| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/19/2006 9:27:25 PM | When in those shoes, ie. financially affluent, I would still "fly below every ones radar".
Why? I love subterfuge. Like Sam Walton: dress down, simple, plain.
This way you get to see humanity for what it really is.
Dressing up and having flashy get-up only lets you see the phony side of humanity.
If I would drive in expensive motorcycle or in an Aston Martin Vanquish,
I would most likely wear dark lenses so that I can move around incognito.
My style would remain non-chalant & stoic. But that is me. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/21/2006 12:49:45 AM | | It's not how you dress or what you drive... its the fact that you can support your self, and don't need to rely on someone. I prefer to see a guy in a comfy pair of jeans than a suit. And why spend a fortune on a car? there are better things to spend it on. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/21/2006 5:32:16 AM | I am going to chime in here too.
First of all, the men (and women) I have known who are financially successful don't drive fancy cars or spend money on all the "stuff" that people here seem to think is the markings of wealthy people. They are all well aware of the 'trap' of sliding into the addiction for "stuff" and just don't waste money on it.
Next, I believe that most women want men who are successful. This has the primary effect of making these men happy people. Men especially are driven to be successful in whatever they do..and when they are not, they are miserable people and make those around them miserable too.
The side effect of being successful in life is that these people are busy, driven, happy with themselves and a joy to be around. Often, they are also wealthy (comes with success more often than not).
I know that some men like to blame women for being gold diggers, but face it.... successful people are happier over all. The kind of people everyone likes to be around. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/21/2006 8:10:06 PM | First of all, the men (and women) I have known who are financially successful don't drive fancy cars or spend money on all the "stuff" that people here seem to think is the markings of wealthy people. They are all well aware of the 'trap' of sliding into the addiction for "stuff" and just don't waste money on it.
Next, I believe that most women want men who are successful. This has the primary effect of making these men happy people. Men especially are driven to be successful in whatever they do..and when they are not, they are miserable people and make those around them miserable too.
The side effect of being successful in life is that these people are busy, driven, happy with themselves and a joy to be around. Often, they are also wealthy (comes with success more often than not).
I know that some men like to blame women for being gold diggers, but face it.... successful people are happier over all. The kind of people everyone likes to be around.
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Agreed.
But I like the idea of just living within your means and never attract unwanted attaention.
This way you will be with people you pick and choose and be happy with.
Nothing irritates successful people when you see people coming out of the wood work
and act as sycophants and are oh so phony.
People in general like sincere people..the GENUINE ARTICLE.
an example of a good lesson in life would be to see the movie:
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.
Money may not buy happiness, but being true to yourself and being
mature mentally and spiritually are more important. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/21/2006 8:26:03 PM | NOT TRUE (althou it might help if u wanna take a lass out on a date ) lol
ya need to have the cash to pay 4 it lmao but wat we all really want is a bloke that knows how to keep his belt buckled n his pants up wen ur not there cos all the blokes i seem to pick kinda find there way to the nearest slappers house lmao
i also like a man that make sme laff he gotta have humor hun cannot live wiv out it
so ma man cud be a bin man 4 all i care as long as he had a shower staright home from work lmao xxx | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/21/2006 8:39:31 PM | NOT TRUE (althou it might help if u wanna take a lass out on a date ) lol
ya need to have the cash to pay 4 it lmao but wat we all really want is a bloke that knows how to keep his belt buckled n his pants up wen ur not there cos all the blokes i seem to pick kinda find there way to the nearest slappers house lmao
i also like a man that make sme laff he gotta have humor hun cannot live wiv out it
so ma man cud be a bin man 4 all i care as long as he had a shower staright home from work lmao xxx
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I am not saying do not be ambitious. Far from it, make every effort to be self employed/successful. But one needs to be aware of pitfalls when they flaunt wealth.
Heck, I would rather be a very successful man, who as a toy owns a night club.
But I would be the wealthy guy in the shadows just people watching and not attract
unwanted attention. This way I would be like Sam Walton, move around unbothered and undisturbed and really enjoy life.
Also, not be indebt (and living in a house of cards).
Buy the way, clothes made at JC PENNEYS, SEARS, MENS WAREHOUSE, are just as good as anything made in Savile Row or Brooks Brothers...plus you SAVE MONEY.
The truly wealthy are the frugal and financially astute.
Now that makes for happiness. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/21/2006 10:27:33 PM | I can vouch for the quality of clothes one can buy at Sears. The Land's End label clothing at Sears is very attractive, stylish and very popular here in New England/New York. I buy plenty of my clothes at Sears.
Another excellent place to shop is Costco. You can get nice designer clothes for less at Costco. Costco is an excellent company, by the way. They treat their employees very well, and I'd much rather shop at a Costco than at a Wal Mart any day.
