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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/31/2006 7:58:45 AM | "Waitress? Could I get a side of generalization with my fries?"
Great! Here's to all the broad strokes and to covering up details!
Life would be sssoooooo much better if things were all packaged in short, sound-bite generalities.
I guess there are some who are less likely to read some profiles based just on the apparent attitude presented. But I wouldn't--no, not me.
David
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/31/2006 1:49:11 PM | Hey, all:
Okay, here is my serious answer. For what it's worth I'll even say what an attractive profile looks like, and why that leads me to be interested in someone. Of course, my examples reflect my tastes and ideals, so the opposite works for some others.
My blunt answer to this extremely generalized question is "No". BUT, there are many times when I read a profile and want more, much more, even to the extent of reading it over again. But, often I lose interest very quickly while reading others. For instance, if I see the woman smokes I quit right there: Done. Other things, such as too much religion, will also turn me away. So there are specific items that make or break a reading session. Be honest, though, that's all we have.
A woman's photograph(s) are very important. I would be far more interested in the woman who has a really cute snapshot of her with little or no makeup and just a nice, inviting, friendly smile, than I would be in the woman who has the fancy glamour portrait of her with big smile, makeup, gown, and all sorts of geegaws. And who really spends all her time looking up over her shoulder showing her cleavage? Or her hand near her face? So things like that are important. Just grab a camera and a friend who knows which end is which (of the camera), go outside (yeah, outside, but it can be cloudy), laugh, fool around, and get some shots. About a godzillion times better than anything else.
The text of the profile is even more important. Please, starting out with "Ooooh, I hate this part" is too lame for any known words or even sounds. And personally, I think longer is much, much better, provided it makes sense. I would much rather read more about a woman than less. I completely disagree with those who say 'short but sweet' or 'less is more'. Those work in other situations but not here. I have always felt longer is better in most situations, provided it's good, especially in relationships. If I read 10-20 words from someone, first, where has she been all her life to have nothing to say, and second, is this how it will be if we meet, for coffee or dinner?
Rambling, run-on sentences, poor spelling and grammar, no punctuation, lack of capitalization, all give me an itchy mouse finger. And...the...constant...use...of...ellipses.... Please use a period to end a sentence and a capital letter for the next sentence. Gawd, speaking just about U.S. users now, there are millions, maybe billions, of people whose basic English grammar is better than what I see here.
Please
use
the
return
key.
And "iff ya wanna knwo, jus ast me...ya no...i mean...hit me up...wutev..." First, horrible spelling and grammar, and second, this is where the world IS asking YOU! This is your big chance! Thrill me!
We all use our profiles as advertisements and as filters, so it helps to try and make them the best they can be. Isn't that what you what from a relationship?
So, yeah, I don't read all of every profile. Who does? But the better it is, the longer I can go.
David
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/31/2006 4:23:53 PM | It's like reading entrance requirements to a program you want to get into or a posting for your dream job. You present the best face you can with the tools you have.
I usually read profiles unless they're longer then 3 paragraphs and I never read ones with long lists of demands unless I'm hooked by the rest of the profile. I'm new to the site so I don't know if email filters allow you to exclude people automatically. | |
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RuMoR
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Joined: 5/31/2006
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/31/2006 5:24:05 PM | I like reading posts, I get a kick out of it sometimes, I'm not really into reading the same old song and dance though, I usually skim to the bottom to see the date first, if I see Dinner and a movie one more time, I think I'm going to scream, I look for originality, and honesty myself.
There is nothing I find more amusing I have to admit, then reading a post that says she's a down to earth girl, mean while in her picture she has nails 4 inches long, died blond hair and makeup smeared on every square inch of her face. They say you can't judge a book by it's cover, but a picture says a thousand words. As long as the picture is fairly recent, you can tell a lot from it. Besides just physical appearances. IMO anyway.
God bless
RuMoR | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/1/2006 9:06:44 AM | Hey, Rumor:
I just saw a great example of the contradiction you mentioned: like I said I look to see if a woman smokes--it indicated 'no'--her lead picture showed her with a butt! Now I know that doesn't matter to some, but the contradiction just made me shake my head--then my mouse finger started itchin' real bad!
So, for everybody, another really appropriate answer to the question--for both genders--is if things are so contradictory, what do you believe? Doesn't it make you wonder--and move on?
