Once A Week Free Dating, Singles and Personals

Once A Week Posted: 10/19/2006 4:42:14 PM
Ok, well, for a maybe slightly different perspective, I'd ask how long he's been working like this? A little over 3 years ago I started a new job (working for an old co-worker of mine, as my boss, and our old Director as his boss - nice to start w/ people you already know and respect you). Anyways, my boss (old co-worker) had started about a month before me, and we basically both walked into a "nightmare" - unfortunately just after I met and started dating my (now-ex) GF. After the first month or two getting up to speed, I basically spent the next 3-4 months working 80-100hrs/week, and probably would have quit, except they were actively (as in, I helped interview) looking for more people. My GF moved in with me, and for 3 months, even though I was in the next room, I rarely saw her because I was lucky to get 6 hours (not all at once, the phone would ring all night) of sleep a night. I was, quite literally, a "zombie", I actually almost fell asleep on top of her having sex one night... A week before Xmas she told me she was leaving (merry xmas!), even though I had told her we had a job offer out for more help. He started 3 weeks later, and within about 3 weeks after that (getting him up to speed) I was working 50-60hrs/week. A couple months after that we hired 2 more, and my life became fairly normal, 40-45hrs/week (other than being on-call for every 4th week, and 6 months later there was 6 of us). Certainly wasn't healthy, and I wasn't trying to be a workaholic, but fresh into a new job I was doing my best to get things under control and make a good impression. And at this point, I've asked the boss about taking a month off to travel next year, and he basically said "as long as you're coming back, we can work something out". I'm well respected for being able to get the mess I walked into under control. Do I want a good relationship? Yup. Just was really bad timing, just after starting a new job (the nightmare it was back then). I've even told the boss, if the job ever comes between me & a relationship again, I'll start looking for another job. Depends on the person I guess, and how you feel about him, and how long he's been at this job. To me, if there wasn't that "light at the end of the tunnel" with more help coming on, I would have found another job rather than sacrifice a relationship. On the flip side, I earned the respect at work to be able to take time off and have the boss not care if I don't make 40 hours "just put down 40 anyways, I'd owe you 3 months off if you ever comp'd yourself for all the time you put in years ago".