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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:49:08 PM | they donnt get past your picture...men are visual....most never really care about our needs and what we want!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:51:13 PM | | I don't know about men generally, but I read the whole profile before I send someone a message. It's not like that entails reading dozens of profiles on a daily basis, and I don't have some limit of 100 words or something before I lose interest. I might not always remember everything that's in a profile, but I can't imagine expecting someone to want to read my message if I hadn't been willing to read their profile. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/5/2006 10:34:48 PM | I read the whole profiles, and I try to make a comment when I contact them saying something which tries to sound right to you ladies and I get no response....the only responses I get are from the ladies over seas that I really can not do anything with.
And really Ladies that say they like Fishing come off it... there is very few men that really enjoy fishing and it is not really the fishing they enjoy it is the quiet time they have away from everything else.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:58:06 PM | | These profiles on POF are very short. Some ppl have a few lines. So the guy probably read ur profile, if ur profile was long, after being use to so many short ones, someone will probably not read it. So, you see, you lose either way? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/6/2006 8:09:41 PM | LOL!!!! READING THIS I JUST CHUCKLE! IF THE MEN ON HERE BARELY EVEN READ THE PROFILES WE POST , WHAT WOULD BRING US TO BELEIVE THEY ARE EVEN CLEVER ENOUGH TO READ THIS STUFF? IF THEY WERE SMART THEY WOULDN'T MISS A WORD. MAYBE THEY'D HAVE A CLUE AS TO WHAT WE REALLY WANT AND NEED!! I COMMEND THOSE OF YOU WHO DO PAY ATTENTION TO OUR BABBLE. YOU WILL LEARN A LOT!! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/7/2006 6:20:19 AM | Oh, absolutely! I do read the whole profile. I like it if somebody has taken the time to write more than 2 sentences and I read it very carefully. Actually you can't get to know people from reading their profiles. But it CAN give you a very good idea of who they are and what they like/want, if it's well written.
On the other hand I'm hugely disappointed whenever I see a pretty face and no words to back it up. It then seems to me that this person has much more to offer on the outside than on the inside...
Now don't get me wrong. I like pretty faces, but they have to show much more to be taken seriously by people who look for more. Even a shy person can write much more than 2 sentences.
Peace
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/7/2006 6:44:20 AM | If I choose to correspond with a lady I will read the entire profile. But of course as with all of us Something has to grab our attention, your pic, the eye opening firstline or a catchy title.
As to the question of why we answer when we obviously don't fit the profile. I think that we all precieve ourselves differently than others do. I know women see thier weight differently from girl to girl. I met a lady who was 5'6" 120 lbs that put that she was heavy and more than one that was 160-170 who said they were slim. And once in a while you READ a profile that has that SOMETHING .....personality, common intrests, heart, soul, whatever. You know you don't exactly fit the bill but you keep going back for another look. Finally you say the worst thing that can happen is she tells you to drop dead, and just maybe that special thing you THINK you see will transend the differences in the profile | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/7/2006 10:57:04 AM | @wullis
And once in a while you READ a profile that has that SOMETHING .....personality, common intrests, heart, soul, whatever. You know you don't exactly fit the bill but you keep going back for another look. Finally you say the worst thing that can happen is she tells you to drop dead, and just maybe that special thing you THINK you see will transend the differences in the profile
Sage wisdom if I've ever seen it. Your words could have been mine, Brother. 
There have been many postings as to why people add individuals to their favourites list without contacting them. You've definitely hit upon a good reason for that as well. That bar is often set just a smidge too high. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/8/2006 8:18:31 PM | I can't imagine anyone not reading the whole profile? And whats all this nonsense about keeping the essays to 100 words??!! Is that what our culture has come to?? I mean... here we markenting the most precious comodity we are possessed of..."ourselves", and we are told, "hey...Keep it short"!! Quite frankly, the profiles that turn me off the most, are usually the one or two liners. What in the hell are you supposed to learn from that?
