| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/4/2006 10:32:36 AM |
As you may have heard, "you should be friends first" always. Because trully, that's what a REAL relationship is built on. Without friendship to build a lasting relationship on, you have nothing.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:35:38 PM | Maybe; maybe not; I think some guys don't put as much thought into the complete profile and maybe too much on the pic. But I can only speak for myself. I tend to do the same thing and its hard not too. I think it is pretty well known that guys, in general, put more importance on looks and less on personality; women tend to be the opposite, so I've heard. I rarely see a very good profile match for myself, then when I do, either they live too far away (over an hour), they are much older than me, or I am not attracted physically to them AT ALL.
Maybe that is one reason that on some dating sites, women don't post a pic; they want guys to pay primary attention to their PROFILE and less on their looks. On the other hand, many guys won't even look at the profile unless there IS pic. For me, if they list their height and weight and it seems ok, then I will respond. If they don't and their is no pic then I get really suspicious. But it works the other way too. I belonged to eharmony.com for awhile. I got sort of pissed that women weren't posting their pics, so I took mine down and made the choice that I would only show mine if they showed there's. Well something went wrong on the software because my pic didn't show up on ANY "matches", and I got shut out by a great looking lady who apparently contacted me first (unusual). On the other hand, she wanted the "finer things in life" so I figured she wasn't for me after all. Now if I was only wealthy.....
My nephew's wife, who is in her late 30's and attractive, said she wouldn't post a pic either. I asked her why and she said "because I don't want some guy to contact me based mainly on my pic..and a lot of guys do". She went on to say that if she felt it was a good profile match, then she would e-mail the guy. If that went well, THEN she would send a pic.
And as I said before in another post, if they are unusually attractive, I don't even bother; I would be outgunned. Of course if I was wealthy, then I probably would respond, but only if they would accept my race. But the race card is the final decider: if they are looking for a particular race which doesn't include mine, then I forget it. Those women have many choices. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/4/2006 5:23:20 PM | | I do read the whole profile. Sometimes there are things I see that others don't. Call it an insight to the persons personality. Wether it be a kindness, or a gentle nature about them. Its in the words that are written by that person that one can tell quite a bit about someone else. Just my two cents worth. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/5/2006 5:47:49 PM | | oh yea without a doubt i read them, if you dont then you dont find out what their looking for in a man and you write an email and look like a moron finding out she dont like something you do or are or age whatever, not to mention she can be a total lunatic, but im guessing the guys that dont read the proifiles arent looking for anything other than a peice of azz... dont be 'hating' gentleman, you know im right!! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/5/2006 5:51:56 PM | | how are ya vtecman, dont be fooled by sensitive words my friend, some women are working hard making minimun wages when they should be an actress on daytime soaps.. but some are sincere, jeesh did i spell that right.lol SPELL CHECK PLZZZZZZZZ | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/5/2006 5:57:51 PM | | Why would men read profiles? They all say: No players, no one-night stand! Still, they pose while only showing their boobs! Besides, who care, as most people are so shallow here and only after look anyway? | |
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Joined: 4/25/2006
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:37:15 PM | Men are not the only ones. I actually have a picture of myself in my profile. Of the four messages I received today, two messages are asking for my picture. I have many compliments on my profile.
I do actually read the profiles. It is actually sad some of the profiles. Better for you girls who write something, I guess. It does tell me something if they think of themselves as just picture. They don’t realize the competition is fierce ladies. There are some really quality women in this world. Are you one? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:54:42 PM | I always read the entire profile. If there is something I don't like there I probably won't write to her. Not only that but she wrote it for a reason. I think it's rotton to write to someone without fully reading their profile. That said.. When I first write to a woman I normally won't comment on specific things she put in her profile. For example "I notice you like ___. I'm a ___ fan too! " That always gets me read+deleted. I'm not sure why. Maybe it sounds too fake, even if it is honest (which I always am  ) | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/5/2006 7:08:43 PM | | I read the whole profile, but have learned to be just as sceptical..We often see ourselves as who we want to be, rather than who we are. For most guys..honestly...the picture is a must first..It's an age old fact that a guy feels more validated, by how pretty a woman he can attract..The mind comes second for most younger guys. I am lucky enough to have outgrown that, but still want to be drawn to that special woman physically..That's the truth. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/5/2006 7:25:33 PM | | Please don't blame this only on men... This topic is NOT gender specific... I get my share of e-mails from women that have no clue what I have written in my profile. They see a picture of my motorcycle and think that we are a perfect match. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/6/2006 9:56:27 AM | My first reaction/contact email is usually a short one.
More as an incentive to say "Hey, read my profile too, before I uselessly start writing long emails about "
The again, my profile doesn't say that much. But at least it's an honest one. ;) | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/6/2006 9:58:33 AM | Hmmm. My quote should have said "before I uselessly start writing long emails about subject X"
But putting the text subject X between "smaller than" and "greater than" messed it up... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/6/2006 6:52:35 PM | i lways read the whole profile because i am not usually lucky enough to have a woman contact me first and it makes it easier to leave the first e-mail and initiate the conversation if you've read the whole thing | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/7/2006 12:08:12 PM | | I read them before I try to contact... every last word no matter how long it is... if I think it's too long, i simply don't contact them. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/7/2006 4:44:45 PM | ladies? im sure your gonna go 'pfffft!! to this but if you want men to read your whole profile stop leaving 1/2 naked pix in them, i read one on here in this forum that says she wants a man to see more of her than just t&a << means breastisiss and azz for those that dont know
then i went into her profile and 'what does she have' a pic of her in her lil bikini, hmmmm..
