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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/13/2006 12:04:51 AM | I think it all depends on the pic - there are tons on here of women's breasts, part of the @$$, legs, stomach, them looking 'seductivley' into the camera, etc. Those are the kind that usually arn't worth reading anyways. I find mostly the same for guys. The pro's that catch my eye have active, fun, happy pics on it, then I want to find out what they're like. If you only advertise the cover, why bother reading the book? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/13/2006 4:12:26 AM | Honestly, I don't think they do anymore. I could care less anymore, anyway. I'm just here for the forums now... I can't take this shit from men anymore...What's it like to be a lesbian?? I'm curious...
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:52:54 AM | I think some men dont read all of the profile because it may be too long.Im going to be honest I love to read.Im a book worm but on the computer If a profile is wayy too long Im not going to sit and read all of it.I see some people writing too much stuff.Im thinking Im almost finish reading the profile and I stroll down alot more stuff written.What I write in my profile is short and brief and to the point. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/13/2006 11:43:08 AM | Shure I do, but it has to have a good flow..if its just a bunch of random emoticons all over the place..then no.
I first look to see if they smoke, body type...I skip the job portion...because you are not your job.
Then I look at their interests.
If their interests are:
Going to clubs
Monster trucks
Basketball
Shoping
Getting their hair done
Nature hikes.....
They are SOOL, and I stop there. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/13/2006 12:38:44 PM | If I have sent a message to any female on here, or other dating sites, I have ALWAYS read the full profile. It makes writing the message easier. On most occasions I will comment on some part of the profile, and ask for more information.
Sometimes I mail someone who is probably not going to reply, making comments on the profile, usually complimentary.
It is always nice to get a reply though, no matter what my messages say.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:32:25 AM | Sorry, what was the question? LOL
Serious people looking for a relationship read the whole profile and players will tend not to. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:30:01 AM | It's getting to the point it doesn't really matter what is in a profile. I've messaged 3 people so far from my area, and get the ever so frequent "read/deleted" Without the common courtesy of a Hi thanks for the message, but I'm not interested, or a get lost ya loser, it just shows that they say they are a nice person in their profile and if you want to know more ask, but to read/delete without a response just tells me they aren't worth my time or effort. So, I move on to the next one in hopes they are a bit more truthful on being a nice person like they say in their profile.
Even though this is an online dating site, it's still REAL people setting in front of a computer. So, it's actually convenient to save time, money, and energy to have a message read/deleted than it is to run across the same people out and about, and be rude in person like they are on here.
I still read the whole profile, but my search area keeps expanding. Soon, I'll be looking for someone in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean.
Sometimes what can be a convenience, can also be a curse. While wasting away with reading so many profiles, and HOPING that a woman has the courtesy to leave a thanks for the interest, but I'm not interested, they have the convenience of slamming the door in your face with the read/deleted messages.
Confusing as hell? you betcha! Is it worth the effort? I'm beginning to wonder about that.
Will I still read the profiles? More than likely. Not ALL women are rude on here. It just seems the ones around where I live are.
I've also noticed it's generally the ones around my age or younger that read/delete the messages I send. So I guess that's one of the reasons I like older women. They have more common courtesies than the younger women it seems on here. Again, not saying ALL younger women, but the ones I manage to message! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:44:59 AM | I've been on here since June 06 and have had about 4 e-mails sent to me, of which 2 were responses to my inititial contact. I don't know if my pictures are that bad, if my profile is that bad, or if men just aren't interested in a 52 year old lady with gray hair. I've been pretty disappointed in the whole process all along. I keep seeing people say "stick with it" and that eventually something will happen, but a friend joined here in October and has had 3 personal contacts already. I've changed my profile, I've changed the pictures, hasn't made any difference.
