there own pic up so as far as I am concerned if they dont take the time to put up a pic like me then Y do I OWE THEM? | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 10:15:53 AM | When I posted that email I meant to say: Here it is, is there anything wrong with this? But, like you I am sometimes rushed. Never too rushed though, to make a point. Sorry you thought it inappropriate to post. I won't post it again. *S*
Randy | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 10:34:55 AM |
"Read deleted" to me reads more like "screw off".
No offense there Randy but the only thing that Read/Deleted means is that a message you sent was read and deleted. How on earth you can come up with the mindset of an individual based on a technical action accomplished on a computer is beyond me.
For the record I try to answer all emails that come in. I usually just say something along the lines of them not being what I am looking for, thank them for writing and wish them the best in their search. I don't say anything much more than that and I don't answer any more mail from them.
You could probably just create a template response and paste it into all the received emails you get but have no interest in...;) | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 10:52:50 AM | Watchman: I qualify that statement. read/deleted when not answered. Not answering in itself is a sign of mindset, though I would never stake anything on that perception. Like the chechbox about drugs. If you say yes, some may think you are an addict when all you do is smoke pot now and again.
When I started using ths site I thought "cool...I can do some chatting with single women and maybe meet a few". I am getting the impression (and not meaning you easy2) that it is more if it's not a perfect match folks just move on.
I respond to all my mail even if I do not particularily want to meet that person. They took the time to write, so will I. maybe not right away, but I will. I speak when spoken to, you see. If, say, it is someone undesirable, I will take the time to say so and why. Of course this is easy for me here, I do not get all that many emails. *LOL*
And Easy2, I still think you look marvelous. *VBS* | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 10:58:52 AM |
Not answering in itself is a sign of mindset,
Well I have to disagree with you. Very little related to computers has anything to do with a person's mindset. Not answering an email could mean an accidental deletion, a serverside glitch, freezing up in the middle of a response and getting frustrated and forgetting all about it as well as a few hundred other reasonable technical explanations for a message to not be read.
You're in for a lot of anguish if you try and read into things like that.... | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 11:49:59 AM | | I don't get alot of emails...but the ones I have gotten have become friends and that's good enough for me...their ones who write in genuine interest and have things in common. I reply to mine except for the one dude who wanted sex when he came into town on weekends lol | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 12:17:04 PM | | michell,,do as you like. I am a somewhat out of place in here, and older man, 63, who is not into e-mailing a lot. But I will answer as soon as I can. You can do as you like about me. It is not for me to say. But my main reason for posting this is that there is NOTHING wrong with you. You meet all kinds in here. Now I would caution you about e-mailing me. It may not be such a good idea, for I am a cynic, and look for dark shadows that might be in the form of false ideas, false posts, and false intentions in disguise. Always be careful and watch out for the Dark Horsemen, for we tend to be undependable, and dark ourselves. But even worse are the shining Knights who deceive. So you tread unknown ground. Be careful, give nothing of yourself to any stranger, and suspect all who might answer. Tend to your well being in this pit of some vipers. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 12:19:23 PM | | I respond back to 98.9%. Typically, I brush off the email that only says "hi" - and he has absolutely nothing in his profile to boot. When I began to have men emailing me after a day or two, kind of feisty, after not having heard back from me, I then put in my profile that I will respond up to 4 days from reading it. So with that one exception, yes I do. I feel it's only right. Does not take much to say "Thanks, but I am not interested." | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 12:23:15 PM | Hi easytohang,
I always answer emails. Why? Because I don't like it when someone doens't answer mine. You sit there and wonder are they going to? Arent they going to?
No, you owe them nothing. But myself, I always respond ONCE. If they write back again, DELETE.
Now, what do I say? I keep it nice and simple. Something along the lines of.....
...thank you for writing. I read your profile. You seem nice but I don't think we would be that great of a match to one another......
....something along that lines, adjust it for each one. It takes just a few seconds. If you get a LOT of emails, come up with something nice and save it in your text editor then just copy and paste. At least they have a reply knowing to move on.
Myself, I email someone once. If I dont' hear back from them, I assume they aren't interested but it would still be nice for them to say it. I can imagine maybe once or twice a person will accidentally delete the WRONG email but if they do, too bad so sad, it wasn't meant to be in the first place.
Love, Laugher and Light,
J | |
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reb4u
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Joined: 11/13/2004
Msg: 45 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 12:48:27 PM | | I try to answer all emails no matter what, sometimes it takes a few days to get back but i do. I think (from what i have read in the forums) that a guy may email you back asking why did you not like him. Simply to know is it something in his profile that he has wrong,misleading,that sort of thing. To maybe help him better find his match or a friend. To me we are all in the same boat trying to help one another through one of the toughest things being single, yes it has its good points and bad. But If we wanted to be alone why else would we be here. I have been honest with any RE: email i have gotten of WHY and everyone that i did, said thank you afterwards. But helping one another is what the forums are all about. | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 1:32:33 PM | I just have a little question.. women help me out here
If a guy sends out a message to a hot girl and it said it's read and deleted, could this be part of a headgame where the girl just wants to see how far the guy would go for her? (ie, send her messages over and over again till she decides to reply) ?? | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 1:39:34 PM | | Alaeddin....if she reads and deletes and hasn't responded. She won't...let it go and move forward. Her loss. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2004 6:49:46 PM | | I don't respond to guys that i'm interested in. I don't see a point... So let them get upset just block them and they will get the hint. That's what I do. | |
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