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dwkzr
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Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 103 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 6:32:42 PM | | While I can't say that I read everyones profile. The ones that I do read I read thoroughly, usually several times. I have found that most of them are cookie cutter profiles. Or hard to believe. And yes I guess I also suffer from this somewhat. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 6:43:18 PM | I know it's already an established fact that men have to initiate first contact.
"I come in peace" and leave in pieces
Women want men to read profiles and pay attention to what is contained within.
Fair enough. I think the hard part for guys, myself included, is what exactly is she looking for?
As a man I think to myself "would she be attracted to me or not"
Sure, you go by pictures but really they are quite deceiving because there is a personality with that picture and that personality might just not like you. So, I think for a woman to get more qualified contacts some more facts about your personality would help.
Not just saying I like fun or general things that everyone likes eg. honesty, respectful, etc.
Who doesn't want that. It's a given. The fact you perhaps like volunteering with a particular organization or you like certain subjects or cultures you like. etc. etc would be more in depth.
Some expansion of interests. For my profile I have about 30 or so. I think that gives people a more rounded picture of what I like.
I for one don't like the mass blanketing of messages. No wonder some women don't return messages when they get piles of them. But I can't really blame guys because we just don't know if you like us or not. Perhaps a nod in our direction couldn't hurt.
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 6:59:48 PM | Personally, I read a lot of profiles but only feel inspired to respond to about 1% of them.
If your profile is simply a huge block of text ten lines thick, I won't even get through it once. I think it's important to put as much as you are comfortable putting in a profile - just break it up into paragraphs so that it's easier to read. Keep in mind, if you want a guy to write a genuine email you need to capture and hold their interest.
I am looking for something pretty specific in a partner though I am much more open to connect as friends. I like to connect with interesting people, but if there doesn't appear to be a fit and you don't appear interested in a conversation - you won't see an email from me.
When I decide to respond to a profile, I will usually read it a few times to tailor my response to it.
Cheers. - AJ | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 7:10:26 PM | Well of course we do, for example: you live in a hard place and like bars on your right. You are divorced from reality or a realtor or something or other. We pay careful attention to such details as hair color and what makes you happiest. We are confidant we can change all womens minds and make them positively joyous at the very thought of being wenches to tend to our every desire. We are fascinated with every subtle nuance of your well crafted profile which you've put countless thoughtful hours in putting together. Saying you really don't want any married men will only serve to encourage them more. And age is relative can't we agree on at least that. Actually we are all each and everyone more wonderful than the last and we know you will be all too delighted to swim in our shameless self promotion. I couldn't be more clear on that. Oh did I mention we are all prone to falling in love at the most inopportune times.? Perhaps you should rephrase Whole profiles to Entire lest you cause further arousal.
Please excuse me, I read to I'm easy and began to drool. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 7:39:15 PM | Tell ya what, let's compromise.
Us guys will start reading the entire profile and giving it proper consideration if the women will start actually responding to emails whether it be positive or negative, that way us guys might get an idea as to why were batting such a crappy score. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 7:47:07 PM | | real women will respond....the ones that are just out for the kicks won't...its simple look at some one ya think might be fun to hang out with and not the eye candy, try emailing to something besides the one ya think is too good for ya.... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 7:58:58 PM | | Well, for the most part, I stopped messaging the match's proposed by the website. Tonight was the first I've seriously sent one out, and as of yet, it's read but haven't got a word of rejection or acceptance | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:57:10 PM | Excellent points made by both sides...
I see them both now but I have to say this: 90% of our language is unspoken..ie: eye contact, body language etc. So when I'm deciding to respond to someone , I have to now dissect 90% of the persons profile as being crap and still trying to figure out if there's enough in common to meet. My time is precious, as is all of ours so my long winded point is the profile has to have some major points of commonality or what is the point of responding? | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
Msg: 112 | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 12:18:23 AM | I guess these guys must have a real reading comprension problem. The only thing the OP's profile says is that you have more in common with younger mature men. (hmmm, kind of an oxymoron, but ok!). So I guess I don't undestand how they can get too far away from the interests.
I read the whole profile, there isn't much sense in writing somebody if there isn't something in their profile of interest. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 12:50:08 AM | | Oh Come on!!!! I'm a guy and i read all things on a profile, unless its long and then i just forget about the person. anyways... Please dont be so sexist!!! you cant clump all guys into being idiots or whatever, thats like saying all jewish people are selfish, money grabbing mongrels. Lets not be biggots here, i mean express your opinion but dont bias it to a point where your ripping on such a huge group of people. I'ld like to say grow up, but your old enough to be better than this judgemental bullshiit!! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 12:56:43 AM | I read as long as I'm interested. If I finish the entire profile and I'm still interested, I send you a letter. If it starts to sound too much like an unoriginal piece of trash, or I loose interest based on something I read, i stop reading and don't write. I take information in the profile to start the conversation since you took the time to write it. I'll read your forum posts. I;ll comment on them also if their applicable and I can say something positive. I
focus on the details about you. We are just trying to get to know each other aren't we? If I've written you, assume I've read everything you've written on this site before deciding to send that letter.
I'll say this however; a lot of profiles are horrible reads that cause me to not send the letter. give me some ammo to write with, but not your whole life story...I'll wait for the movie to comee out.
Oh and if there is something specifically that eliminates me, I may write you anyway... Why should you miss out on a great guy like me because I'm a year older/younger than what you are looking for or 2" too short per your profile. If after conversing with me once, my (age, height, etc) is enough to deter you from speaking with me agian, you're too shallow for me anyways. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:24:32 AM | | To be honest, I check through the basic information first (such as NS, kids, geography, martial status, etc.) and if I am content with that then continuing read the profile. I send out some e-mails at that point, and none of them begin with "Hey Baby"! LOL Profiles with and without photos get scanned through but it depends on how much time I have (i.e. longer profiles might not be read completely). I also make an effort to bookmark if I am interested but too busy to write back and get back at a future time. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:29:09 AM | I think about 90% of the men who write to me haven't read my profile. In my profile I put specific interests and things I'm not interested in, on purpose, so as to not waste my time and their time. This 90% write to me anyway, many have as their favourite interests, things I'm not interested in. They don't live anywhere near me and I've written I want to meet someone local. I've stated I'm not interested in chat pals and they ask me if I want to be a chat pal.....etc
So, I think either they're doing it because they haven't bothered to read my profile or, to get a rise out of me. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:32:16 AM | I've met a lot younger men than some of you on here that are a LOT more mature from what I can tell from these responses I've gotten. I'm sorry my profile wasn't up to your standards WorstGuy. Yours is really great!
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:37:05 AM | Blu,
Here's how the typical guy reads your profile:
*click*
Hmmmm ... blu-eyed something or other
Wow, she's hot
*click --->"contact me now"*
[type, type, type]
*click ---> "send now"*
Done
I would venture to guess 90% of the guys not only don't read your profile, they don't even read how old you are, where you live, or if you're even single. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:44:13 AM | EXACTLY
When I approach a gal I see in public, it isnt because of some profile she has tatooed onto her arm, it is because I am ATTRACTED | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 125 | |
| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:50:30 AM | | Vixen .. when you start your profile saying I want to meet younger men, do you think any of us with some brains would bother to write you? | |
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