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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/16/2006 12:12:26 PM | if they are actually searching and using this site for the right reasons they will read the profile, if they went on just pics, then they could meet up with a crazy broad | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/16/2006 3:07:28 PM | I am SO glad someone posted on this. It is my biggest pet peeve so far on this, and most other dating sites.
I'm not rattling on about what I want to fill my time. I've got four kids to raise. Believe me, if I thought guys would listen when I said it as a "by the way" then thats how I'd do it. But unfortunately, it seems daily, that I get messages from men who are WAY out of my age range which happens to be my biggest criteria.
And on the flip side, if a guy hasn't even bothered to fill his out, I don't bother with him. I mean, you're supposed to be here to find a potential mate and thats not important enough to take 5 minutes of your time and write something more than "Fun fun fun"????? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:27:23 AM | | Well how are we going to meet someone if we don't read a person's profile? I read every single one and see if I have similar interests with that special someone. That is just me. I just have a hard time getting responses just because I don't think anyone wants a guy that deeply values morals, honour, compassion and laughter. On top of that loves kids too. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:41:16 AM | With thinking about it, the OP that would ask a question like this, apparently can't tell the difference between the MEN and the BOYS on here.
But, then again, I have sent messages to some women AFTER reading their WHOLE profile, just to get the message read & deleted or just deleted.
I've had a couple say "Thanks, but I found someone".
If they found someone, then common courtesy would be to state something IN the profile to indicate "I'M NOT LOOKING NOW, I FOUND SOMEONE" I've seen profiles like that, so they are out there.
The one woman that "found someone" is STILL very active on here. I would hope the person they found doesn't mind that fact.
I'd feel a bit better with a thanks, but I'm not interested. To say you've found someone, and your profile doesn't have any indications the continued activity is because of forums, it just makes me laugh and think thank goodness it was only a free message. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 7:21:24 AM | | Now the question is, Do you girls read all of our profiles. Or do you just look at the pic's to to see if we meet your idea of what you are looking for. We all do it, Now don't we. We have to see if we like their looks and what they have and how much they make before you respond to a add. See a pattern here everyone. I know the girls do the same thing, Don't you girls? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 7:36:55 AM | | Oh by the way girls and ladies. Now don't take this the wrong way. If you want a guy to read your profile. Please don't do pic's with nothing but ( BOOB ) shots in them. A nice dress or some other outfit will work really good to. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:48:28 AM | Ah, yes. The usual female profile: (paraphrased, of course)
"I am a warm, friendly outgoing person who is active and energetic. I love fine dining and travel. I am seeking a real man within 5 years of my age who knows what he wants and how to get it. Education is important, financial stability a must, must like family life and cats, and live within 50 miles of me. You should not have the idea that sex is a possibility, as I am really looking for a friend, soulmate and companion for activities. If you are ready to commit to a long term association and make the grade there, something might happen, but, then again, it might not. You also should be interesting, because, goodness knows, there are a lot of uninteresting men out there who have already contacted me."
That, after all, is what most of us males are like. We spend our time eating gourmet meals in French restaurants in between flying about to destination resorts and casinos. The rest of the time is spent resolving the grand challenges of science, politics and economics. Hardly any of us are involved in the daily minutae of existence, like working away at routine jobs so that we have the money to stay warm and dry in the Winter, make support payments for the kids and ex, buy a case of beer for an hour of relaxation on the weekend, and generally carry out the grubby tasks of every day life.
My own experience is that the females never read profiles. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:07:44 PM | Now the question is, Do you girls read all of our profiles. Or do you just look at the pic's to to see if we meet your idea of what you are looking for. We all do it, Now don't we. We have to see if we like their looks and what they have and how much they make before you respond to a add. See a pattern here everyone. I know the girls do the same thing, Don't you girls?
Of course we all look at the pics first to see if it's what we want. Men and women both do this, and they should - that's a given. We all look at the pictures. The question was do you read the profile after you see the pic?
Or do you just start e-mailing without seeing if the person is looking for the same as you, or if you'll even be a match for them? If you blindly start talking to them with no idea what their interests or preferences are, you end up asking stuff that's already been posted, or wasting your time talking to someone who's not looking for what you are. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 934 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:20:05 PM |
Or do you just start e-mailing without seeing if the person is looking for the same as you, or if you'll even be a match for them?
Some of the profiles are as long as war and peace ... mind you, they should be scanned for red flags, bad attitude and things that demonstrate unresolved baggage and trust issues.
The rest read pretty much the same as what rearguard said ... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 2:15:49 PM | Aye, Arri: Spot on Rearguard! With a few notable, recent exceptions (sorry chaps, OHMSS eyes only...).
File this one, Moneypenny. | |
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dannol
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Joined: 9/29/2006
Msg: 936 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 2:20:17 PM | | No some of not only read the profile but look at the forums you get involved in and look at the person and likes and dislikes first before even making contact. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 2:27:27 PM | Well, I first see a thumbnail pic and, curious, I check the profile. If, as a full image I am still curious (oooh just a touch shallow), then I check the profile in depth, including the age restrictions, and if I can honestly see a possibility than I (after a bout of nervousness) try a contact. But most of the time I see there is something that makes it a no go - either for her or for me, and I dont try to contact.
~Honesty alert! ~ Its fun to look, we all do it, its not wrong, its fun! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 4:16:52 PM | I'm with OSQ - there is a certain amount of shallowness when "reviewing" a profile. Pics are good, so you can get a general idea of who you may be dealing with. A number of us have been burned in the past, meeting up with an individual who wasn't exactly all they claimed to be.
