| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 6:04:39 AM | | I don't think it's really the money that a successful man has so much as it is the fact that the successful man proves that he is someone that is reliable and dependable. Not a free loader, expecting his woman to support him. Or at least that is my veiw on the situation | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 6:18:56 AM | Put it this way.
There are twins, same in every way except income.
1 makes $50,000 a year, the other make $250,000 a year.
Who would she pick?
See, it matters. They don't want to admit it but it does.
If they are 2 different ppl, then they would have different personalities. But I'll bite.....I would be happy with either I personally wouldn't go for one or the other by the amount of the money make. Depends on which one melts my heart. Hell I'd be happy with someone who only made $25,000 a yr. The amount of money doesn't matter as far as I am concerned...just have a JOB and pay YOUR BILLS and I am Happy | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:17:50 PM | Then you are indeed a unique woman....I don't mean to doubt your veracity or sound jaded, but alot of women have been attracted to me strictly because of my job/paycheck. They have made that fact quite plain in ways I will not go into here.
I recognize that I'm not God's gift to all women, but the one that does catch my heart and soul (but my mind first) will find happiness beyond the material that she never imagined.
Hope everyone's having a great weekend !
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:50:32 PM | I have yet to date a man for money....lol...hell you know any rich guys?? Cause I just keep falling for the poor saps....
Now if this topic was "a woman wants a dude that is actively working"...you may have something there! Last thing I want being a single mom is having to support a man too....and working just shows me you have at least some sense of responsibility.
If you are out of work and living at home with mom and dad....you arent going to impress many woman. If you are working...no matter what money you make....you are going to impress manny women. If you are rich...feel free to contact me......  | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:53:04 PM | | actually ive met all my past gfs when i was jobless and they didnt mind but somehow i always had money on me cant remember how it just pops up in my accounts SHHH but they really didnt care about the money if they do care about money over you, get away | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 1:28:46 PM |
if they do care about money over you, get away
Exactly right!!!
....my statement was in regards to older men by the way...you're only 19...so a girl shouldn't be grading you on the job thing either.....I was referring to men who are in their 30's as that is that age I tend to date. So I will rephrase " If a man is in his 30's or more...they should be working ...to not be working at that age makes most women question how motivated he is"
(Some exceptions apply!!!!)
Hmm I think I may have just stumbled across a new thread topic....lol!! | |
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| roxy-station in life
Posted: 11/5/2005 2:47:40 PM | | well spoken Roxy, its a shame more women dont share your view and intelligence. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 2:58:36 PM | I guess everyone has a different view of what a "lot" of money is! Personally, someone that can pay their bills, have a little extra for savings, fun, etc...is what I prefer...over someone who is paycheck to paycheck. (No offense...I have been p-2-p plenty of times!!)
Some people who have "lots" of money, are egotistical azzwipes who happen to be overly materialistic, think their money is enough to make up for personality and intellect, and are rather boring and....stiff!! LOL
I agree with whomever said ambition, drive, etc...are what is sexy! And piss on Blog, Slog, Frog or whatever his name was...trying to score some azz, a sugar momma, etc...is NOT ambition and drive in MY mind. :) | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 3:07:58 PM | | That's not true. Not all women want that. I, myself care more about the kind of person he is, and how he treats me. I can take care of myself financially, and do well at it. I don't need a man for that. Keep looking, you'll find a lady who likes you for who you are, not how big your paycheck is. Best wishes.. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 4:34:04 PM |
I get it now, ha ha, I guess if I were a woman I'd want a dude that had lots of money.
can't blame them.
got to get a better job.
Well. To enlighten you and your brothers who seem to think the above is any kind of fact. Personally, if I wanted a man who was rich, I'd already have one and I'd not be wasting time in this lot looking around.
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:14:06 PM | re response from jimb77 "Put it this way.
There are twins, same in every way except income.
1 makes $50,000 a year, the other make $250,000 a year.
Who would she pick?
See, it matters. They don't want to admit it but it does."......
It matters to who? Sounds like it’s an insecurity problem of yours...I would not pick between two twins based on their income!!! Once again...another person generalizing.......you guys who think this way have got to learn that just because you keep dating gold diggers, or being turned down by them doesn't mean that this applies to the majority of women...where the Hell are you meeting these people?...
...and here's a thought, how do you know all these women will or won't go on one date with you or will or won't continue to date you, based on your income? How would they know how much money you make? If a guy walks up and asks me out, how do I know how much money he has? How would I be able to turn him down based on that? (And 'no', seeing what he drives or where he lives does not show how much money a person actually has or makes...they could be in hock up to their eye balls and seriously in debt, or they can be living in a cheaper place, driving a cheaper car, with all their debts paid off and money in the bank- and choosing the amount on your profile means almost nothing, because you could be lying either way)
So clearly you guys who think this way are leaving out some details in this scenario; if a woman has said yes or no to a date with you, she must have liked or disliked you based on something else, unless you started the conversation by telling her how much you do or do not make. Either way, if that's the case you're being turned down or accepted because of you're own stupidity; Either she cares what you make because she's a gold digger and you just caused the issue yourself, or she doesn't care what you make and she thinks you're a jerk for bringing it up...
I have NEVER known how much money a man has because I've never been shallow enough to ask......I have however been on first dates where the guys wants to divulge this information in great detail and I don't want to hear it, or they pull out a wad of $100 bills to see if I'm impressed.....and there were no second dates by my choice, based on their own need to be pretentious, and not mine.
