| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:39:21 AM | just keep it up, you seem like a nice guy. If you keep this up, you'll gain her trust and she'll respect you for that. I know, I used to be like that. Good luck  | |
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:33:23 PM | Maybe I'll forgive you, eventually... keep working on it.
I asked for forgiveness but I needn't beg and I have nothing more to "work on" here other than to learn from my mistakes. I think your ego is getting in the way. Whether I receive that forgiveness from you or not is irrelevant. I've done my part in asking for it. I forgive myself. That works for me.
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:52:29 PM | | Blast-I have to say that comments you have made on this and other posts have contributed largely to my LIKE of you. :) I think you call it as you see it and if the details aren't technically correct here, you seem to have the jist. This guy is 20 years old and seems to have all of the wisdom, compassion, and concern for others typically displayed by young men his age. | |
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:40:19 AM | | I think sagagirl gave some great advice. Find out what her interests are and talk to her about them. That should open her up a lil bit. I too am shy in 'real life' and tend to be pretty quiet until i feel comfy around someone. I also think just what you are doing is great also. Humor is a huge thing for me and helps break the ice. She sounds like she could be a really sweet girl. Hang in there JT,,,and besta luck! | |
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/6/2005 9:57:04 AM | I'll say Blastkist.... you have been more positive...
I too have seen it...
We all can get in a rut.... positive action gains positive results...
I relearn that every day.... | |
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/6/2005 12:45:11 PM | Orlando, I'm usually what is known as a very positive , upbeat and congenial person but I must admit, this place has changed me in some strange ways.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming this place for my behaviour but it did influence me greatly in my behaviour. I had to wonder what had me feeling so frustrated and angry inside. It was really bad a month ago. Everything in my home life has been going well so it wasn't that. Then I realized the impact the people's words had on me here.
I feel pretty sheepish for having allowed myself to go along with something I abhore. I feel the remorse of that now. It just showed me that maybe this isn't a very positive place for me and that I need to consider other ways of relating to singles. | |
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/6/2005 12:57:24 PM | | Maybe she is not use to dating she is only 18. When I was in highschool I couldn't even eat in front of a boy. I was so nervous and scared. But not now. I'm better at it. | |
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 11/7/2005 4:33:17 PM | I like the poster that commented on not bringing up her shyness. Being shy myself, one thing that really erks me is when people ask why I'm shy or say that I never talk or put me on the spot telling me to say something.
I am better now that I am older, but this girl is only 18. When I was that age I had no clue on how to talk to people and carry on a conversation. It is only after many years of working at it that my shyness has improved, though it will never be gone. Unfortunately not everyone is blessed with naturally communication skills when they are born.
My suggestion is to just keep talking with this girl. Over time she will ease up to you. Yes that means being friends first. Once she recognizes you as a close friend so will be more open with you. Like most shy people, to strangers we never talk, but once we know you very well you can't get us to shut up. | |
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| how to deal with shy girls?
Posted: 2/13/2006 6:33:43 AM | I hate to say this, but trying to play it cool and stay until she opens up to you unfor. sometimes works in opposite way. and you end up being nothing but a good friend and gettnig dumpped. (now I say this from experience)
but my suggestion to you is, let her know sooner than later that she needs to trust you and that you're not a kind that'll take her for a ride.
physically connection is a key...hand touch/hug/kiss.
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