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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/27/2006 4:19:04 PM | lol cant remember how many times people message me and ask the dumbest questions that are simply on my profile!!
Ya figure if you take the time to read it you might just learn something about that person? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/27/2006 5:33:13 PM | | I think we are all guilty of that at times. Just don`t email and say you read the profile....some are miles long.......if you haven`t really read it. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/28/2006 4:18:09 PM | It also depends on what kind of pics a person has up... you can tell what they're proud of by what they choose to show others.
What are they saying when they're all T&A shots vs. pics with friends? Pics are a huge part of the profile, they are the first impression that we choose to show. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/28/2006 4:33:55 PM | I have yet to talk to a guy on here that read my whole profile. Mine is not too long or too short. I have noticed though that alot of guys say they want a long term commitment with a nice girl and you look at thier voting history and its all young Barbie doll half dressed girls just looking for a good time. So why do these men even bother with regular girls if they are looking for the perfect Barbie doll?
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/28/2006 5:22:16 PM | Hello, I am new here and came across this thread.
I personally enjoy reading the profile if it’s not some sort of novel. It’s the only way to find out if I am really interested in the lady whose picture caught my eyes. How else can I make an accurate judgment and pursue with an e-mail?
Have fun!
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:33:32 PM | Always, if I am going to send you an email, then yes I've read your profile. Sure I dont always get all the details right and sometimes I miss a word, but then again I'll read a 350 page book in one day if I like it.
But if I were looking for a one night stand, and I'm not, I would not read whole profiles, rather I'd skim quickly for 'helpful' details and make my pitch. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/29/2006 9:05:05 AM | Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
No, they don't. I know this because women's profiles say as much. Over and over.
In fact I think I need to be more insistent on my profile being read, too:
Hi, thank you for reading my profile. I use the term 'reading' very loosely. What I mean to say is, 'Thank you for looking at my picture and launching off a creepy e-mail'. Are you reading this? THOROUGHLY? Please take a moment to read my profile in its entirety. I mean the whole frigging thing, where I go on and on for paragraphs and paragraphs about what I want and demand from my man. Every freaking word, okay? Keep reading, punk, there are no Cliff Notes available. Scroll on and on and on until you're cramped with carpal tunnel. If you actually READ the whole profile, you'll get down to the verrrry last sentence where I say I'm not really looking for anybody at this time. Psych! But I'm sure you haven't got this far, so it doesn't matter.
Love,
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? NO.
Posted: 12/29/2006 9:15:42 AM | the short answer is NO. we dont read all of your profiles anymore that you read ALL of ours. the fact is men like to get a general idea first of the person they see, sometimes looks and sometimes what they read. lets face it, who wants to take out someone with 500 different hobbies. none of this even comes across as remotely real.
if the face is nice and the profile seems genuine, then its more likely to get a response. also we tend to keep it simple and to the point. nothin is as much a turn off as someone going overboard on selling themselves or worse still, people who have absolutely NOTHING and i mean NOTHING to say about themselves. jesus what a complete TURN OFF. hope this helps.
me fein. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/29/2006 9:19:57 AM | I only look at the pic. Now you tell me they are all fake 200 pounders hiding behind an Angie Jolie body shot?
That is distressing news. Guess I shouldn't be surprised.
The profiles are mostly boring crappola about kittykats, romantic wet dreams and a grocery list of unrealized expectations.
I do not expect to find any woman like me with "similar interests" so am never disappointed. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/29/2006 4:30:02 PM | | That is such a great question. I tend to think men skim the photos..and move on. I do believe that chemistry is important, but substance is what sustains the relationship. Honest descriptions, and realistic photos I consider basics.....but find many folks lie, and send in old photos....Hmm....I truly welcome honesty, and less drama in this service. I think the service is what each person wants out of it....Time to click off. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:56:38 PM |
Just curious. Do you guys read our whole profiles or just the parts that you want to see. I get emails all of the time from guys that don't seem to have read through mine. Do you think that you're the one that's going to change my mind on what i'm looking for? I mean if you're that wonderful then hey, I'm game! I think I have made my wants clear. Why do you email anyway?
Vixen
Yes, I do take time to read the profiles; some of them are actually interesting, you know.
