| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/11/2007 1:57:33 PM | I think I agree with w82b(d589479) who said, " I am guilty of ignoring the long written, novel type profiles. As a normal practice, I skim over most profiles because I put little faith in the accuracy of content..."
And being a typical visual male, if I read any of the text, I certainly will look a the pics first. Most of the profiles I read here and on other sites stipulate primarily on what the ideal man cannot be and what 'she' demands. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/11/2007 2:27:01 PM | It seems that the men on here, greatest majority, always claim they are looking for something long term.......and they don't mean a word of it......unless long term is ..entertain ment for (HIM) for about 24 to 48 hours if that long...lmao
They know what attracts woman, and they use it...........just be careful! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/11/2007 2:30:30 PM | | i make sure to read all profiles that may interest me, and i read them in their entirety because i don't want to waste someone's time, just as i wish they won't waste mine.in my case, there's more to it than pics. i just wonder if there is a thread for women who read profiles completely! i was on cam with someone who wanted to have an affair. when i lit a cigarette she flipped out saying i can't kiss you, you smoke. had she read my profile i never hid the fact that i am a regular smoker! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/11/2007 10:17:27 PM | | Well, was going to say I read your response, and I do read the profiles to see if there's anything I like about a person, similiarities, likes dislikes and you can determine alot by what a person writes, how they write it, etc.... And I noticed this was posted in nov./05 so you're probably not even around any more. C'est lavez. Caio. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/12/2007 9:28:44 AM | [Actually, quite a few men DO seem to read the profile before emailing....not many do before hitting IM though.]-by- who_the_fox
you certainly hit the nail on the head there, Fox! OMG!
I think that's because of the row of pics you see at the top of your screen. You know how at the grocery
store, they have chocolate bars & chips by the checkout? It's to tempt those hungry shoppers into
some impulse buying. Well, I think maybe the row of pics, leads to inmpulse IM'ing! Too funny!
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/12/2007 1:26:55 PM | | Good thing my IM is only for my favourites. As for men reading my whole profile... they seem to get right down to the first date section of my profile. Ocassionally I will get some that will comment only on how pretty I am. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 12:05:35 AM | I have more dumb men asking me the stupid question's whne all the answers are in my profile, it's a bit in annoying to have "boys" caling me baby; asking me if i like to cuddle and kiss. they say they want to date but the first thing they ask about is my body. These Boys need to get a clue. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 12:12:22 AM | why do men IM someone letting them know subtly that their looking for sex or just some entertainment, it's so sad. i dont speak as if im like that so why do men asume so for women. i mean have a little respect. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 1:12:11 AM | I read almost every profile I checkout, unless they start putting me to sleep. I obviously need to be attracted to someone physically...but I need it backed up with something and a well written profile is certainly going to do that...rather than just a picture of a great looking girl who just says "ah...I hate these things...I never know what to write...hehehe". That's a quick turn-off....and on to the next profile.
I wouldn't say it's any different between men and women (as far as who reads profiles and who doesn't), it's more the type of person reading them, then anything. People that are serious...and know what they're looking for, I'd say they take a few mins to read what people have to say.
I find anytime I've chatted with someone that hasn't taken a bit of time to put together a decent profile...or one at all really, always turns out to be someone I'm not going to be interested in. If someone can't put a little effort in a profile to basically advertise who they are and sell themselves...then I wonder how much effort they'd have for an actual relationship. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 5:20:16 AM |
I read almost every profile I checkout, unless they start putting me to sleep. I obviously need to be attracted to someone physically...but I need it backed up with something and a well written profile is certainly going to do that...rather than just a picture of a great looking girl who just says "ah...I hate these things...I never know what to write...hehehe". That's a quick turn-off....and on to the next profile.
Totally agreed and understood. We expect you to move on if not attracted (well most of us do) and we expect that if you are attracted you then read on so you know if we're looking for the same things.
I got an e-mail this week that said something to the effect of "...hi. I saw your pic and liked it. I didn't read your profile because it seemed kind of long...I figured I could just find out what I need to know when we talk." Then naturally he goes into "I want to take you out, let's get together..." if he had read the profile he wouldn't have asked me that.
