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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/16/2006 2:45:40 PM | | I personally think its comprehension problems. Like.. in my profile i repeatedly mention i have tattoos, and even post pictures. Yet when i mention them, men act shocked, like they had no idea. My other issues are.... I state my name in my profile, AND its my profile name. Still they ask. And the fact that i put ....That i hate to be called "babe" or "baby" especially if they're just talking to me for the first time. But it never fails. thats usually my first few messages of the day. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/17/2006 12:03:16 AM | Uhhh. Nope. I dont . Only the ones that are short and concise. We go through too many to stop and spend 17 minutes reading each of 29, 473 profiles. That's like saying, "Do women who get 567 messages each day stop and read each message , and respond. ?? NO !!!! DUHHHH!!!
The ones that are Short and in a nut shell. Or Funny and Bizzare. Not over mushy..or Your Life story..We'd love to hear that when we're on a date. Maybe before We get laid..Notice I said "Before"
Not the ones that are like, 'War and Peace" frink Novels. We're horny. We're impatient. We're working the Law of averages/numbers. Nope. Next. Nope. Next. Ok..send..nope..send... Let's pit it THIS way : we're Fishin'..Just like The Program say. Next! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/17/2006 6:27:57 AM | I think at least 50% of men here just look at the pictures. About 50% aren't using their brains to look for/seek the women that may be good quality matches for them. They are visual and they seem to be operating in biological/primative mode! LOL I have tried to be VERY specific in my profile about what I am looking for, but I still get lots of "hey baby"s from no picture men who are still married! I just think it is the 'nature of the beast'!! So, good luck to us!!  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/17/2006 7:06:16 AM | | Honestly, no. I'm more interested in one on one contact than using the profile to really guage the individual. If I see certain words or phrases that attract me, I'll send a message. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/19/2006 1:23:10 AM | | I dont believe it's fair to say that MEN just go for the pictures. Admit it ladies, most of us do as well. I'm far from being a shallow broad, but I know that I have to have a physical attraction with someone inorder to have a healthy sex life, which is an important factor in any relationship, atleast for me at the time, but hey, im young. I state this in my profile. But that doesnt stop some of the ugliest men, or no pic profiles from emailin me.. which is cool. But they jump up and ask for my number and i try to be nice about it upon declinin their invitation to a phone conversation and am upfront, tellin them that im not attracted. Then they want to come back all rude and shyt. If they would have just READ my profile, they could have figured a few things out and spared themselves that feeling of rejection, but like wowmom said, they just look at the pictures like many of us woman, but unlike us thats ALL they see. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/19/2006 10:50:13 AM | YUP!!
I AM interested in knowing as much as possible, about a girl, before attempting to meet with her. Her interests, hobbies and whether, or not, she wishes intimacy.
Intimacy is NOT a necessity but, knowing she IS, or MAY, desire this closeness does help me determine whether I'll send a message.
Are we not here to find someone with whom to share ALL our favorite activities, together and NOT merely one persons faves.
I now expect to hear I'm merely an old fart.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/19/2006 11:07:44 AM | Speaking for myself, I do read the whole profile...from lil 1 sentencers or essay length...why? Cause I wanna know who the person is, if I'm even interested/would they be interested. All in all its there for everyone's best interest...so I use it. Now I know a few guys that are like me and a lot of guys who don't, so I understand why women would feel like and I'd say it's justified. On the otherhand...doesn't it say something about the person and how attentive they are if they can't read the profile that obviously isn't talking about them?
On a side tangent....this forum has been rollin for nearly a year now lol | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/19/2006 6:04:53 PM | I do.
It is information gathering. I tend to take some things at face value, like a profile.
If all there is is a picture and no information I am going to assume that all she has to offer is looks (thats a pretty weak thread to hang on to and nothing to base a relationship on).
If a profile screams combative, well I've been married 3 times, been there done that, I'm repulsed.
No picture, minimal profile information and I'm thinking "how bad did the train get hurt".
If a profile has nothing in it but '"My Friends Say This or That About Me" I'm outta there. I want to know what "You Know About You".
Now if there is an attractive (current) picture (I know I'm a hypocrite asking for the attractive part) and information about how we relish life and are a creative and thinking person. Then I'm all over it like a wet blanket! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/19/2006 6:33:38 PM | | No, I don't think that most people read the whole profile. When I had a detailed profile listed, most overlooked what was written. Hence my new brief version as I kind of figured if someone is interested, they will ask questions. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/21/2006 11:38:28 AM | | I read the whole profile, but I'm betting men put just as much emphasis on pictures as women do on income or what men do for a living. My guess is those are both poor ways to solely judge a profile. I've noticed that many women seem to have SO MUCH in common with wealthier individuals, and men seem to have SO MUCH in common with the hot babes. ;-) I actually got married 'cause she had so much in common with my money, and I had so much in common with her good looks (or so I thought). ;-) Well, lust shouldn't be the sole anchor of a relationship and also... the love of money is the root of all sorts of evil. I've heard that somewhere. Well, the marriage failed. Right now, I'd settle for someone sorta cute that had a good soul. The "cute" part just makes it easier for the intimacy part of a relationship. ;-) Although, I'd like for her to find me cute with a good soul too! Me being cute... well... that's probably my problem. :_( Darnit! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/21/2006 2:26:20 PM | I can tell right off if men read my profile. Why? Because they "always" comment on something I've said. Lord knows I say enough to give them plenty to comment on!!! You just have to keep it interesting.
