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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2006 8:15:33 AM | LOL - can't help but chuckle when guys/gals say "good-looking/attractive/sexy" ...
(i..e "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", isn't it?)
Having said that, it actually does speak volumes about how a person perceives themself (i.e. whether they think they're "nice/attractive/whatever") and as such it helps us to begin understanding them (well, okay - perhaps we'll NEVER truly understand some people ... but it's the thought that counts ... ha!)
Perhaps a profile should be what we want to say about ourselves, vice what we think others want to hear (i.e. the marketing term "bait and switch" comes to mind ... which in the POF context becomes "catch and release" ... chuckle!)
Yup - if you think of the social exchange when you are introduced to somebody, it goes something like this: "Hi, I'm so-and-so; nice to meet you." (as opposed to the buzzsaw approach, which has many forms such as "I hate my ex, and you're the same gender, therefore I'm probably going to hate you, too ..." at which point the sane member of this discourse normally finds an excuse - ANY excuse - to distance themself from the ogre ...)
$0.02 (and hope somebody out there chuckles today!) | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2006 9:01:03 AM | If US men read your whole profile right down to this part:
Copyright 2001-2006 Plentyoffish Media INC
Does that mean we've read too far?
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2006 9:06:40 AM | Yes, some take the time to read my VERY lengthy profile. (it is that way because I would rather be up front about who and how I am and let someone make an educated decision as to whether they would like to write to me or not.)
BUT even though I have a pretty clear 1st paragraph noting NOT to write if they are just looking for sex.. I still get tons of the "hey sexy" emails!!!
Almost makes me laugh, but better than that, gives me some great blogging material!!!
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2006 9:10:52 AM | Okay okay .....................SOME.. not all.. don't read
However, there's a bloody high percentage that fails to comprehend.*snicker | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2006 9:14:36 AM | There is an advantage of reading through the whole profile. Not only do you learn about the person, but when you get down to where it shows the postings in the forums, you can see if they've commented in any interesting forums.
I love reading through some of the many LONG profiles. I've read some pretty creative ones too.
It's the ones that have the LOOKING FOR: option set to friends, or talk/email, and post pictures that look like something out of the fall edition of Victoria's Secret catalogue, that I finish reading, for a good laugh only.
They are usually the ones that set at the computer and get all disgusted..........well why do all guys want me for is sex. If you wore some more clothes, then maybe as a friend I might think there's more to talk about then you need some more clothes in your profile pictures.
I do know that a lot of men think they are superman with the X ray vision and want to see women naked, and no matter if you have a profile picture that looks like you took it during winter time at the North Pole, you still get the morons that before even saying hi, want to talk about you being naked, BUT not all men are like that.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/7/2006 12:34:34 PM | Knightwriter, did you not say that she said 'MOST'?
Her first remark was.........most men don't think about stuff like that.
I don't understand why that bothered you so much. MOST is not ALL....
On topic, I think the men who do and don't read profiles seem to be pretty equal. I've gotten some nice comments on mine, which says they read it....especially when they ask about something in particular that I mentioned.
~DC~ | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/8/2006 5:17:45 PM | Hell, I read profiles, that's why I hardly ever e-mail anyone.
It goes like this:
Wow, she's pretty. Hmmm, lives reasonably close. Not too tall, WOOPS! Doesn't drink! Darn, we'd never have fun at the blender.
Or - "My hobby is working out". - She's out! I got a pot belly and an extra chin...
"I love to go out dancing" - Nope, not my thing!
"I travel to Europe (Caribean, Bali, etc.) several times a year" - No way I could afford to keep up!
"I love Football!!!!" - I'm not at all into sports...
"My three cuddly pitbulls are my life! I take them everywhere." - Great, kid substitutes that can crush bones.
"My mate must be successful, intense, focused, goal oriented and know exactly what he wants in life and goes for it like a pitbull" - Umm...I'm pretty mellow...
It's a zoo out there I tell ya! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/8/2006 5:30:58 PM | yes i read them, and sometimes, even if i don't match the cumbersome list of wants and want nots, i'll still say hi, or pay a compliment. it doesn't mean i want to change you. or even meet you. just a heartfelt compliment now and then. but hey, i can see where some might be vain enough to misconstrue hey you have a beautiful smile, into i want to change what you want , desire and hope for, and i am all that. i have found the whole process tedious. i have met one genuine person, from all of those profiles claiming to be sincere, honest, loyal etc. etc. looking for an honest man?
figure out what one looks like and you might get one. if he'll have anything to do with you.
i'm out of here.
peace | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/8/2006 7:47:44 PM | | I do read whole profiles, usually at least twice, just in case I might have missed something. The profiles are written for a reason, otherwise it would be just a pic & checklist. All surface & no substance. I am not looking for "meat": but a whole person, just as I am a whole person, not just the visuals. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/8/2006 10:45:55 PM | Me<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< I agree with you 100%, I am also that way
If I wanted to buy a book " as I noticed someone had said here already" I'd go to a book store.