Try it sometime.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/29/2006 6:04:48 PM | | yes i agree women are too jsut as bad as men. and i am a woman saying that. I am more into personality however than looks. but with each of us we all do wnat to know what we one day could be meeting. we all have our preferences. after all there must be some attraction on both sides. dont u all agree? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 12/29/2006 11:16:59 PM |
Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? No, they don't. I know this because women's profiles say as much. Over and over. In fact I think I need to be more insistent on my profile being read, too: Hi, thank you for reading my profile. I use the term 'reading' very loosely. What I mean to say is, 'Thank you for looking at my picture and launching off a creepy e-mail'. Are you reading this? THOROUGHLY? Please take a moment to read my profile in its entirety. I mean the whole frigging thing, where I go on and on for paragraphs and paragraphs about what I want and demand from my man. Every freaking word, okay? Keep reading, punk, there are no Cliff Notes available. Scroll on and on and on until you're cramped with carpal tunnel. If you actually READ the whole profile, you'll get down to the verrrry last sentence where I say I'm not really looking for anybody at this time. Psych! But I'm sure you haven't got this far, so it doesn't matter. Love, Vorpal
Sheesh! Give me a break, I just got "Hooked on Phonics"(tm). I tried reading your profile but it had lots of long words and stuff. Like Caerbanog. Know-one nose what that is. Whose ever herd of a "Caerbanog" anyway?
:p
Animated badguy-characters rule! | |
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| some of us are real (believe it or not)
Posted: 1/1/2007 12:04:04 PM | | hey there ,yes some of us do read the whole profile,and just for the record,to be honest some of us are real in our profiles,but sometimes you have to actually have a conversation (like more than 1 sentence to know)not to float my own boat but here's an example ,Iam well educated ,presently working on my 3 rd skilled trade license,I raise and have live with me my step son who I'm activly involved with,I am cute ,funny, adventuerous,usually the life of the party and get invited out regularly,so why am I single ,because I'm selective and waiting for someone who will pursue me for a change,someone who'll take the time to look inside ,as well as very romantic and loves to write little poems to my speecial someone,I am blunt and outspoken far from a door mat,have my own interests to pursue as well,some of us are tired of doing the right things for the wrong ppl and is happy with myself an can afford to take my time to find someone who fullfils my wants an needs as I want to do for them | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 3:45:45 AM | It's getting old for me...most men don't read them, most are looking for a booty call, they have nothing in common, etc...
These dating sites are ok.
I like this one 'cause of the forums.
Too many phonies to weed through in search of the "real".
I'm not holding my breath, put it that way.
The ones who don't have a pic irritate me the most.
They have excuse after excuse.
One finally sent one and you couldn't even make out the face.
He's probably married.
Good luck to you and happy New Year.
Chosen
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 4:30:51 AM | I certainly do. Depending on how long it is. I read it, compare what I am looking for and what they are looking for carefully, look for certain key phrases, analyze what they mean, then I send a message. So far from this sight for women I have contacted. I have had several 4 - Read's (no response back, and one of those is of a woman who said she is just looking for someone to chat to), 2 - Read-Deleted's, 1 - Unread, and this is the latest update. I gotten an email from two very lovely ladies, unfortunately they are not looking.
On another site, where there are Match Me tests, I must of done like 20 by now (and this is over a month period), how many have done mine? ZERO! I have made like 5-7 comments on particularly interesting open journals. You know how many I have had so far? 2 and it is only from those who reflect my sentiments to how I don't understand how is it a person can be on a dating site for almost a year or more, get only one possible response from a person, only to find out I intimidated them by asking them out for a lunch to just take about each other after 5 days. Plus, I did contribute to that demise because I decided to share some of my good and bad personality traits with her. Yep, too soon. And these errors in action was from me THINKING her words meant what she was actually SAYING.
The problem with reading the entire profile, and one of you ladies in another topic of mine brought it up clear as day. And right now, I can only speak from the side of a man looking for a woman, most women have hidden qualities they are looking for that are not even listed. In turn she is basing her opinions of a man (or woman) who just wrote her a "I'm here give me a chance to learn more about you." letter on these hidden aspects of herself that no one knows about. Perfect example, she stated that a woman reading that I am and in college may think I am immature as in I jump around from job to job and am unsteady. And if that was her judgement, she made the biggest ass of herself and so would every woman/person who believed that.