If someone has a very skimpy profile and basicly says......."Ask if you're interested".......I just go on to the next one. That tells me they don't even want to take the time to write something! This profile thing is to try to let people know something about who you are. Not just to go by pictures. The pictures are only a very small part of who you are.
The profile should tell the rest....... or maybe   | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/21/2006 2:57:13 PM | Do you guys read our whole profiles
Yes. To be honest most profiles fall into one of two categories.... they are either so vague that it's impossible to tell what that person is looking for... or they are so specific that only a small handful of people on the planet will ever meet their standard.
I see some profiles and how specific they are. I think they are crazy. You're gonna be single for a long time waiting for that person to show up. But that's certainly your choice to make. I'd never make any sort of requirement list for somebody to have. Simply because some of the most significant people in my life wouldn't have met my "list" and I'd have lost so many experiences. It's always the last person you expect who has a lasting positive impact on your life. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/21/2006 3:58:45 PM | I see some profiles and how specific they are. I think they are crazy. You're gonna be single for a long time waiting for that person to show up. But that's certainly your choice to make. I'd never make any sort of requirement list for somebody to have. Simply because some of the most significant people in my life wouldn't have met my "list" and I'd have lost so many experiences. It's always the last person you expect who has a lasting positive impact on your life.
Isn't that the truth? I couldn't have said it better.
If more people shortened their grocery lists, they might be surprised that criteria number 36 is so prevalent in the other person, that is cancels out the lack of criteria's 24, 63, and 127.
It is true we are attracted to who we are attracted, however there is a big HOWEVER. I believe our standards of who we are attracted to are much higher than they were in times of old due to media/internet brainwashing and force-feeding a model of each sex down our throats.
I also believe people are so worried about what others will say and think, they actually choose, especially lately in our image driven world, their mates according to what they AND society will think when they see them walking down the street. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/21/2006 8:12:30 PM | Responding to the question of do men really read all of the women’s profiles. Not sure if I’m the exception or the rule but I’m going to my two cents in anyway.
Note: First off I search using the motto a gal dates/marries a guy thinking she can change him for the better but ends up she can’t. Meanwhile, a guy dates/marries a gal thinking she will never change she does. (I always remember this and looking at the pic consider if I would still have considered her IF she was 30 – 40 lbs heavier. If the answer is yes then
Note: I will tell you now a pic equivalent or exceeding of (whichever supermodel is current and suits your fancy) will still not help and the profile will be out as unacceptable IF the key questions aren’t answered according to what I’m looking for.
(Note I know the following is not in refined sentences but more in if else statements and process events format.)
The process for me is as follows.
Step 1 Do a search and see how many hits there are.
Step 2 If the number of hits is large, but for a large geographic area. I will reduce the geographic area to one I am readily willing to travel and do a re-search.
Step 3 If pic available judging by face only (In cases where it is actually available) will they stress the shocks on my truck If No then proceed. If Yes exit.
Step 4 Pictures will draw me in at first, but I will also consider profiles with no picture if age and relationship they want match mine.
Step 5 Are they single never married If yes proceed If widowed proceed with caution,. All others exit profile.
Step 6 Checking the priorities Christian or sub religion(ie Baptist, Methodist)is a Yes proceed, else exit profile
Step 7 Are they within my preffered age range Yes Proceed. If not in primary age range but could still pass as being in primary range Maybe, else Exit.
Step 8 Want’s children is a yes proceed, If Open/undecided proceed but with caution, if no Exit.
Step 9 Do they smoke If No, Proceed, If Yes, then exit
Step 10 Do they drink If No Proceed, If socially or light proceed with caution, all others exit.
Step 11 Do they have some college background, Occupational or tech schooling then Yes proceed, If no exit
Step 12 Do they already have children If No Proceed. If yes, look at pic if available proceed with probability of exit.
Step 13 If the profile is still in the running I will look at the paragraph no matter what the length and see what they have to say. If enough areas still match I will add to favorites even I they are looking for 6’ while I’m 5’9” If they had not mentioned kids in the basics but do here automatic exit.
Step 14 If it sounds like they spend most of their time on barstools or on their seat watching TV automatic exit
Step 15 Now lets take a look at that pic again is it one that even with the added weight I could live with If Yes E-mail. If Not sure add to favorites for possible future consideration
Step 16 If everything matches up I then might E-mail a short feeler message to see if there is any interest from the gal and try to get an even better idea as to what she is like.
