| Background checks??
Posted: 11/1/2005 3:22:28 PM | Hello everyone,
Just FYI i talked to the wife on the phone and even sent proof to her personal email. i believe he got to the email first, so i am having a friend that he does not know drop by the house when it should be dinner time to drop off a package of proof, dont worry its a male friend and i am driving a rental car since my car is in the shop. lol he will learn...
I have since used Intellius to comfirm everything that i found out on the web. and BINGO it is him....
As far as someone mentioned sex... heck no he couldnt get it to work... must have been quilt. i have even heard from another women on another site that i found him on and she was seeing him and didnt know that he was married either.
this is the first time that i have ever had a bad expewrience with meeting someone online. next time i will do my homework even better. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 6:13:56 PM | | need a reliable site to do a background check. Help, any suggestions? | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 12:35:32 AM | | I will be the first to tell someone of my background, I dont have any thing to hide (maybe I should LOL but I wont) So someone doing a background check on me is fine!! I am also a single mother so a background check is a must do for me! | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 1:37:10 AM | What kind of stupid guy is going to tell you where he works or his last name?
Some girl tried this with me "what's your last and middle name?" She tried to be cute about it as to make it a 'guessing game'. Make it a bit more obvious. The fact someone actually wants a drivers license is a huge red light.
Anyway, I let most people know I have a job and the general vicinity where it's at but I was thinking "it's really not safe to give this information to a stranger." What if someone from PoF randomly shows up to my work and asks the security guard to see me and they ring me down and they have a fit in he lobby and I risk my professionalism? Or if they wait for me outside and aren't who they say they are?
Anything is possible but background checks are sort of... odd...or maybe I'm missing the train on this one. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 11:11:07 AM | | Do your self a favor check out the person, if they don't like it move on, this is a risky step for anyone, to many deranged physcos out there. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 11:55:30 AM |
Are there any free back ground checks other then googling people??
Aside from Google, there is Pipl.com... it will ask for first and last names, and will search through a lot of online locations like classmates.com facebook etc...
Found a few people tht I was trying to get back in touch with...
One person even found me after many years through Pipl.com.
If you have photos posted online, in your profile, be aware of what is in the picture...
I have seen diplomas(real names) on the wall in the background, high school memorabilia etc... even a unique store, or plaza or landmark can help to locate you....
If you send an email, they can often find your local area by scooping your IP address from your email, and search for http://www.whatsmyip.org/more/ even scarier, if you click "More information", it will show a map of your neighbourhood.... try it....
I believe it's also easy to get an IP address from a webcam chat but I'm not sure....
And finally, your forum posts on POF are indexed by Google... You can turn up on google even if the person Googling is not on POF themselves... | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 12:50:12 PM | | I checked out six guys online before meeting them and all but two had lied about where they live, the area they live i! | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 4:00:00 PM | Background check? Absolutely!
I have been in legal for far too long NOT to do it. I wouldn't go so far as to hire an investigator as all of the men I've dated have been quite upfront and honest about their past.
Google isn't going to give you a whole lot. But here are some suggestions:
1) Start with the county they live in. Go to the Clerk of Court website. Do a search on their name in every category (i.e., civil, marriage licenses, etc.) Some clerks offices are free, some charge for this service.
2) Department of Corrections for your state. Do a search on their name for "Offenders." If they have been adjudicated guilty of a felony, you'll know.
3) Most sheriff's office websites also have a website for who has been arrested and put in jail for that county. Usually they will go back for about a year or two.
4) Florida has a website called "Myfloridacounty.com." I put my name in there, it shows my divorce, remarriage, homes I've owned, mortgages, etc.
So, basically, it's pretty easy to find out anything about anyone. You just have to know where to look (and know their real name).  | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 4:07:43 PM | | its sad but true, there are alot of crazy people in the world...but if you use your discretion and trust your instinct, you will know if you have a freak on your hands or not | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 7:30:23 PM | Wait a minute, don't nobody use instinct? Stay grounded spiritually, stay soul connected, stay God connected...y'all can't sniff this out by yourself, listen to your inner voice!!! I usually can spot a mother sucker from a mile away, usually. (:-) Once I meet someone in person it's a done deal - I can see right through them.  | |
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Posted: 8/4/2009 2:45:51 AM | Do background checks or at least go to their homes fairly quickly to see if there is a woman living there.
It amazes me all the women who get involved with men and never see where they live!
I found out that someone I was getting involved with has two post office boxes in the next town over from where he lives and has defaulted on a huge loan.