Deleted. That's just what I want, a guy who won't read if it seems too long. My profile is only going to appear long to guys who like picture books. I like men that like to read and write, but if you can't at least look at the basics of the profile like what I am looking for, height, weight, age, interests, where from, etc. then forget it. We list that stuff so as not to repeat it 99 times in conversation. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:41:30 AM | I have been wondering this. I keep gettin one line emails along the lines of, "Hi, wanna chat. u look like u r ok. " Anyone reading my profile who had any intelligence at all would see straight away that such a response isn't going to work with me. Not only that but I am 46 and get emails from men in their twenties, despite saying I am looking for someone aged 40 and over.
Why do men do this? It is a waste of everyone's time. I have made some comments about this in my profile but it hasn't made the slightest difference. I think some men just trawl all available women without regard to what their profile says. Maybe they write 100 emails in the hope that one will produce a positive response. However, I think that a carefully targetted and thoughtfully written email is more likely to generate a positive response than 100 such trawl messages.
To be honest the quality of some of the profiles on this site, and the emails, is pretty low. Many of the male profiles say almost nothing in them, or are all the same, "I like a laugh and romantic walks on the beach." You have to be original and interesting to get someone's attention. But hey, maybe there are women who respond to this sort of thing. I just wish these men would email them instead me! I live in hope!
I have a policy of not replying to emails of this sort. If they can't be bothered to read my profile and take note of what I have written then I can't be bothered to reply.
andie | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:47:08 AM | Profiles are like a woman's body.......we see the whole thing, but the really interesting parts stick out and grab our attention .....  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 7:25:00 PM | | i read the whole profile before sending a message and ask questions about the profile but women dont respond anyway so whats the point of spending time on reading the profile and knowing that they arent going to respond? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 7:55:51 PM |
but women dont respond anyway so whats the point of spending time on reading the profile and knowing that they arent going to respond?
I read this all the time. I respond to every email I get. I don't know why there are so many thoughtless people out there. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 8:42:17 PM | | I read a persoms entire profile. Sometimes things jump out at you that you wish to discuss further. Some of my sent emails are I must admit quite short. Especially if I am merely making a comment or giving someone a pat on the back. If, after they read my profile, they wish to return the mail that is fine. If not I won't lose any sleep over it. Most times I never even check to see if they read it. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:45:22 PM | lol i still get guys who ask me what my major is, and it's the first line in my about me section....
yeah, ask questions, but if you already read it, no need to ask me to repeat it. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/15/2007 11:33:22 AM | | I do read most,but not all the time first.If she's pretty & she gets back to me,then I for sure will read it.Lets face the facts on this one, almost all womens profiles say the same thing. they may change the wording up a bit,arrange the sentences in a different order & then throw in 1 or 2 things about themselfs....Personally I find them to be vage for the most part, just like reading a horoscope. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/15/2007 12:18:42 PM | | Every single word....and then usually a second time. Based on some emails I receive, I need to read mine more frequently... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/15/2007 1:29:55 PM | | I have stopped. What's the use? I think me and my interest might have something. WRONG! And to add insult to injury either they read my email and not respond or don't read it and delete it. So, to hell with reading profiles. If she is thin to athletic build, 40 and younger, single/widowed/divorced, seeking some form of relationship, wants kids, does not smoke or drink, I MIGHT be sending you an email. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 1/15/2007 4:33:23 PM | I wonder the same thing ... I started with a short profile but I've added to it since I've spent more time on this site. If people would actually READ the profiles, they would know that they have nothing in common instead of just looking at the picture and deciding right then and there that they like or dislike someone. I always read the profile when someone emails me - I don't just base my decision on looks alone. I must admit though that I discount those who don't have a picture as well. It makes me wonder why they don't have a pic - like what are they hiding?
A profile spells out who you are, what you are looking for, what your interests are, if you have a sense of humour .... anyone who is truly serious about finding someone on here should take both picture AND profile into account.
I know a lot of people hate that people don't respond to their emails but if they would take the time to actually read the profiles, they wouldn't waste their time and someone else's by emailing someone who is obviously not a match.
Nancy | |
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