This is a very interesting discussion, since 90% of the men are saying they read the whole profile (then the honest ones quip in and say "yeah if she's really hot"). Well guys - I might not be "really hot" to look at, but how do you know whether or not I'm "hot" to be with? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:46:27 AM | I don't think I'm special, I'm just me
I read everything on a person's profile, if you want to know something you just ask. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 5:56:38 PM | | the pic is clearly relevant, but to me, I seek the inner substance...just want to sense a bit of vibrant difference...I am not the norm I think and definetely not above anyone, but I have much interest in taking things to the ultimate spiritual level when it comes to caring for one another...an automatic system of exclusive trust that results in either bliss or chaos...I do read the profiles myself...for the little things of interest...maybe just a hint of special attention in the making...but must constantly remind my self that love is so very different for so many people..I just try to absorb every single detail and pray that I have not missed the all important element..and that destiny leads me to a charmed life. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:03:55 PM | looks are always deceiving and just when we think we have this all figured out, another enlightenment arrives in life...to show us that what we thought we wanted was not at all what was truly right for us...the inner passion of the deep extending self is all that is important, especially when you only wish to offer this to the one who might be capable of appreciating you for your true virtues...
a photo usually is deceptive... not always..face-to-face is the only way to connect..physically...spiritually...emotionally...endlessly...we all have the very same needs..just some of us have different ways of expressing them... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:22:01 PM | Thing is ladies we do care what's on there, but there is a serious lack of common courtesy when it comes to online dating.
I mean, I've read through several, liked what I read, also liked what I saw, sent messages and then nothing, not even so much as a thanks but no thanks. So let me make sure I understand this right, (and don't think it's just the ladies, guys are lame about this too) there's plenty of time to crop pictures of your exes, write a novel about what you're not looking for (awesome!), post up pics with cleavage showing or worse, etc etc etc There's also plennnnty of time to respond to forum messages and the like, it shows them right there in your profile, buttttttttt there's not enough time to just send a "no thanks" or "buzz off" whatever right? "Oh but I get sooooooo many responses, there's just not enough time"....c'mon now, we all know that's crap. I don't buy it, never will. If you have enough time to put together a detailed profile, you have enough time to tell people yes or no.
So after all that, I no longer bother with reading them, I look at how old a person is, kids or no kids, smoker or non, what types of pictures they have up, maybe some of their interests and then after all that, I still don't bother with them as they'll just ignore me anyway 
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:28:18 PM | canaryx8 "I still don't bother with them as they'll just ignore me anyway" It's a shame that you allow someone else that you don't know's actions to change your behavior. You're not the only one, but there are a myriad of reasons people don't respond. The thing is to not take it personal, and don't give it a second thought. How much better to focus your energies on finding someone who will respond. Stay positive, that really helps more than you can imagine.  | |
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Joined: 11/10/2006
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 12:07:17 AM | | Well, of course Men read profiles. Profiles are an important part of initiating conversation. I was accused of not reading profiles many times, but then again, perhaps women come to expect them not to be read. Perhaps Women assume Men read them and don't read them, which of course may be tied to the fact of some sultry pic they left behind. And that's another thing, what's up with this 'look at how hot I am' profiles anyways? Altogether if you or someone out there gets an email with a slight suggestion that they did not read your information don't be upset, its more than likely a false assumption. I read profiles a lot, and spoken with many, overall it's 50/50, some are who they say they are, some are not. Go figure. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 12:37:17 AM | I do read the profiles of women that have pictures on their profile that look like they are trying to get a job as a Victoria Secrets model. Entertainment purposes actually with reading them.
