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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/10/2007 10:26:49 PM | | guys arent more selective in their emailing because 90% of the women on here just read and delete our messages, no matter how flattering or honest they may be. We mass email because we understand that only a small fraction of you women will actually take the time out to read the email/our profile and give us fair consideration. It almost seems like in order to get any response on here you have to wait for the woman to contact you, and that only happens when you've got a "hot" profile photo or the girl is just desperate. Very rarely does it happen other wise. Sorry if that seems a bit jaded, but this site has kind of been a waste of time (although I have met 2 or 3 cool people here) because of this issue. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:07:03 AM | I agree with you Vixen. Just got through with a guy that posted exactly what he wouldn't do on a date--ice fishing (I know, but I'll prove this point in a minute) or that he doesn't have a Harley. Big deal, but he kept wanting me to post a pic--my profile specifically said I ride a motorcycle and liked guys that did because it was something to have in common and I loved the outdoors--fishing was one thing. 
He somehow "ignored" those facts and when I called him on it, he became angry and wrote me back in a nasty tone. His error=my chastizing. Oh well. Does anyone remember all the profiles we've read? What I've done is if someone looks like a good match, I put them on my favorites list and go through that later, sometimes weeding that out. Works for me. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:52:56 AM | guys arent more selective in their emailing because 90% of the women on here just read and delete our messages, no matter how flattering or honest they may be. We mass email because we understand that only a small fraction of you women will actually take the time out to read the email/our profile and give us fair consideration. It almost seems like in order to get any response on here you have to wait for the woman to contact you, and that only happens when you've got a "hot" profile photo or the girl is just desperate. Very rarely does it happen other wise. Sorry if that seems a bit jaded, but this site has kind of been a waste of time (although I have met 2 or 3 cool people here) because of this issue.
That's not a guy thing, it's a receiver of messages thing. If women sent and men received most of the time, then women would be here complaining that 90% of their messages get deleted or never read. It's the way it is only because more men initiate than women, therefore women get more e-mails than men do. I believe the ratio here is a factor too, at least from what I have read people post that have checked it out.
If you receive messages, then you'll definitely at least read and respond to the ones you're interested in...out of every 10 you get, perhaps that's about 1 or 2 - just the odds regardless of gender. If you send messages, 1 or 2 out of every ten you send will get a response. And of course we msg/respond to someone we think is hot, that's a given when looking for a dating prospect, just as you e-mail women you find attractive. Goes both ways.
The point is that if you like someone, you don't want to blow a perfectly good initial contact by sending them an e-mail asking the basic questions that are already posted in their profile, such as age, location, occupation, what they're looking for, etc. It just shows laziness...most women like men who can read and know how to pay attention. Reading AT LEAST the basics and not asking her to repeat herself is a good way to get a second e-mail from that 1 or 2 women who might be interested in you. If you feel it's a waste of time to read about someone you're interested in, what's the point of bothering to contact them? That should be a waste of time as well. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:21:51 AM | I read the whole profiles. I have to say, lots of PoFers are interesting, witty, intellectual, talented, and attractive. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:41:47 AM | | Just go by the name here people, it's fishing, sometimes you get bites and sometimes you don't...I personaly read the whole profile, if you refer to something they say in there profile they relaze that you did actually read it...it sure does'nt mean that they will respond...and guys..Face it, some women on here get hundreds of emails a day, its tough to reply to all. I have met some very cool women on POF and I can live with that!! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 10:06:48 AM | Personally, I read the whole profile 95% of the time. If its 3 pages long, I may just skim it. Then, when I decide to contact a girl, I make sure to ask a question about something in their profile.
Starting to wonder what the point is, though. It does seem that most women look at your message and profile, then don't acknowledge you're alive anyway, regardless of whether you've read the profile or have a bunch of common interests.
I totally understand that when she says she's looking for dating or long term, if you ain't attracted then you ain't attracted, but if you say you're looking for friends, hang out, or chat/email, then it just seems rude. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 2:44:31 PM | | Yes I read your profiles. I also read your posts. I also read the profiles that you have on other sites....Hmmmm maybe thats why I don't write very often !.... you think? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:02:33 PM | I read the profiles.
But i don't write much anymore, because it's too much effort for the note to then be ignored. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:19:47 PM | | when I get emails or IM's The FIRST thing I ask is " did you read my profile?" nine times out of ten they haven't.... strange thought isn't it. They go on a first look, a glance and "CLICK" No regard for the fact I may be an axe murderer... or worse..... a politician. ROFL!!!! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/25/2007 8:35:51 PM |
in order to get any response on here you have to wait for the woman to contact you, and that only happens when you've got a "hot" profile photo or the girl is just desperate.
