| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 11/15/2005 8:33:06 AM | Dear bsngirl,
hey i know just how you feel.
i am right there with you but like these other nice people told you there are other guys out there that will not leave you and your newborn because there are men out there who do have respect for their women and will love you and your newborn child. | |
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| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 11/15/2005 8:40:07 AM | Dear Chelseadoll,
way to go girl you don't need that kind of man anyways | |
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meme87
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Joined: 11/10/2005
Msg: 28 | |
| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 11/15/2005 11:11:56 AM | | I'm sorry this has happen to you. I totally understand and most of us women have been dumped before. Hang in there and yes what goes around comes around. My ex-hub took me and my kid to another state (no family or friends) for 1 month (his job relocated) and within that time he decides he doesn't want me anymore. He knew he didn't want to be married anymore to me before we left the state. The ass hole! Well, to make a long story short, he got remarried shortly (I do mean shortly) after our divorce and has a kid. Remember, God doesn't like ugly, and they will reap what they have sown. Keep your chin up! | |
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izz4us
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Joined: 1/10/2006
Msg: 29 | |
| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 1/18/2006 4:15:31 PM | Hey bnsgirl
Another good girls/nice guys thread People don't just wake up and leave one day.
Perhaps you should do some self-exzamination. Then talk to him about what is bothering him and see if you can resolve things. Open honest communication means sharing what your angry about, being willing to forgive and compromise. Getting some understanding of each other.
Instead you are judging him and defending that judgment by saying what goes around comes around, payback is a ****. That saying is just another useless piece of information because the bat you intend for anothers head always comes back on your own.
You're just doing and saying what we have all have done and said at your age. Its called lack of knowledge and experience about how to have a relationship and what love is or what it is not?
Realize we don't have any courses on this offered in our schools. We don't have many teachers or examples around us or people who can give us constructive advise. Most of the advice we get about relationship problems is not very helpful and uaually impossible to follow.
People say things like, "Your young you'll find someone else." There are plenty of fish in the
sea." "Its done, its gone, you can't change it so get on with your life. But can we and are we?
These statements are all true but the problem is they apply to things. You can replace things but you will never beable to replace a person. Yet we all try to follow this advise. We walk away, we get a divorce and we find someone else. Guess what, the same thing happens again for many of us with just a different person. So, obviously it is not other people that are the problem.
There is a thread here to discuss Dr. Phil's book, Love Smart, alot of people knock using a book to find out about love and relationship. I haven't read his book but I have read many others. Books about love and relationship are written by people who have found a way out of this merri-go-round of misery and fortunately for us share it with the world. God knows we need it. Go to a book store and buy books about this aspect of life. No one person has the knowledge so the books are where you will learn the most. Notice I said "books". Go on a search for this information, you will find what you need and if the book don't have what you need to know find one that does. Good luck. Suggestions: The Grief Recovery Handbook,
A Course In Life, Living Beyond The Level Of Mediorcrity, A Return To Love. Apply the knowledge and principles to your own life. They work when nothing else does. Good Luck! | |
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| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 1/18/2006 4:19:15 PM | And, if he doesn't come back and you can't work things out, there is always enforced child support, and garnishing his wages to make the deadbeat pay up.
So don't forget the vindictive route, either. I know they say forgiveness is best, but I'm going to respectfully disagree with "them" where deadbeat dads are concerned. | |
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| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:04:47 PM |
why is it that guys take advantage of the good girls. this guy that i was with for over 3 years just walked out of my life and left me with our newborn child.
It's just life and it works both ways. Why do women file over 70% of the divorces and leave men without their children. Isn't that 40 times worse? At least you get the child plus child support. You are ok. | |
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| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:21:15 PM | | Life does get better, when you don't think of yourself as a victim! Hell, I woke up alone with four in diapers almost 12 years back. Life goes on! While being a single dad and starting off raising babies alone defines me, I accept it and don't play the blame game. It was meant to be and I am a much better person as a result of my experience. You will learn to know your child in ways you would have never known. Good Luck! | |
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| an***hole broke my heart
Posted: 1/23/2006 3:42:39 PM | guys take advantage of girls because you let them. I for one, have respect for woman but it is for that reason I was only able to make friends with girls and nothing more.i would always get "you are a nice guy, but not my type." When I started to disrespect girls they seemed to like it for some strange reason. When us guys make it easy for you then you push as away, because its too easy. Then we see you with some guy who treats you like sh*t, and yet you people keep running to them...
Don't get me wrong, I feel for you, but at the same time, thats life, it's a game, we play to win, but we all can't win
cheers | |
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