| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/30/2008 1:51:44 PM | | The last partner I was with didn't like giving oral at all and I think he did it a grand total of three times in 5 years (I must have been a good girl those days lol) but on saying that he waited until I was ready to give oral to him and he had a six months wait (he was the first and so far only person I have given oral to) but what I think is that so long as he doesn't expect you to give him oral (which would be hypocritical, don't ask for what you wouldn't give) get over it. I went 5 years perfectly happy without it, there are more important things to deal with. Have some fun training him to be the lover you like in other ways, give him guidance, tell him what is nice....... | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/30/2008 2:56:43 PM | He would have to be willing to learn or yes, I would say goodbye. Oral sex is just too important to me to think of going without it for the rest of my life. *shudder*
The whole "he doesn't go down on me, so I won't go down on him" concept should not even be considered. If you're concerned about keeping track of what goes on between the sheets, then you need to have a good hard look at your relationship because that is an indicator that something is seriously amiss. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/30/2008 3:27:36 PM | Well as bad as I hate to admit it I am pretty much in the same shoe's ,My boyfriend for almost a year now has went down on me a total of 4 time's and like your's it took awhile to get sex out of him to begin with and it could be so much better, So my answer is this ( Yes break it off with him) odd's are he isn't going to get any better and thing's will not change and you will become misrable in the relationship like I am at this moment,Problem is I love the man,but so damn tired of this shit sex is like once a month ( We live togeather ) | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/30/2008 3:45:00 PM | You don't need to have good oral to have great sex.
Sure... Oral IS good. I've always liked going down on Women and believe it or not, I have only come to appreciate oral being done on me during the last 5 or so years. Before then, BJs had a tendency to turn me off LOL! Don't ask me why.
My longest relationship of 5 years was with someone with whom I "ate" regularly on a constant basis (sometimes if I was really hungry, 2 or 3 times in one night  ), but who NEVER game me a BJ... Not even once!
She said she doesn't like giving them and since I am a bit... You know... Well endowed  I think she was terrified of it LOL!
However, the sex WAS great regardless and more important, she was my friend and my soul mate, so getting my nuts gobbled kinda went way down my list of priorities.
I'm a firm believer that people should only perform certain sexual acts that they feel 100% confident with, or are, at the very least, curious about.
I for one would not leave a woman if she never gave BJs. Don't get me wrong, I like BJs now of course (if they're done right!) but it's not a MUST for me.
Ironically however, I would seriously consider leaving if she never let me go down on her. I like getting aroused by getting my woman off and then f*cking her brains out afterwards | |
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jaemey
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Joined: 6/3/2007
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Posted: 3/30/2008 4:15:06 PM | hmmm.... oral is definetly not all sex is about, so i wouldn't leave a guy if he didn't go down. My ex of 9 yrs didn't like to recieve or give oral, so it was all new to me when we split. So, needless to say i had lots of practicing to do 
I think that good lovers are not necessarily born, but more made. Each relationship is different with likes and boundaries, so those should be discussed, and techniques should be practiced. A guy won't always now what u like if u don't tell him how and vice versa. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:05:56 PM | I would leave him immediately!!! I was dating this guy and when things got physical, he didn't do that for me. I asked about it. His response was he rarely did it, but he'd think about it. I never had sex with him again. I lost all desire for him. Bad sex will ruin a good relationship every time.
If this relationship were to go on for a long time, it would be a long time of bad sex. If you want to stay, talk to him. Maybe he's teachable. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/3/2008 12:51:30 PM | | i actually broke up with a girl that didn't like to recieve oral (and no its not because i suck at it haha) she just simply didn't like anyone down there to self consious .... c ya | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/3/2008 1:49:08 PM | "About how to give the woman you love mind blowing pleasure and fulfilling every need and desire that she has. I don't care about myself if I'm pleasured or not. What matters to me is that I have done everything I can to pleasure the lady I'm with. But one thing I don't understand is I have voiced that I'm looking for a woman that wants a guy who will bring her pleasure that shes only dream about. I can't find anyone."
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YOU ARE SO ON THE WRONG COAST!!! | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/3/2008 8:41:37 PM | | No! I seem to have met alot of guys that always tell me up front what they won't do. When they start with restrictions I'm not intersted. Cause I want it all! The whole package! That just tells u he is not that sexual. Alot of guys don't care about being great lovers. They just want to get off and it's all about them. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/3/2008 10:11:14 PM | | hmm..im considering it lol..though he does have some time left to see if hes trainable lol yes there are more important things than that however if all of those things were great then I wouldnt be considering leaving him over this issue but when you place that on top of other things then yeah it could be the straw that broke the camels back...its pretty bad when every free thought is of some guy with his head buried deep between your thighs licking your p*ssy like crazy..but I digress lol | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/5/2008 10:13:13 AM | zinfandella:
The only men that go down on women are men that don't know how to use their tool to get the job done. A real man doesn't need to go down south. Besides, most of you women stink down there so can you really blame a man for not wanting to lick something that probably 10 or more different guys had their penis in. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/5/2008 9:34:08 PM | "He won't go down on me and doesn't even look around down there. "
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If I'm attracted to a girl to the point where I'll ask her out, then I'm more than willing to eat her. Otherwise, I won't ask. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/6/2008 11:09:17 AM |
The only men that go down on women are men that don't know how to use their tool to get the job done. A real man doesn't need to go down south. Besides, most of you women stink down there so can you really blame a man for not wanting to lick something that probably 10 or more different guys had their penis in.
WTF?!? A "real" man doesn't do oral? Are you f*cking kidding me? A REAL MAN does oral, and he does it VERY well...
Just yesterday I was having a discussion with the girls at work, about giving and receiving oral. Now, and I must say this shocked me, the majority consensus was that they HATED giving head, and so were willing to accept not receiving if it meant they never had to do it...
I was surprised, and a little dismayed..there's nothing more satisfying, then bringing a guy to orgasm with the skillful use of your lips, tongue and hands..ah, and the "heady" feeling it gives you is great! If I am involved with a guy I simply coach him in the right ways to eat and drink if he wants me to pleasure him, that way there's very little smell or taste..and it makes it more enjoyable for both of us.
I don't know if food or drink affects the way women smell and taste, I think it's more related to hygiene and amount of hair present...I could be wrong, guys you wanna weigh in on this?
Oral is a wonderful thing that should be freely given on BOTH sides, without keeping score. If I had to spend the rest of my life with a guy who only wanted to have intercourse...blah, vanilla sex multiplied by 10!! No thanks. I want it all, or nothing. | |
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PeterC
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Joined: 3/6/2008
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/6/2008 3:57:54 PM | | Do what I did, buy him a book. Not just any book. THE BOOK. ( I LOVE FEMALE ORGASMS.) Read it yourself and highlight the parts that you want him to understand. It worked for me. I have to say my guy was a quick learner and now I'm very happy. If he doesnt take the hint then move on. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/6/2008 4:41:15 PM | | Its called talking.maybe the guy doesn't know what you enjoy,simple tell him.Show him how to please you if he is that uneducated in pleasing a woman.Nothing wrong going down on a woman as long as she'e tastey and clean. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/6/2008 5:03:17 PM | A "real man" might not have to give head... but why aspire to being a mere "real man"?
The things I can do with my tongue, and the admiration I receive for this makes me feel like a God. God > Man. Have fun with your penis... I'll be building a temple, to me, with my linguistic skills. | |
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