| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? anewlife4me
Posted: 7/29/2006 10:32:44 PM | | Yeah I always read the profile and try to start a conversation within the realms of interest of that person. Since I've had very little success with this model, I'm either doing it wrong or they just really don't want to talk to me, however I doubt that my own profile is bad enough to scare every single woman away. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/29/2006 11:02:44 PM | I definately read the whole profile. I try to find an insight into her personality and sense of humor. I'm one of those few guts here that really is looking for a long term commitment. I'm looking for a woman that has it all, brains, personality, a sense of humor and good looks. Physical chemistry alone is just lust. Combine physical chemistry with an attraction to her inner self, you have love. THAT is what I'm looking for. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/30/2006 3:00:03 PM | If they read profiles, they tend to ignore them, in my experience
THIS IS the problem UlaLume! This one guy was so taken up by my pictures (and the fact he loves redheads), he wasn't SEEING what it was i was looking for in a mate. He kept saying it wasn't a problem yet it slowly, in my perception, over a short period of time, it very much was the problem. Even when i tried to politely discourage him he wouldn't have it. Finally i had to end the correspondence and he became outraged! Sent me all kinds of horrific graphic cutting remarks and putdowns. Online dating land can be rather discouraging at times. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/30/2006 4:43:47 PM | | I will read the entire profile probably 99% of the time. It all depends, i like reading the entire profile because you don't want to send a girl a message about how you liked their profile and mention something about what you liked in the profile and your wrong. Youhave just made yourself look like a dork and she blows you off. i also look for spelling errors, nothing worse than someone that cant spell. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/31/2006 7:51:42 AM | | Oh Vixen dear....every single word...before I make contact. And as much as I love photos online, I enjoy emailing/contacting those that have no photo....for the perceived 'mystery' that is created. Love to comment on my first impression.....if a response is earned, then I will reread your profile a couple of times before my next email. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/31/2006 8:46:43 AM | Even though I have allready stated, of course, I read the whole profile. I must confess... the foto is still very important in my determinations of what profiles to open up when browsing. In that respect ... I guess I am very much a Man. ha! Profiles without fotos..or the ones with the dumb little clip art...or pretty much any image that isn't the woman in the ad... I tend to just scroll right on by. Those fotos are important...like it or not!
And Ladies: Helpful hint. Try harder to avoid the standard cliche's .... they've allready been mentioned in here a bunch of times. Put some thought into it. Get creative. Be witty. Be courageous. Let us have a glimpse of the real you. I promise... I'll keep reading! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/31/2006 9:07:09 AM | | I, for one do read the entire profiles for why would one just go on a pic? to me I want to know what someone is about and all before writing them and getting to know them. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/31/2006 9:16:49 AM | | That also applies to women. 9 out of 10 e-mails that I receive are from women that don't match 1 or more criteria on what I'm looking for... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/31/2006 9:27:46 AM | How is this thread still dragging on for 26 pages when the answer could be summed up in 26 syllables? 
Some men do, some men don't; just like some women do, and some women don't...
If I had a nickel for every time I got a message from an overweight person asking me out despite the fact my profile explicitly says I'm a fitness fanatic and expect the same from my partner, I'd have about $4 by now (I'm not conceited enough to say I'd have millions, as I don't get that much mail  )
Let it be folks, this is an issue that will never change, so there's no point griping about it  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/31/2006 9:56:47 AM | | YES WE DO!!!!! I GET REFERRALS AND E-MAILS FROM WOMEN WHO DO NOT EVEN RESEMBLE ANYTHING I AM LOOKING FOR. I TRY TO ANSWER THEM COURTEOUSLY, BUT I DON'T THINK THEY EVEN READ THEM. THE POF PEOPLE AND TRUE AND YAHOO PEOPLE SEND ME REFERRALS FOR PEOPLE 30 YEARS YOUNGER, AND LIVING ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COUNTRY. IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE. I RESPOND TO A WOMAN IF HALF OF HER PROFILE FITS MY WANTS, AND HER LOOKS ARE PRESENTABLE. OFTEN WHEN I MEET THEM, THEY ARE 50 LBS OVERWEIGHT, DO NOT EVEN RELATE TO WHAT THEY SAY THEY ARE. IT'S SILLY. PAY ATTENTION LADIES. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:43:13 AM | | I don't know about the other guys, I however read profiles. To make sure what I'm getting myself into and on top of that if she lies on the profile, I can catch her when I take a whiff on some serious BS! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/2/2006 2:10:05 PM | | I read profiles worth reading. Many people on this site are downright illiterate - can't spell or string a decent sentence together. Or some ramble on with free-verse poetry or some godawful song lyrics. Major turn off but I guess I wouldn't send them mail anyway. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/3/2006 3:22:13 PM | W,
Too bloody right.
I tend to enjoy humour in a profile. I do read read profiles very carefully for obvious reasons. I look at syntax and spelling. I know that is not always a classic "red flag" but it gives me a thumbnail picture of the female.
