| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/7/2008 11:55:57 AM | hey zinfandella I would like to have correspondence with you
In a relationship thats what i like the best
i am d isease free very clean not just clean
do not drink or smoke -period
and seems you are a sweet nice girl
awaiting your response
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/8/2008 6:41:51 AM | well well...I was in a 11 year relationship with a man that did not like to perform oral, the sex was great, but I was never satisfied, I began to feel that our sexual relationship was really self serving, if I had to get myself off after he was finished. I did not give up on teaching him, it took 2 years for him to start satisfying me orally.
He didn't complain when I gave him head, throughout my pregnancy he would ask for BJs and I started to refused, had sex occasionally told him he was too selfish, offered to teach him how to masterbate, since he claimed he never does it...YEA RIGHT, well he was a fast learner...LOL I think he started to see how I was feeling, whatever the reason he started to come around. He was horrible at first and I started to think he was just being bad on purpose because he really did not want to do.
As time went on, he got very good at it, and I never had to do myself unless I wanted to, he became addicted to it...but it was a nice way to wake up in the morning and fall asleep at night. we are obviously not together anymore, but we are still friends, and he constantly tells me I was the best lover he has ever had, that I taught him so many things, and now he can't get enough of oral with a woman. They seem to be enjoying him and he is officially an oral pig...so no don't leave him, believe me if I could turn this guy around, there is hope for all men. Once they taste the sweet nectar, they cannot go back to just straight sex.
On the other hand, I have been there, so "YES" I know what I want and what my body needs, so I would not get into a relationship with a man that does not enjoy to perform the act of oral stimulation., no just as a function, but really enjoys doing it. I feel I have paid my dues, now its my time to enjoy. That is why communication is just as important as the act itself. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/8/2008 6:54:44 AM | | bit of advice for you from a male. first things first, dont pressure him by making him feel guilty, and you have done this by saying ''forget it, i want you to really like it''. instead when your getting intimate head 4 the 69 position, i'm 20 years of age and when a girl does that for me its obvious i'm going to return the favour. if this fails try and introduce food, cream, honey of chocolate body paint, you never know he might nt like the taste or be worried that he's not up to the job. and when he does eventually do it let him know when he's doing it right, by moaning and telling him. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:08:59 AM | I would definitely leave a girl who does NOT let me go down there. Am surprised by those men who don't like to go down on girls. I can't think of anything more enjoyable in life than going down on girls   | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:14:43 PM | I have had a couple different women push me away when I was attempting...
I think its a communication thing,
If one woman pushes you away, then your man may very well be thinking that they dont like this in general (if its happened enouph) even though the last lady maybe pushed him away due to her being on her period or some other problem and he was to afraid to ask... | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 4/11/2008 7:39:47 AM | I've had call-girls who refused me going down on them.
Kinda ruined it coz the fact I have to pay and not get the thing that I enjoy the most really sucks. Condom-sex is boring and dry. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:11:37 AM | sexual compatability is important for most people.... If that is something that is important to you.... that you enjoy.... you should not go without... It is one thing to "train" a guy or show they how you like it done... but if he is saying he doesn't like it... well that is another issue..... Could try talking to him and find out WHY he does not like it... did he have some "bad" experiences in the past down there.....
Personally I don't think I could stay with a woman if woman if she didn't let me go down town.... the entire body should be enjoyed
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:16:23 AM | Posted By: jinxdgirl on 4/9/2008 10  54 AM Subject: Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you? Message: no... if he doesn't like it... well he doesn't like it. and if that's the only reason to not be with him.... well that just sounds silly
I think if any man, young or older, refuses to go down on a woman, that is most likely the tip of the iceberg as far as their willingness and capability of pleasing a woman. That is a fairly basic expectation of conjugal pleasures, and over the course of a long-haul relationship that will lead to less and less reciprocation on his part.
I think part of the reason for your answer is that you are young and inexperienced when it comes to relationships. If a man has a hangup about putting his mouth or lips to a woman's vagina, I am sure the sex doesn't get better from there. I think the man or boy is taking a stand about their willingness to satisfy their partner and pleasuring their partner is not part of their ultimate aim. Additionally. I would think if they won't go down on a woman's p---y, other parts of the anatomy are equally forbidden fruit - and that seems like a lot to forgo, especially if you are looking forward to a relationship with a prospective future.
