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 SapphirePoet
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Well this turned out to be quite the women bashing thread didn't it now.

Women just want to be loved for who we are and not what we can do for you!

See how easy that was.
 FatBottomGirlie
Joined: 10/5/2007
Msg: 202
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Posted: 8/3/2008 7:34:53 AM
Don't ya just love being told over and over again you don't have a clue what you want.

*rolls her eyes*
 Thearmyguy2005
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 203
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Posted: 8/3/2008 7:36:17 AM
its pretty simple the only reason guys dont know what women want is because we arent told enough. several times ive been expented to know what my GF wants. but on the other some men dont ask so its a vicious cycle. and Girls never expect a man to have any idea best bet is to tell them.

the best relationships are the ones where people talk to each other. you want a good one tell your partner what is bothering you or what makes you happy and do it with a smile. smiles work.... most of the time.
 dogandcatlover
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 204
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Posted: 8/3/2008 7:47:03 AM
TO SUM IT UP IN A FEW WORDS JUST TRUE LOVE A FREIND TO HOLD LAUGH AND CHERISH WHAT LIFE HAS TO OFFER THATS IT SOMEONE WHO LISTEN AND CARES
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 8/3/2008 7:52:33 AM
My ex used to say that he is not a mind reader. But who wanted him to be a mind reader, anyway?
I suppose the answer lies in perception, stepping in other person's shoes and see partner's perspective on things. When things go smoothly, there are no questions like the OP's question but when rough waters hit the shores ... there should not be memory lapses, 'sweeping under the carpet' and pretending that everything is hanky ~ dory... but joined effort to resolve the problem ... sit down ~ listen and discuss. Then both parties would have a clear view of what s/o is contemplating, tinkering or struggling with.

Both genders might be differently "wired" but in principle we are not that different species.
 Aries0328
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 206
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Posted: 8/3/2008 10:04:23 AM
This is true

its pretty simple the only reason guys dont know what women want is because we arent told enough


This is typical of what is told

Women just want to be loved for who we are and not what we can do for you!


This is the result because we tried to put what we were told into action.


Well this turned out to be quite the women bashing thread didn't it now.



Women you do not just want to be loved for who you are and not what we can do for you. If that was true we would all be on the same page because that is quite simply what everyone says they want. And it is impossible in practice. That means... Love me and leave me alone. Don't do anything for me. I won't do anything for you. And keep out of my way in the process. This makes everyone’s desire to be cared for, nurtured, loved, and feel like a part of something a burden for the needy. Which is how it is perceived.

So, can we have something a little more than the impossible to work with?

I am going to try to be serious from spending way to much time here on the forums. This is a generality so please don't get angry if it doesn't apply to YOU. Just a broad statement :-P

Women want:
The One guy that gets their chemicals flowing just by being in his presence.
That One guy should be of artistic masculine physique and character
That One guy should have a perfect understanding of voice and tone
That One guy should have a perfect separation of work/home life
That One guy should be without conflict and able to be alone/together on demand
That One guy should be the provider and never question what is given
That One guy should understand without words your feelings
That One guy should express strengh and sensitivty at the same time
That One guy should above all respect your efforts
That One guy should reflect without words what validates
That One guy should with words, insight and actions humor you
That One guy should remain blind in sight and mind to imperfections
That One guy should be without concept of jealousy
That One guy will know without words when and what type of sex you want
That One guy should be one or two steps ahead of you at all times in being adventurous and provide spontaneity

Any number of the above can be overlooked because ideal perfection is "TO DIFFICULT" to find. Not that it's impossible... Only to hard.... However, any guy with the first chemistry requirement is given a pass to any number of other qualifications depending on the degree of strength of the chemical reaction. However, if the right set of qualifications falls below requirements the weight of the missing qualification is exponentially increased to cancel out the chemical attraction.

There that’s not so difficult right?

This is not bashing. I am not trying to get virtually slapped (again). Just really want a better answer then... Love me and leave me alone. And if that is the actual answer which I'm leaning towards anyway... then we are all screwed :-) And its all because guys want nothing but sex right :-)
 RideATrucker
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 207
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Posted: 8/3/2008 1:26:44 PM
Ok, skip from the front to the back.
In a general sense, NO.....men don't know what women want. Mostly, because you ladies don't TELL US what you want. To a certain degree, I've discovered that you ladies don't really even know, yourselves. Also, not every woman wants the same things from the same individual.
To a certain extent, I've discovered that you ladies want us men-folk to be able to read your mind and automatically know what you want. It would be so much more easy on us....If you'd just tell us! Most guys don't like games any more than you ladies do. However, In our mind, you ladies play your own games, whether or not you realize it, and we're supposed to just accept it?
There are many factors involved in why each of us is single. Maybe one of those factors, is the fact that what you want isn't being made clear enough or isn't realistic. Also, you maybe be expecting the wrong kind of person to fulfill your needs. For example, don't go expecting pornstar sex from a bible thumping prude. Go find yourself a pornstar for that! LOL.
Pretty boys play the field............because they can! Why would they want to settle down, if there could be someone better than you around the next corner?
So, in a nutshell. If you want men to know what you want, tell us. Don't hint at it. Don't elude to it. Don't beat around the bush! Be blunt, straight-forward, and direct.
Keep It Simple Stupid (K.I.S.S.) and leave no doubt!
 Invictus01
Joined: 2/20/2008
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Posted: 8/3/2008 1:33:38 PM
Do Women really know what Women Want???????
 JustRo
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 209
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Posted: 8/3/2008 1:43:48 PM
You know, That is a question that has many answers. Womens basic wants are pretty much the same but then again every woman .... well.. not every women but they all want something different. Sooooo.. No.. men don't really know what women want. The idea is to get to know the woman your with. Take the time to learn, not jump in bed right away with her because that does stop the learning process.... buttttttt.. seems everyone is in hurry to get in that bed.

