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Posted: 12/12/2004 7:00:39 PM | unfortunately we live in a society where the onus is usually on the man to make the first move. as most women know men are usually quite inept in this regard (guys, ask any woman and you will see the crap the have to deal with).
it seems to me that after so much practise getting hit on by people they are obviously not interested in they would be able to come with a sure fire turn down stratgey. but its usually some bullsh*t that just confuses the already confused man. thye women think they are being clever and the guy will get the hint. this is where the communication breaks down - if the guy was so inept in trying to approach you in the first place what on earth makes you think that he is going to be able to understand your "hint"? hence the familiar women are b*tches, men are pigs dialectic ensues. all very productive . . .
if women could get a few more balls and men could get a few more brains in these matters we wouldnt even have to have this discussion.
but to be fair, the odd time that i have been hit on by women that i didnt find attractive or at all interesting i really didnt know what to do either, but then again us guys don't usually have that problem as often as women. | |
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lsmith
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Joined: 10/31/2004
Msg: 54 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 7:37:21 PM | THis one's for the guys; I ran a thread a few weeks ago asking what the best way to show you're not interested is.. and though there were MANY great ideas.. I think the best came in the way of someone who had emailed ME.. he said.. 'blah, shee blah.. this is me.. here's a bit into my personality.. you can view my profile.. if you're curious.. and if you want to know more .. feel free to reply to this.  It's the best.. cause the pressure is off. The man came to the table with no expectations..so he won't ever wind up disappointed or angry. I loved it. What do you guys think? | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 7:44:03 PM | For this to be a simple question it certainly turned out to be something that its NOT! lol
But in the end I guess it was a good question to pose cause at least some ppl know the reasons why some ppl respond and some that dont! I know the average of ppl who have responded say they answer all there emails and kudos to you all, but I dont think that I should be critisized for how I handle My own emails.:( I stated my reasons and still stick by them, sorry if will offend some of you.
~huggs to you all ~ | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 56 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 8:56:18 PM | One question why are women really not as interested as guys in sending , responding ,
initiating . Alot of women here kind of said they would be responding to e-mails all day if they were responding instead of deleating or ignoring .
Why women have this problem , why do men do not have this problem , most are not responded or acknowledged, men seemed to be most loneliest by eneptitude or unatractiveness than women , women by choice of being very very selective .
Why does this situation exist ? is it by culture , genes , or ???? | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 57 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/12/2004 9:37:13 PM | I bet women would respond if the profile stated "young,tall, hadsome , lonely millionaire ", with a
picture of a chipendale dude . A really nice profile stating mansions in every country of the world , great cook and poet ... hahahah, loving man wishes to shower his women with everything she desires, I am sure he would get as many e-mails as women do . | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/13/2004 3:24:51 AM | leonbm:
There might be a few women who respond to that but dont clump women all together. We are all different if you read everyone elses messages in here. Some respond some dont! Are all guys the exact same? Are all men ***holes, morons, jerks, users, players, ....NO they ARENT so give us gals a break ok? Just understand that if they dont respond to you , you are simply not there type and MOVE ON. I Do everytime someone doesnt respond to me, I say OK and MOVE ON I dont waste time sitting at home going... whats wrong with me , whats wrong with me.. so stop the Women BASHING.. please...we are all different | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/13/2004 12:11:35 PM | Phil's 2cents:
Kel1506, I read your profile. There are lots of young guys that would like to
just communicate with one so delightful. You'll be getting emails. Keep posting,
it brings out a lot about yourself. Guarantee: If someone really understood
and knew you completely, they would very much like you/love you. Be who you are and let others be able to read it in your posts.
Alaeddin: If you get a 'read/delete' it means ONLY...... that you got a 'read/delete' Now if you get a 'read/delete/feel bad about it' then thats different. But I don't think they have a check box for that yet. I bet we could get a few laughs by making a list of alternate 'read/delete' messages. IE: 'read/delete/up you*s', 'read/delete/gotoh*llMF' How about 'read/delete/you don't have enough money and you look ugly. bet you're stupid and have a lot of deep seated psychopathic perversions, you a**h*le geek mudderF' LOL
Peace2U: What a lovely lady you are.
Celle belle: I cant email you anyway. You want 27-40ish. Good Luck busy lady
you dont need a profile. I wouldn't either if I used your picture. You might attract the very shallow one.
Easy2: You are very correct.
Leon bm: Its culture, man. Or, more precisely, the lack thereof. Women have to be cautious in this world of ours. They get used, abused, mistreated and attacked
in more ways and more often than you realize. Male species is not always a 'real nice
culture'. We must prove we can be while maintaining the pursuit. | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/13/2004 5:07:39 PM | Easy -
If I get one, I will answer it... you can send me one, no worries... but I do try to answer all emails I get period... seems the polite thing to do...
~~Dragon Rider~~ | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 65 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/13/2004 8:38:26 PM | Uninterlaced dude , I guess like the cute girl says , you are hot ,
I am not bashing women , I just want to understand them , it is not
only the frustration of these , sites , I have dated alot and had ALOT of
experiences while dating , and still do not understand completely how
and why things are . No need to get really pissed off and defensive , I have posted
some fake profiles on other sites ,the milionaire one , an atractive women one
and a not so atractive women , one , yeah I know , I am bad , going to
hell ..... it worked like the way I expected , I do not just pull this stuff out of a hat .
