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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 8:29:44 PM | | not everyone has responded to my e-mails and i can't say that i've been able to answer 100% of mine but i do try. i definitely don't answer messages i receive from married men though... but i gave fair warning in my profile. ;) do what you feel is right easy ;) | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 9:48:49 PM | Nope I don't answer the ones I feel I am not interested in. Forget it Easy2hangwith..don't sweat the small stuff they will get over it .
But then again I haven't got much email here yet..so maybe they are not interested in me..I have sent out replies also to men from their profiles..maybe I should be mad cause they haven't answered mine..lol nah..I will know when the right one comes along .
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 12/31/2004 10:01:47 PM | I hope the next year fulfills all your wishes and desires...
~~Dragon Rider~~
I know it is here somewhere...
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 1/1/2005 3:02:27 AM | when I was "unattached" I recieved replies from about 10% of my initial emails.. I agree, unread-deleted was the worst, what did I do, kick their dog? a simple "sorry, no thanks" would have been nice.
On the other hand, I know my sig. other recieved bushels of mail... (not so much now), but,2 days ago, had one guy, married, IM her, looking for some on the side LOL....
but could it be that one of the reasons not much mail is heading to your inbox is this statement?
"I have done this b 4 and put a lot of info and what do I get but Jerks . So , I will wait and tell ya in private"
Tha would get an... "I don't want to know anyway" and no email, move on to the nextvictim/suspect/prospect.
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w8in4u
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Joined: 12/26/2004
Msg: 82 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 1/1/2005 12:10:08 PM | Easy,
Don't let it get to you, some men can't handle being rejected and have to resort to name calling and showing their true colors (ie. maturity level). Just block him. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 12:18:34 PM | Yes I do answer every email that I get.. Even though 90% of them are too young for me or married.. 
But I figure sending an email to someone is a very difficult thing to do. You expose yourself to rejection and worse. So if they have the guts to send me an email.. even when I'm not interested.. I always respond.. even if its only to say "Thanks"
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Jacook
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Joined: 9/18/2004
Msg: 85 | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 1/1/2005 12:53:34 PM | Easy??? YOu have a guardian angel? I have not seen a post yet by whoever this is... they disappearing as soon as he makes them? And Why is he slamming you?
~~Dragon Rider~~
I know it is here somewhere...
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 1/1/2005 2:11:52 PM | Hope you don't mind me adding my two cents into this one, but to understand the problem just put yourself in their shoes. If you sent out an email and you got no responses after the first two or maybe 5 you might not think too much about it, but after 20 you will get nervous, maybe anxious or panicky. You will start questioning yourself as to why.
It's human nature really. Remember you didn't start their rejection phase; it was started before they ever e-mailed you. It's ironic really you will experience this as you get older. The e-mails you receive will get less and then your replies will increase. There is a mathematical equation in there that Einstein missed  . Why not just have a standard response, like:
"Thanks for your email. I'm not looking at the moment"
If you get a jerk, as some would say on this site, block him (maybe her) and report them. But I think politeness and firmness is your way out. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 3:30:09 PM | | nahh if I don't get a reply I'll just keep on e mailin em,just short of stalkin lol. just kiddin' if I don't get a responce I'll take that as a NOT INTERESTED or I'll take it as GO AWAY LOSER , lol have fun, I try to | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 3:37:44 PM | Don't worry easytohangwith, you are certainly not the only one who doesn't respond to all her e-mails on this site. I admit that I don't either, and frankly there aren't enough hours in the day to sacrifice thinking up nice ways to let a bunch of guys down gently without hurting any feelings. I am not being heartless in thinking this way, it's just that I can't afford to be spending all my time replying to guys I'm not interested in anyway when I could be getting on with other things like work, seeing friends, and more recently adjusting to my new life in Spain. Rest assured that I totally see where you're coming from. Since about this time last year I've only had room for one guy in my heart. I met him on this site, but that was of my own accord. I guess you could say I love the thrill of the chase! Now we're hopefully going to meet in person in February if he can travel to Spain. I must admit I have some doubts in my mind, but I've gotta be optimistic about this right?
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Posted: 1/1/2005 8:39:56 PM | I got a email here 2night..Wanna Talk about Sex ? Is what he said..
Not Replying to that one no way no how...what a jerk ! Stalkers Stay Away ! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 8:48:45 PM | I alwasy answer back just to be polite. If I am interested i try and keep the conversation going to something further but if I am not interested I reply back in a polite manner and say I am flattered but not interested or not the match for them.
Kind of like the thread you just created about the guy who you went out with and you thought was into you but he went away for the weekend and never has called you since. You wer kind of upset by his actions in one way or another. You would have rather had him give you some closure..right?? | |
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Posted: 1/2/2005 10:53:39 AM | then he CANT slamm you anymore..and he will have to do in in public.....
Seems to me...easy2hangwith you have "issues"...and fall for guys really easilly....get played all too quickly....and wonder why....