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:35:16 PM | and on the other side of the coin I do know there are lots of gold diggers out there. But if a woman seems to be going that way in the conversation, don't continue to see them or talk to them...or if it's a first date and I was the guy in that secenario, I'd totally put her in her place for being so shallow....
But I just think something has to be missing here; one guy (sorry I don't remember your name) a few posts back sounded completely sincere and didn't sound like he thought every woman on the planet was like that, but said too many woman wanted to date him based soley on his job/paycheck? Once again I ask, how the heck do they know what you make? It just doesn't make sense that these are long term relationships where suddenly the woman finds out what you make and says "Hey, I just don't think you make enough money, now that I know what that amount is"....
Whatever the reason, all women do not think that way and there just may be a subtle or not so subtle way that you guys are attracting the gold diggers... | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:51:08 PM |
Despite everything these nice ladies are saying, security and success does make a man more attractive to women.
As does it make a woman more attractive. And if it doesn't, it should. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:55:02 PM | Guys, no woman is going to admit to being attracted to rich guys - it will make them appear shallow. So, they will keep saying "all I care about is a guy with a nice personality."
I can only talk from my own experience, but right up until my late 20s my success with women was only average. Then I started to make a reasonable about of money, and many more women became interested. By the time I was in my mid-30s I had what most folks would consider a lot of money - and I retired. I live a good lifestyle, travel a lot, have a few homes, and I can tell you that it DOES make a big difference in women's interest.
The second thing that I noticed made a difference is when I started to work-out at the gym. After a few months even "feminist" friends of mine started getting cuddly and grabbing my arms or chest and making "seductive" comments.
Overall, despite what the women say here, I have found women to be attracted to four things (in order):
(1) Confidence
(2) Money
(3) Muscles
(4) Humour
Again, just like men here want to "put their best foot forward" so do the women, so I am sure women here will say "not me, I am only interested in somebody who is nice" ... well, yes, "nice ... and with the four things above" | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:59:29 PM |
Overall, despite what the women say here, I have found women to be attracted to four things (in order):
(1) Confidence
(2) Money
(3) Muscles
(4) Humour
Sorry.... for me.. I have to change that order:
(1) Humour
(2) Confidence
Muscles? *Shaking my head*. Money? As long as he is capable of supporting himself and takes care of his responsibilities, that is no more than I would expect him to expect of me.
Tired of being lumped into the *gold-digging* group. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:01:22 AM |
Guys, no woman is going to admit to being attracted to rich guys - it will make them appear shallow. So, they will keep saying "all I care about is a guy with a nice personality."
I can only talk from my own experience, but right up until my late 20s my success with women was only average. Then I started to make a reasonable about of money, and many more women became interested. By the time I was in my mid-30s I had what most folks would consider a lot of money - and I retired. I live a good lifestyle, travel a lot, have a few homes, and I can tell you that it DOES make a big difference in women's interest.
The second thing that I noticed made a difference is when I started to work-out at the gym. After a few months even "feminist" friends of mine started getting cuddly and grabbing my arms or chest and making "seductive" comments.
Overall, despite what the women say here, I have found women to be attracted to four things (in order):
(1) Confidence
(2) Money
(3) Muscles
(4) Humour
Oh, Splog, Splog, Splog! You could not be more misinformed about the bulk of women!! (There ARE gold diggers, of course!)
Have you ever considered that, when YOU started earning a significant amount of money, that your self-esteem, confidence, presentation, etc. increased...and you were more attractive to women for THOSE reasons?! Not to mention, you were probably able to "put yourself out there" more often and in places that exposed you to more women??
Your list is waaay off! Mine would be:
1) Intellect
2) Even keeled sense of humor
3) Ambitious, but not a workaholic
4) Emotionally adept
5) Physically appealing
See....MONEY or income is no where on the list!!! :o)~ | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:25:51 AM | | In my experience, you can be sweet, honest, trustworthy, and all the other things that do not include being well-off financially, and it is still not enough. I know there are women who may not be so shallow, but I have never met any personally....too bad for us nice guys, we finish last again! | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:33:41 AM | | To me it is not how much money the guy makes but is he proud that he goes out and works for what he has and isn't a bum sitting around doing nothing. I have never expected someone to take care of me financially. But I don't want to date a guy that is going to sit around the house doing nothing either. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 9:21:24 AM |
Your list is waaay off! Mine would be:
1) Intellect
2) Even keeled sense of humor
3) Ambitious, but not a workaholic
4) Emotionally adept
5) Physically appealing
Danny DeVito has (at least) the first four of those - would you, or many other women here, be keen to be in an intimate relationship with him (assuming he was also penniless of course)? | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 10:06:17 PM | Well Danny Devito is not "physically appealing" to me since he is a bit height challenged for my preference...but otherwise, sure!
BTW...how do YOU happen to know that DD is emotionally adept?? LOL | |
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Joined: 5/3/2005
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 10:07:31 PM | Seems to me the "nice" guys and the rest of the men here don't care to read or listen to women who are telling them this is not the case.. I for one, have lost my interest in this thread. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 11:41:20 PM | @ the OP......
I shall shortly scan my latest bank statements and put them on my profile.
@Splog - you cannot always tell from their lifestyles...some who have a nett worth of
5 to 6 times of what the average earner has by way of property and other assets
lead modest lifestyles...while some who have huge debts seemingly lead lavish lifestyles..
The evil credit cards bring I tell ya........... | |
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