David
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/1/2006 10:10:28 PM | | No I don't read the whole profile. If it's longer then 5 lines I figure it's a woman who talks alot and I don't bother to message.... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/2/2006 12:50:01 AM | | for me if the looks are there then ill read on till i find something i dont like. but even if i do like the whole package i still sometimes dont even bother sending a message. | |
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tinska
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Joined: 4/28/2006
Msg: 436 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:54:00 AM | Here in Vancouver Canada I can say 50% of men do not.
Do I always read to the bottom of all profiles ...no... but if I am going to IM or email them I do.
How do I know only 50% do- well I had a test- there was a part at the bottom of my profile that thanked the men for reading my whole profile and asked them to put "I love art" in the subject line- well for messages the failure rate was 50% and the IM rate was so high 90% I was no longer taking IM. I responed to the 1st few messages that came through withdout the "I love art" with " i was hoping you could read to the bottom of my profile before you responed to me" ...well I was raked over the colals with swear wors and all- I am so happy I never met these men... and I love the test- it shows me who has respect and who does not.
Is it not just simple respect to read a whole profile before you responed? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:59:44 AM | | I have had many responses from woman to my picture with none of any substance to my profile and the profile I have written on this site is short. As usual if men are guilty of an indiscretion women are no better. That said if any woman can get past the picture and actually read my profile feel free to write. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:13:19 AM | Yes i read the whole thing!
And i look at the pic's very closely.
I love those pics where the lady is perfect hair makeup, dressed great then in the background of the pic, the beds all messed the clothes are hanging out of the open drawers.
I won't read your profile if it's an essay until i see a contact starting then i'll read it in detail. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/3/2006 11:07:06 AM | | That is a pretty generalized statement isn't it? I asked for profile reviews from some women and get what? Nada. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:07:07 PM | | if the guy can't sit for a few minutes and read the words from a potential love interest than he can happily move right along to the next profile that says, "i don't like talking about myself here. if you want to know then ask" | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/3/2006 12:13:11 PM | I run into this a lot: when I see a profile I like, and go to read it, then all I see is:
Prefer not to Say
Tell ya later
Ask me and I'll tell you
Fill this in Later.
And you wonder why some profiles don't get read! I know it's not every woman, but it is certainly frustrating when you come across these types of profiles. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:14:09 AM | Responding to the question and not every thread. (guess maybe I didn't take enough time to read alllllll the threads)
Not being able to speak for all the men on here, I for one DO read the profiles and like many other do not put too much faith in what is written. Not to say that the content is false however there is a big similarity in many of the profiles .. .looking for honesty, open, not married etc....
I really enjoy reading a profile that doesn't stress so much what the individual is looking for because that seems to be commonplace, and places more emphasis on a little tidbit of the persons character.
So speaking only only for myself, you took the time to write the profile so it is the least I can do to take the time to read the profile. A good picture does help and no it does not have to be all about cleavage.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/4/2006 12:13:08 PM | | I've gotten an email before that seemed like it was a form email that he sends to everyone. If I can tell someone didn't read my profile, I won't respond to his email. Someone sent me a email that absolutely did not want a woman that had kids or wanted kids; my profile says i want kids. I also don't post my pic, due to I have a profile on another site and most of them send me emails based solely on the pic rather than the context of my profile. Because looks are not forever. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/4/2006 1:20:13 PM | | Yes I read whole profiles. If I don't see something I want to see, I move on, or ask questions if there is hope that they might call back. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/4/2006 2:28:57 PM | @mandrake48: frustrating when you come across these types of profiles
Well, yes and no - if the whole profile is like that then I move on, but if there's a little mystery involved then it's part of the fun to find out the missing bits  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/4/2006 4:01:03 PM | | I know what you mean! I put on my profile that I'm NOT interested in dating black men and I always get a ton of them emailing me. Then I reply for them to read my entire profile especially the part where I am not interested and they still don't get it. I wonder if it's like when you eat with your eyes? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/4/2006 6:37:32 PM | | Arri!? sounds like you are selling, so the whole forum is junked. For others I do read and have a sense of humor, relax people | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 6/5/2006 3:00:06 AM |
If they read profiles, they tend to ignore them, in my experience.
Then you have either had bad experiences or are assuming too much.
I read every profile if I contact a person, sure sometimes I forget stuff but I have the decency to check back on the profile in the early stages of chat to refresh my memory.
Let's face it I am sure most of us chat to more than 1 person. | |
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