Other notes:
I’ve found that the face pic is a better indicator of overall size rather than the basic info body type because one gal might say she’s thin and mean it while another gal the exact same size say she’s average and she means it while a third gal (Same size mind you) says a few extra pounds. This is where I prefer having the pic so I can judge for myself.
This ends the process I use and explains not only that at least some of the guys actually read the message but take the pic as only one o the factors in the profile; Although, I at least find that it does help me decide whether to E-mail or not.
Speaking to those who think I’m fairly specific in what I’m looking for. Believe me, I’ve really mellowed in the last few years even with my priorities trying to cast a little wider net to try and find my match.
End of my 2 cents | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/21/2006 11:05:48 PM | | I look at the pics first if they appeal I'll read the profile, and honestly a lot of the time after reading the profile I pass on messaging them. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:55:24 AM | Like it or not, we live in a visual world. The photos MUST be appealing. Whether I am much to look at or not is NOT the issue, and please do not use that as a basis for rebuttal. One woman has written to me three times. I have politely found ways to make her aware that I am not interested. Should there be a 4th attempt my response will still be polite, but a little more direct.
The main reason?
Her photo looks like a prison mug shot. AWFUL facial expression, TERRIBLY out of focus...
This is your first impression. Spend some time and get it right.
DO NOT take digital pictures of other photos. Spend the $30 on a scanner and do it right.
DO NOT take a picture in a mirror. Can't you see that the flash shows in the photo?
DO NOT post pictures where you are a 1/2 inch dot in the middle of it.
DO NOT post group photos and makes us guess which of the 6 women is you.
DO NOT post out of focus photos to hide your wrinkles. You are what you are.
THEN we get to the essay. Because like it or not, photos get us to read the essay.
When you write your profile, be honest and don't say what you think people want to hear. Your true personality will come out soon enough so why lie and end up disappointing someone, prompting another "Why do all men....." post?
Unless you are SO desperate to get that ONE date out of a guy for him to find out most of your profile was manure, be honest.
We'll read them if you make them intersting. Fair enough?
Most of these responses have been dead on target. Read and heed! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:39:06 AM | I decided with my profile that I would add that they'll be quizzed on it, and that I like people who have read it and maybe a few forum posts. I also added that if you want to learn about me at all, those would be wise places to get the basics. My profile isn't real long or flowered up with anything false, so I don't think of it as too much to read.
I was still getting those "love your profile" e-mails where they then declare their love and tell me they have to take me out, to which I have to ask where they saw that I was looking to date anyone.
I got one recently telling me they loved my smile...and none of my pics have a smile in them. I told them I had no pics like that, were they sure it was me they wanted to message? And the response was "well...your pic had what was close to one". LOL maybe true, but probably a back peddle.
I may be flamed for saying this, as it seems the profile is useless to most people - but for me it's a place to post stuff that I get asked constantly and I am sick of answering. People will say "well I like to find out thru talking". Well I don't. I am bored to tears with my own stats and want to get past it and talk about something else.
My job, where I am from, what I am looking for and my interests are all there...for Christ's sake go look em up - then if you have some of the same ones, e-mail me about it. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:40:04 AM | | I read them all the way through. I really don't wnat to waste my time anymore than you do. I kinda get mad when the women don't put in what they are really wnating. Like not putting in "must not be married" and then chew you out for responding to them because you are married. Sometimes guys really do just want to talk! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:49:27 AM | OSQ,
I think you have the right idea as to how you are handling your profile. I more or less do the same thing. I do read an entire profile (or fall asleep in the attempt if its too long), and I hope people read mine too, as I put alot of thought into it, and I meant what I wrote.
I think I may have to resort to the quiz too, I got my first ever "I like your pics" email last night, and was flabbergasted. Flattered yes, but still flabbergasted. Yep, that is all it said, "I like your pics". I had no idea whatsoever that women did this. I ended up just replying with "Thank you". I mean what am I suppose to do with that? I need a bit more to work with. LOL!
Have fun ;)! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:40:43 PM | I always read a woman's entire profile before contacting her, and I won't contact her unless I do fit at least 80-90% of her list of wants if she has one. So if they ask for a tatoo and punk rocker guy, even if I think they are sexy and interesting I won't message them. If they ask for a smart, goal driven nice guy, thats a little more me so I will contact them.
With my profile I tried to strike a balance between one thats too small and one thats way too big... I give a few setences summing me up and than if they are still interested a good page explaining a lot about me. So far I have had terrible success on here though. I have contacted woman, who word for word describe the type of guy they want exactly as I have written in my profile (and how I am in real life). But basically no real replies as of yet.
I think the competition is PRETTY tough on here for men that are in the 5-7 range in the looks department and aren't showing their six packs\boxers in a mirror shot, in my area their are a lot more men than woman on here. | |
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