Ro
 RideATrucker
Joined: 6/16/2008
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Posted: 8/3/2008 1:48:52 PM
^^^^^^ I don't think so. If you're REALLY into her. Then you still want to know what makes her the happiest. You want to become that Mr. Right, for her.
 bubble_boy
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 211
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Posted: 8/3/2008 1:57:21 PM
Commenting on women's ruthlessness when it comes to dating is hardly bashing.

Women you do not just want to be loved for who you are and not what we can do for you. If that was true we would all be on the same page because that is quite simply what everyone says they want. And it is impossible in practice. That means... Love me and leave me alone. Don't do anything for me. I won't do anything for you. And keep out of my way in the process. This makes everyone’s desire to be cared for, nurtured, loved, and feel like a part of something a burden for the needy. Which is how it is perceived.


Call it a male only observation if you like -- but I have had plenty of cause in the past few years to see that women consider a man who nurtures, wants to feel like part of something, or show has his own mind is considered "weak". A man who is weak has no value to a woman. Like the old saying goes "Showing weakness in front of a woman is like showing fear in front of a dog -- neither will treat you the same again afterwards."

As the other poster said, women want to be loved for who they are, yet who they are is not who they portray. This dual personality makes it difficult to reach anyone female these days.


This is not bashing. I am not trying to get virtually slapped (again). Just really want a better answer then... Love me and leave me alone. And if that is the actual answer which I'm leaning towards anyway... then we are all screwed :-) And its all because guys want nothing but sex right :-)


And if you dont behave like all you want is sex then the women figure we are just not into them. I really would like too know who is making up all these stupid dating rules, because it sure as hell is not men.

Are women willing enough to accept imperfections in a man to have happiness? The few who seem willing to do so are already married. The rest are on dating sites.

 Aries0328
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 212
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Posted: 8/3/2008 2:44:18 PM
I am really hoping that they will start participating here. The only thing that is clear is that we want to be told and what we have been told has negative outcomes.

So, please... {Taking one for the team here}.... Please help us we NEED your actual input!

You can get all mushy if that’s necessary.
You can let down your guard and show the neediness
You can be honest and explain the lines that should never be crossed
You can say anything at all and only be judged harshly by a few :-)

Just put it into words.
If it can have actual actions linked to the qualities even better.

Just think that most who read this will never know you personally so nothing needs to be taken personally. This thread will die a slow unused death along the archive only drudged back up occasionally on some ones specific search. If it is a secret then that secret will be kept here and only used by those with some ability to investigate and read and maybe just a few of us can take our knowledge to the world and maybe teach our children.

You are the gatekeepers and we are the key masters. Sorry, was thinking about ghostbusters a few minutes ago... Please impart your knowledge.
 Sweethang100
Joined: 4/22/2005
Msg: 213
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Posted: 8/3/2008 2:54:40 PM
I don't know about many of you, but I know EXACTLY what I want! Hence, why I'm still single, hehe. ;)

I don't want a badboy, nor someone with an arrogant attitude. I kick those guys to the curb everyday of my life. And, my guy doesn't have to be built, good looking, or have lots of money. It would be nice if he had a job, though, because I prefer to stay home and take care of my home and family. However, I don't mind helping if he can't cut it, financially.

He doesn't even have to know how to do laundry, as long as he can help here and there.

I don't know about you folks, but I don't mind taking care of someone I love.

Oh, he doesn't have to be all that tall, either...just so that I fit under his arm comfortably. All he has to do is make sure I'm happy...(don't need six pair of shoes, thanks, or even a white picket fence). He just has to be my best friend, and I will be his, so that we can both make sure each is happy, always.

