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Posted: 10/29/2005 8:50:49 PM | Good lord people...sounds like I'm on trial here again. First of all, the blonde thing....get real, you know I'm a brunette with a creative hair stylist. So don't put me down for hair color because most women are any hair color that they wish to be now days...doesn't really matter and my cousins are true blondes and guess what, I'll betcha 10 to 1 thier IQ can beat yours all to hell buddy...
Now, would a woman date someone that was not that attractive. YOU BET!!!! I have many times and one of my ex's well, hope he doesn't read this because I would not want to hurt his feelings but let's just say, all I heard about from people that knew me was, why? He's not very attractive. I thought that they were very shallow because I thought that he had a great personality and beautiful eyes. He was sensual and romantic and to me he was simply gorgeous. Do looks matter, certainly, especially on line because this is kind of a one dimensional world and all we have to go on is that initial responce to that picture that we see as a representation of the person that we are considering getting to know. So we have a small profile and a pic. If they pop up on an IM, and we choose to speak to them, well, it's really pretty much personality in my oppinion because if they grab me with the first few sentences and I enjoy the chat then the pic becomes much less important.
So what was the subject about? Was it about me being blonde, therefore supposedly stupid? (good lord, do people actually believe that less pigmentation in a hair follicle equals less brain cells in a brain?)
Was it about women being shallow therefore only moved by the appearance of a man?
( are you serious, take a look around buddy....most of the time it is loyalty to a guy that has captured their hearts it is not always with their appearance that a man can capture a womans heart...wish you could see my dates and ex's, granted, some ARE gorgeous, some are deffinently not and I enjoy both.....so who's being shallow here..because
The subject is that the problems exists where people are misrepresenting themselves and the discussion topic is just that...I mean how fair is it for anyone to post a pic that is 15 years old which I have had happen to me with a couple of my dates. It was disappointing because I went to see the person that I had been chatting with and had become accustomed to the way that they supposedly looked and got there and low and behold it was not them. Not only is it a bit shocking but it's just not fair. I may have gone out with them anyway had they started the relationship with me with their own pic anyway.
So lets stay on the subject and for those who dislike me because my hair color is blonde...well go start your own thread for those who dislike blondes and think that they are stupid. You can title that right next to those who don't like people because they have a different skin color or a different religion or a different sexual preference or a different culture or maybe freckles..whatever | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 9:03:39 PM | | The ones I look at carefully are the ones with a picture of a person that is scanned into a fake background. These are usually scams. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 9:31:14 PM | | Makes me wonder.. now that I thought about it.. if maybe let's say he emailed ya.. you didn't reply.. then created a profile with some other dude's pic, and opened the line of communication to "show you" that you'd like his personality. Not condoning it.. but offering it up as a possiblity. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 9:49:08 PM | Davepinflorida,
Well not understanding the rules of the game to begin with.....I actually tried to respond to each email that I received and I think most women get quite a few for some reason on these dating sites, anyway there have been a few times when I have not responded. When I was overwhelmed and only had the time to read rather than writing back, when I was in a very very bad mood from writing on the forums ....lol and didn't think that I should write to innocent people or when I overlooked someones letter to me. 95% percent of the time I'm very good at responding. I feel that if someone takes the time to write to me then I should answer one way or another so I do not think that it is someone that has been entirely rejected as there have only been a couple that I have done that with to my knowledge and made it clear that I would not participate with their desires. I figure if I don't hear back from someone then they have moved on to greener pasture as there are a zillion women in here and let's face it, I'm not the best.......I don't think I am the object of his affection I think that the one that I mentioned is doing this with many women. I just don't get what jollies someone would get out of this...I just don't. I mean, pictures like the one that you have with your head falling off, that represents your sense of humor and shows that you actually have a sense of humor and that is understandable and in a way an art form not a misrepresentation of your appearance, that's obvious...so I hope that no one thinks that is why I started this thread...it's the ones that misrepresent themselves on purpose. It's just not fair to the rest of us. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 11:31:33 PM | | I'd say, OFF WITH HIS HEAD! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 12:07:58 AM | | best comment yet...LOL....I agree! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 12:36:24 AM | | I guess people with fake pics have low self esteem or sometimes it's men trying to get an easy look at naked chic pics..from bi chics. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 12:55:52 AM | | Woe...they do that? lol | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 1:33:39 AM | | Sweet, fake pics. Thats the coolest idea Iv'e ever heard. I'll try it! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 4:32:17 AM | Well, in this world there are two types of people,
those that have a LIFE and those that have to make one up.
Isn't the internet fun ???? | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 4:50:29 AM | I emailed a guy and told him he had a great picture and profile, he emailed me back and said, and I quote ""hahahahahahahahaha...did you really think that was me...your how old....do you believe in Santa Clause too" well although we are on a dating site and anyone can be anyone, I felt very humiliated...so I emailed him back and told him he was "False Advertising" and blocked him!