You follow...you never lead....make a descision on your own...without seeking the advice of others 1st...and see how good it makes you feel....after all its you that has to live your life...not them....
Stop chasing waterfalls....put your feet firmly on the ground....and dont self medicate...you dont need it...
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Posted: 1/2/2005 12:18:14 PM | | I always answer my emails.I can understand women ignoring them if the guy didn't bother to read the profile and it's clearly stated say,"No pic,no reply" or "under 35 only" and the dude ignores it.But if it's a volume thing,then even just a "no thanks" would be better than nothing. | |
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Joined: 12/1/2004
Msg: 94 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 1/2/2005 1:07:26 PM | Well I have to chip in here I happen to Email the lady who started this thread about something else entirely. My email to her was courteous, polite, short to the point, and with respect of her opinion, her response was the very same day. It was open and forth right and respectful of the time I had taken to write to her, Thanks Cool2hangwith. I have had about 1% of my Emails at POF marked read/delete. A slight higher percentage of follow up Emails read/delete, till I figured out that “that was so sweet” really meant you’re a nice guy, but I am just not interested Duh, just a little slow to get that one, sorry Ladies.
Some ladies from this site have shown me the GARBAGE they receive daily, Guys grow up and get a life, learn how to treat a lady with respect, and they will treat you right. Use your W/P to compose your Email first, read her profile three times, check out her postings, and write to her as a friend, not a object/toy. Keep it short and sweet and to the point, no stupid subliminal jokes (unless she clearly states that’s what she likes in her profile). If she does not respond, get real, neither do the women you meet in real life either, so give her a break and move on, you may catch her eye with a thread you write. | |
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| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 1/3/2005 2:53:43 AM | Sorry.. but I still agree with Taurus..
Unless the guy is being a complete a** .. I think that they deserve a response. And I figure that if I can spend 10 or 20 minutes reading and responding to these forums, I can spend the time it takes to quickly answer my emails as well.
Some of you say not to sweat the small stuff... I don't think it is "small stuff" to some of these guys. Put yourself in their position.. how would you feel if it were you? I'm not normally the type to approach a man.. call me old fashioned.. call me chicken.. whatever.. but I did finally send one email out knowing that I was probably not his type, but his profile fascinated me.... and when I did not hear back for over a week.. I was a wee bit demoralized. Fortunately it did work out... but the fact is that it was a difficult thing for me to do.. I expect that it is no easier for them.
It's much easier to respond than it is to initiate the communication. I'm embarrassed, but grateful that as a women, I can generally take the easy road.
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Joined: 12/17/2004
Msg: 97 | |
| Just a quick question to everyone!
Posted: 1/3/2005 2:16:05 PM | | Heck it is not so bad getting rejected by no response. Where it really goes bad is when you talk to a lady for a few hours and she is (from what you think) getting into it also and you manke plans to talk again. She never shows up and "Poof" she is gone and you never hear from her again. You think you have a good repore going and then she wont answer an IM, wont return an e-mail. Think how that makes a person feel. A simple I had a nice time talking last night, but I just dont think things will work out would be nice. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2005 7:40:18 PM | I am not sure whos thread this is or not lol... I think I had started it.. anyhoooo
My Thread: I am trying to answer all my emails now!
MysticinVA 's Thread: You do not know me at all to be a JUDGE of my character..but.. this is
a public forum and you are allowed to voice your opinion! But I will take your advice with a
grain of salt!
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Posted: 1/6/2005 1:06:59 PM | When it comes to receiving mail I answer most of it....BUT...if I see a sentence that says...."WHAT UP?"....read delete...
or.......Hey Chica.......read delete
or.......No Pic...no info in profile......read delete
or .....my fav:.......looking for a WIFE from Algeria!!.....read delete!!
If you filled out your profile and have a pic....and speak English the chances are I probably will get back to you...
BUT I will say this...I have responded to some men and I say..."Thank you for sending me a message..but at present I'm interested in someone....but thanx and have fun in the pond."
I get Fu*k off Bitc*........etc.... I mean really....you can't win for losing.
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Posted: 1/6/2005 2:30:36 PM | Angel, the one constant in this galaxy that I can promise, there are just going to be some that is should be against the law for them to be able to breath...
Laught, block, delete, have a nice day... morons... it isn't any wonder that you can't even send someone a friendly note and have it responded to.
There was one on hear, single mom, cute kid, she was obviously having problems from her profile... I started the note off with "I know that I am outside your range for dating, but.." and went on to offer to take her and the little one to dinner or a movie sometime, just to have someone to talk to ... her profile said she was all alone and pretty miserable. In any case it touched me, and I thought I would simply put out the hand of friendship...
Surprised I got the elbow back... got past that, and she talked to me a bit... then just kind of faded out... oh well...but man was her reaction ugly...
No Good Deed Ever Goes Unpunished... (sigh)
~~Dragon Rider~~
I know it is here somewhere...
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