Two post office boxes? I said to him on some pretense "You should get a post office box". His response? Oddly enough it was "I don't have a post office box".
As if I had asked him if he had one! It told me I was dealing with a liar at least.
What he does with his post office boxes will remain a mystery. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2009 3:29:22 AM |
for $9.00 I can tell you your last 3 address's, previous and current phone numbers. What schools you went to and how many speeding tickets you've had.
Assuming that you have a real first and last name. I go by my middle name; I have never used my legal name socially. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2009 6:17:53 AM | I really do not get guys (or women) who lie about being married. If you're married and of a mind to screw around there's plenty of people out there who won't care that you're married. Give those of us who do care the chance and the right to say, "I'm not that kind of person. This is not what I want." Not to mention, it's a damn good way to get yourself shot. I've said before - I worked in a maximum security prison for 10 years - you guys want to know how many people I can name right off the top of my head who are in prison (many for life) because of this kind of behavior? They caught their spouse/SO screwing around and killed them and/or the other person. The other person caught on to the fact that they were being played... On and on it goes.
I've also said that I've been surprised at how many ex-convicts and convicted wife beaters I've recognized on here and other dating sites. Someone should start a dating site where they do a criminal background check before putting up your profile. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2009 10:01:56 AM | So many of you sound like scared little bunnies hiding under a bush. My god people... get out, have a life, meet people... meet NEW PEOPLE. Meet others from POF.
Someone else had mentioned using your intuitions... USE THEM (or dig yours out from behind the brick wall you built around it.
I think one of the primary social ills of our time is a lack of TRUST... over 99.99% of people are NICE people; they are just trying to enjoy and get through life the best they can with the brain and circumstances they were given. Very few are out to harm you, but some people here are making it sound like there's a boogyman behind every door.
If I meet a woman here who has the list... you know:
12 emails,
4 phone calls
background check
and THEN a coffee in a very public place with 5 of her friends secretly sitting at other tables
I won't give her the time of day.
James, Seattle, Washington, USA, Earth | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 8:43:39 PM | You are not behind the times. I think that it is a good thing to google people because you never know who they are and what they do. You come to find that it is a small world.
For example, I live in Boston but I have friends in Florida and I just found out that mr. loveforbwn (who is very handsome) is married. I am not sure if he has any children but he is married and he puts on his page that he is single. I don't been to roast him but what type of man is that.
I honestly think that if you are going to get serious with any guy or that feelings is starting to arise you need to do a background check. You do not want to be in baby mama drama or even dating a mass-murderer.
That's my opinion. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 2:51:06 AM | Being cautious is never a bad idea.
Just make sure you get your information from a credible source.
I searched my initials "JMIM" on myspace and found a fake profile of a guy in an orange jail garb and a really disturbing profile. (Which I got myspace to DELETE)
Got me wondering if thats the profile women ran into when I gave them my myspace.
Then again, they should have been smart enough to see he looked nothing like me. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 10:06:06 AM | | I suppose if paranoia has taken you that far, or if some really negative experiences have made you that way, more power to you. Personally I could never be that rude or care that much about someones past. If you have kids, sure check the sex offender registry. What a womans past is to me is just that, and has little if anything to do with building a future. Really if I told a woman I was dating I had her checked, and didn't recieve a healthy slap in the face along with a goodbye I would lose a lot of respect for her. Trust is after all a large part of the foundation upon which a solid relationship is laid. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 9:07:14 AM | | I think everyone should run a background check on their gf/bf before it gets heavy. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 9:40:54 AM | sorry to disagree but:
1)If you google yourself it will not necessarily show your forum posts. Not if you are not logged into POF and if you regularily delete the tracking. Now if you google the username & plentyoffish toegether in the search criteria it should work. But that can already be accomplished in POF without google.
2) good luck on the IP address thing. A) It is easy to spoof an IP address. B) If you were savy enough to get my IP and traced it would show a location and state in which I've never lived and am not situate in.
3) MOST online background check systems are a ruse they either supply you with freely available public record data that you could have gotten on your own or nothing of value.
I google myself and nothing. Not a thing on me. My name is listed many times however it is not me.
Also remember this. Just because someone is a criminal, wacko, stalker, mean, nasty or whatever the issue is, do not think they are not intelligent.
They might be brilliant, an IT professional or good at covering their tracks. It is not hard to disguise your identity online and be private with your identity or your past. Hence why bother to try to find out the information that way. It is useless and gives you a false sense of security unless the person being "checked" is dumb. In which case simple questioning directly of that party should suffice.
This is not just opinion. | |
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