I doubt they will be wearing the same outfit if we were to meet at Starbucks, or somewhere for coffee.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:37:28 AM | Because I know I have certain dealbreakers and certain traits, that while they may not be required they certainly sweeten the pot, I can respect that men probably have preferences as well. I want to know what they are if it was so important to them that they took the time to express them in thier bio. I want to respect their efforts to search for what want and if I'm not it...well can't please everyone all the time, right? I think many people don't read all the way through because like you, I have received e-mails from men who are absolutely the opposite in what I've expressed interest in. So I put the my most important trait desired in my heading "One Tall Man, Please...". Surely, one would at least read the one liner... Not being super tall is not a deal breaker but I would think men who aren't even 5' would maybe assume I put that there because that's what I want or at least something close??? Just maybe? Either they don't read or don't care about your likes and dislikes since they're not as important as their own likes (you at this point) and dislikes. Fine line between being optimistic and giving it a shot and wasting everyone's time by (for lack of a better word) soliciting where a sign's clearly posted saying soliciting is not welcomed. My five cents... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 4:49:39 AM | ""I've messaged 3 people so far from my area, and get the ever so frequent "read/deleted" Without the common courtesy of a Hi thanks for the message, but I'm not interested, or a get lost ya loser, it just shows that they say they are a nice person in their profile and if you want to know more ask, but to read/delete without a response just tells me they aren't worth my time or effort. "
Knightrider33,
I see how that can come across as rude but for some people like myself, it's more disappointing to see a reply in my mailbox from a guy I would have e-mailed first. To get the initial, "Oh cool," thought only to see the thanks but no thanks...well that sucks. To me that's a hard form of rejection; I'd personally rather just not hear back. Sure, it's rejection all the same but it feels like a softer form because while I'll mentally note not having heard back from him I'll often forget (since I was basically just casually fishing anyway) that I e-mailed him in the first place. So, I tend to not e-mail others the, "No thanks, you don't make the cut," e-mail either because of how it used to make me feel. It's not always done out of rudeness but a tendency to do unto others how you want to done or that some don't see it as rudeness when it's done to them therefore they might not think it's rude if they do it (or don't do it, in this case) to you. Another five cents... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 5:55:01 PM | Hey Ladies and listen up Gents, i was checking out this thread the other day and up until tonight i really haven't had too many bad seeds except.......tonight just takes the cake!
 I know exactly what u mean.....just had a guy on here who had emailed me asking if i was the one???? First off....he didn't sound very nice because in his email to me he was dissing this other girl he had dated on here.....like WTF is up with that? Like am i supposed to feel sorry for this complete stranger???? Well being the nice person that i am ( i can see THAT light dimming too, if i have to deal with these men on here who don't read my profile!) i took the time to read his profile and he is totally NOT what i am interested in in any way shape or form!!!! Hey guys....my profile says........NO ANGER MANAGEMENT PROBLEMS OK???? Been there ....done that and Im not going to put up with it on here or anywhere!!! So when i so kindly reply to your email and tell you no that i am not the girl for you..........take it like a man and leave it alone! | |
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inachu
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Joined: 11/18/2006
Msg: 1045 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 6:33:47 PM | Put your hand up to your monitor.
If your monitor is a 19" then I will read only half of what my hand covers up.
I will not read any deeply type profile and seeing she says the following....
"Seeing what I typed above I except a similar response in size and quality."
Uuuuuuuuugh | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 7:28:49 PM | | I dont even read the guys whole profile........I couldnt care less anyways if someone reads my profile or not.....You get to know someone throught chats not a couple paragraphs of fluff...........Just be happy the guy or girl contacted you. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 7:49:00 PM | I always read every profile Im interested... if a profile is too long winded i dont bother.. its not the damn book of yor life. This is an online dating site. get real people.
But If i do make it to then end.. Im usually going to send an email.. and i always try to make a point of mentioning something in the message that makes appearant tht I have read it. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/16/2006 7:56:28 PM | Bucsgirl:
It was a joke silly, I'm a very positive person, but I am also a smart ass and very sarcastic at times, sorry you missed that part as it probably doesn't come across online very well
to all by the way, even you you bungholes who are rude and don't show courtesy on here  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/17/2006 12:32:44 AM | I am probably older than most of the authors posting on this particular message and don't usually read or post on the message boards, but I saw this subject and was intrigued enough to read and now to respond.
I agree with you about the picture . . . there has to be at least an initial attraction. I will admit to deleting messages without a pic, shallow maybe, but more so I have to wonder what would keep a person from posting a picture - - - ?
I also agree with Vixen - at least read what I am looking for - - if you are close then send me a message, but if we are at opposite ends of the spectrum . . .
What I don't understand and would love to get a male perspective on is why a man would send a blatantly sexual introduction to someone who specifically states they are not looking for a "hook up". Let's be realistic, if all we wanted was a hook up , we could find that without going on line.
Introduce yourself, tell us what prompted you to contact us and do a little somthing out of the ordinary.
Good luck to everyone! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/17/2006 12:59:50 AM | | I have wondered about the same thing. I met someone once and the first thing he did was the touchy feely thing. I could not handle the, later I emailed him and explained I am not that way and also asked him did you not see the Lord's pictures in my home? I am a Christian lady and you do not treat them like a cheap tramp just as soon as you walk in the door. guess he did not read my whole profile. | |
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