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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 11/12/2005 10:48:41 AM | I believe sex between two people is meant to be exploratative. If he said he "doesn't like it", then he's obviously done it before and probably had a bad experience. You're in a tough situation because you enjoy every other aspect of him, but sex and physical chemistry are huge building blocks in a relationship (otherwise you may as well be dating your brother). Personally, I'm a giver and enjoy other givers. I wouldn't want a guy to have to "work" to make me feel good. It should be a pleasure. It turns me on to think that I'm making someone feel good and it should turn him on to make me feel good. It should NEVER be work, and once someone views it that way, the relationship is doomed. When your boyfriend said "Well, I don't like it, but I will if you want me to.", that would have turned me right off. I mean it's a nice sentiment that he would do it just to please you, but how could you enjoy yourself knowing that he's just going through the motions and hating every moment of it? Blah.
Anyway, if he's a good guy, you should be able to openly communicate your thoughts to him. It's tough to find a good man, so attempt every possible scenario before you dump him just because of the bad sex. Sex is learned, experienced and practice makes perfect (haha!). Sometimes, people just need gentle instruction ;)
--B
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 11/12/2005 12:22:42 PM | | Any (man?) who has a problem like that isn't worth dealing with any further...I don't know about others, but it excites me as much as it does HER. Is he afraid it may bite or what?...LOL...Hey, I had one that DID...Yummy!...Have a great weekend! | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 11/14/2005 1:14:54 AM | | aww man that would be awful , hmm well you have already talked to him . Ya know every man I have every been with honestly loves doing it , I have to tell them to come up and finish the job . You know when your with someone the sexual chemistry is important , but sometimes the first couple times are kinda ehhhhhh then when you get to know the person and you are more comfortable with them it gets better and better and better lol you get the jist . The question is ,,,, is it a big deal to you or can you go without it . Also if he expects you to do it to him hell its only fair , What about while you are doing it to run roll around ontop of him and try to 69 , see if he would be into that since he is getting pleased at the same time he may get into it then . | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 11/24/2005 12:23:25 PM | | No I couldnt care less if a guy ever goes down on me! Oddly enough, I prefer a guy that is a good kisser, massager, and knows how to **** good! I can get myself off better...lol. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 2/19/2006 2:42:09 PM | Well I know this topic was meant for women only. But Ive seen other guys give their opinion, so id like to give mine. Zin, personally I dont understand where hes coming from, because since about my 2nd time ever having sex, ive assumed going down is a part of sex. I wont go down on someone unless i really know her for obvious reasons, but nonetheless to me its a factor in the equation, Ive had women tell me they DONT want me to go down on them, and thats the only time I dont. Someone said along the line its the only way some women can orgasm, and the way i see it, im gonna get mine, thats a given......and she should get hers. After all, what fun is it to have sex be one sided, so I say....if hes not willing.....then fine....but dont be giving  | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 2/19/2006 5:58:19 PM | | I suspect he has no idea how to perform oral sex and he's relying on his vast knowledge of male oriented porn to satisfy you. I think you should tell him exactly how you feel and see if he may be intimidated or unsure about pleasing you. Give him suggestions or even rent some softcore (or hardcore) porn with examples of how you would like to be touched or pleasured. Watch it together...it may spark an unforgettable evening. Trust me, if you're not happy with the sex...the rest of the relationship will go downhill, no matter how great of a guy he is. :) | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 2/19/2006 6:02:18 PM | | i think if he wont go down on a woman its time to find someone who will,if a woman wouldnt let me go down on her she would be out the door fast for me oral is almost better than sex | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 2/19/2006 6:05:50 PM | | Eh, I'm not really a pro. I'm just very observant. I've found that most people are bad lovers because they are so absorbed with their own insecurities they can barely focus on their partner's stimulation and enjoyment. I think open honest discussions would make sex more pleasurable and less nerve-racking for all parties involved. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 2/19/2006 6:59:27 PM | | i would not stay with a guy who didnt..but i always like to play the cards on the table when getting first involved..and the sex stuff is usually discussed and out of the way..why waste time ..and i agree that some people are self-absorbed and they only want to take care of their own needs sometimes....i like to satisfy as well as be satisfied.. | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 2/19/2006 7:06:29 PM | | if he never went down on me then i woulnd expect it but in the past the guy would always go down on my in the begining, i mean every time we had sex i got a little oral action but eventualy the tables turned and it seemed he was always asking me to go down on him and hed cum without returning the favor and my little kitty got lonely...in that case i decided to end it....it felt like he was lying to me, only doing it in the beginin g to that he could eventualy get somthing out of it | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/3/2006 11:42:49 AM | | Any person not sexually satisfied in a relationship will end up leaving,or finding it elsewhere. It is absolutly necessary for me in any sexual relationship to give and recieve orally and they have to love what they are doing | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/3/2006 3:37:20 PM | As a general topic, id say thats disgusting. Theyre are a big of women who smell like decayed sardine shit - and id say a bigger issue hear is stank puscy. I dunno if that applies to u -- but id say make sure u find out/ and to all the women to whom this does apply to - (of course there are none on here and yall wouldnt know any of em huh)  Id say uh-- u kno, WASH YOUR FUGGIN A$S | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/12/2006 12:08:55 AM | | I say you grab him by the scruff of the neck, throw him on the bed, straddle his face and say...."Ok boy, enough is enough. You are going to learn how to do this and your going to like it or I'm going to thrash you." | |
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| Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you?
Posted: 3/12/2006 12:17:40 AM |
As a general topic, id say thats disgusting. Theyre are a big of women who smell like decayed sardine shit - and id say a bigger issue hear is stank puscy. I dunno if that applies to u -- but id say make sure u find out/ and to all the women to whom this does apply to - (of course there are none on here and yall wouldnt know any of em huh) Id say uh-- u kno, WASH YOUR FUGGIN A$S
This scares me. I'm not affraid of much of anything. I have never experienced this. I find women are quite concious of how they smell and not one that I know of has ever failed to go to any extent to make the experience pleasurable for me. I do the same in return. | |
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