| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 3/29/2007 8:06:48 PM | This post is old and I probably replied at leasy once in the life of it, but I would like to ask the question in reverse. Do the women read OUR profiles?
My profile states in clear languange and bold type to NOT add me to your faves if you have no photo posted. Every week I have to go and remove 2 or 3 people who did not respect that reasonable request.
I guess it's for the same reason that you can tell people there are a million stars in the sky and they believe you, yet the same people touch the bench with the sign that says "Wet Paint". | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/3/2007 1:27:14 AM | every profile I view I read it from top to bottom, or bottom to top hahaha, but seriously it's only curtious to read the entire profile,everyone on here takes the time to write them so I'll take the time to read them.
Prost !
~ Kelso | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/6/2007 9:50:40 AM | I really don't think men read the entire profile. They see a nice pic and they skip right to the email option. A couple have contacted me I guess through my forum posts and I actually had one tell me that he read my profile and this is exactly what he said ... "justread ur prifile and i think we have to meet to day there is a lot of stuff to talk about........."joking: just give me a shout so we can chat" ... Gee it really looks like he even took the time to string a proper sentence together and use correct grammar and spelling ! He's obviously in a rush to meet just anyone he can.
He read my profile???? Like sh*t he did. Take a good look at my profile and you tell me where it states that I'm single and looking. So I emailed him back saying "if you really took the time to read my profile you'd see that I'm not single. Goes to show that people really don't take the time to read profiles and find out what people are looking for". Looks do matter to a certain extent but what is looks if there is no personality. You can see a nice looking woamn/man but they may have the IQ of a bloody bird. What good is that? All I have to say to all men and women actively dating .... READ THE ENTIRE FREAKING PROFILE!!! | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:52:03 PM | I dont think that most guys read your whole profiles and some profiles are not worth reading but In my case I do read the entire profile to see what type of person it is that i am looking at. I mean of course I click on a photo because of a physical attraction we are all visual beings so that is the first step then from there I look at qualities like personality whether they have children whether they smoke do drugs body type you know the usual things but by no means do I just click on a photo and send them a lame message these guys are losers in my opinion. I have even sent messages to girls who dont even have pics up just based on what is in there profile and have even gone out with them (after they sent me a pic) otherwise I wouldnt know who I am meeting. And Had a fantastic evening with them because they were great to hang out with and just have a meaningful conversation. Im not saying I am going to marry them but they were great gals just the same.JMO | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/8/2007 1:34:14 PM | | I think some do and some don't. The ones who respond to me usually don't, since when they go back and read that I am a larger women, they ususally email to say they don't date fat chicks since we are gross ( I don't date men who don't read profiles until after they start corresponding and then they realize that we are not a match so they insult me). I received an email recently from someone who commented about my great looking picture and that we had a lot in common. I don't have a pic posted, and we seemed to have nothing in common, generic emails don't impress a lot of women either. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/9/2007 12:22:37 AM | | I will usually read the whole profile, but not always. For instance if I get 1/3 of the way through a long one and realize I don't meet 3 or more of the listed requirements by that point then I just forget about that one. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/14/2007 12:17:44 AM | I tend to read the ones that have something to say, the whole "OMG I luv u, txt tlk" stuff just annoys me to no end, if you can't spell, I ixnay you immediately, I mean come on, spell checkers are easy to use.
That aside, I look for genuine thought, it doesn't need to be a mile long, and I've read some that were 3 sentences long, and said "wow, not much, but alot of thought went into that".
I guess it just depends on the person, and I have to admit to being guilty of passing on some simply on a bad photo, I mean, hey, I'm no prince by a long shot, but hey, it's that whole "wow" factor right? either you're pulled in, or you're not. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:00:00 AM | If you put in your profile that you aren't looking for a 'f-buddy' friend w/benefits, etc. a LOT of guys see it as a challenge.
But I agree I don't think a lot of guys actually READ the entire profile. If they see a pic they're 'attracted to' they message. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:10:57 AM | | It depends..... 98% of the time I do if I am really interested...and if it good reading. If the flavor is lost part way through...then a stop a few lines later and move on to the next profile. So it all depends.... on how interested I really am....I guess that is what it all boils down to. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:43:14 AM | Some profiles are excessive, boring, repetitive or just say to much about nothing.
I would rather read something short and concise. After all if I read it all on your profile what will we have to talk about if we meet in person?
Lets face it men are visual creatures...pictures first...profile text second.
Yes I do read the profiles after I look at the picture (if posted). | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/18/2007 11:14:18 AM | | You have to incorperate a line into your profile ,that says,,when you send me a message, start your message with ex. hi little fishy<<<that way you know if they have read it or not.... | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/18/2007 12:09:47 PM |
I would rather read something short and concise. After all if I read it all on your profile what will we have to talk about if we meet in person?