any how NO i didnt read her profile. i read the profiles to the women i find attractive and dressed like a lady.. sorry if i offended any1.. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/7/2006 5:50:05 PM | ladies? im sure your gonna go 'pfffft!! to this but if you want men to read your whole profile stop leaving 1/2 naked pix in them, i read one on here in this forum that says she wants a man to see more of her than just t&a << means breastisiss and azz for those that dont know
then i went into her profile and 'what does she have' a pic of her in her lil bikini, hmmmm..
any how NO i didnt read her profile. i read the profiles to the women i find attractive and dressed like a lady.. sorry if i offended any1..
I noticed the same thing. It's the same as walking down the street in Daisy dukes and tight half top and getting pissed when a guy whistles. They know damn well what they are doing but then get pissed when they are viewed sexually. Well I guess it will continue until these certain ones figure out how to get the particular kind of attention they are looking for in a man.
Hint: If I we see t*ts and *ss as our first impression, we will think sex. It's not a mystery so quit acting like it is
Disclaimer: This statement is directed to the women who do this. Not to the rest. Have a nice night. | |
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SGMMIV
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Joined: 8/2/2006
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| Do you Women read Our profiles at all??
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:34:19 PM | I read them. I like to read them. They humor me. You all hike ~ the forests are crowded, pretty soon there will be traffic lights on the trails to regulate all of you hikers.  We won't even get into all of the walking on beaches (which is hilarious since very few live near a beach ~ but I don't need to critisize.)
~OK~ It works both ways you know. Mine is a bunch of crap, so I don't care who reads it or not...but...it does clearly state that I am not meeting/dating ~ that seems to be overlooked more often than not. Why is that? Because no one reads profiles. It's sad really ~ it's got to be the pictures that determines who writes, who responds, etc. It's not appropriate ~ but it seems to be the reality.  | |
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| Do you Women read Our profiles at all??
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:44:22 PM | You don't have to live near a beach to enjoy walking on them. I hike. I would take a woman hiking if she was into it. Truth be told, most of us men like doing things outdoors more than most women. I think it's science or something. Camping, hiking, fishing, boating, rock climbing, whatever... I don't see much of that on the ladies profiles.
No offense but I don't think anyone should keep a profile up if they aren't dating, this is a dating site last time I checked, so... that would make you spam.  | |
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| Do you Women read Our profiles at all??
Posted: 9/7/2006 8:17:25 PM | ^^^^My top paragraph was sarcasm. So sorry you misunderstood. (Technically termed by some as humor.)
~OT~ I read all of my forum friend's profiles. I like to see if their profiles resemble who they are here in forums. Usually not even close ~ I find that very interesting. That isn't always the case, sometimes it matches amazingly well. I think those are my friends that date often ~ they are who they are. No lies, no games, no pretending. Love those people. 
Spam? Niiiiiice!! That's OK, I'm not much into name calling ~ but from time to time jacka$$ really seems to fit in a variety of circumstances. However ~ I would not feel right calling a total stranger that simply based on one silly statement in a public forum. But, that's just me!!  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/7/2006 8:29:34 PM | Well I know how u feel bec i have met a couple of guys that seems to read parts of my profile without realizing that I am not looking for headgames/mindgames/ one night stands/flings yet when I meet them they perceive that about me all the time so I havent had that much luck in here either, except for one that i want to get to know bec he and i connected really well but he was going through some personal stuff when i met him & we connected but now I am not so sure if we could even be friends, but i hate to admit I would miss him a whole lot...
There is some things in my profile that specify what I am looking for & some men dont read between the lines too.... I was hoping to find a long term relationship before but with all the disappointment that I have gone through with the men that I met through here I am giving myself a break from men & dating that i decided that if i do meet them again that I am just going hang out with them as friends for now bec I am just disappointed & hurt at the same time how they perceive me for something that I am not & it hurts a lot when that happens.....
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| Do you Women read Our profiles at all??
Posted: 9/7/2006 9:00:14 PM | Thank you verygreeneyez, I take pride in my jacka$$iness 
Well you pretty much implied that any man who put hiking in their profiles, does not actually hike. So...now you're saying everyone lies in their profile? That's pretty cynical don't you think?
Honestly I think if you remove that paragraph in your profile where you describe your ideal mate, and replace that with your "I'M NOT DATING." message, less men would send messages to you looking for dates. Women and their mixed signals... Pfft. | |
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| Do you Women read Our profiles at all??
Posted: 9/7/2006 9:36:22 PM |
My top paragraph was sarcasm. So sorry you misunderstood. (Technically termed by some as humor.)
Humor friend, simple sarcasm.
Honestly I think if you remove that paragraph in your profile where you describe your ideal mate, and replace that with your "I'M NOT DATING." message, less men would send messages to you looking for dates. Women and their mixed signals... Pfft.
I don't mind explaining that I have my preferences. I'm getting quite proficient at explaining that the big bold letters on the bottom of my profile mean, I am not meeting/dating. LMAO ~ with that profile you think there would be mixed messages?? Oh dear!!!! Now who's being funny!! Silly guy ~ I seriously doubt anyone thinks I'm looking for dates based upon the profile. | |
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