This isn't Speed dating. Its personals. My suspicion is that the guys who complain about the "long" profiles, are gramatically challenged...you know, half illiterate! Ouch.,..'readin all them dum words hurts mu brain'. Hey ladies, do you suppose there might be a direct coralation to a man who can't read more than 100 words, and a man who thinks tearing your clothes off is all the forplay you need?? ha ha. Something to consider?
A sensuous and truly romantic man, loves to read your long "personal" profiles. He wants to know something about you. He wants a slight glimpse into your spirit.
And...as usual, to you ladies who keep insisting on generalizing about men..... well, your'e just sabatoging your chances. | |
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Joined: 7/3/2006
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/9/2006 10:39:50 AM | | My biggest turn off are the guys who say "I loved your profile" and then ask questions like "what do you do for fun," "do you have kids," "what are you looking for?" And then if you're talking to them in IMs and say "read my profile" they get an attitude saying they were trying to make conversation. I'm unsure but I thought conversation was talking not asking 100 different questions. Unfortunately the guys that I do have great conversations with are over 1000 miles away. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/9/2006 2:02:32 PM | Dowling sounds like the kind of guy I'd like to meet. I doubt that I will get much action with my ad because I want a friend not a sex partner. Most guys will pass it up but thats okay too, because its going to take a special kind of guy to write to me, based on my profile.
But that is my idea, get to know someone before you jump in the bed. Any good relationship is based on trust first and that is earned over time. It is the meat of the relationship. There are many other ingredients needed before a couple gets to the dessert.
Too bad I didn't know these things when I was young. At my present age, I find that we , all of us have been through some long term relationships and carry some unwanted baggage. Men included, especially after the first "wrong" woman. It is not only women that become distrustful. Its going to take a lot of trust to move past that baggage.
The men and women who are so bitter that they give up, or just go for the sex, and tell themselves they don't care, are missing the best joy in life. True everyone is not worth the time it takes to do that, but you learn how to see past the mask people use to hide the real them. My key is to watch the people around them, friends and family. The way they treat these people is how you will eventually get treated. They have built up patterens of behaviors with these people , they cannot change that on a consistant basis, even if they try. Sorry didn't mean to get on a bandwagon, this is one thing I learned over time. I thought it might be useful to someone else. I saw that with my 2nd husband and married him anyway, it took about 16 - 18 months for him to change towards me as he did to others.Thanks for putting up with me Angelhelen47 | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/9/2006 2:29:05 PM | To give woman a look into "some" of the male mentality (this is definitely not true of all males): Some men do read the entire profile but it is still a mindset of quantity increasing your chances/odds. I guess that is why this is called Plenty of Fish... as obviously dating is kinda like fishing. Even though the woman provides a profile that makes it clear she is not interested in a certain type person.....a guy figures I'll cast my line out enough times eventually something or someone will bite. Doesn't hurt to try.....at the least they will not get a response. At best, they'll get a date. So really nothing to lose. I genuinely don't think guys are being rude or ignoring what woman state in their profile...they are just 
I personally try to only contact woman that I get a feel will be interested in me. Unfortunately, you only have a short profile to try to determine that. But those who are not interested are usually very nice about it and I fully understand. I get lots of hits/e-mails from woman that I am sure they know we are not compatible but I understand they won't know for sure unless they make contact. I guess for woman it may be even worse though as some of you ladies get high volumes of emails...so I do understand the reason for the thread. Best of luck to all  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/9/2006 2:52:07 PM | | I agree with you Jaad! I didn't have a picture of me when I first signed up and I usually had to do the contacting if I wanted to talk to anyone. But when I posted my pictures, I received 15 new messages from new users in the first ten minutes after posting! One of the guys that contacted me after this was someone that I had talked to through instant messaging on here for a few days then he said he wasn't interested. But suddenly he is after there's a pic. up! I'm still the exact same person he was talking to before! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/9/2006 3:07:44 PM | The girls should read the replys to their ads, sometimes they forget to sift thru the gravel to find the gold, as far as men, they look thru far enough to find out if it is just another obese ad whether a pic or not, it seems that anymore 90 percent of the women are obese and that is certainly a turn off for a man. that is why so many many many american men are finding their ideals in the foreign women, and overlooking the fat slobs here in the usa a man has to be drunk to stomach some of the so called american beauties or most of the time the men had just rather go and get their worm wet in the lake or river, ha ha | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/10/2006 6:55:02 AM | Can't always believe a picture either... who says that the picture they show IS them anyways? Personally, i do like a pretty woman.. who wouldnt like their partner to be attractive? but the profile. now there's where the REAL person comes out.