Good luck with that one.
Most women won't repeat stuff they've already posted, I know I won't. Why else would I have a profile but to give you information meant to determine if there is common ground? Plus it suggests that a woman doesn't have anything to say that's interesting outside of her profile, not to mention that you weren't interested enough to read up on someone you were interested in.
Sometimes, it suggests you don't/can't read.
But go ahead and ignore it all, e-mail her anyway and see how far you get. You don't have to like it, but it is what it is. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/18/2007 12:20:58 PM | I think the point of the question might be more along the lines of:
"Do People Send Messages To People Whose ENTIRE Profile They Have Read?"
Obviously, if we're reading a profile and lose interest after the first few sentences, we're probably not going to finish. And beyond reading the whole profile...are we sending messages to people we're truly compatible with?
Let's assume that all of the status, looking for, smoking, religion, etc, are all a match, so none of that is an issue. If, for example (JUST an example), you happen to be a cold weather-loving woman with a passion for snow shoeing, big trucks and men in camo...do you really expect to hear from a man who lives for convertibles, sushi and catching waves in Baja?
This happens a LOT, and it's the kind of thing that confuses us most, I believe...men and women, alike. Sure, differences are good. They add depth to a relationship. But you need at least some things in common....probably more in common than not, IMO | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:37:28 PM | I think that now with the new feature that has been implemented in the search results...men will more than likely NOT read any profiles and just randomly send out emails based on pictures....just my opinion.
Sue | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/20/2007 4:09:15 PM |
Just curious. Do you guys read our whole profiles or just the parts that you want to see.
I do. Absolutely. How else am I to write the woman an intelligent and cogent initial message without knowing if there is any common ground. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/20/2007 4:29:37 PM | I have had people recently respond to my profile with "Cool, you're a drummer, too!! You sound great, we should go out sometime!" I really, really, really thought I made it clear in my profile that I was just splashing around in the forums and that I am not a drummer!!!
but clearly... I did not.
So, to answer your question... no, I do not think the do | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 4/20/2007 4:33:12 PM | Oldschoolqueen, I agree with you wholeheartedly! Nothing is more irritating than someone asking you something that you clearly have put in your profile. I have tried to make some things very clear in my profile, but some people still write that really shouldn't. I typically won't write someone that doesn't have much to say on their profile. Reading a profile is the first screening process. If you don't know how to share a few things about yourself, why should I be interested? Because that person looks great?
I read every detail of a profile. If a woman says she is looking for someone 32 to 42, I won't write her. I respect the age range that she has specified in her profile. If she has riding motorcycles as something she loves to do and wants a guy that likes to ride, it is pointless for me to write as I know that I am not into that anymore in my life. I feel it is all about respect. If you have any kind of respect for women that you write, you need to read their profile...AND understand what they are saying. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/14/2007 12:20:11 PM | i have to say that there seems to be a bias against men on here.
things that should be taken into consideration are:
a) MOST men will ignore profiles, not ALL men
b) some of the people on the site have written nothing beyond a visual description
c) fake images are on here from time to time
d) women do the same thing when it comes to judging images (admittedly, not as much as men)
e) would you read a profile if it DIDN'T have a picture? be honest, you wouldn't UNLESS it stood out!
f) there's a reason why there's an image rating area seperate from the profiles but sometimes men WILL look at the pics on the profile because the 'basic' info is a factore to consider too (height, age, smoker, etc.....)
i do agree with MOST of your reasoning however  | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/14/2007 12:29:17 PM |
Oldschoolqueen, I agree with you wholeheartedly! Nothing is more irritating than someone asking you something that you clearly have put in your profile.
Funny, this particular topic and thread is somewhere on this site, but the question is to whether or not women really read they guy's profile.
One female poster indicated she asks questions in emails to the guy, even when he has specifically mentioned something in his profile. | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/14/2007 2:05:45 PM | Without a doubt.
If I'm moved to email a woman based on her profile, be assured that I've read the entire thing. I love to see how seriously women take on-line dating. Their narrative (and yes, their pictures too) provides a great insight.
i.e., if they don't put any work into their profiles (perhaps they think they can just get by on a cute pic or two), why would any man think that they'd put effort into the actual relationship? | |
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| Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles?
Posted: 5/14/2007 2:25:00 PM | | Actually one of the reasons i joined this site ( as well as okcupid) is im iterested in what/how women think of THEMSELVES and so i do read the profiles 99% of the time unless it's paintakenly long and starts out NEGATIVE and or COMBATIVE..... | |
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