| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/24/2006 12:37:37 PM | well your highness i would think you could find the kindness to spare us "mere" men
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/24/2006 12:38:22 PM | | I clearly have listed on my profile that I am not looking for a date or fb's or anything like that. I have quite a few relationships offline that I am happy with, and they keep me busy. Yet I get emails from people interested in long term relationships. I try to be polite in my emails - but I really don't think they read them. I had one even say he was so great he hoped to change my mind.... please.... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/24/2006 8:36:44 PM | No, not always. I start reading them and if I see something there that I can't live with or our interests don't match, I stop reading and move on. Most of them I do read completely though.
The biggest problem I have with the profiles is the contradictory statements so many people make. For example, the choice they make about what kind of relationship they are interested in may say they are looking for friends, but in the body they state they are looking for their soul mate. I see this VERY frequently. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/25/2006 4:05:36 AM |
I clearly have listed on my profile that I am not looking for a date or fb's or anything like that. I have quite a few relationships offline that I am happy with, and they keep me busy. Yet I get emails from people interested in long term relationships. I try to be polite in my emails - but I really don't think they read them. I had one even say he was so great he hoped to change my mind.... please....
I don't know, either they aren't reading anything, or they are challenge hounds. I am not looking to get married or hook up for sex either - and I get the same a lot. Maybe I am being too vague or not detailed enough about it. Good idea, I will add that to my profile too - not that anyone's gonna pay attention. LOL | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/25/2006 4:20:46 AM |
I clearly have listed on my profile that I am not looking for a date or fb's or anything like that.
But your choice for status is "dating". That's likely why you still get those email. "Other" might be a better option to get people to keep reading and see what your version of 'other' is.
For myself, I peruse until I see a dealbreaker and then I move on without finishing. I look at "smoking" first and if it's anything but 'no', I move on. Then I look at 'kids'. If it says yes, I scan to see if they are grown-up adult type kids or in grade school. Then marital status. Any kind of still-attached status is out. Then drugs. Then drinking. Comfort zones, you know?
Then I get pompous and look to see what kind of gray matter we are dealing with. If the profile in general is written like a 4th grader wrote it, move on.
Then photos. If they are all 50 feet from the camera, deliberately out of focus, hidden behind a group of people to hid girth... move on.
Plus, like the OP, I'm just here for forums. I have my profile hidden and am not particularly eager to find a lifelong mate. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/28/2006 4:17:23 PM | | Yes, I do read the whole profile if I plan on writing to the person. Although I tend to the look at a profile kind of like a resume and look for selling points. First and foremost a picture. This to me shows that the person doesn't have anything to hide. To tell you the truth, when the "about me" section looks like a novel, I'll move on. If after two paragraphs you haven't caught my attention, it's point and click time! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:48:12 PM | | I find it necessary, I mean lets face it the first thing everyone looks at is the pic, but if you dont look past it, then you could end up talking to a moron. I find that alot of the time, ill look at the pic, then read the profile ( ill admit I dont usually spend too much time on the interests or ideal first date), then decide if she is still attractive or if her words have ruined it. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:51:07 PM | I DOUBT it, by some input I have gotten in a forum and such
when someone chooses to attack how my ad is they fail to
see what they are commenting on..one guy had the ignorance to
say some reference to drinking on there and I do NOT even drink.
Go figure.. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/28/2006 7:03:03 PM | Some men do I'm sure. The guys out for a quick lay could care less I'm certain. Same with women looking for guys to trade up with. But many men read them just as they would read a resume.
All it takes is a couple of critical errors and "Next". No need to settle for a partner with issues or who plays head games. And after a few hundred profiles it becomes almost second nature.
Just as certain is that choosy women read the whole of a man's profile. I can't think of the number of times a lady with "MUST NOT SMOKE" e-mails me and then politely thanks me when I point out I smoke. Not to mention the ones that just completely miss that I'm taken, currently dating and not looking for an assignation.
Most annoying for men and women.
Unfortunately critical reading skills are only taught at a University level, and except for Cuba there is not a place in the Hemisphere where that is any kind of garauntee. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/29/2006 3:48:07 AM | when it comes down to it we are all the same. all out to get one thing and it really doesnt make any diff if we get it one way of the other. as long as in the end we are happy does it matter?
we all search for diff things in life and they may b things that change as we get older, but the way we go about them doesnt change, they just improve as our techinques get better, we learn by our mistakens and no that we cant get what me want that way so therefore we try summit new.
when it comes down to it we all go on looks, as much as we say they dont matter, when it comes down to it they. we r a bunch of people that r gettin vainer by the day. men r starting to look after them selfs more. and if u dont believe that take a look at whats inside the bathroom cabinet, they r getting more products than what we got. and at the day of the day why not. women think bout it soon could b the day that when i bloke kisses us we aint the ones that wake up wit their stubble rash over our faces. but dont get me wrong i love men, think they r great and i love the things that they do and say, and the right man can make me weak at the knees and send butterflies to my stomach when talkin to me. but they have to b god lookin first.
and on sites like this we all go for the pic first. see what they look like and if they are easy on the eye, u next look for what they do how old they r, then maybe read their profile if ya like it, if they r funny in it and maybe a bit strange, it makes them more interesting, and like me if they dare u to do summit or to live up to summit why not just email and see what u get back.
men are bold and women are gettin bolder by the day so does it matter if they read ur profile or not, they r at least making an effort in making first contact. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/29/2006 4:59:41 AM | I read until I see a dealbreaker.
