| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:05:38 AM | Oh this is a country band ?? Do they have groupies ?
have you seen the women who follow these bands from club to club? If they have all their teeth and don't wear shirts with sequins
Since I've never seen a country band I would have no frame of reference :) somehow I just picture that scene in the movie with the blues brothers playing Rawhide over and over with the chicken wire cage and the beer bottles being thrown at them. | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 9:45:56 AM | | Musicians are just like anyone else except they share their thoughs and emotions on stage for all to hear. I think if the chemistry is right and you truly enjoy the company of each other, and you connect emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually it wouldn't matter if he was a garbage man (nothing against garbade men you guys do a great service) | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 10:07:46 AM | I've played the drums in various bands for a long time. And supposedly the drummers are the wild, promiscous ones. This isn't true with all musicians. I began playing in clubs and bars for something to do on weekends, something that was fun that still brings a little extra cash, cash that could support my habit--more drums, hardware, and new cymbals. If I was dating someone, I would never take the flirting after the show seriously. I might flirt back, but that's just to get some of the women to come to the next show and pay the cover so that I could keep bringing in cash. Now, if I wasn't dating anyone at the time (and I'm not right now), then I do what I want.
Point is--I'm an active musician on the weekends (a weekend drummer warrior) and I have never cheated on any of my partners. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2005 11:56:14 AM | To SunFlower.
I can understand you concerns regarding opinions of others about dating a musician. I have recently come out of a relationship where that was an issue from the beggining. I have been a musician most of my life. I have toured as lead guitarist for several country acts. David Allen Coe, Charlie Pride, Brad Paisley, Lori Morgan... Growing up I was like some of the readers in this forum. Thinking that country music was all about hillbillys and red necks, no teeth, chewing tobacco woman with too much blue eye shadow and guys called "Bubba" that like nothing more than to get drunk and beat the hell out of family members. But it was actually quite different than I imagined. Some of the most beautiful people I have known love country music. I suppose it is all relevant. Regardless of the type of entertainment, there are always those people that take things to the extreme and are a little different. This brings me to my point (finally). Being able to perform in front of an audience and express yourself musically is an incredible outlet for expression. Most players are passionate about there job and are there to entertaine and hopefully get back from the crowd what they giving. There are those musicians that use music as a venue to drink, drug and chase women. Those can be spotted a mile away. Some of the most respected people I know are in the music business. Happily married with children, single, engaged or with girl friends, involved in church and their communities. I suppose it is really a matter of trust and following your heart. It sounds like you have known this person for some time. You will have to decide for yourself whether you can live with the lifestyle of a musician. You've found someone who is not afraid to express himself in front of hundreds of people. When you are alone, he will be able to focus all of that expression on just one person...you. Good Luck! | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 2:30:29 PM | lol...............you know what at this point i don't think it matters if they are in a band, a truck driver, factory worker or anything else it depends on the man and these days
I am not to sure about any of them...............................lol | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 4:30:02 PM |
I always trust my imagination and wildly paranoid suspicions over any real evidence I might have...
This little snippet of sarcasm would be so freakin' funny if it didn't describe me completely.
OT: Trust NO ONE!  | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 4:55:37 PM | | I'm in a band and I'm such a straight forward honest person. Follow what you own instincts are about this man not stupid stereotypes people will have you believe. | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:12:07 PM | | Well, yes why couldn't you? It isn't the band it is the kind of person in the band! If he/she is a cheater he/she will cheat. If he/she is faithful to you then they won't. | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:17:59 PM | i havent read most of the replies just cause im sleepy lol but, i know 2 guys in a band here in ottawa and they arent the most trust worthy relationship ppl lol
i hope you find what your looking for. | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:22:19 PM | | If he makes a good living off of being a musician then you have a 30% chance that he won't cheat on you. But if he is just getting by or does it for extra income I would guess that you have about a 15% chance. Thats my personnel experience with ppl I have dated in bands.. Good luck!! | |
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Posted: 11/4/2005 8:01:34 PM | jashar
wow sorry about your personal experience
I can assure you that it is just that .......
YOUR EXPERIENCE
no reason to label all musicians as creeps
I mean what about actors?
or
oh no......... accountants !!?
I hear those bean counters really like to keep a number around.....