I think sparda has been reading too many man books, again, hehe. :( Not every man would agree with you, sparda. Maybe you're just trying to date outside that which you have to offer a woman, so you're not getting anywhere? hehe.
 IThinkIWantMore
Joined: 7/12/2008
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Posted: 8/3/2008 3:16:55 PM
OMG! What the hell scarred you? A good woman isn't easy to find but we are out there. Do you think that balancing the roles of a single parent and sole bread winner to support your child and a natural inclination to take care of and please a partner is easy? Try it!
 Aries0328
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 215
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Posted: 8/3/2008 3:22:54 PM
Thank you SweetThang

Thats one for "nice guy". Honestly, that is something almost all are capable of. Many more nice guy types then bad boy types. Almost everything you listed is part of a regular normal daily life and is not complicated and pretty easy to accomplish and not hard to exceed. You even had to drop in that looks and height do not matter much :-) I'm guessing you do not classify your self as a typical women either.

Thanks for the response. You will probably have a date by next weekend.
 MY OH MY
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 216
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Posted: 8/3/2008 3:25:29 PM
Women don't want boys except her own children.
A good man is hard to find. A hard man is good to find.
 Solarpanel
Joined: 3/22/2008
Msg: 217
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Posted: 8/3/2008 3:30:09 PM
I'm not sure women know what they want, they want men to tell them what they want and then resent the being told. But even more importantly, are women willing to do what's necessary to get what they want and why on Earth do they expect men to provide it for them ?

Men don't need to know what women want. Women need to learn how to meet their own needs, don't they? Women need to learn to ask rather than have a man translate it all for them.
 Aries0328
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 218
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Posted: 8/3/2008 3:31:07 PM
Ok Just Em,

Thats one for:
That One guy will know without words when and what type of sex you want

One nice guy
One PornStar
 Aries0328
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 219
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Posted: 8/3/2008 3:46:44 PM
Solarpanel,

You will probably get this analogy.

Men and Women both look forward to similar things. However, there is a disconnect on what those things mean when they do not exist and there is no understanding of how to make them exist.

So,

Consider it like building a house. Both have some general idea what they would like their house to look like but it is more imagination then reality. The house can exist and there is a potential for it to exist but in order for that to become reality you need some basic things.

To build a house you need:

Experience
A plan
Compromising due to land/environment
Help in areas outside your experience
Opportunity and investment
Technical expertise
Honest labor
Eagerness (((ran out of e words)))
Resources

Yes, that was cheesy I know... But still it’s the basic thing needed. uggg in case you missed it... the first letter of each line...
 Sweethang100
Joined: 4/22/2005
Msg: 220
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Posted: 8/3/2008 4:25:45 PM
Dates I don't have a problem finding. However, locating someone that is as honest as myself...that's the difficult part! :( No, I don't classify myself as a 'typical' woman, by any sense of the word, and to be honest...I'm quite happy not being one. ;)
 Sweethang100
Joined: 4/22/2005
Msg: 221
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Posted: 8/3/2008 4:36:15 PM
Personally, I think, just like men...each woman has her own idea of what she wants.

Woman A might want huge muscles..
Woman B might want a white picket fence
Woman C might want honesty
Woman D might want nice shoes
and
Woman E might like to just get laid.

Of course, if we took a poll regarding men...you might see something like this:

Man A wants Big boobs
Man B wants a nice butt
Man C wants both of the above
Man D wants both of the above and great sex
Man E wants both of the above, great sex, and to be waited on hand and foot
Man F wants both of the above, great sex, to be waited on hand and foot, and awesome oral.
Man G wants both of the above, great sex, to be waited on hand and foot, awesome oral, and throw in some great rectal too.
Man H wants both of the above, great sex, to be waited on hand and foot, awesome oral, throw in some great rectal too, and she should have a job so she can pay half...
Man I wants both of the above, great sex, to be waited on hand and foot, awesome oral, throw in some great rectal too, a job so she can pay half, and she should be a great housekeeper and cook too.

and so on...hehe So, maybe, there just isn't one answer that applies to all women, or men? Ok, men are easier to figure out, I concede. ;) hehe

And, I agree:
Experience
A plan
Compromising due to land/environment
Help in areas outside your experience
Opportunity and investment
Technical expertise
Honest labor
Eagerness (((ran out of e words)))
Resources

An anagram...very good. :)
 MY OH MY
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 222
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Posted: 8/3/2008 4:39:34 PM

Thats one for:
That One guy will know without words when and what type of sex you want


You obviously are no body builder and know not what the expression means.
 TakeMeTheWayIAm
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 223
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Posted: 8/3/2008 6:29:39 PM

Tawny1973: "Here is my question men seem to think they all know what women want but do they really?????????? Do they actually take time to think about what it is that make us tick.................WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT BOYS?"

::thinking hard:: Um... you apparently want us to respond to questions when directly asked.

can i haz cookie?
 ShouldaBeenACowboy
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 224
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Posted: 8/3/2008 6:36:03 PM
deleted by moderator ...........................................................and worship

 Aries0328
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 225
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Posted: 8/3/2008 6:45:41 PM

::thinking hard:: Um... you apparently want us to respond to questions when directly asked.


Not only can you have cookie butyou can have a golden one :-)
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