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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:42:48 AM | Give me a pic and the Cliff's notes ... we're talking about men here. That's what makes no sense to me about the profiles of most women. They write the profiles they would like to see, not the ones that will be effective.
Think about this for a second, ladies. How many times have you ever seen a man read an owner's manual for anything? How many times do they put together something requiring "some assembly" and have parts left over? Do you think we read beyond the first couple of words? My suggestion is this: Keep it simple. Use bullet points, each point summarized in five words or less, on your likes/dislikes. Men will read that. Sheesh, some of you have "War and Peace" as your profile. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:45:33 AM | too funny, Yammmmie
I cant believe they actually think we are going to read their profiles As if they think we really want to understand them or something. Of course, a dude has to have a very good one to get email, because women DO read them. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 53 | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:51:59 AM | | LOL ... yeah, by the time you finish readin three profiles you'll have to refine the age range on your search to accommodate the time that has passed. | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 55 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:57:24 AM | Maybe if the site could link women's profiles to video games, and make them interactive...yeah that would work.
Instead of: "If you read this far...blah blah blah..." it could read: "To get me to respond to you, score 50,000 points in Astroblast."
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 56 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:59:08 AM | Just a nice flirty 3 line intro to tell people who you are and avoid making it into a job wanted ad.
Show the softer side of yourselves.
And Please .. No clichés and avoid phrases such as:
“If you are a player, cheat and liar don’t bother contacting me” | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:02:36 AM | | I too got tired of the well, I'm blah blah blah canned crap. So I started doing something funny, then funnier then BLAM. Psycho profile, totally off the wall whacked out. Balls to the wall nutcase. You would NOT believe the emails I got, lots were that' funniest thing I've ever seen, but there was TONS of interest, many out of state or country. Seems men really go wild over a sense of humor. I had a total blast with it and if I posted some of my back and forth psycho toying around only for FUN, back and forth emails you'd all be in stitches. Most fun I've ever had with my clothes on. So go for it, be creative, I've prompted a few others to just let loose. Geez, there's thousands of Pollyanna, Miss Perfect, Miss Success, I am Woman Hear Me Purr profiles. Do something different, if you don't like it change it back, but play with your profile and have some darned FUN!!! This isn't meant to be harsh or critical of you that have "real" profiles up and I know believe me, I do, how much time and effort you spend on them. But if it's not working, just dare to try something different, show your creative side, or funny one if you have it. Look at it this way, your profile has to stand out and be noticed among thousands, so there has to be some "draw" otherwise it's just the pics that get noticed. | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 58 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:06:02 AM | I used to read them whenb I was sending e-mails to women , to ALL women in my local area , hundreds , always wrote a paragraph about things wqe had in common and what I liked in the profile, after 6 months of no responses , I found out that I was probably never going to get to know anyone for a date on here , so I now look at the pics, write the same intro of myself and move on , I wish there was an automatic program that can do that for me , maybe lightening would stricke and I would win the lottery -
Now why on earth would I want to read your whole profile , if all I want is a pleasant person of the female gender , very open and not picky , even if you were into human sacrifice .... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:36:04 AM | | Some of us do im sure. I do But you gotta admit some of the pictures some of the women put in their profiles theres no need to read. I HAVE SEEN SOME PICS women slighty bent over with low cut shirt. BELIEVE ME there gonna get responce and it will be from people that are not going to read. I think you should post a pic of somekind and share more latter. i think you have to have a pysical attraction as well as mental | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:44:07 AM | In my case, I peruse the womans profile initially and often I might even send them a short message. If they send something interesting back and I think there might be more than just one email, then at that point I might read the whole thing. If a woman is in my neck of the woods (so to speak), I will probably read the whole thing. I guess, the first thing in a profile that I look at is the photo, and then the second thing is how close are they.
It is all related to how interested I really am and if I think there is more than a slight chance of actually physically meeting that person. Tracy (buccaneer38) 
By the way: I am a man that reads the directions ALWAYS, because I like to do things right. I don't like to have to get to a point where I have extra nuts and bolts left over. I have met men that do that and they seem like they get all angry because they didn't do it right. Usually men that don't read the directions take longer to do a thing because they have to do it over and over and then they get exasperated and THEN they pick up the directions! So goofy I think. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:47:58 AM |
I am guilty of ignoring the long written, novel type profiles. As a normal practice, I skim over most profiles because I put little faith in the accuracy of content. If you read all the profiles in here, 90% of the POF members should be married because they are angels and perfect mates.
A profile is a marketing scheme to me... your selling the sizzle, not the steak. The forums and chat give a more accurate idea of the person you're chatting with (but not always).
eh, I'm kinda the same, I skim the profiles looking for red flags, but as for anything detailed, I ignore them.
Honestly, how do you define the "ONE" or "Prince Charming" or whatever it is most of the women are looking for here.