Really? My friends and I often email men. None of us have a really "hot" profile photo, and none of us are desparate. Is this sentiment shared by most men here: women who take the initiative to make first contact are desparate if they're not hot?
Why don't more women (the average sort without a hot profile shot and who isn't desparate) email men? Seems straightforward to me: See someone's profile you like, send an email. Why sit around waiting for a man to come calling??? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/25/2007 9:02:59 PM | | You bet we read profils.At least i do.Thing is ,a lot of times they dont tell much and they are NOT funny or show humor.So if a picture is in there thats what we go by.Kind of if"if she isnt saying much at least she dont look bad".Come to think of it ,women do the same as men .Picture first and then we'll see.Come on now,discriminating is in everybodys nature .Don't be holier than thou.Besides No matter where you go dating ,bar or webside there will allways be an a..h..l. around that makes a mess for the rest.At least on the web nobody can play grabass or stalk you(and this happens to guys more than it's known).Take it from this guy:if your profil stinks and it doesnt tell me something about the person I dont care how good you look in writing or in a picture.I may look at your pic's first but your profil makes me give you a second look. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/25/2007 11:06:59 PM | | Since I am not interested in online dating, I do not read any profiles. I read the forums to learn about dating experiences, not to find a date. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:12:26 PM | I don't think to many men read the whole profile. In my experince I get men that are nonsmokers. I am a smoker and most of the guys just look at my pics and e-mail me!! If they are cool with smokers that is one thing but, I don't think they get that far before they either IM me or e-mail me!!! I don't know to many men that want a woman that smokes if they don't. In turn I don't answer a lot of them. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:21:57 PM | | Are you kidding!!! Who going to read that enless glorification of your self, " my friends describe me...."I want, I want, I want..." Grew up, ladies, it's take alifetime to discover thru quality of person, if ever! Men , like a 1000yr. ago coming to woman for one reason... and if you lucky, everything else'll follow! "friends first! We have enough friends, and they all males! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:41:33 PM | I know some men don't read my profile at all. I have had men im me and ask me my age, and where I live. I think some see the pic and click the im link without bothering to check the profile. I usually point out if they ask me something that was on even just my stats, that if they read my profile they would know it. One guy didn't read far enough down to see that I wasn't looking for casual sex... then admitted to me he only reads the profile if the woman will talk to him. What the hell is with that?  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:46:08 PM | | I have received emails from women on a few different sites that I wanted to write, but I didn't fall under some of the criteria that they listed on their profile. I have heard too many women say that they hate it when a man does not pay attention to what they state they are looking for on their profile and I choose to respect what a woman says she is looking for on her profile. If it isn't me, what is wrong with that? Why write someone that has already stated they wouldn't be interested in someone my age or my personality or whatever else? So yes, I read every word of a profile. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/26/2007 8:13:20 PM | The whole thing everytime...gets pretty redundant after a while when you keep reading the same old sh*t though. "Just ask me" is probably the most popular...Just ask you what? There's nothing to start with!
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:34:55 PM |
The whole thing everytime...gets pretty redundant after a while when you keep reading the same old sh*t though. "Just ask me" is probably the most popular...Just ask you what? There's nothing to start with!
Haha.
You can read it and mention something from the profile but when you reply, you might be not be responded to. Hence, you read about guys' 'deleted/unread' messages. What's up with that?!? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:38:59 PM | | Yes i do read them, I get to see how picky or not they are, and it seems picky is the rule her,I just say hello and how are you/ and get no were, read deleted, unread deleted. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:40:07 PM |
You can read it and mention something from the profile but when you reply, you might be not be responded to. Hence, you read about guys' 'deleted/unread' messages. What's up with that?!?
Better you write something personal to someone who might be interested in you than something generic to someone who might have responded. But part of the equation has to be that she's interested. There's no formula that'll get a women to respond to men they aren't interested in, but it is possible to lose a lead from e-mailing a woman and asking them something that was already posted.
If I were you, I wouldn't want to take the chance. If all women just read and delete anyway, why not just stop e-mailing altogether, or close your account? It only takes two seconds to read the basics and find out if she's even looking for someone who fits your description...but you also have to understand that sending an e-mail with all the right criteria only works if there's mutal interest. | |
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