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Posted: 11/4/2005 8:15:05 PM | ms bekka
I am not in a a band right now....
some women dig the fact that I play guitar
(some do not give a poop)
I think some people have a respect for it because it is an
artisic expression .....and alive
so many paper pushers are kind of dead inside
like they just gave up that part of themselves
and decided it was cool to become their parents...........
the few of us who flipped a bird to that kind of thinking
are admired by some
and shunned by the conservative uptight wet blanket
paper pushers of the world
at the end of the day I know I am right
because ,I still have something burning inside of me and they do not
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:15:58 PM | (Ah Jimi, now that's why I have some bad memories all around football season -- scratchy uniforms on rock-hard nipples, cold metal on the lips, cold feet ... did you hafta bring that up?)
Musicians are just people too. We had a lead player once who got more BJs than any man deserves. I guess that makes him a bad guy is someone's eyes and a major catch it other's people's eyes -- but swear to ya -- he was just people too (kinda shiney tho). | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:50:38 PM | | and yet I'm the only one that notices her asking if her band boy would cheat on her while she has a dating profile on this site. Pffft. You're all crazy... especially the guy flashing his nipples at everyone. | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/4/2005 10:07:09 PM | agstang
I'm the only one that notices her asking if her band boy would cheat on her while she has a dating profile on this site
good call !!!!
ya what is up with that ?
ps
I am not crazy .........
that was my Halloween costume
some of us 'flash our nipples' cause we can.................
some of us get uptight about it,because that is all they got left
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Posted: 11/4/2005 10:22:11 PM | I do a lot of session work, as well as fronting my own band and doing my own solo work on the side. I've been doing all this for about...six years, I guess. I've been playing guitar for a little over eight.
The bottom line is THIS: musicians are people, like it or not. This means that some of them are good in relationships and some are not. However, the same can be said about accountants, doctors, farmers and so on and on and on...
A person should never be judged by their occupation. A few things in this thread really made my eyes twitch; for the people who have known some really crazy, party animal musicians, what makes you guys think that we're ALL like that? When my band does a show at a bar, the bassist and I usually hang out together afterwards for an hour or so, talk to some people, socialize, then leave...without women tagging along. The other guitarists and the drummer stay behind and usually end up getting into some sort of trouble by the end of the night. Not everyone is the same; even people in the same band can be very, very different.
I guess my point is this: look at the person and not what they do for a living. If there is no indication that someone has (or will) cheat on you, then they probably won't. The fact that there is music involved does not change that. | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/12/2005 4:10:12 AM | Well...i always like a man with some musical liking...haha!! I've a ex bf who is in a punk rock band...but he is really sweet and nice to me...Sometimes guys in band can b really romantic...He even wrote a song on me..haha!! that's the best thing i ever received from a guy...
Once again...u can't judge one by it's look or profession...U can only judge him by his character and how he is willing to treat u with all his heart... | |
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/12/2005 4:15:34 AM | People are people whether they play in a band or not. I had my own band...was the singer...and some men just seem to go nuts over that! Sure, there is increased opportunity, but it is up to the person to go for it or not...
The men I know in bands get used to the attention. They like it and lap it up...or they think it is nice, but uh...have to go home and feed the goldfish now. Or, they hate it and just love playing the music!
It is the quiet unassuming bass player you REALLY have to watch out for... ...and the drummer....and the rythym...Oh man...the tambourine man!! lol and...me Seriously...anyone who is not trustworthy during the daylight will carry that to the stage...and vice versa...
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| can u trust a 'man/woman who plays in a band?
Posted: 11/12/2005 5:06:54 AM | I am in a band.
the drummer is an evangelical christian who adores his wife
the keyboardist is from the drummers church and is devoted to her husband
the guitarist is practically celibate
and the bass player is a right old b@stard who is a lot of fun and very choosy about his women.
We play oldies so our "groupies" are at least 50 years old. Nothing to worry about | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 5:37:00 AM | | You can't just not trust someone because they are in a band. It all depends on the person and their values. Look at Paul Mcartney...he was married for how long to his first wife? and from what I understand, she toured with him, and they spent every night together. He was probably the most wanted man in the world, and he was devoted to his relationship with his wife. | |
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