Anyway I think it's mean and immature! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 5:13:19 AM | | I don't see the point in putting up fake pictures or really old ones...the fact is you are going to be busted when you meet up, so why not be honest from day 1?. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 6:06:20 AM | | Well it's nice to hear that you try to respond to everyone. Makes me wish I actually emailed ya, but the point I was trying to make is that sometimes men who feel that they might've done something stupid and screwed up their chances, or men with low self esteem but who know they are good hearted people, might go that route to open up the communication lines. As I said before, I'm not condoning it, it's wrong for any reason to misrepresent yourself. That's why I actually lopped my head partially off for that pic instead of photoshopping it! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 6:11:58 AM | Dave, your a fake !!, how do you see the keyboard
with your head lopped off like that ??? | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 6:22:07 AM | Hi there. There are a number of reasons I suppose someone would send a fake pic. Lack of self-esteem, fear of rejection and other related reasons are probably the greatest. There are those who believe that someone will forgive them if they meet if they show them their "inner beauty". There is some value to this point, except for the fact that you are being dishonest from the beginning, and that will tend to override anything good someone will think of you when they meet you. That inner beauty is something that I think only really comes out when someone is confident in who they are.
Personal story..it wasn't on this site, but I was chatting one night and this woman IM'd me and wanted to show me her pics. She was not only dishonest, she was not bright, because she left the website name that was pasted on the photos. I know that this happens a lot! Be happy with who you are folks! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 6:58:13 AM | | My thought on this is the ones that post the fake pictures are not happy with themselves. If they are truly looking for that one person to light up their life, they need to be grounded and secure within. I can see posting other pics but if they really intend on being honest with someone then have another picture that is recent posted also. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2005 7:12:07 AM | I've never met anyone with a fake pic but I have suffered the surprise of that recent pic that had to be found in a shoe box that was packed before three moves ago...
I think the peeps with the fake pics are just making the contact for the thrill and twisted self validation of a damaged Id. Unfortunately, their narcissism precludes their ability to see the detrimental effect their self gratification has on others. Smile, shake your head, walk away. Karma will take care of it.
Signed,
The Dorky Guy in sunglasses and a hat
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Posted: 10/31/2005 7:36:07 AM | I can understand that posting a pic draws more interest, but I myself would rather talk to the person first to get to know if they are honest. Im sure there are alot of fake outdated pics on here. SO who do you believe someone with or without a pic. I myself prefer to mail a pic after Ive talked, just my feelings.  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2005 11:14:55 AM | | Well ya know, I'm always trying to improve and always kind of battling with my self esteem a bit but it's a personal struggle and I think my embarrassment of meeting someone and not looking at least similar to my pics would be more humiliating than having tons of people seeing pics of me with all my flaws included. So if I can be brave enough to post my pics then I expect my potential date to be honest with me too. As far as showing pics online to potentials, well, I figure that most men are very visual beings and they just need to see what or whom they are writing to to motivate them to do so and I do not want them to write if they are not initially attracted because it seems like an important elliment to a man for their relationship as far as the "attraction" factor go's. So I feel it is important to represent yourself as recently and as well as you can at least I think....to find a guy that will be interested enough to contact and communicate. It seems that most just need that visual to motivate them. I'm new at this so I deffinently could be wrong..who knows. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2005 11:25:28 AM | I say that your situation is an inherent risk in any kind of blind date scenario. You're going to get some that look much worse than their pics, and some that actually look better (I need to meet more of these lol). Who knows why people do it? Does it really matter? Each individual may have a different reason, so you will never be able to take one rule and apply it to all. Just cut your losses and move on to the next date! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2005 12:34:54 PM | | This addressed to countrysugar. I'm a DORK you gorgeous woman. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2005 1:02:16 PM | | I wouldnt think of putting someone elses pic up. Thats really me. Honest. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2005 5:17:55 PM | I agree… I’ve heard stories from folks who have met people that didn’t look anything like their photo… Man… What goes through my mind when I hear that is, “what were they thinking? Did they actually believe that no one would notice?”
When I create a profile I figure the honesty is the best policy. I don’t want you to fall in love with a fiction. A fiction can be maintained only so long and that at the expense of a lot of energy.
But if it’s ME you see right from the beginning and you feel a connection with that then were really gonna have a good shot at this… Why? ‘Cuz that’s who I am from beginning to end… Just me. :) | |
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Posted: 11/5/2005 4:23:11 AM | Hey I like blonds... after all just how importan is what color someones hair is. O do believe we can all change that small item without much work.
But for those who post a picture that doesn't look like who they are today. Lets look at the real problem with that. Who wants to meet someone that can't even start out by being Honest enough to post a current picture of them self.
I have had the pleasure of hearing " You look just like your pictures" and my reply has always been " I am susposed too" But you can be sure then didn't...
Life is fun make the choice and always make the best or whatever.
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Posted: 11/5/2005 6:15:10 AM | Some of the fake pictures are no doubt married people who are hoping for some cybersex, but don't want their friends or spouse to recognize them.
Hmmm - interesting idea: start with a not-you pic, but not too different, then over time slowly morph it into you. What would that do to someone's mind? | |
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