I dont like a short profile because it IN ITSELF, is showing that someone is not willing to actually be selective in what they want.. opting to just 'wait for the bundles to flow in' and filter them as their leisure. Is that fair to those who are sending? And yes.. what IF one of those is that 'Man or woman you have been searching for' but he is unable to express himself without comming across as just wanting one thing when in actuality.. thats what pictures tend to do..and some people also use seductive picturing in their profiles, then complain that people are horn-dogging them.
Theres really only one rule here: Work it at your own pace. There no need to reply to someone if u do not have any interest ..and noone should feel let down over it. We're all actively searching.. some of us dont know what we really want yet... but to assume ALL men just look at a profile with a picture is fascicious and Labelling.
Im more than certain some of you ladies wont look at a profile unless IT has a pic too.. and YOU are just as horned up as us guys too. There is no law stating u MUST reply or ecen consider a rude or indecent message.
Aint life wonderful? Instead of the negatives.. look at the positives.. least your profile interested SOMEONE... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:30:17 AM | | lol, probably just lazy, probably doing a mass spamm campaign. I do enjoy reading through a well written profile and even if someone does articulate thier wants and I don't fit them. I will message them anyhow if I have something funny to say. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/10/2006 9:32:38 AM | | of course we read the whole profile,,,,,,, how do you think we find a good match? At least i do, but maybe im special lol | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/10/2006 9:37:58 AM | i get this all the time. Men admit that they don't read my profile. They just see the pic and then contact me. Then they are mad when I tell them they are not what I am looking for.
Hello! that's why the profile is there.
They contact me and start talking to me, asking me questions that are clearly answered in my profile. I ask them, "Did you read my Profile"...and the normal response is "No, should I?"
lol...enough said. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/10/2006 1:18:04 PM | | I know, it drives me crazy. they say they liked my profile..sure they did they did not read it. I have a picture on my profile now, so they have a visual at least. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/10/2006 2:15:52 PM | I won't lie; it's the photo that usually draws my interest first--that or, here, an insightful or humorous post. That's not to say I'm completely appearance-driven, but I do need to see something I like. After that, I absolutely read every word of the profile--I'm combing it for series of red flags or hints that the person isn't real. Forgive me that--I'm used to Yahoo! and Match.
If I'm not what you claim to be looking for, I won't waste my time, your time, or the bandwidth! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/10/2006 5:31:12 PM | Hmmm...the irony of some of these postings verges on the hilarious.
We have Wyntir here (who from her profile, heh heh) would appear to be at least a reasonably intelligent woman.
Whose biggest turn off are idiot questions that reveal that the guy in question hasn`t read her profile, despite gushing about it.
Perhaps all that Wiccan earth magic and physical chemistry doesn`t reveal the inner mysteries of the universe after all...like, for example, why hordes of guys will jump at sending inane replies...
...to the young woman who posts a shot of herself posing seductively in what I`d call lingerie...
Oh Rhett Butler, I do declah, all you men are such savages...wheah is the chivalrous man of yesteryeah...
Right, of course, some guys skim through to find the cute ones and write anything inane. The others skim through to find the cute ones and see if fancy verbal footwork will work... | |
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