For those who really want their money's worth, Marshall's, Savers and TJ Maxx sell wonderful designer clothes for less money.
As a student, I rather like being able to buy nice clothes at a reasonable price. One can dress like a rich person without even being rich by knowing how to get the money's worth on clothes and accessories.
Happy Shopping!!
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/22/2006 8:57:11 AM | | Every man I've ever dated was about at my level financially (not poverty stricken, but not rolling in the moolah by any stretch of the imagination though paying the bills and having a good time every so often isn't a problem) or made less than I do. The thought of dating a guy with a lot of money makes me nervous because he'd probably want to do things I couldn't afford to do, and if he insisted he'd eventually see me as a burden because he had to pay my way. Noooooo thank you.... | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/23/2006 4:50:32 AM | MysticRogue,
Yes, I think you are right.
I have had people (men and women) who want to join me in my business and travel with me to "help out". I can't get away from these people fast enough since it is clear they want to live my lifestyle while I provide the means. One fellow actually told me that straight out.
The other thing that strikes me here is the way so many people judge success by what a person drives and wears. I drive a very old toyota, and usually dress in beatup jeans with paint all over them. I look like I was dressed from the nearest dumpster. Since I work everyday and never know when I might get right into the work myself....it makes sense to wear what I can throw out when I am done. But, I am judged by what I wear and what I drive. Good! Keeps the people who just want someone to use away from me. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/23/2006 8:48:07 AM | MysticRogue,
Yes, I think you are right.
I have had people (men and women) who want to join me in my business and travel with me to "help out". I can't get away from these people fast enough since it is clear they want to live my lifestyle while I provide the means. One fellow actually told me that straight out.
The other thing that strikes me here is the way so many people judge success by what a person drives and wears. I drive a very old toyota, and usually dress in beatup jeans with paint all over them. I look like I was dressed from the nearest dumpster. Since I work everyday and never know when I might get right into the work myself....it makes sense to wear what I can throw out when I am done. But, I am judged by what I wear and what I drive. Good! Keeps the people who just want someone to use away from me.
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I understand and sympathize what you are going through.
What those pople should do, if they want to be active and "chase the lifestyle",
is sign up with a Multi-Level Marketing (MLM). Those organizations desire
people with that pent up energy.
My understanding is that you are an independant entrepreneur/businessperson.
Your lifestory reminds me of the book titled: THE MILLIONAIRE NEXT DOOR.
1. These people live modestly and within means.
2. They put their money in investements, ie. their business or propert(ies).
3. Have VERY LITTLE or NO credit card debt
(these accts are kept at 0 balance and used only for necessary business essentials).
4. Homes are generally paid up & owned free and clear
5. Generally obtain things through auctions
6. Have very STABLE marriage lives (very few or NO divorces here).
7. The kids generally become business persons and pay their own way to college.
8. Shop at: Sears/JC Penney/Kmart/Costco/Walmart.
9. Fond of coupons
10. cars tend to be domestic, or very reliable reasonable priced foreign brands.
You really will appreciate this book. These are all GOOD traits.
I know you would appreciate DAVID RAMSEY a radio personlaity.
He preaches frugality, zero debt, home ownership with mortgage paid ASAP.
Common sense is the motto and rule. His vocal 'twang betrays him as being from
the southern states or somewhere in the Midwest.
Hey, about those pesky sycophants, if you want them to get involved in an MLM
send 'em over. I know a fast growing organization that would love to
recruit and utilze their energies. A win-win situation for all parties.
Hang in there, and enjoy the incognito lifestyle. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/23/2006 3:03:28 PM | | To me it doesnt matter how much or little a guy makes, as long as he is working and trying to accomplish something with his life. I work hard and would hope to find someone that feels the same way I do. Im a very independent woman and have worked very hard for everything I have in my life, even though its not much its something. | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/23/2006 3:09:55 PM | I never looked for a "dude" and money has never been a criteria for dating - but that being said, if the relationship is going to work there does have to be a certain level of independance (meaning he has the resouces to take care of himself so that he doesn't become a financial burden to me). I never expect a man to pay my way in life but on the flip side it would be nice to meet a man who I didn't have to support financially. An equal is always preferred.
Kay | |
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| I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 4/23/2006 3:11:35 PM | It would be nice to be able to retire, but I do want to have some success to call my own before that happens. Since I have dreams of owning a design business, someone who understands the business ownership situation may be a good match for me.
I could even see myself still working well into retirement age because I enjoy interior design, work keeps my mind stimulated, and it's a pleasure to be of service to customers. There's a certain satisfaction to working and making a difference, however small, in other people's lives. As long as I enjoy it I will continue to work, even if the man I ultimately marry has plenty of money.
^^^ I agree with the above poster, if someone is pretty even with you moneywise that can work out quite well. | |
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