| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:37:16 PM | you are searching for sex...
and will not, cannot love without it..... that is what YOU said.
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:39:42 PM | I said I won't have a relationship without it, did not say I won't love without it. By the way, if I was "searching for sex" I would not be here on this site!
Have a nice day! | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:41:47 PM | @ MMMBaby
I cannot deny the recreational aspects of sex -- anymore than I can deny the cherry on a banana split.
(Wow! Did I say that? I should've been a writer!) | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:43:22 PM | I could go for a banana split right now! Thanks!
ps- with a cherry, maybe two... | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:43:31 PM | I am not here for sex. So not everyone is.
If there is one that is here not wanting just sex, then there is most likely more. Just my intake on it. Sure the jerks out number the good ones. So stay in the forums and get to read them their posts over time, then contact them, talking about their posts at first. People that read this, posting and letting people see you, is one of the best ways to let people understand and be attracted to you. Atleast thats my imput on it. Heck if I was single there are a few that I don't think are cute in looks, but seam like real sweethearts. Didn't give them one look the first time I saw them, but they grew on me. (No I still am not here to cheat.) For them people thumbs up. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:44:05 PM | I love sex, no doubt but there is sex and there is sex.....
some sex is just cheap.. and there is no free sex here...
hahaha | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:47:23 PM | | Yeah, no s**t!! Still thinking about that banana split... | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:48:34 PM | I don't mind being single.. that is not the issuse.. but if I involve myself with someone,
open my life up to them..... extend friendship to them.... honesty and consideration and all I keep coming up with is freaks..... who are trying to move in after a week. want to play house and have a sex toy that pays half the rent..... someone to stick things up their hiney hole..... someone to gripe to that will not send them a bill for counseling....
is that not all just a waste of time? I would really like to know what happened to real men.... there seems to be so few around. I meet these mentally, emotionally stunted things I would compare to freaks... out for fun and games who are anything but aware of much besides their peckers and trying to figure out whats in it for them.... hahah'
shesh
what a trip.
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:49:39 PM | MMM
What I am getting you are coming across as saying is that you want sex before you will consider a relationship. Rainbow Fish is saying the exact opposite...she...like I....wants a relationship before sex. Is that so wrong? I will never understand why men put sex above knowing someone personally first. I guess its the difference between men and women for the most part....for the man sex is purely physical....for the woman....it's emotional. Its a connection..now this isn't true in all cases, but the majority. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:50:33 PM | ^^^^^^ uni gets it
this must be something not many people understand or can concieve.....
but there is a point where we get older and we are not merley physical or emotional... we are whole human beings.. a balance of these things....
I realize some never do... I do realize that. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:56:23 PM | | Thats why I said to stay in the forums, to get to know them first, when you meet they should know you enough to know what you want. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:56:39 PM | Yes Rainbow_fish I completely get where you are coming from. I am in the same place. It's not about sex, it's about finding someone who is honest, compassionate, caring, loving, attractive, and responsible. I believe they are out there you just have to weed them out.
You aren't alone, I get down, discouraged, and lonely too. This site has really helped with that. Posting in the forums and reading others posts really helps me to not feel so alone.
One thing you have to try and do is let the past be a lesson, but not let it bring you down. There are good men, I really believe that...take things slow...as hard as that can be sometimes. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:00:50 PM | | You know Rainbow, I enjoy reading your comments all over the forums and I think you have a great sense of humour. It is not a good thing when a woman gets misunderstood and has freaks climbing the walls to get at her, that's for sure. I really don't know why you are having trouble meeting someone honest and into what you desire. You make it very clear that you are not a toy, or to be messed with. What part of the message do they not understand? I for one, am very clear about what I like in my life, and I read and hear what a woman wants too. If it isn't completely mutual, I want no part of it. I hope you don't lump me in with the jerk crowd, because I am being completely honest and forthright. I do find it amazing that you don't have some really nice guys talking to you, because you are pretty cool. I don't kiss a** except in bed, so that is not what this is about. Intelligent women are in high demand as far as I'm concerned, so why guys have trouble with your message I don't get. There's the right man out there for you (maybe not on this site!) somewhere. In the meantime, how about we go for a banana split?? | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:00:59 PM |
It is harder for us Nice Guys to find someone when the Jerks out number us. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:07:54 PM | No, I don't want sex before a relationship. I would like to have a loving relationship WITH sex. If I wanted to get laid then have a relationship, I would not like the woman because I don't like sleazy women. I am not here to get into everyone's pants! Yeesh! Is sex within the context of love now a bad thing? If it is, let me off this ride!
How about a banana split? SERIOUSLY!! | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:08:42 PM | I don't know what they think.....
who cares... not sticking another carrot up anyones hinney
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:12:41 PM | they asked
wasn't my idea.. actually kinda grossed me out...
at least it wasn't asking to move in....
after a week.... or the usual stuff.....
I was glad for a change :)
refreshing, but gross
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:28:47 PM | I certainly wouldn't give up on pursuing a relationship, just because you've met some
men who seemed to be after sex. There are definitely some wonderful caring men, who
also want to build a relationship before sex enters the equation. My experience has been
that the men who are wanting sex "right away", give themselves away rather quickly in
their emails. They seem to mention sexual ideas before you have even met! When that has
happened to me, I simply stop communicating with them. My current b/f and I chatted on
line for a month prior to meeting. He never once mentioned anything about sex. As a matter
of fact, it took me about almost 3 1/2 mos, before I got a kiss from him. So yes, there are
some terrific men out there, wanting a "real relationship" to form, before initiating sex. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:37:12 PM | I couldn't resist one more...
When a woman and I begin a relationship with dating, etc., I do not bring up the subject of sex at all. That is for them to do. Sooner or later they will tell you what they expect or do not want, and that is when I will respond to a question or comment. As far as WHEN sex would take place, I leave that totally up to the woman. She is the one in charge of that aspect of the relationship. I do this out of respect. Even though I like sex I won't act like a hound dog sniffing after them. Completely rude and disgusting!
The woman has the say and the control, don't you all KNOW that?! | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:37:27 PM | ty tape, hope so......
I would not like getting invloved with a serial dater/ sex and love addict... and there are plenty of them here. I feel the internet attracts them.
They are just not always so apparent to see... I like sex and hope if I meet someone I get involved with we can have a good sex life but I see sex as making the total connection in a relationship.... after everything else, the chemistry (emotional, mental, spiritual) is there and trust has been earned, respect won.
I must be old fashioned :)
but that could exlain too why I'm not a drug addicted alcoholic on prozac and in therapy....
with STD's
and still have my sense of humor.
I meet so many guys.. all a gal has to do is go out, anywhere.....
but they are such idiots. I hope someday someone comes around I can laugh with.. not at. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:53:12 PM | | Ladies, it's a shame you've meet or had been contacted by men who have no idea what a healthy relationship is all about. It's all about sex to them. And it's cheap sex that they can get anywhere. And I'm sure there are some women who would go for that. But for you ladies looking for a true relationship based on friendship and respect there are some of us out here searching for the same thing. Sure sex is an important part, but it's one aspect of it. And it will follow through naturally as the relationship progresses. | |
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 3:04:52 PM | | Personally there has been absolutely no mention of sex with any of the communications I've had on this site. Still haven't had much luck actually meeting anyone. It's more of a distance problem here. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 3:05:46 PM | Rainbow
Love is supposed to be a pleasant accident but you have put up walls so thick and tall that prevents anyone with any self respect (Assume that’s the type of man you are interested in) to even try to get through. Hence, you end up with what you end up. | |
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