| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/12/2007 7:59:35 AM | Well ...it's not ideal , but it's probably alot better than many of the reason's people get married these day's.
Of course it is all up to how much they want it to work....and l see no reason why they wouldn't live together first....it is less messy if they can't make a go of it. | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/12/2007 8:51:10 AM | You are right- A man should take responsibilty just as much as the women when someone get pregnant but in no way should someone marry for that reason......
Dang that is soo old fashioned- Marriage is based on love..... | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/12/2007 9:00:39 AM | Nope...unless you mind if your religion calls the kid a **stard.
Personally, I wouldn't. But I know people who would. Most notably my male friends. I guess they're just old fashioned like that. I agree with OP...what's the point of gettin married if you're just going to divorce in a couple of years. I guess the wedding gifts is good incentive....  | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/13/2007 8:14:09 PM | no secondkick... wrong again!
HE DOES NOT LOVE HER? What high road is he taking by marrying her because she is pregnant? Nothing noble about that or commendable at all. And lust???? is FAR from LOVE.. Not even close.
His weak human nature was the thrown out the window when he "worried not" about her getting pregnant in the heat of the moment! Both are responsible for that baby... she is just as bad. And to let a guy marry you knowing that he does not love you????
wow I would say take the high road and start walking.... baby and I will be just fine!
lust you can find anywhere...love never fails.... and if he said I don’t love her.... HE FAILED HER ALREADY! why put a baby through that!
sorry but I so disagree. | |
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Tarika
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Joined: 8/30/2006
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| Re: Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/13/2007 8:26:05 PM | | pregnancy adds instability to a relationship. if the guy's not willing to commit to the woman without the baby taken into consideration, it's a VERY BAD IDEA. it's better to have two happy parents in separate households than it is to regret marrying and be miserable. | |
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| Re: Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/13/2007 9:00:04 PM | my girl friend cheated on her hubby (who gave her like a 10 thousand dollar wedding)
with like 5 different guys in the course of a 3 year marriage. :(
but if you are sure of each other then, why not! | |
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Raine
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Joined: 1/22/2007
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| Re: Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/15/2007 6:11:23 AM | | Kids is one of the main reason people divorce. Live together for awhile, then get married. Let the little boy or girl be the flower girl/ring bearer, they'd love to be at their parents wedding. | |
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2007 10:42:36 PM | ok. Here is the stuff men aren't even supposed to think let alone say out loud.
Only she can decide to get an abortion or not - and only she can decide if she wants him to have contact with the child and only she has the right to have the child adopted, only she has a right to demand child support or not and she will likely have the power if married and then divorced, ... to determine if he can have contact with his child.
considering the likelyhood that he will otherwise lose any significant contact with his child if he does not fein love and marry her. - it may seem not be the worst idea. (shrug)
This is not to mention that given the cost of child support, additional expenses and time invested in raising a child as a single non custodial father - depending on his profession, education, family support and inheritance; he may feel that at least he won't be alone and single while bearing the financial burden of raising a child, as it would make it financially difficult to start/have a significant relationship.
ie. better something rather than nothing for his money.
Do the math. Here in Canada - if a young man is saddled with child support it is unlikely that he will be able to afford another relationship for years. While the single mom will have child support and all kinds of resources and government assistance thrown at her, ... he will likely not have much of a relationship with the child as a non custodial parent and yet bear a significant expense.
Besides it's a romantic illusion to think that coupling is anything but a random event. Expecially since most ppl date based soley on a criteria of appearance and chemistry rather than feelings of love - as such, most relationships these days are not based on compatibility and people constantly complain about "players".
It's only fair that the current legal use of abortion as a form of birth control should be a deal breaker to imposed child support. Give men equal rights over their children and such marriages would cease to exist, while women would be more selective of whom they have sex with. | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2007 11:37:10 AM | | From what i have read, people here are just talk. You sleep with a girl, get her pregnant then what? Yes its a good reason to get married. What if you just slept with her, but your really couldnt stand her for long periods of time? Would you seriously just drop her like a bad habit with your unborn child? What if you cared for her enough that you dont want her life to be completely ruined? Think of this. She gets pregnant. You dont want to be with her. (guys point of view of course) She lives with her parents. Has a fatherless child. Ruined all chances of going to college. THEN you have to pay child support. What if you cant afford it? They take your liscense. This hasnt happened to me but i know something like this could. Yes marry her. Because then its no longer about you or her. Its about the child. Because if she was left, thats two lives decimated. Its just not a good situation... | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2007 11:38:07 AM | | Tell your friend he will have to pay child support even if they dont marry. She can save herself all the hassle of marrying him. No its no reason to marry. | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2007 12:03:02 PM | Unless you knocked up the farmer's corn-fed blonde daughter...and you've got the business end of a Winchester pointed at a vital part of your head or chest...Than no... marriage is not a good idea...
But you should've worn protection to begin with... | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2007 12:08:32 PM | marriage means LOVE!!
If I was pregnant there would be no way in heck I'd marry someone just cause it 'was the right thing to do"
The right thing for me would be to marry someone that love me. Not feels an obligation towards me | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 2/21/2007 12:28:11 PM | | The only good reason to start a family aka get married is because both people love each other. If he doesn't love her, then why is she his girlfriend? | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 6/14/2007 1:28:14 AM | My first born son was the byproduct of a date rape. You DON'T just marry for obligation. I did, and for 20 years of my life, I lived with a man who was Bi, did drugs, alcohol, and never loved me. Circumstances forced me to quit my job, and finding another one was just not happening, and I had a home to make payments on, so marriage was a stupid option. Child support never hit my mind. I was too dazed and confused to think about it.
If you like living in a depressed world, help yourself. You're better off financially if you just let him SUPPORT you. This way, you can control where the money goes, to your baby! Not only that, you can still find someone else out there who will love you for YOU and the baby. There ARE lots of men willing to raise a baby with you. I have actually seen it, now that I am older and maturer. Good luck. | |
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TeJ_25
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Joined: 2/17/2007
Msg: 71 | |
| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 8/6/2007 8:03:23 PM | | think it may not be a bad thing if the two actually care about one another. if it is just a routine done because it is what is expected. then it may not be a good decision. also think that a good parent is a good parent. regardless of whether the two get married. if the two are able to work well together than marriage may not only work for them but the child as well | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 8/6/2007 8:13:55 PM | | It's touching that he's willing to man up and take responsibility, but perhaps responsibility should have been taken to NOT get her pregnant. | |
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 8/6/2007 8:18:24 PM | sure its a mistake to get married tho i did get a woman pregnant at 14 that me not her by way s i couldnt marry ,
marraige is always a mistake when young if a all its about a a baby tho i prob seen harsh saying that
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| Is pregnancy a good reason to get married?
Posted: 8/7/2007 5:32:26 AM | | defiantley not i got married cos i was pregnant. it wasnt a good thing i shd have stayed a single parent instead of marrying the ididot. cos we got divorced eventually | |
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shoree
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Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 75 | |
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