It is one thing for them to not know what they are doing - they can always learn. It is quite another thing if they refuse to participate in helping you achieve satisfaction - that is something they are saying they won't do... | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:49:51 AM | | Why wouldn't a man that loves a woman want to go down on her? think it is very arrousing for both. I'll do anything to make sure my mate is 100% satisfied before we are done making love. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 8:28:40 AM | Wow, interesting responses. Maybe the guy had some very bad experiences with it in the past and can't get past that. Don't any of you remember the first time you had something you didn't like. How many of you would still "eat" it? Maybe the guy just had some bad pvssy. The fact of the matter is more than just if he will eat some woman out. I mean, there are A LOT of women who hate BJ's, does that mean you should dump them because they don't like that? People have to learn to get past the whole sex issue, I know it is important, but c'mon, there are "aids" to help out the unfortunate ones.
Look at it like this, would you rather have someone who is nice, treats you well, kind, thoughtful, but is a little bit lacking in the sex department, or someone who is a jerk, who treats you like crap, but can ride you halfway to hell? (I know I am going to regret asking this question). | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 10:28:41 AM | LOL , has anyone really ever had this problem...??
ok ..well my best guess OP is that truthfully he is just not that into you. When men are genuine in their attraction to you they are usualy more inclined to be focused on pleasing you ...it may not even be personal..he may just not be the connected type or has some intimacy issues that prevent him from growing as a lover ...
As for the drilling lol to funny ....the best thing a woman can do ...is be a gentle coach and speak up about what she likes or does not...i have never met a man who did not love it when a woman talked to him during sex , telling him what you like ..how to touch you...how to move ... ...........it has a naughty edge they respond to ....or just flip him on his back and take over...show him how it's done...... 
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:16:36 PM | | Some guys really enjoy it, for instance myself, I enjoy going down and knowing she's in gaga land there for I do a good job at it, but I don't see why you'd leave a guy for not doing it, it's rediculous might aswell say i'll leave my girl if she doesn't do anal. Fact of the matter is, it's personal preference and if it's that big a deal, might aswell ask that when you meet and havin interest in the poor guy | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:20:36 PM | | Oh no.... let this one go. There are plenty of fish out there that like to swim up and down the river. There is no way to make terrible sex work. Yes, I have left. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:37:17 PM | | ActiveJohn ~ comparing apples with apples...would you stay with a woman that would not only not swallow, but would not go anywhere near your c*ck with her lips or tongue? | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:02:44 PM | I dont get it if a person sucks in bed why would u want to continue to sleep with them. If u want someone who is good in bed like i do then u should find someone who is great in bed. Why waste your time with someone who is dead in bed. Why have sex with no feeling of sexually satisfaction. If people say sex is not all that important they are jus fooling themselves. to me sex is important and the person personality as well as other good stuff.     | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/25/2008 11:29:39 PM | I could deal with it for a few months before I started getting angry and frustrated. Intercourse can be nice, but I'm not likely to orgasm from it.
^^^ Yup i agree with that. I have noooo problem pleasuring him at all, but after a while if im not being fulfilled sexually (orally that is becuz i cannot O with intercourse), then he has to go. Granted, there may be times when 1 or the other isnt being fulfilled and thats ok, it happens, but for a man to never want to fulfill me in that way? Then its  | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 5/26/2008 5:11:06 AM | | If he is that great of a man some things can be over looked. Sex is great but when you are old and alone because you kicked himto the curb you will be wishing you didnt . Conversation will always be there but sex wont. Before ya kick him to the curb talk with him tell him what you enjoy and work with him at it. Dont run away to fast the gras isnt walwys greener on the other side. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:38:56 PM | | Oral sex is really important to me, it would put a damper on things if he didn't go down, and that.."I will if you want me to" would be a total turn off for me. It would make me feel like I'm forcing him, and then I wouldn't be able to relax. Of course, then again, maybe he's gay! | |
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