As for interests, well generally I find them to be bull, just fluff put out there to make themselves to sound interesting. Just becouse you went camping once 4 years ago doesn't make it an interest. If you do it monthly or at lest bi-monthly I can see it.
Of course then theres the profiles that don't even have interests, they just list stupid crap like "Having Fun" as the sum of your interests.
So, I look for a pretty face, look at the stats they listed as for religion, drugs and whatnot and proceed from there.
Although, if they do have Music listed as an interest, I debate on whether to contact them or not (usually not), in my experiance women who are that interested in music just annoy me. I like music and all, but going out of my way to see live bands at bars or driving to other city's to see no name bands play isn't my idea of a good time. I download it, jam to it, appreciate it and move on. I don't need to know what intruments were used, what technique they used or think that the song writer is a poet becouse he can string a chorus together.
ok, sorry for the rant there but you know....... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:57:13 AM | I scan for substance. Something original. Not a cookie cutter generic.
B.S. is easy to spot.Such as...
"I hate playing games" = I am suspicious in nature and question everything
"If you are interested in hearing more send a message" = If I am interested I will respond...maybe
"Living life to its' fullest" = I make some major boners and chalk them up as experience...
To me this reeks of another favorite...
"peace of mind" = Absence of one
I try to sound different. Yes, maybe even pessimistic. But hey . Try sounding different in a sea of:
"Smart,adventerous, sexy, active, attractive... Wondering if there is such a thing as finding a fascinating, positive, caring, sensual... Very outgoing, open-minded, extremely easy-going, love to camp, drink, fun bedroom activities, hang with friends. I definately know what I am looking for outta life.
It's hard to descibe yourself on here, If you wanna know more shoot me a message..."
Sounds familiar?
I know my profile is long. It shows time and effort went in to it. At the very least you know a bit about me and how I think. Funny how some people will read novels and series of fantasy or true crime... Ask them to read a real persons profile 1-3 minutes long? Suddenly they 'don't have the time' or something more important to do... I mean this is your future... your life... Why should you not say what you want?
BTW my profile is open for critique so ladies and gents please criticize! I even opened up my own topic, 'Where's my fish?' under 'Profile Reviews' so feel free to gimmie some pointers...  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:01:51 AM | "Why do you email anyway?"
I noticed that some people are good about updating their profiles as too their status or current situation. Then others could care less and will probably never change what they have in there. Things are in constant motion and change is inevitable, as it is with people. How would I ever know that something had changed with someone unless I ask or at least inquire? Should I just ass-u-me that everything is concrete?
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:04:17 AM | | If the profile hasn't changed in 6 months then to me that shows the person is probably stagnating or just doesn't really give a damn... | |
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Right
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Joined: 10/11/2005
Msg: 67 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:08:24 AM | | I always read profiles, In fact I read most things. For instance I just spent half an hour reading this entire thread. Quite honestly, I start off by looking at a picture, No picture, No reply...been burned a few times on that one. After the pic passes the test, I read the entire profile, then I write a response that includes something from the profile. Sometimes I read a profile and I get completely turned-off the person says, and I wont contact them at all. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:22:25 AM | | i always read over a profile before i comment on a post. it gives me a snapshot of the person i am dealing with. there have been some posts that i do not comment on after i have read their profiles. some do give me the idea of why bother. so for those that wonder if their profile even means anything. yes it does, to some. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:46:59 AM | oh my goodnessssssss
wellllllllllllllllllll
I see I am alone for the most part on the whole reading the profile thingy | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 72 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:58:43 AM | I even read profiles of people i don't e-mail heh. Not every single word of every single one. Some of them are boring. Everyone I have sent a e-mail to that wasn't forum related I've read their profiles, more than once, and those that are forum related, I have read most.
I hear a lot about guys not reading girl's profiles. *Some* have a canned e-mail I hear that they just shoot out at anyone that they want. Maybe 1 out of a 100 ladies will respond to them. Funny in a sad way. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:20:20 PM |
So, go ahead and tell us all who you DONT want to meet, we dont care.
CRAP!
My profile went from funny to bitter in a short amount of time, mostly because men just don't get I-actually-mean-what-I-say or they try to convince me they're something they're not. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:22:41 PM | I have recently removed all of my pictures from my profile. Amazingly enough... instead of 10-20 messages today... I only had 3 (and NO new ones). Funny how that works, eh?
I'll put pictures up again, once I am ready to deal with the shallow end of the pond. :P
Otherwise, I'd rather have someone actually READ my profile and then get my picture.
Too many lower heads doing the thinking 'round here.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 12:27:49 PM | *raises hand* I'm such a man..
I'm awful I seldom read a profile..I'd rather take the time to get to know the person and decide for myself, one can write anything they want to in a profile, doesn't make it so.. | |
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