Sorry if any of you feel that I generalize and it is pointed towards any of you , just
wished to understand the whys and the hows . Why do you think we are on this site , because we are really successful in meeting great people , in these forums we are here to understand .
Some of you may think I am simple and inexperienced , if you ever knew , the many things my life has gone through , no one I know has had as many .
I just wish tounderstand the why's of relationships and how and why women act in this country , I know regions and this country are different , I travel in different parts of the world often , they are all different , women are different , in differnt countries and different persons but patterns in certain cultures are the same .
The dude that gets more mails than he sends is more fortunate than most men here , his profile is very sparse to me but successful , maybe it is my country and region that is at fault , I am from San Diego but I am in Japan for a couple of weeks on bussiness and see the differences .
Just want to understand and not bashing , been there done that . | |
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jaytea
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Joined: 12/9/2004
Msg: 66 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/13/2004 8:55:21 PM | I am brand new to this site. All the other sites that I belong to are pay sites and I haven't been able to respond to many of the messages because I am not a paying member. After only being a member here for a few days the amount of mail is rather overwhelming, but I am going to try my best to answer each one of them out of common courtesy.
My main problem is that my computer crashed so I have to use my son's computer and it is not always accessible.
People have to learn to be patient because there can be many reasons that the one that they wrote to cannot reply immediately. | |
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Posted: 12/14/2004 3:58:32 PM | | Normally I'll try to reply to all messages. I feel if they take the time to look at my profile and write I should too. But I don't feel bad if they don't respond If I Write to them first. Hey, rheanna! If I write to ya, will send me a reply? lol | |
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Posted: 12/14/2004 5:43:07 PM | I try to respond to all mail, even though I get very little.
I figure if someone is nice enough to write, I owe it to them to at least reply, even if it's short & sweet.
-David. | |
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Posted: 12/14/2004 7:17:19 PM | Like most of the people here, I respond to every email I receive. I even used to have a paragraph in my profile that said something like: "It's incredile how much we have lost the art of common courtesy."
I do admit that I used to send long letters introducing myself to people. But, after getting no response to those letters I've stooped to just sending a quick 'hi" to the person.
I know, ladies, that you are afraid of making guys think that you're playing "hard to get". But I am one that both respects and appreciates it if someone sends me a "sorry, not interested" note.
Of course I apprecaite it more if they say: "Wow! You're a really nice guy!"
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 12:38:25 PM | Easy - I respond to any email I get, unless it is obviously spam... or a come on (check out my site at..... trying to get me to pay for something...thanks I will pass) or singularly perverted... I do so out of common courtesy, I have always felt ignoring someone to be the biggest insult...
I get quite a few... um... being ignored... And have on occasion sent a second note and asked why... curiosity really, I mean, did I say something wrong? Am I too far away? Or did they think I was simply disgustingly ugly... I find I am more offended when the profile says that they are looking for such and such and it fits me to a T, but then am unread deleted out of hand... it is rude and insulting to me... cause the impression is... they looked or didn't look and didn't like something... Read deleted is a pretty clear statement... though as I say, I have asked why a couple of times... Unread deleted is insulting... Shows that they felt you were unworthy to even bother reading what I may have said...
Having said that... I do realize that ladies (especially ones as pretty as you) get several orders of magnitude more male than any male, and try not to let it get to me too much. But I had one last night... her picture has her sitting infront of a fireplace... I sent a note to her, her profile seemed to fit and we had common interests... the note said and I quote "Love the fireplace picture, it's winter time and cold, we should light a fire and share a cup of coffee and watch a movie..... Seriously though..." Then went on to talk about some comonalities between our profiles and interests... all in all, about 3 paragraphs. Her response? Read Deleted, email block... I didn't think it was offensive... She lives about 2 hours from me... sigh... I feel offended... and insulted...
However, content doesn't seem to matter... Unread deleted is far too common... Oh well... What can I say...
~~Dragon Rider~~
I know it is here somewhere...
Happy New Year | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 12:42:24 PM | | I do it is the polite thing to do. Weather or not it goes any farther remains to be seen. There are so many rude people in the world these days I don't feel that I should add to the extremely large pile. So I try to be polite even to people that I don't want to be polite to. | |
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mkay70
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Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 72 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 4:47:32 PM | Hi easy2hangwith,
No, you are not the only one who doesn't respond to every email, I am selective of who I write back, (1) if he is nice in his note, I will respond, (2) if he is rude and making sexual comments, I will and do ignore them. Just depends. I am on this site to have fun and talk with new people, just prefer my conversations to NOT be vulger!
*HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERY ONE* | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 4:55:40 PM |  I still have you all beat. How many guys here can say they got an e-mail from a woman saying "I'm sorry but you aren't my type"? A lot of you right? But how many can say it happened without ever e-mailing the woman first?
Yes, that's right. I never e-mailed her but she decided to let me know I wasn't her type.
 Go ahead, top that!!!!! | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 8:19:11 PM | hee hawww-ho hum-hoo-haa-....ok-its new years eve...what do ya wan?- I'm a bitter pill right now!....in any event-----let em all die. screw em-yeah-i said it..."to thine own self be true"----this applies to any and every situation known to man. let it be known to woman as well. 2005=strength-peace-power!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
live your days like they are "golden"....not my words, but actually a very endearing song out right now -spitual r/b-good very good message,to all ! Happy New Years Day----and year!!!!! | |
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