Novellas tend to bore me. I do not need to know every little detail. I prefer to find that out in the course of online conversation. But that is just me. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2006 6:14:14 AM | | ha! men read profiles! i don't think so. i'd have to say i have a fairly good profile not too long but not short either. and at the end it says i hate to be called sexy....cuz i do. and most guys send me IM'S or e-mail saying "hey sexy!" or "what's up sexy" and right there i know they haven't read my profile or they do not care! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2006 8:00:07 AM | | well i no that some men dont read my profile properly or not at all.cos alot men say whats wrong with me cos i have disabilties&in wheelchair.but its got it in my profile whats wrong with me so soon as i say whats wrong with me they disapear on me&dont want talk which hurts me cos cant exept way i am&i still got feelings&im human bein just like anyone else.alsot of them just like lookin at my pics&cos like me in the pics they contact me but they need read my profile first&if im right for them then contact me.people are silly at times&it frustarates me&people can be cruel | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/7/2006 4:24:38 PM | Hey Momvon,
I think some of do read the entire profile, and then we write a email and not get a answer. Then there are times when I see profiles that are like a mile long. I am not complaining, but when you're looking and see something like that its sort of a turnoff.
I like reading the profiles, but when its on its way to being a book, I tend to pass them by.
Most times you can describe in a sentence or two and move on to the next subject.
I do agree that a majority of men just look at the location, the picture, and if they have kids and then make up their mind to email them. Kinda sad really, but really true most of the time. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 4:35:09 PM | Hey Arri,
I agree, men need to be selective! I send out a few emails to ladies maybe once a week, but just a few. I don't get many replies though! I wish the women really looking would take us for our word sometimes, maybe they would meet their "Prince Charming." | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 6:25:39 PM | Please!!!!!!!!!!!!
Personally I am someone who doesn't think in code. Maybe that is why I am attracted to the bad boys. They are "simple to read" and most are not thinking women have a hidden agendas. I find sucessful men who are my equal (intellectually and socio economically) do the mind games thing on me. To avoid the backlash I find it is better to be just friends!!!
Then the male doesn't have to over think everything and ruin a perfectly good relationship.
Don't lump women into one group. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/7/2006 6:29:11 PM | Ummm, no, we don't live to 300 years of age.
There isn't enough time in our whole life to read through all those "read/deleteds".
So we read your whole profile, write an educated and well thought out response just to find you didn't like our pic (read/deleted).
We are as thorough and considerate in reading your profiles as you ladies are in your handling of our unwanted mail.
In life, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 10:48:50 PM | Why do we email? Why don't we email? Why do people not open emails they recieve and simply toss them unopened into the trash? Who really knows? Who really cares? Honestly, if a guy didn't read your whole profile, you think he would tell you? Whether he did or didn't does it really matter? I thought the whole point of being on pof was to generate online interaction. Yes, of course, you wrote your profile in the hopes of finding people who would message you that would meet your criteria. But if it were honestly that simple, I think the majority of us wouldn't be on here. You may be surprised even with the profiles that contrast yours. Opposites do attract as they say (whoever they are). Simply to answer your last point, some still message in the hopes that you will look beyond the written differences in the profile and still consider them. Take it as a compliment either way, that someone has taken a moment to message you (with reason of course. Foul and inappropriate emails are undeserving and unnecessary). But generally speaking take it as a compliment. What is unflattering are the ones on here that don't even bother to read what you write. I find they flatter themselves way too much. Happy Fishing.  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/8/2006 12:14:34 AM | My thoughts almost exactly, big fishy. I state on my profile that I will answer all except those who are insulting/soliciting sex/do not write more than "u seem fun u wanna talk." And I do. It might not be immediately, but I do my best to answer within a day or two. Even those whose emails are nearly illegible because of spelling errors, run-on sentences of 100's of words, etc. Because they are all human beings worthy of basic respect and courtesy. If I can't acknowledge that, then what type of person am I? Not one I want to be, I know that.
So if someone whose picture or profile doesn't necessarily appeal to me contacts me, I still reply. After all, who knows? Maybe I'll change my mind. Or they just might have something to contribute to my life besides romance. Maybe they are someone I would like as a friend. Maybe if we become friends I will realize I have a girlfriend that would be perfect for him, or he'll have a cousin perfect for me. Or maybe we'll just exchange a short little email or two that take a minute or two each before wishing each other well and continuing on our way.
Admittedly, I'm not one of the women on here who gets deluged with hundreds of emails. But if I were I would still give civil people the courtesy of reading what they'd written, and some sort of response. At least I hope I would.
I don't have a picture on my profile precisely because I have found that the men I am communicating with are interested enough in my profile and my forum postings to contact me based on non-physical criteria. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/8/2006 3:20:21 AM | *shrug* I read the whole thing, even the written part  . I find it makes it a lot easier to say something interesting, and ask an interesting question during initial contact. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2006 9:38:22 PM | | id like to say this vixen you make a good point. i myself not done to many of these web dating services myself. got lot to learn. when it comes to writing good profile i suck. when it comes to reading them i do take as much time as i can if there to long i be honest it starts given me headachs because im supose to whear contact lenses but i lost one not had the opportunity to get new set, no exuse i know. just being honest here. but yes i do totally agree how can you even begin to know a person if you dont take the time to read what they write. i have seen some profiles on the other hand that had nothen in them but tell you later, and to me that is the quickest way for me to close out a profile and i dont care what the picture it has on it.i look at a profile i want to know if there is any connection there at all to work with, and see if it will go some where or it will not. any way i think said enough for right now. ps if read my profile dont laugh it is a joke i need to take lot more time and energy to learn what im doing with em yet myself. | |
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