Pics provide a certain amount of honesty. A certain amount, since it is possible to photoshop a pic.
Profiles? I read those. I want to make sure that the individual can spell and has a fairly decent grasp of grammar. Demanding of me, I know, but there you go. I require a certain facility with the english language.
I've had way too many people just contact me asking "so what are you into?"
A long profile may be a long hard slog to get through, but gems can be found. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 5:18:21 PM | I'm with OSQ - there is a certain amount of shallowness when "reviewing" a profile.
Just wanted to make this clear: I don't consider looking at pics shallow at all, and I think we should all start but not end there. It's only shallow when you go for looks only and you don't care what else they are about.
People who go on looks first and then look for the whole package beyond that are not shallow at all - they are human and they are honest with themselves enough to know they like what they like. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 5:50:32 PM | If you can catch his eye, you can catch his heart.
But that's just the start.
I read EVERY word in a profile. I won't send an email if there is clearly not a match involved.
I also expect women to read my profile, as well. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 5:59:22 PM | ha ha, NO! I have had times when I have had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING on my profile, no pics, no description, no NOTHING! But, still, they would email me saying , "hey I saw your profile, and I liked what I saw. you seem like a very interesting girl, very deep (LOL!), profound, and I'd love to get to know you better. Hit me back!"
then I talked with other friends on this site and they had gotten the EXACT same message! Also I've wwritten stuff like, "already found my love," or "don't IM me unless you email me first," and the **stards STILL try it!
truth? Men are hornballs. THey don't read a crap of what we write here. Basically, they know if they're gonna talk to you or not by looking at your photographs. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 6:31:29 PM | Men are hornballs. THey don't read a crap of what we write here. Basically, they know if they're gonna talk to you or not by looking at your photographs.
Its true. We are.
Yes, we do read your profiles. We try to love. Thats all you could ask, right!? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 8:05:10 PM | | i dont fink they do i have on my profile not to IM me if u just want me to strip for my webcam still geting the pervs seroiusly guys read our profiles and save ur time. and another thing why do u guys think if u send hey sexy we will reply say something decent | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 8:43:00 PM | After reading this thread that should have been killed a long time ago, I can't help to notice the number of woman here bashing men. The immaturity of some of the woman here is laughable. Of course men will respond to some of the mentallity displayed here in an humoured matter.
First of all many woman are guilty of what they accuse us men of doing. Do some men just look at pics and send an im? well yes of course! Woman do the same. What most woman don't realize is that boob shots or lack of clothing will normally result in men ingnoring the rest of the profile. Why? Well if the woman is going to be classless then who cares what her profile says. This is how "some" men will percieve a womans profile. Normally the young ones. Woman also need to realize that men get tired of reading "must not this" or must have this" type of profiles(there is alot). This will only result in immature males heckling the shallow ladies. Woman are just as guilty of just looking at a pic and then iming men. I've had it done to me many times.
PoF unfortunately is based on imagery. That is why ladies show there boobs and men will show there chest. Because both sides know that a good number of ppl will just look at the pic and forget the rest of the profile.
People need to learn to deal with the way things are like on here. They will never change. You can complain all you want and things will never change. All one can do is try to understand how the other percieves people on here. People can also start by not generalizing everyone.  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/20/2006 9:05:02 PM | 
If you dress in a way that attracts men that JUST want sex, you will attract such.
Looking at your profile, I would have to say the one picture is a bit racy. With that being said, and seeing you are 18, and you want to date, then be prepared for all the HEY SEXY messages. Personally, I wouldn't send a message for a few reasons.
1. With the picture showing more than should be shown on a dating site, that does nothing for me. Pictures like that should be done with someone you've been with for a while, not to attract people with.
2. You are 18. You still have a lot of partying, wild nights, and living to be doing. Going back to reason 1, if you dress racy, you will get all the horny guys hitting on you, and personally I would feel like leaving you there to be hit on, while I go somewhere and grab a coffee somewhere.
Reading your profile isn't going to make a world of difference with the one picture on it annabella. If you took the picture off, and saved it for later viewing with a date, that's a different story.
I do notice a lot of the women that are jumping on the bandwagon about reading a profile, are the ones that have the racy, sexy, audition for the spot of an exotic dancer type pictures on their profiles.
An attractive woman to me, is one that will let me be attracted to their personality, and how they present themself. Back to fishing
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/23/2006 1:07:50 AM | Well i do read everything on the pro most of the time.And i read all of the threads and yes guys might be at the eye candy but i still like a women for her whole character not just her looks looks r a big part so is personality right,God Bless u all and Happy Thanksgiving.   | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/23/2006 1:29:53 AM | I would go with NO!!!!
My profile is basically closed down... and today i just put my picture back up... I've gotten 6 messages from guys wanting to meet up with me. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/23/2006 2:24:12 AM | So out of curiosity, and going to read what your profile says colegurl, that would make me a MAN that read your whole profile. It was short and brief, so it didn't take long to read.
So much for going with NO on MEN (more than one or ALL) reading your whole profile! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:47:41 AM |
So out of curiosity, and going to read what your profile says colegurl, that would make me a MAN that read your whole profile. It was short and brief, so it didn't take long to read
hahaha!!!! thats just not not fair!  but if it doesnt take long to read, than explain all the new messages in my box from men wanting to meet me? obviously my profile says i'm not interested... | |
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