HELLO I AM MORE DEEPER THAN WHAT IS WRITTEN AND THERE IS A STORY TO BE TOLD ABOUT WHO I AM! Do I need to put down that I am on the Dean's List (again)? Do I have to put down even though I am a published poet, that I also won awards for a few of them? Do you need to know that my favorite meal is chitterlings, hog maws, black eye peas, collard greens, and baked macoroni and cheese. How can I conceivably put down everything of who I am and what I am, when this year, things can so easily change?
Sometimes it is not if or if not a person reads a profile and writes you, it is if the person have the heart to see beyond the words. If you are still getting emails from men or women who are just looking for sex (and not just for sex), heck, give them a freak'n try, maybe they will play ball in your court (unless your like me who are not sexually active, then think hard about it). To me a person who is willing to take time to read your profile, respond, and still be honest about what they want, is good in my book. At least they are taking a chance to let you know about them and asking to get to know about you. Unlike those of people who are playing games or who have so tight of a barrier around them that not even air can get through, your only hurting yourself and have no one to blame as to why I can't find someone, as to why dating sites suck, as to why I keep picking the wrong person. It is your fault. At least I can face my short comings, be upfront about them, and then open up. I once said I would not send out another email on this site, here I sent out 7 on Jan 1, 2007. I said I did not need help with my profile. I asked for help, was a little pissed about the changes that was suggested that needed to be made, did it anyway and I am waiting to see, if the update profile will get any response.
We have complicated the world of human interconnection and relational bonding so much we don't know heads from tails for something that is so natural to us. My mom brought up a great point, when our parents and fore parents were growing up they did not have self-help books. And look how more stable they were. Look how more succeeful in life they were. Look at how much longer relationships lasted (a uncle of mine died about a year after his only wife of God knows how many years passed, not because of illness, but because it she was the only one in the world for him), they meant "For better of for worst, in sickness and in health, til death do us part." We are a sad shadow of all that was once normal and natural in this world and we have no one to blame for this but ourselves.
One more thing for the fire: If you are a man or woman who REALLY believes someone will just come to you either in real life or online (which personally is not any less real or frightening than trying to introduce yourself in real life), STOP THAT! Take control of your own freak'n destiny! STOP being wishy washy! Love is bold, it is daring, it is fun, it is scary, it is challenging, it is life, live it! Ladies REAL men are willing to write you back if you write them. Is that not why we are here to find someone to share our lives with, be it just chatting online or full blown marriage? Let this be the New Year where you take part in making your own dreams come true and don't rely on chance to do for you. As you can see, it hasn't worked so far if your still here. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:04:25 AM | I read the entire profile, and find it somewhat annoying to see a picture of an attractive woman followed by very little content. When that happens I am less likely to send an email. I am one of those unusual males who is looking for beauty (not necessarily stereotypical beauty), brains and independence. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be many women on this site who have taken the time to write something, which actually conveys who they are as individuals. For those of you who have I applaud you.
Note: profile/picts will be up soon. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:15:40 AM | Correction some men do read my profile but most don't. I like the poster who said that alot of men on here are just looking for booty calls. I guess that is why they don't bother reading the profile. They could care less what type of person you are. I aways read profiles. Granted some are books lol and some are just one sentence. And yes I don't like corresponding with those that do not post a picture of themselves. Not just their eye or their arm or their feet lol.
Bonbons | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 8:54:13 AM | It is VERY RARE that i've had a man read my whole profile..because if they did, then I wouldn't get questions..like "do you have kids?" (ok dumbass, read the profile and check the pics..those two handsome boys..are mine!..)
It's human nature not to remember ever detail, but when you don't remember the basics...and ask the same question over and over..it is really not "cute" any longer, and I question the person they are. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 9:09:26 AM | If I am going to take the time to send an e-mail then you can be certain that I am going to read your profile.
On another site I use a name which is not allowed here and it is very easy to tell which women don't bother reading the profile. So yes women do it too  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 10:05:32 AM | | lol yeah, I get people who ask me what my major is or what college i go to. It's the first sentence of my profile! Ask me questions that you have after reading my profile. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/2/2007 10:38:15 AM | In defence of the guys:
This IS actually an interesting topic! And, yes, we women are 100% as guilty as men for being more interested if there is a picture. I mean, if a girl is telling you she gives as much interest to profiles without a photo she is lying! Don't kid yourselves, although there is much more to a person than what they look like, it is still the first thing that catches the eye! | |
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