When two peoplke click, then yes, they can beginning to write a book together!
p.s. If they have time! LOL
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/9/2006 12:19:59 PM |
I don't understand why that bothered you so much. MOST is not ALL
No it's not ALL, but from her point of view, she really meant all. If she didn't, she would have agreed with me and say what she did in a different way. Through the whole time together, I was competing with the "most men" ghosts. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/9/2006 6:44:52 PM | There are some profiles that I skim, at best. These tend to be the ones not particularly well written... especially the ones where the person talks only about what she wants from a guy, while forgetting to mention anything about herself.
Then there are the excellent profiles, that make be laugh, or where I give my silent nod of approval.
Then again, if I only skim, and don't think much of the profile, I wouldn't message the woman! So there you go. I guess I wouldn't be one of those guys messaging you in a rather clueless fashion. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/9/2006 8:37:29 PM | Well ladies, I have to say, the biggest complaints that I have found from men on here is that then send out emails and hear nothing back. My feeling is, if someone takes the time to write to you, you should have the decency to write back. If I get one from a guy that obviously hasn't read what I have posted, I politely suggest that maybe they go back and read the WHOLE profile. Most of the replies I get from that is .."well thanks for even replying to me".
I've had a couple of pofiles on here at different stages of my life and I had one, which got upwards of 200 e-mails a day...ok, so honesty isn't always the best policy, especially when it comes to sex. Men do have selective reading, therei s no doubt on that...but ladies, guys get tired of sending out replies to profiles and hearing NOTHING back.
Just my opinion, for what it is worth..probably less than the proverbial 2 cents. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/9/2006 8:40:41 PM | | please excuse my grammatical and typos in that posting but as you can tell from my name, I'm 2tired2type ( I should have added in that name 2tired2typecorrectly) | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/9/2006 8:42:09 PM | | I know a lot of people read mine because nearly everyone that messages me gets to the part where I say "been 29 for 7 years" I especially put that at the bottom of my write up AND when I said I didn't like Gemini's I kept getting messages that said "I am not a Gemini" LOL or "what do you have against Gemini's," again that was near the end of the blurb so I think they do read it, not all guys but many. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/9/2006 8:47:01 PM | | I read profiles from top to bottom, and the longer the better. Very short profiles seldom really spark my interest enough to write. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/12/2006 8:53:52 PM | I have to say that it is true: some of us do send out many e-mails, with no response of any kind. For my part, I have used a few different dating sites, sent out many e-mails (though only 4 on here as of yet) and received only one response... a positive one. I ALWAYS read the profile, and I always comment on it.
But then again, no one is obligated to respond to anything on this site. Freedom rules, as it should, but it can get discouraging at times. Oh well... cheers!  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/12/2006 9:35:20 PM | | I always read the profile,the whole profile before I send mail to any one,and I comment on it in the email. I read a lot in the forums so if I see a picture that grabs my attention , no it doesn't have to be a semi porn pic or even a picture at all , if the post is what I would call funny or intelligent. I'll pull up the profile just to see if we're somewhat on the same page.Believe me there are some FUNNY profiles out there,you guys don't know what you're missing. Look at all the pictures in the profile too,some times there is a bonus joke in there. I've contacted lots of what I would consider really attractive woman , been polite in my letter , commented on their profile or picture or both. I received a reply from every single woman except for 2 and both of those said in their profiles that they might not be able to reply right away due to health reasons. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/14/2006 6:07:01 PM | | You are so right. I agree completely. You can tell so much by their writing. Can they spell? What degree they are educated, if they have a one track mind....etc. Do they have a sense of humour? Are they complainers, egotistical, well-travelled, and so many other qualities or not. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/15/2006 12:06:45 AM |
Just curious. Do you guys read our whole profiles or just the parts that you want to see. I get emails all of the time from guys that don't seem to have read through mine. Do you think that you're the one that's going to change my mind on what i'm looking for? I mean if you're that wonderful then hey, I'm game! I think I have made my wants clear. Why do you email anyway?
Vixen
Since you have no profile to click on, it would make this questions rather moot, doncha think? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/15/2006 7:20:55 AM | well i have a question? I have been talking to someone on line here and he is still on the site and he keeps on telling me he just looks at my profile. we already met once and i want to meet him again. Now he tells me not to send him email on plentyoffish anymore and i have both of his emails and he is a diabetic. I send him diabetic recipies and etc. I am trying to help him and now he says to me cut down on the recipies abit. what does that mean. can anyone explain to me on this one please. Should I just take my profile off and let him wonder.  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/15/2006 7:46:53 AM | I swear to read the profile, the whole profile, and nothing but the profile, so help me god.
Oh wait that only works when taking the witness stand!
Sorry samoy2e, but sounds to me like he's looking at more than just your profile. Sounds like he's playing the field. He doesn't want any incriminating emails showing up when he's got someone else over. Leave your profile up, and still let him wonder. When you met did he let you see his profile from HIS end of the pond? He's definitely sounding like a fish you want to throw back into the pond! If not, good luck! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/15/2006 7:53:29 AM | | well no he did show me his profile when i met him. I sent him pictures and i sent him flowers when he was sick. I did everything and i like him but i just don't know what to do anymore ok. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/15/2006 12:00:36 PM | | Most of the men I end up chatting with don't read the profiles. I don't know how many times I've been on the instant messenger, having a good conversation, and I'll say something about my son and all of a sudden they'll type "oh...you have kids?" I always type back "didn't you even read my profile?" | |
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