In order:
smoking
age
kids
status
looking for
No smokers, nobody too young (with exceptions made for particularly mature women), no kids at home, nobody attached in any way (seperated is still married), nobody who wants to get married right after dessert on the first date.
Then the photos. Too many "prefer not to say" replies, particularly poor spelling and grammar, a general tone of immaturity, when most pictures are taken in a bar (tells me you are a party girl and I am well beyond those years), all boob or booty pictures and no face shots (tells me you lack confidence in anything but your boobs and booty - I need more).... gets the profile passed over.
So the answer is that generally we read until there is no reason to keep reading. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/29/2006 6:12:39 AM | some men do..most men don't. I rc'd a msg and was not going to respond, in fact, thought about it for 2 days. Finally, I couldn't resist... I asked him why he msgd me. when his profile states he is looking for something specific and I don't fit that criteria. "oh, I just saw that now and it would cause a problem for me later"...so, that was wasted time on both our parts. Could've been avoided if he'd read my profile to begin with. Flattered he liked my pics and all, but there's more to me than just a face and body.... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/29/2006 11:02:46 AM | ^^^^That's why I don't have a picture on my profile.
I decided I'd rather hear from people who actually read and like what I have to say in my profile or my forum postings. I'm sure I'd hear from a lot more men if I had a photo or two posted, as most (men or women) won't even look at a profile without a picture.
But this way, I'm spared the immature morons contacting me with their so suave (NOT!) opening lines.
I'd rather have quality over quantity any time.
I read the entire profile of anyone I contact, and all their available forum postings. That way I have a better appreciation of who that person is. I rarely even look at the photos, and never before reading the profile.
Pictures are never the deciding factor why I *will* contact a man; I use them strictly to rule men out--i.e., all beefcake shots; majority of pictures are cars, boats, etc.; pictures & profile disagree (says no to smoking/drinking but all pictures with a cigarette/drink,etc); every picture has a different woman in it--the first two tell me he has no self-confidence, and I don't find that attractive, the second two make me question his judgement/veracity.
I've been contacted by some very nice men, so obviously some (men and women) do read the whole profiles. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/29/2006 4:47:21 PM | I ALWAYS read a woman's profile....
Just to make sure There are NO surprises on our first meeting.......
or first IM msg.
Plus- I really do care what a woman has to say.... her likes/dislikes....dreams/goals.
I really think bone heads who msg women with "hey what's up?" or "nice pic." should be banned forever. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 8/29/2006 6:36:09 PM | Most of my favorites are people from the forums.
I have read all the locals and not interested in many of them.
I think I have 2 local friends.
Most of mine are forum junkies like me.
I see a post that catches my attention, I'll click and read their profile and check a few other of their post before saying hello.
They don't even have to have a picture up.
I don't do drugs but one of my friends is known to puff away on occasion.
I don't judge others on what they do, they are adults.
Well, the exception to this rule is for cheaters and liars.
I will judge them and judge them harshly.
They will not find themselves on my faorites, EVER!! | |
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Joined: 8/4/2006
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/3/2006 3:39:42 PM | As you may have heard, "you should be friends first" always. Because trully, that's what a REAL relationship is built on. Without friendship to build a lasting relationship on, you have nothing.
A.K.A
"Mayeve" | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/3/2006 3:45:12 PM | | I would like to say I know not all of the men read our profiles because I'm pretty specific as to what I am seeking on mine and the men who clearly know they don't fall under my needs still e-mail me. I wish they would give it a rest because it really is a waste of my time as well as theirs. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/3/2006 4:38:39 PM | | ^^^^^^ Do you really believe men are going to look at anything beyond the boobs you have as your main pic? Get real! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/3/2006 5:06:35 PM | Yes, I read all of the profile, if the pic interests me. If the pic doesn't interest me, I don't.
Sorry for being honest! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/3/2006 5:33:26 PM | | Um.. I think most men, and I say most not all.. so men dont get your panties in a wad.. see a pick and then.. Ok. I can f*ck that. So they read enough to get them through to the first few dates. And this is just speaking from personal experience. No, I even have disclaimers on mine.. and those type of men still keep coming. Most men don't read the whole profile. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/3/2006 6:13:10 PM | I agree, I do the same.
As far as the smoking thing... I personally would never rule something like that out because a chocolate cigar goes so nicely with a grasshopper...
I know for a fact that a lot of people don't read profiles. I've been on a few other sites, and a lot of the time the only reply I have to their messages is... "You didn't actually read my profile, did you?" | |
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